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i never had an intercourse but the doctor said that i have my old ripped hymen and wounds call 6 o'clock 3 o'clock or something that i didn't understand because i am 12 years old at that time, the doctor insert me a thin metal when he found the result, its painful but when he told me to relax it would be done quickly and less painful, then the result that he told me is that i am not a virgin, and now i am 22 and still wondering what happened to my hymen because i never had a sex, what are the possible thing to ripped the hymen without intercourse? i am still a virgin even if the doctor told me i'm not virgin because of my old ripped hymen and i never experience sex?
Rena-Chan is correct and your doctor is incorrect. There are many ways to tear your hymen besides intercourse. And having a torn hymen does not mean you're not a virgin. Losing your virginity happens when you first have intercourse.
I have a quick question. So when you are stimulating a woman with your hands and they start to orgasm, should you stop what you're doing while they finish? Or should you keep going for a while? As a guy I know that for us it feels better to have all stimulation stop when the orgasm starts, but I'm not sure if women are the same way.
Best to stop stimulation BEFORE the orgasm starts for a little bit then start again. Teasing a girl can make her orgasms much more intense.
However, once the orgasm starts, DON'T stop.
Female 22
I have had sex multiple times but I have never reached an orgasm from the g spot... I dont think anyway.
I learned that girls can have different types of orgasmns and the only one I have ever had is clitoral orgasms. The only time I orgasm during sex is when my clit is being stimulated but it's the clit that feels good not the inside. I would really like to have an orgasm from just the sex itself...
However... I have had sex before where it was so good that I didn't even need to orgasm. Just hitting my g spot until he came was good enough. Could that mean I did orgasm and just didn't realize it? I've been told that its something you would know and not question.
How can I reach an orgasm?
It's all about foreplay. We can't go into too much detail about techniques here, but decent clitoral stimulation for a good amount of time before sex can get blood flowing around and throughout the vagina and make the nerve endings more sensitive.
Also, most women have another spot more sensitive than the g spot called the anterior fornix. It's located on the front inner wall (closer to your belly button) slightly in front of your cervix and when fingered it feels a little like a vein going horizontally. I've found that it's usually easier to give most girls orgasms by stimulating the anterior fornix than the g spot. In the missionary position, it can be more easily stimulated if you put your legs on his shoulders and lean back with your hips up and he aims upwards.
The most important thing is communication. Talk to your partner (or make it clear through moaning) about what feels good and what doesn't. A healthy sex life starts with healthy communication. And plenty of lube.
Lately I've been feeling like I'm falling back into my depression after just being taken off prozac 25mg (being only 14 that takes a lot out of you) does anyone know the signs of it? Please let me know so I can see my doctor I really hate the prozac because it changed my entire personally to something different and my doctor even told me I might devolp split personallity so any ideas?
Most of us are not psychiatrists and those who are can't possibly treat you effectively from only one paragraph of text about you. That being said your doctor seems to have some questionable ideas. SSRI's, the class of antidepressant that includes Prozac, can't lead you to develop split personalities. Also, the mazimum recommended pediatric dose of Prozac is 20mg/day.
SSRI's (which influence the production of seratonin) have a lot of side effects, many unpleasant. You might be better off switching to a SNRI (norepinephrine) or SDRI (dopamine) such as Wellbutrin (bupropion, which affects both norepinephrine and dopamine but not seratonin) is considered a much "cleaner" alternative to SSRI's in terms of side effects.
It's possible that increases in depression could be linked to the lack of sunlight in the winter, a condition known as SAD (seasonal affective disorder), which can be relieved through the use of intense lamps which mimic sunlight and lead to increases in happiness. This particular model (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000W8Y7FY/ref=pd_lpo_k2_dp_sr_2?pf_rd_p=486539851&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=B0009MFUWC&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=0M71HTB6985R2V8V67YY) is excellent for the price, but lower priced models do exist.
Good luck, and I hope you feel better!
Im in this relationship with this guy that i've liked for a few years now. AT first he was only my bestfriend but then it got more when i told him i liked him. We went out once for about 3weeks and then i broke it off. About 2-3months later we got back together. Anyways its been a year now, and this guy, well he's the type of person that girls will be bestfriends with. Our relationship is great, and im crazy for this guy. Its just, i dont want to be. I hate that i care, and i hate that with him i get jealous. I dont want to care for anyone this much, this young. Ive tried not talking to him, ive tried ignoring him. Iv tried to tell myself, remind myself thats its only a crush. That it will end soon, but im lying to myself. But somehow, he always has me answering the phones, he has me waiting for his phones calls, i dont want to be tied down this young. But i cant help it. He just makes me smile everyday, he just makes life better. How do i STOP caring about this guy?
