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Occupation: Being ME!!!!!!
Age: 16
Member Since: January 31, 2006
Answers: 38
Last Update: February 3, 2009
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I've known him since 7th grade and I've liked him since.. I just don't know how to start a conversation with him. I've always been one of those shy girls who doesn't really tlk that much.
I've always been afraid that if I talk to him he'll just laugh at me and think i'm an idiot.
what should I do?! (link)
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you could just talk about something that's happening in front of you...or pick something that you're both interested in. or if it makes you feel more comfortable you could do something like emai, im, or text or something like that. honestly there are many ppl who have the gull enough to just laugh in someones face so you should be pretty safe on that note. and no one thinks someone whos trying to talk to them is an idiot as long as they don't do anything outrageous. hope i helped. good luck
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Im 16, and i can honestly say that i dont know much about myself, what i really like, what i dislike what i want to be and who i am. I think its mostly because i act different, maybe even fake around each person i talk to all day long and by the time i get home, and im finally alone, i dont know what personality is mine. or really anything about myself at all. I dont want to be like this, but i am. I act certain, different ways around people to get them to like me. I know my friends should really like me for my personality, but how can i show my personality when i dont know what it is and when i dont have the confidence to be me? Im really confused, and im not really sure where to go from here. (link)
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i think that you should find out in which skin you are most comfortable in...like when you're changing to make sure people. then you have to figure out what you wanna be. you being comfortable in you're own skin is the most important. so find out about you. and then you may have confidence in who you want to really be. hope i helped. good luck =)
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I like this boy, he is my neighbor, i go to his house and we hang out but just as friends, and we can talk hours on end on our cells. He recently asked me out and i said no. but he has a girlfriend and they aren't that close because i think he just got a girlfriend to get back at me. i think he likes me when he is taken because everytime i look at him he is already at me, he sits at the frint of the room in class and i sit all the way at the back and he turned around and asked me for a pencil when his best friend sits by him, and he always texts me calling me dork is he covering up his feelings. dont be afraid to tell me if i am going about this all wrong. i actually want to truth. thx bunches!! (link)
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in my own personal opinion...i believe he likes you, that he may be trying to get back at you, and is covering up his feelings....but this is just my personal opinion, i hope i helped, GREAT LUCK =)
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hey. ok so i'm 14/f. and i've put some questions on here before about this, but i'll begin from the start so it all fits together. so a while ago i started going to this church that 2 of my friends go to. well, there was this guy there and from the start he was really nice to me. but he was also kinda weird, so i wasn't sure if i liked him or not. then another day when i went to church, we talked and i decided that i really did like him. so when i told my friends..we'll call them.. Trina and Kim. so when i told them, they like flipped out and was like "omg!! i can't belive that you like him!" "he has done so much bad stuff!" and "he used to do drugs and he's already had sex!" and stuff like that. but something about me didn't seem to care. so then one day Trina told him that i liked him, and he said he liked me to. then he asked for my number. oh yeah, by the way, i'm shorting this a little bit. anyways, that night he called me, and we talked, and then he asked me out. i didn't say yes right away though because i wasn't sure. so i told Trina and Kim and they said i should say yes. so i said yes. and then the next day i find out that Trina and Kim never wanted me to go out with him, and that it was a "life lesson" and it was supposed to teach me to not go out with bad guys like him. i thought that that was a load of crap. but for a while i thought they were right. so i decided to break up w/ him. and when i tried, i ended up telling him the whole story about the life lesson. in the end, i didn't break up with him, but i told my friends i did so they would stop giving me crap bout it. so one day, my parents had to go to work, and so i snuck him over to my house, just so we could talk. i ended up having my first kiss. and he video taped it on his camera, i didn't want him to, but in the end i just let him. so then a couple days later, i just didn't feel the same w/ him, and i felt like we were moving to fast pace. so i decided to break up w/ him. he was sooooo pissed. he was telling me that he was going to tell everyone everything and stuff. i was really scared. but a couple of hours later he cooled off