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15/f
ok my ex bf who i broke up with about 2 months ago, has recently asked me out. He said he loves me and he needs me. So he asked me out again today and i rejected him nicely. I told him that I wasn't ready for a bf again and he said ok. But now he is telling everyone that he is going to kill himself. I feel terrible, its all my fault. So I feel pressured into going out with him again. But then I can never break up with him cuz he will kill himself, so i will have to like be with him forever. WHAT SHOULD I DO!???
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Don't get yourself stuck with him.!
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If you don't want to go out with him then don't.
Let him threaten to kill himself all day, its not your problem. Chances are, like everyone before me has said, hes just pulling a whoa is me act. But, even if he isn't that is not your problem.
Do you want to get into a relationship you will never be able to get out of? I don't think you do but, that is what dating this guy will end up being.
Making threats like that to keep someone in a relationship are abusive. Don't even go there. :)
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I don't think this is your fault at all and I can say that with total certainty because I'e come across guys like this plenty of times.
The only reason he is saying he's going to kill himself and all of that rubbish is because he's hoping you will react in exactly the way you are at the moment. He's doing nothing but making you feel sorry for him in a way to try and get you back. Also, he won't kill himself. If he wanted to kill himself he would have done it already instead of announcing it to everyone. :| I think you should just stick to your decision and not let him blackmail you into anything, especially into going back out with him or doing anything else you don't want to do. If you give into his little mind game now he'll just keep on playing into it afterwards because he knows you will fall for it.
Good luck. :]
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If he's serious, you need to tell him to get serious help and DON'T keep it a secret. If you think he is dead serious about it, sit him down and have a talk. Say you don't feel the same way, but you love him as a friend, and he should accept that as a good thing. Say you cherish the thing you guys had, but think it's just not going to work out again. Let him know that the more he tortures himself over you, the more turned off you are. You want a guy who is confident and strong. If you think getting back together with him will solve his problems, DON'T, because if he's willing put his life in jeopardy after only a two month relationship, being his "girlfriend" is the least of your problems and I doubt it'll make him feel better knowing the only reason you went out with him again is because you didn't want him kill himself.
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What you need to do is sit him down and have a talk. Ask him if he's really serious about killing himself or if he was just kidding. Make sure to get the real truth & don't do it on the phone or online becuase you can't see his facial expressions or body language that tells you he's lieing or telling the truth. If he seems serious about it, contact an adult. The school counselor, his parents, whoever would be able to take action to save his life. If he's just joking then you have to let him down easy, definitly don't feel pressured into going out with him & be responsible about it! hopefully he gets the help he needs & good luck! =)
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