You should start by asking yourself WHY you want to stop caring about him. If there's something about his personality thT turns you off or bothers you then you can try thinking about and focusing on those attributes.
But it sounds like your reasons for wanting to distance yourself from him are not external (things about him or his behavior) but internal (YOUR own personal motivations and feelings). If he is as amazing and makes you as happy as you say, then why not allow yourself to fall for him? If you are afraid of being tied down, what are you afraid of missing out on? Decide whether the happiness that he gives you is worth not having random hookups with other guys.
If you're afraid of falling too hard and getting hurt, well, that's the risk we take for love, but hopefully it's worth it. If you're falling too fast, try limiting your time that you spend with him or talking to him. Don't spend EVERY moment with him, or you could become codependent.
The important thing is that you listen to your heart. Good luck! I hope everything works out well for you.
if you finished your period on thursday and i have unprotected sex on monday can i be pregnet ?
The previous answers are a bit of an exaggeration; while it is POSSIBLE to get pregnant at any point in your cycle from unprotected sex, you are MUCH less fertile during the week immediately before your period and during your period. However, you were very close to your peak fertility (1 week after your period ends) when you had unprotected sex, so you would be strongly advised to get a home pregnancy test (although keep in mind that false negatives can occur for 3 weeks following the unprotected sex) or see a doctor.
Some more information about pregnancy: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=574106
PS you should try to avoid double posting http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=610434
Can you get pregnet from giving someone a blow job
You can't get pregnant unless sperm goes near or into your vagina.
Some more information about pregnancy that I made:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=574106
heyy i have this ipod and downloaded the new i tunes and i plugged in my ipod to take songs off and put new ones on and its telling me it can only be synced with one library..id have to delete everything off and start over? i never seen that before? i thought u just plug it it and u can edit eveyything on it? help thanks/...the only thing thats coming up on the itunes is the songs i have on my computer cant take any off ipod or put them on ipod
Yes, an iPod can only be automatically synced with one library. However, if you go to the summary page for the iPod (click the name of the iPod on the column on the left where it says all of your playlists), there will be a check box that says "Manually manage music and videos", check that and click "Apply" in the bottom right corner. Then, you can just drag music, videos, and playlists from iTunes to the iPod, and you can do that from any computer.
This link shows pictures for what I described:
http://support.apple.com/kb/ht1202
I am suffering from bipolar disorder. I cannot concentrate on one thing. Because at one moment i feel that it is a very good thing and i get very much interested and the next minute i get bored from that thing and get least interested in that thing. I want to stop that task at that time and want to do something different. The same thing happens with that task also and evenually i keep bouncing from one task to the other, be it studies or any other thing, any thought. It goes with money, girls, internet, everything. For example, At once i get interested in making money, i make many plans of making money, read as many articles as i can, and am very very interested. Then after few minutes i get bored and come to the conclusion that making money is not a good thing or is a very boring thing. Then i go making girlfriends. Same thing happens with it. Eventually i waste my time doing nothing worthwhile. Please help.
Most of us are not doctors, psychiatrists, or psychologists. However, I have a lot of personal experience, because my best friend has bipolar disorder. A lot of people don't really understand bipolar, they just use the word to describe changes in mood, when, most people change moods, just some more frequently than others. The interesting thing is that switching moods one minute to the next is almost definitely not bipolar, because with bipolar, you switch every few days or weeks. You could have ADD, or just a short attention span, but you probably do not have bipolar disorder.
Please don't answer if you are just going to tell me stupid **** okay? Because quite frankly, I don't care.
Well, I've only been high a handful of times but whenever I do I don't like it at all. When I get high all I want to do is go to sleep so when I wake up the feeling will be gone.. because I don't like it. Now, I wish it didn't affect me like this. I wish I could enjoy it but I can't. I just get really tired. How can I make it more enjoyable? Or is this how it will always affect me?
Should I just stick to drinking? Because when I drink I actually have fun..
I'm not gonna be all preachy and say "don't do illegal things", because at the end of the day, we're sitting here in front of our computer, miles and miles away from you, and we can't control what you do at all. You're 14, it's illegal for you to drink. But if you don't mind the risk of getting caught, then it's your choice. I'll admit, when I was your age, I was way into substances, and I realized it was getting out of control, and made the decision to stop until I got to college. Personally, that was a good decision for me, despite the peer pressure around me to drink and smoke among other things.
If you don't like smoking, don't smoke. If you like drinking, we can't stop you. Do what you think is right, I'm not gonna judge you.
how old should you be to work at mcdonalds in philledelphia
In Philadelphia, you can legally work at age 14 if you have working papers. If you don't have working papers, you can't work until you're 16.
