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faling too hard
13/f
When I was 12, I fell for this boy, i mean really fell for him. I saw him and immediately I just felt strange, I didn't even think he was good-looking, i just, I dont know, it felt strange. He kept making eye contact and his friends asked me out for him, but i didnt think I fancied him and said no, all of a sudden, because I thought he fancied me, I started to fall for him. I thought about him all the time, he was all I ever talked about, in lessons I couldnt concentrate and my grades started to slip. Eventually, I asked him out, but he said no, after that it was awful.
I felt like I had to see him every day, I couldn't go a day without hearing his voice or seeing his face, I couldnt get to sleep at night because I was thinking of him, i dreamed about him every night.
I would cry every night because I couldnt be with him, but whenever or saw his face or heard his voice i'd feel so happy. During the weekends I would look forward to monday when i'd be able to watch him chatting to his friends again.
When he got a girlfriend I felt so empty all the time, i didnt want to go out, I just wanted to go to bed and never wake up.
I had no energy and felt worthless, I still couldnt concentrate in class and my grades were just getting worse, I felt hopeless and was constantly craving chocolate.
Afterwards, I had changed, I was left with no confidence, I had lost all my energy and my grades were bad.
I got over it eventually, and now I'm 13.
The thing is, I was at a party, this guy was there and afterwards he told me he thought I was really fit. I didnt used to fancy him, but when I started to think he might fancy me, I started to fancy him. Last night I was at a party, and I thought he fancied me, but although he made eye contact a few times, he was wrapped around this other girl the whole time. I had a great time, but when I got home I dreamt about him all night, woke up thinking about him, and have been thinking about him constantly all day. I have started to feel empty and hopeless because I think he might have a girlfriend, and I am craving chocolate and feel like I just want to go to bed so I can see him at school tomorrow.
I'm worried that I'll start to feel about him the same way I did about the other guy when I was 12, I dont want to ever go back to how I was then, I was a wreck. How can I prevent that happening?
Sorry it was so long, thanks xxx
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hi i had the same problem and still do so just don't feel alone...but try to concentrate on your school work =) friends, and tv, music sports every and anything to keep your mind off of him concentrate and see if you can change some of your reactions to him, like just talking to him, and being his friend. hope i helped even a lil bit....good luck!!!!
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No offense, but it doesn't seem like you like those two guys, it sounds more of an infatuation.
But if you do like them, and I was wrong. Sorry.
I'm guessing your just going through hormones, and trust me, I was there before. But the feelings will go away after a while and you'll be like before again. The only thing is to wait and see if you like the guy more, if you do...then I guess keep on liking him in hopes that he doesn't have a girlfriend.
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ok, take a deap breath, and relax. focus on your school life, family and friends. forget about him for a while. if he asks you out, go for it. but this time lets see if he makes the first move. and if you cant stop thinking about him, think "hey, hes the one missing out." seriously. make yourself feel good. focuz on the more important things first. good luck
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