and said that he would never want to black mail me. and then he said "this is your last chance, do you want to try again?" and i said yes.. but not for a good reason. i said yes so he wouldn't tell people everything. so the next day he called me, and it just wasn't the same, and he relized it. so that night he was like "things just haven't been the same since you broke up with me, so maybe we should just break up, but still be friends" and i was like "ok, i'm really sorry, and i was never trying to hurt you". and he was like "ok" so then we hung up. and today i just got back from Iowa, and yesterday i went on a walk with my 10 yr. old cousin and while we were walking he called me. the fone kept cutting out,and i was trying to spend time w/ my cousin cause i like never get to see her. and he kept saying "why r u being such a b****?" and stuff like that and i was like "i'm not! just call me back later, k?" and he was like "whatever bye" and we hung up. he sounded kinda mad. and he hasn't called me since. i'm just really scared that i'm going to make him mad and he is going to tell my friends everything. if they find out, the rest of my life will be ruined. i'm starting high school this year, and if people find out i will have the wost years of my life. everytime i think about it i get a really weird feeling in my stomach and i feel like crying. i can't have people finding out. i feel really bad about lying to everyone, including my parents, and i wish that i wouldn't of done any of it. what the heck do i do?? i feel like my life has just changed so much ever since this. this is like all i can think about, and i feel like my attitude has changed, and i've become more depressed. i'm not one who usually cares what other people think of me, but this is just getting out of hand. i really really really do not want people to find out!!!!! what should i do?? there is no one i can ask, so this was kinda like a last resort. please, please help me!!! thank you. (link)
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Honestly i'mma keep this short and sweet. The boy sounds a little out of it. And if you want to be safe and also not be black mailed you might want to think over breaking the news to your ppl yourself because if they find out from you it'll be less than if they find out from him especially since he can twist and tweak the story ( i know i'm still going through something similar to this so i know the bad side of not telling myself). So those are my thoughts and opinions. I hope you feel better and everything turns out well and that i helped you to some degree at least!!! GREAT LUCK =)
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Im Thirteen, and im a female.
Im going into 8th grade, and this
guy i like is going into 9th.
We like each other, but im having troubles
trying to get to where I..trust him
I guess you can say. He's had a past
girlfriend, who im very very good friends
with. And they well.. went out for about
two years and had sex. And Me and Him
just recently broke up from like just a one
month relationship, i broke up with him.
And I here him & my friend he had a past
relationship with had started talking,
and said they still love each other,
but im suppose to not know that, so i cant
confront him or her about it. And he says
I love you. And i say i love you too, or
the other way around. All over text.
We do not whatsoever seem to ever talk on
the phone.
So i guess what im asking is,
how do i control all these feelings of
knowing they have a past relationship,
and knowing they have recently talked about
it. Although he says he loves me.
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I really don't think controling these feelings would be a perfect idea. Only because if they're talkin behind your back then there is a problem. You said you and her were very very good friends, but that was her ex first and it's usually a rule not to date your friends ex (not too cool and causes issues as you can see). But I think you should ask him if they talked recently and if he still likes her on any level. Holding in these feelings won't help the situation and him saying he loves you is....wrong if he still loves her. So i hope i helped and that you don't get hurt and that things become better!!!
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Ok so i might be a little crazy sometimes just being myself.. but does that mean i don't deserve a boyfriend? I'm 16 years old and i've never kissed a guy, gone out w/ a guy or anything.. it's not that i don't want to ... it's just that i guess the right guy hasn't come along. I've had 2 major crushes and thought for sure the last one was the ONE but.. that's a long story.. In the end im still single. What's wrong w/ me? I mean im decent looking.. i have an awesome sense of humour and have ALOT in common w/ alot of my guy friends and stuff. I don't know if just feel like a reject... (link)
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well i think your just you. and don't change. there is no set time fr things to happen w/ boys so...but maybe your not taken seriously (that depends on the stuff that you do no offense) or any guy isn't ready to take you on. or maybe you should look at your preference in boys more carefully. or maybe it's the having alot in common with your guy friends. but these are just my thoughts. i hope you feel better and things change in the best way possible.