Can white oderless stains on my panties be a sign of pregancy?
No. That's almost definitely discharge, which is normal. However, just because this is unrelated to pregnancy doesn't mean you're necessarily pregnant or not pregnant. The only way to know for sure is a pregnancy test; all other "signs" could be attributed to something else (late periods could be stress, morning sickness could be food poisoning, etc.)
Here is something I made with more information about pregnancy if you want to know more:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=574106
I'm really sorry to hear about your what happened to you; my good friend was raped in the process of trying to break up, and it's a horrible thing (well all rape is horrible). If you have any more questions feel free to ask me. I hope things work out for you.
My boyfriend and I were having sex last night and he kind went too hard and accidentally went a little bit in my rear and now it's bleeding a little bit and hurts quite a bit. Is this normal?
Thanks for the help!
If you have anal sex and there isn't enough lubricant or you haven't properly stretched it out (starting with a finger and moving up), then you could tear the walls of your anus and that would be the reason for the bleeding.
Basically....
Boy and I were together for 2 yrs before I got pregnant at age 19. Like they say....he didnt really get the whole "im gonna have a baby" thought until she was about two weeks old...but as this feeling grew his motivation to work shrank...baby is now 5 months old and he lost his job 3 months ago. luckily i work for family and my father lets me bring my very well behaved baby to work with me. well my boy will freak out in the morning and make me take her to work and he sleeps in. the only reason i do it is bc if i leave her home he will play for an hour or so then make her cry in her crib until she falls asleep (i know this bc when i come home he is sleeping and i used to come home while he was doin it)...he has not been looking for a job at all...we were fortunate enough to find work for a month through my father....but now that is up im back to square one with him and he gets mad and calls me names if i ask him why he isnt doing anything. i still have to take her to work. he claims that bc we r going to get in school he doesnt need to do anything bc the student loans will pay for everything....even if that were possible weve got 2 months until the loans kick in. if i kick him out (to make it all worse we live with my mother) i would like it to be until he gets a job and we can be a family but i seriously think when i get the balls to say come back when you have a check he will never come back..i grew up away from my dad and do not want it for my daughter.. i really love my boyfriend with all of my heart but i can only take so much. he has a different personality when hes sleeping, hes angry and even abusive....i have been thrown at dressers and back handed multiple times trying to get him out of bed. when he is awake, fed and showered he is the sweetest ever but jesus im not his mother and i do not want to do this for the rest of my life.i shouldnt have to tell a 20 year old with a baby to get out of bed and get a job..HELP....how do i get this pile out of my parents house, into a job and less bi polar. i want this family. i need it. i know it can work if we can just get on our feet.....but every time we get money saved he spends it....im such a pussy i dont know why i let him do this. he threatens to take her from me when i ask him to leave....what if he really got custody of her? hes a very convincing person....im the type where you get waht you see. he is someone completley different on the outside than in and im scared that a judge would be manipulated and give my baby to him if it came to that. i hate this...i just need the answers.
First thing's first. A lot of people on here just skip over really long questions, so you'll get a lot more responses if you shorten the question.
Now for the advice. This man is not adequately taking care of your child, and no judge in his right mind would give him custody. 1, judges almost always side with the mother for custody issues, unless there is a strong reason why the mother shouldn't have custody. 2, with no job, he has no means to support the child, and therefore wouldn't get custody.
You deserve better than him, you deserve a man who will support you both financially and emotionally, and you need to tell him that if he can't be that man, he needs to get out and let you get on with your life. If he refuses to leave or gets physical with you, then call the police. Don't ever feel bad for being assertive and standing up for yourself and your child, because your baby deserves care and a mother who will fight to make sure she gets that care.
I need to find a monologue, in VERSE and from a play by Shakespeare.
I am good on playing emotions, anything to do with emotional/mental pain. Also, comedy too, feminist characters.
Anyone know any?
You are probably gonna get some of the Hamlet soliloquies, such as "To Be or Not To Be". Keep in mind, that these are SOLILOQUIES, not monologues, and if this is a specific assignment about monologues, then they won't work.
A soliloquy is an internal speech, not said to anyone else. A monologue is similar, but it is said to other people, not internal.
That being said, here are some of Shakespeare's monologues, with a note for whether it is dramatic or comedic, for a man or for a woman.
http://www.monologuearchive.com/s/shakespeare_william.html
I wasn't sure which category to put this in. On October 27th I had sex for the first time. The last time I've had my period was October 7th- 11th. For the past few months my periods have been irregular but I'm starting to freak out. I've been very stressed out for the past couple of weeks. I took two home pregnancy tests on Tuesday; they both came out negative but I'm still wondering why I haven't started my period. My friend said it can be late due to stress so is there anyway i can stop stressing so I can finally start my period?
