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ok to be pissed?
alright im going to sum up my night and my gf's night, tell me if i did the right thing.
my night:
got stoned with 3 guy friends of mine, had a complete and utter blast, made cupcakes, brownies, played games, watched movies. harmless fun.
my gf's night:
got completely shitfaced with some 3 of her girlfriends, 1 of my other guy friends, and another guy who i dont like. they went skinny dipping, she claims to have covered up and stayed at the opposite end of the pool as the other girls.
how it went down, she called me today told me about her night after i told her about mine, she threw in skinny dipping as if it were no big deal, i then proceeded to tell her that if she did that, then she wouldnt mind if i went skinny dipping with a bunch of girls while she wasn't there. she then said oh but it was only two guys, i then told her that i still dont like the one guy (he grabs her and touches her and is a complete ass to me, so we're in a conflict right now) and that she went skinny dipping with him while they were completely shitfaced, she then tried to blame the alcohol, i asked her who consumed it, and she said that she did (duh), and i asked her whose fault it was.
i hung up and told her i'd talk to her later, due to the fact i dont know what to say.
help me out with what to say when i call her back.
thanks.
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Call her back and say you are sorry for hanging up on her bur that you didn't like what happened, and that you hoped she would respect your feelings and not go skinning dipping with other guys again.
Look, you both seem cool with choosing to use substances that alter your inhibitions and perceptions, and that is okay. What isn't okay is flying off the handle and bitching your girlfriend out over a difference of opinion.
She didn't think it was a big deal.
You do.
You don't get to bully her or blame her for it, unless you told her when your relationship started that skinning dipping with the opposite sex was a no-go.
What you do get to do is calmly tell her you don't like it and don't think it's acceptable and would appreciate if she didn't do it again.
Different people find different things acceptable while in a relationship. They have different boundaries. Nudity, isn't always sexual either, it's definitely possible they were just having innocent fun, while naked.
Remember: if she had thought the skinny dipping would be a problem, she probably wouldn’t have mentioned it too you. This is nothing but the two of you having differing opinions about boundaries, which is fine, as long as you can discuss them in a way that isn’t accusatory or insulting. You don’t have a say in who she hangs out with, but if you rather her not get naked around other guys, then sure, share that, and see if she can respect it.
It sounds like the very worst she did here was make a drunken mistake. If you have never made a drunken, or high, mistake before in your life then you are a better person then me. Say your piece about what you think is acceptable behavior while in a relationship, forgive her for the mistake, and see if the two of you can abide by each others boundaries.
If she does it again, or something similar, then she can’t abide by your boundaries and end the relationship.
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Tell her I am sorry I am not trying to invade you I just don't like anyone flirting with you I am not the jealous type I just really care about you will you forgive me and I will forgive you.If
she gets mad tell her I don't mean it to be rude or to put you down I mean it to be serious and caring .
But the answer to your question is it is ok to be pissed off sometimes just try not to bring it out on every single person you come in contact with.So try controlling that anger.
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ok if she threw that into the mix she obviously doesnt have anything to hide about it so nothing probley happend w/ them and you say to her. I am not madd at you i am just hurt at the fact that you did that with two other guys, if it was just you and your girlfriends it wouldnt bother me, but the fact that there were guys there bothers me and i would just like you to no how i feel about it.
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Hey
I honestly think, it depends on how much you like or love her, and trust her. I don't believe being stoned or drinking helps this situation. But you should explain your thoughts on what happened, why you don't like it and see if her response is sincere. If she apoligizes ( i can't spell sorry lol) and if she tries to understand your thoughts and is willing to try harder. I hope I helped you and that everything works out well!!! GREAT LUCK!! =)
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Both of you need to stop drinking and getting stoned first of all. Second, she can't blame everything on alcohol, but at least she didn't do it when she was sober. Third, let her know it's not okay that she's skinny dipping with other guys, regardless, if she was drunk. She needs to respect your decision and don't retaliate with doing the same thing, trying to test her limits.
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i think its okay to be pissed.
i mean i would be too.
she cant blame alcohol.
she would know she was doing something wrong.
seriously.
just ask her why she did it.
if she says the alcohol say no thats not it and ask her friends if she was drunk and stuff.
i hope i helped ♥
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