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I had a friend who i've been friends with for a few years. Suddenly out of nowhere, he told me he liked me & things went downhill from there. We remained friends & had a good time talking/joking around. A few months later, he changed. Randomly he began getting mean & just an unlikeable person. He was saying every argument we gotten into was my fault, how I wasn't trying hard enough to be his friend, wouldn't give him the time of day, didn't seem like I wanted to be his friend anymore etc. I do not even know to this day where he came up with all of that but he did. Then he would say lets not be friends anymore & I tried talking to him a few times & he would appologize, say how much he cares, & just be friendly again. Then randomly, he would go back into lets not be friends. One time he did that & he was completely serious about it & blocked me. We do not live near each other or whatever so I just let him go. He unblocked me & I asked him why we couldn't fix things & he said he was not a forgiving person or whatever and that he wanted nothing to do with me. This was all completely random & out of nowhere. I left him on my buddylist, but I knew we would not talk anymore. Recently, he's signed on & i am not blocked anymore & neither are my friends [he blocked them as well]. I'm not sure why he did this & were randomly unblocked. Does that mean anything? I obviously should not be friends with someone who treats other people badly, but why would someone go from totally caring about a friend, to not caring at all in a matter of days? Any opinions/ideas? Thanks! (link)
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wow that sounds like a messed up situation and i feel bad for you....but if you say he said he liked you then he was probably angry ( i could be wrong though). maybe he didn't feel as if with the feelings he had for you he could just be ya friend. or maybe you just hurt his feelings. But these are just my opinions. and the fact that you are not blocked seems like he's cooled off, and could be willing to talk. or just that you understood that it was rude and mean to do to a long time friend. but once again just my opinion. I hope i helped clear your head alittle. hope everything turns out all right.
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Im 13.
I'm the type of girl who is really shy
infront of really any guys but close friends.
I want to get to know some guys, like
become good friends. But im like reeeeeeeally shy.
What to i do. (link)
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um...i would say just try to start a convo about something that interests you and you like to talk about, and in doing so you should be more comfortable and less shy and the conversations should progress from there. hope i helped or sparked another thought for you. GREAT LUCK! =)
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I've been with my boyfriend since October 23rd 2005, i'm 15 almost 16 and he turned 18 in March. [ if that helps ]. He started living with me about 6 months after we met. We fight sometimes , but when we do fight he sometimes gets abusive. We got in a fight like a week ago and he grabbed me by the back of my neck forcing my head down in the my bed. My first thought after he did it was " well i don't feel the pain now , but i know in a couple days my neck will hurt ". and so it did.... i really love him alot and i wish he would change. is there anything i can change about myself for him to stop this , because i know in the future if this keeps happening , we won't be together.
thank you so much.