I wouldn't worry; home pregnancy tests are extremely accurate, and stress can cause irregularities in your cycle. The thing about cycles, is that they are usually not entirely regular, and they can be affected by anything from stress to diet to spending a lot of time with a lot of girls. If you're not confident with the results from the home pregnancy tests, a simple visit to a doctor or free clinic will be able to tell you for sure if you're pregnant or not.
If you want more information on pregnancy, I made this because there are a lot of questions on here about pregnancy:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=574106
I'm ___ age and I'm thinking about having sex for the first time with my (boyfriend, girlfriend, random person I just met). I think I'm ready but I'm not sure. What should I do?
I'm gonna play devil's advocate and say that sex is as big a deal as you make it. It can either be not a big deal or it could be the hugest deal. The important thing is to remember that whatever you do, it's the right decision for you.
There's no such thing as too young (within reason, you probably shouldn't have sex before puberty), and I disagree with people that say things like "losing your virginity is the most important decision in the world and if you wonder if you're ready or not, you're not ready". That's sorta a bad attitude in my opinion, because it makes sex into something negative, and it antagonizes you for not being completely sure.
People will almost never be COMPLETELY sure about anything, the important thing is to do whatever feels right for you.
I am a 18 yr old f. Several answers would be appreciated. I have met a guy who I relate to in so many ways. I have never felt so comfortable around any other guy before; it feels as if I have known him for years. He is 35. My heart tells me it is so right, but my head tells me he might be too old. Usually I would think 10 years is a good gap to date someone, but my parents are 15 years apart... What do you think? I am very mature and I would never do anything that I'd think to be a stupid decision. Never drank or did drugs in my life and don't plan to. He has never done this either. Thanks in advance!
I am an 18 year old male, so you can't argue that I don't understand the situation. You are on here wanting us to say that it is okay to do what you're doing, when, although it is legal, it is far from ok. We are 18, so we are adults, but just barely. We've only been adults for a few months. Imagine if this had happened a few months ago, he would have been a pedophile and registered sex offender. Has so much changed in a few months? You have to realize that something is fundamentally wrong with him. Even though you will say "he's different, I know", I know that at 18, it's impossible to fully comprehend what is in his mind. He may seem more mature than any other guy you've met, and you may think you're more mature than any other 18 year old, but by pursuing anything more than a friendship with you, he is revealing that he is not very mature, or at least not wise.
Sorry if I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear, this is my honest advice and you can feel free to do what you want. Maybe he is different from all the other guys going out with girls half their age, if so, then my mistake. And yes, you did say you were thinking about something more than friends, when you said, "Usually I would think 10 years is a good gap to date someone". And by the way, yes I am 18, my birthdate is 9/18/92, I'm not sure why my page says I'm 17.
I was not trying to criticize you, insult you, or be condescending, I was merely giving the advice that I would give to anyone else who was in your situation. Good luck with whatever relationship or life decision you decide to pursue, I hope it works out for you in the end.
18/f
i really need advice/support/someone to talk to..
i really feel like my life is getting out of control. i hate who i've become. i used to be this really nice shy girl who cares about everybody's feelings and i was just overall a nice person. a lot of people liked me because i was so nice. but now i just feel like i'm losing control of my life. i'm not influence with drugs or alcohol. (i'm not that stupid) but i feel like lately i've been so unfair and un-loyal to people. i've lost about 20 people in my life. they walked out of my life because they said i was too much drama and they couldn't handle me in their lives and they were better off without me there.
the first few times people left me were hard.. i didnt know what i did wrong and i was devastated. but then after about 10-15 people left i got used to it and realized they were being stupid. but then something major happened this past week.. my ex boyfriend wanted to get back with me (while i was still with my current bf) and a huge drama fest broke out. they fought over me and made me pick in between them. for a few days i kept switching my mind and i know that was a bad mistake. finally today i made my decision to stick with my current bf. my ex was devastated and started to tell me that karma will kick my ass one day and that i'm a hurtful person. he said i dragged his heart and ran over it with a tank. that made me cry and i realized that its not just a coincidence.. so many people have walked out on my life and i realize its all because of me and how i treated them. my boyfriends friends hate me because they heard how unfair i was treating my bf (by comparing him to my ex and not deciding who i wanted). my bff told me that i was a horrible person because i treat people badly and dont think about how others feel. and just so many other things happened in my life that makes me realize how horrible i am.. like for example- i lost a good girl friend because i thought she was just using me and didnt really care about me. another time i lost a guy friend because i told him i really cared about him but he wanted more and it just fell apart because we wanted different things.