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there is nothing that you should change about you, unless you're physical too. but i think that it might go too far one day and you might want to slowly let go now before something bad happens...i know you really love him alot but you have to think of yourself first and your personal safety...I hope i helped and that everything works out, Jesus be with you on this
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hi. i have like an iffy situation on my hands. i love my boyfriend alot. i get REALLY jealous though. and he became really close with one of my good friends, erica. i really dont like when there together, he gives her piggy back rides, and she hugs him, and she always texts him. and i dont think he is cheating but i dont know. but i told my best friend breanna that i loved her, like we always say to each other. and my boyfriend is like "ohh! so you can tell breanna that you love her. if you can do that i can tell erica that i love her." and now im pretty pissed. and hes going be gone ALL summer, he goes to see his daddy in PR for a month, and goes to NJ for a month and a half. and hes staying with this girl sam, who is upsessed with him. and he also might go visit his ex girl friend... who i hate. then the last thing is... me and my friends play "summer games" its a stupid game about who can break the most laws, kiss the most, get the most action la la la... and my boyfriend HATES it. im just confussed about the situation. do you think a break up over summer is needed? tell me your EVERY feeling about this please. (link)
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hummm...I think you should try to understand that many things happen in the summer so it may be necessary to break up so that your relationship doesn't suffer with cheating...now about erica...tell her you don't like what she's doing, tell him you don't like what he's doing. and that you want it to stop it makes you uncomfortable or something like that. if they stop it's nothing there if they don't that's a different situation. and about him saying he could tell erica he loved her...ummm that's not his close best friend so it would be majorly un called for. I hope what i said wasn't too harsh and if it was i apoligize because i know how that feels....I hope i helped and GREAT LUCK =)
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hi, im 15/f. I REALLLLLLLY like this guy named "dean." i really want him to ask me out, but i don't know how to get him to do that. He seems to like me because according to my friend, he was flirting MAJOR the other day, but i didn't see it. He likes to stand near me, talk to me, and sometimes, i guess you could say, stare at me (face, not chest). AKA, now i know he likes me, so what do i do to let him know its okay to ask me out. (o, if this helps, he's going away to greece for the whole summer :(. )
Could you let me know what i need to do to have him ask me out?? Quick advice would be good please, becuase i'm seeing him for the last time tomoro....... :(
sry, but please don't say to ask him out, because i've been down that road with a different guy, and it was pretty ugly if u know what i mean
last thing is...i want him to be my first bf, so this is really important to me!
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I think you should exchange addresses or e-mails or SOMETHING to stay in touch. Try to tell him or slip him a note saying you like him and call him afterward. Or just tell him face to face if you're up to it. Just make sure you find out from him does he like you and to keep in touch. Or take the what if approach...I hope i helped and GREAT LUCK
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Although this is long, I dont know where to turn and would appreciate any responses. Thanks.
Hi everyone. I'm 13/f and my best friend is 14/m.
Well, he moved here last year and his old school was kind of bad, but we clicked right away, I helped him fit in, so to speak (even though I'm not the most popular), and now he's the most popular guy in our school, by most people's "standards."
I didn't think he'd done anything bad at his old school, and I still don't.
But, as I've been becoming "closer" to him I've been finding out things like, he seems to have a girlfriend just to "do things" (not bad, that I know of - just like kissing) with her. When I first found out he kissed his girlfriend I cried- I know it sounds pathetic, but he seems to go out with girls who have NO redeeming qualities, and now he's going out with a "sl**" (I hate to say that, but most people think so.)
But she's not the worst. One other girl in our school is really bad, does drugs (well, it's a rumor) and is the sl***iest. She's probably done really bad things with guys.
Well, I feel horrible about this - and I'm still guilty - but, I found out someone's email password from my grade, and happened to see an email that said "____(the girl) got down on her knees for ______ (my bff), just like i did with _____ (some other kid) and started sucking away. But no one's mad at her and they're mad at me."
I bawled for a half-hour, because I couldn't believe that he would do this with someone/let her do it! I just still can't believe it, and I don't know if it was someone else but it is a pretty uncommon name (my bff's) - and I can't ask/tell anyone, because then theyll ask how I knew and I can't tell them I was on someone else's email! (I feel horrible - never again.)
My best friend seemed so nice when I met him. He seemed like such a good boy, he does well in school and has an amazing family but I don't think they know he's like this! I didn't even know! although it's becoming more apparent recently.
I just don't know where to turn. I can't believe he would do that. It's so shallow and DISGUSTING for an 8th grader! (I know lots of people do now - but I really thought he was waaaaay above that. that's gross, and he doesn't even hang out with her.)
I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. I can't even look at him anymore. I don't want to even associate with him! But he's still my best friend, so I can't just leave him like that - esp. when I don't know details.
I just can't believe it. I'm in such a state of shock. You might not know how I feel, but thanks for any advice you give.
I'm really grateful because I don't know who else to ask about this - thank you sooo much for your responses.
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i think you should ask if what you saw was true. If ya'll are pretty close then it shouldn't blow out of proportion. I don't believe you should judge him though because some ppl have different thoughts on what should and shouldn't be done. So just ask, as a friend. Oh and if you like him you might want to try to figure something out quick before it blurrs your vision on your friendship of being able to talk to him. I hope i helped and that you won't have to cry anymore!! =)
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alright im going to sum up my night and my gf's night, tell me if i did the right thing.
my night:
got stoned with 3 guy friends of mine, had a complete and utter blast, made cupcakes, brownies, played games, watched movies. harmless fun.
my gf's night:
got completely shitfaced with some 3 of her girlfriends, 1 of my other guy friends, and another guy who i dont like. they went skinny dipping, she claims to have covered up and stayed at the opposite end of the pool as the other girls.
how it went down, she called me today told me about her night after i told her about mine, she threw in skinny dipping as if it were no big deal, i then proceeded to tell her that if she did that, then she wouldnt mind if i went skinny dipping with a bunch of girls while she wasn't there. she then said oh but it was only two guys, i then told her that i still dont like the one guy (he grabs her and touches her and is a complete ass to me, so we're in a conflict right now) and that she went skinny dipping with him while they were completely shitfaced, she then tried to blame the alcohol, i asked her who consumed it, and she said that she did (duh), and i asked her whose fault it was.
i hung up and told her i'd talk to her later, due to the fact i dont know what to say.
help me out with what to say when i call her back.
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I honestly think, it depends on how much you like or love her, and trust her. I don't believe being stoned or drinking helps this situation. But you should explain your thoughts on what happened, why you don't like it and see if her response is sincere. If she apoligizes ( i can't spell sorry lol) and if she tries to understand your thoughts and is willing to try harder. I hope I helped you and that everything works out well!!! GREAT LUCK!! =)
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When I was 12, I fell for this boy, i mean really fell for him. I saw him and immediately I just felt strange, I didn't even think he was good-looking, i just, I dont know, it felt strange. He kept making eye contact and his friends asked me out for him, but i didnt think I fancied him and said no, all of a sudden, because I thought he fancied me, I started to fall for him. I thought about him all the time, he was all I ever talked about, in lessons I couldnt concentrate and my grades started to slip. Eventually, I asked him out, but he said no, after that it was awful.
I felt like I had to see him every day, I couldn't go a day without hearing his voice or seeing his face, I couldnt get to sleep at night because I was thinking of him, i dreamed about him every night.
I would cry every night because I couldnt be with him, but whenever or saw his face or heard his voice i'd feel so happy. During the weekends I would look forward to monday when i'd be able to watch him chatting to his friends again.
When he got a girlfriend I felt so empty all the time, i didnt want to go out, I just wanted to go to bed and never wake up.
I had no energy and felt worthless, I still couldnt concentrate in class and my grades were just getting worse, I felt hopeless and was constantly craving chocolate.
Afterwards, I had changed, I was left with no confidence, I had lost all my energy and my grades were bad.
I got over it eventually, and now I'm 13.
The thing is, I was at a party, this guy was there and afterwards he told me he thought I was really fit. I didnt used to fancy him, but when I started to think he might fancy me, I started to fancy him. Last night I was at a party, and I thought he fancied me, but although he made eye contact a few times, he was wrapped around this other girl the whole time. I had a great time, but when I got home I dreamt about him all night, woke up thinking about him, and have been thinking about him constantly all day. I have started to feel empty and hopeless because I think he might have a girlfriend, and I am craving chocolate and feel like I just want to go to bed so I can see him at school tomorrow.
I'm worried that I'll start to feel about him the same way I did about the other guy when I was 12, I dont want to ever go back to how I was then, I was a wreck. How can I prevent that happening?
Sorry it was so long, thanks xxx
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hi i had the same problem and still do so just don't feel alone...but try to concentrate on your school work =) friends, and tv, music sports every and anything to keep your mind off of him concentrate and see if you can change some of your reactions to him, like just talking to him, and being his friend. hope i helped even a lil bit....good luck!!!!