my parents tell me i'm such a good kid but i honestly dont see how they and other friends can look at me and think i'm a great person... i admit it- i treat people like crap. i'm unfair towards people and say things i dont really mean. i've been crying for the past 2 hours because i feel like i'm literally losing control of my life. i wish i could just start everything over and forget about all of my mistakes.
i just really need advice on what to do. i've tried talking to close people about how i feel but they keep getting mad at me because i "dont realize how important i am" but i honestly dont think i'm that important. i feel like if i was gone tomorrow, nothing would change in life. yeah my parents would be sad (which is why i promised myself i wouldn't commit suicide) but i feel like all of my other friends wouldnt even notice me gone.. they would probably be happy to have me gone because i cause so much drama. but the thing is.. i dont purposely try to cause drama... it just happens...
another thing- sometimes i realize that i cause drama, and i back off. i try to fix it by backing off and just letting things happen naturally. but everytime i do that i get b*tched at by other people because i'm not "giving effort in life". its like- if i try in life, everything just gets worse. but if i dont try- people think i'm lazy and dont care.
i really dont know what to do anymore.. i'm losing control of my life and i'm hurting people that mean so much to me (unintentionally). how do i get back on track and just start over? or make myself feel better? just please... any type of advice? i know this is probably very long and you might feel annoyed and not want to answer.. but even if its just a small answer, i will be grateful for anyone who is listening right now.. i'm just so upset with my life and i want to change but everytime i try to change, it just gets worse. please help :(
First of all, it seems like from this question, you chose guy B, which is what I would have suggested you do, because it seems like he's more emotionally stable and able to be there for you, which, guy A, seems like he can't do. It seems like guy A would always be bringing you down into his issues, and you don't need a relationship with someone who will be bringing you down, you need a relationship with someone who will bring you up and support you.
Now, onto this question. First, some advice, a lot of people on here don't like reading long questions and just skip over them, so in order to get a wide variety of answers, it helps to shorten your question. Sometimes, it seems like your life is spinning out of control. It happens to all of us. One bad thing happens, then another bad thing happens, then another, and soon, it seems like everything in your life is messed up beyond repair. The important thing is to take a step back and look at each problem individually. If you look at all the problems surrounding you at once, it seems too much to handle. But if you take them one at a time, they become much more manageable.
The most important thing is positivity. I've found that if you're surrounded by negative people, your mind is full of negative thoughts, and you're constantly making stressful decisions, you'll just end up giving yourself an ulcer. However, if you think positively, surround yourself with optimistic people, and open up to the possibilities around you, good things will happen.
You will get through this, just be your best self.
I have 4 questions all to do with the same stuff... please answer whichever one/ones you know about. Thanks! And this may be a bit weird and blunt but oh well... stop reading if you dont know.
I'm 23 female and I'm new to anal sex. I really want to do it and my boyfriend is slowly easing me into it so it doesnt hurt. (like with his finger) and when he does that it feels great. It makes the orgasm much more intense and I love it... however I can only handle it so much before it starts to feel like the kinda pressure you get when your gonna poop or fart... and there isnt anything pleasurable about that to me.. I have to make him stop and I HATE doing that. Is that just a normal part of anal sex that I'm gonna have to get used to or is there a way to make it stop? I'm afraid taking his dick will be too much when we get to that point.
Next Question: When he is licking down there... OMG I love it... but I always feel like I'm going to fart. In fact this happens sometimes during sex but mostly just with anal stuff. How can I make sure I dont? Is there a way to get rid of that pressure?
Next question: I heard from someone who doesnt like anal that she doesnt like it because sometimes you have a bowel sitting in your butt that you can touch if you reach in there far enough... How the heck do you avoid this???
Last Question: My butt smells like... well butt. I open my butthole and it smells like butt... I imagine everyone is like this but then why does everyone do anal stuff if it stinks? How can I make sure my butt smells good? Is there a slumber parties thing or something I can buy at an adult store to rub on myself so that it smells good? I know these are weird questions and kinda gross and I'm embarrassed but I really need advice and I'd rather not ask my gynecologist or anyone else I know...
Please no rude comments... just advice. Thank you.
I haven't been on here for a while and so I sorta forget the rules about answering these questions, so I hope this isn't a violation.
Almost all of those problems can be dealt with by going to the bathroom right before anal sex. I know that sounds counter productive, but if you have just gone to the bathroom, then your bowels are empty, and if you have proper hygiene and wipe yourself, then there shouldn't be an odor.