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ok so...i have a boyfriend and he is so great and everything. We have been together for about 2-3 months now but im not sure if i still like him cuz i can never like think of sumtin to tlk about with him i am starting to like this guy who i txt every nite and he told me i was in his top 3 of the whole skool and we always have interesting convo's he isn't afraid to tell me anything and vice versa wat should i do? (link)
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hey you could just like the other boys attention...but before jumping to any conclusions try to talk about something that you like with your bf like school, tv, music etc...just try before moving on then make a conclusion afterwards...hope i helped...good luck!!!
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Okay..lets say I'm weird.. I like practically every guy..well okay, not really..but when i do.. once i get them to like me.. i dont like them anymore.. ):..and i feel really bad. but then once i tell them..then i want them back...
ahhhhhh idk what to do! haha. There is this one boy..who moved away thats coming back..that I love. And I really don't want to do that to him..And I know I won't..but I'm still afraid.. But being in a relationship is not suppose to please me.. Aren't we suppose to be in it because we love them? and we want to help them out? So my crazyness shouldnt matter, right? ahh.. any advice? (link)
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honestly i just think maybe you like to flirt and the attention and the challenge of getting them to like you some sorta game...there's nothing wrong with that...or you could be afraid of commitment, but if you honestly love this boy then you won't treat him the same way because he is special to you. so just try to focus on your love for him and be you. hope i helped good luck!!
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ok theres this guy who im like best friends with, and we're always playin around and saying stuff like, "oh how's my boo doing today" or something like that. only i like him as more than a friend and im not sure hell take me seriously or if he likes me back, what should i do? (link)
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you could ask him (and make sure he knows you're really serious) could he ever see you to going out...or you could just tell him you like him as more than a friend and ask does he like you in that way...hope i helped!! good luck
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The problem is HOW can i "make" him ask me out?HOW?My friends tell me that he is shy...I don't now...Please tell me a way!!! (link)
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you could drop lots and lots of hints but that's the long and hard way...you could have a long talk about it and get him thinking so he'll want to and do it... or you could make sure he likes you for real and explain you have a problem asking a boy out and maybe he will get the hint and do it...i hope i helped good luck
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I like G. for one month...He is really nice to me...And we always hug each other kiss each other and we act like we are together...My friends and his friends think that we are together..I think i am beautiful because boys think that..Yesterday was like every day..We were hugging each other and we were on his motorcycle...We were "touching" each other A LOT..Like only couples do...And then he would drive me home..We were on his motorcycle when he turned and we were so close and we kissed each other...It happened and i was happy about that..I am...But we are not together..He didn't ask me to be with him or something like this...Today everything fine..Without touching and kiss(lips)..I really want to be with him..It is the first time i like a boy THAT much...What should i do to be with him???He is a really good guy...We know each other 1 year but only this last months things are that "good"..What should i do to be with him apart from asking him out???P.S.(When he were hugging each other i heard his heart which was beating really quickly...)
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hey you could ask him out or see if you can get him to ask you out...or just bring it up in a descussion and tell how you feel...hope i helped
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heyy. im fourteen years old and im female. && i have a sort of a problem. i flirt with EVERY guy i talk to. i thought i liked this guy because we flirted alottttt but then within the next week i started flirting with one of his bestfrineds. he got angry . this happens all the time. i endup eading guys on becaus they believe that i really like them; and i make myself believe that aswell. things never work out with anyone because of what i do to guys. is there any epxplanation for this? or is there anythign i can try to stop myself from being a pathaligicial flirt? (i think thats what its called) thankyou soo much for the help! =)
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Hey i had the same problem...you could just like to flirt because it's fun and you like the attention...but to stop yourself from flirting alot you could find a boy your really interested in or that really catches your attention and can stay in your life more than a week as a friend or really good friend...hope i helped!XOXO
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