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Ask me questions, and i'll answer them. I'm smart so usually I`ll know the answer. I`ll tell you the truth, like almost every person with an advice column does, so don`t be suprised. I love my friends & family, I just love life, but don`t worry it took me a while to get here. My life isnt perfect & i've had a lot of deaths. I have a good perspective on things, usually if you ask me a question i've already been in that situation. I know life is hard & i know things suck but i also know that life is amazing too.
If I tell you to just buck up and do it, I really mean it & i'm not just saying that becuase i don't know what else to tell you.
Likes: mature people, skim milk, mac & cheese, making cookies, friends, my whole family, cats; especially mine, books, television, music, parties, boys, clothes, flip flops, lacrosse, soccer, running, traveling, those little trays on airplanes, hot chocolate in the morning, waking up when its raining or snowing, going to sleep during a thunderstorm, & taking showers in the afternoon & SUMMMERR 8D
Dislikes: People who hate cats, people who don't like to read, people who don't know anything about what is happening in the world or don't care, grilled cheese, slow computers, traffic, cell phones that break to easily, blind refs, people who think its cool to be stupid on purpose, people who invite themselves to things, people who think they can control everything, people who think they can`t do it, & people who dye their hair becuase you were made with the color hair you look the best in, and people just dont get that.

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13/f
I like my best guyfriend. I think he likes me... What do you think?-- We flirt alot and he always asks my opinions on things. I sit next to him in two classes. He's really nice to me and tells me alot of his secrets. He looks at me often. He has called me hot before. Like all this sounds so great, but for some reason i feel like he doesnt like me. What do you think?????

Well, from the information you gave it's a very good chance but you can't be sure, there are alot of other things that come into play. Like, if he thinks of you as a friend or someone he would like, if he likes someone else also. You can figure this out by asking him if he likes someone, and you can also use your friends and his friends as tools to help you find the answer. But try and be sneaky about it until you are at least 90% sure that he might like you.

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Im a fourteen female and I have this iffy chronic fatigue thing, so Im homebound and dont get to see much of my friends let alone this AMAZING boy. This is going to be lengthy. Apologies! But friends dont matter much at the moment because my closest are moving away, including said boy, though not until summer ends. Ive liked him on and off for months, starting before new years. Last week we got into this conversation. I explained I was thinking about getting a hair cut, but nothing drastic,

and so he he was all 'kayjayyy[jay is for jerk] but ehh dont cut it youre cute enough already[smile]'
and i exclaimed that it wouldnt matter what i did with it because its not like hed see me anyway because of my absence
and he had to be all 'whateverr' so when i asked wht was wrong he just said 'ehh nvm you dont care' and when i ensured him i DID in fact care a lot he finally said 'well i like you...your hair the way it is' and when i asked him what he meant he just said 'thats it. i like it the way it is'

And being the cheesy kid I am I changed subjects with a knockknock joke. And after a bit the talk went back to awkward for me. After asking him what was on HIS mind, he told me to tell HIM [practically] absolutely everything Ive thought about, details, details, and all. Dont skip anything.
-lalaaalala noo im avoiding conversation
-tell me everything
So I said 'im thinking about well how much i like you, your hair the way it is [smile]' I tried to say I was just copying him but eventually we both got into how we were into each other. And he posted this bulletin titled luv ya, you know who you are with TWO smilies and I already missed him

so last night would be the first night we talked since then. We were on aim, he was folding laundry, searching on youtube, probably talking to a million other people with the scenekidsocialite he is. So he was the only friend online pretty much. But he didnt say a word.
And again being the cheesy kid I am I eventually went into a knock knock joke. 'knockknock' and of course he said 'whos there' and when i said 'von'...he didnt answer. So I commented on how "youre not very good at knock knock jokes" because we failed to ask soandsowho the last time but still got a got from the punchline. And he went into caps lock 'ughh FINE VON WHO' and I was nervous already so I said 'ughhhh no one now GEEES later' and i was thinking of saying
'im sorry im annoying and youre so disappointing PEACE' AGAIN being the cheesypoetyetadorablyquaintandchildishperson HE says I always am.

But he signed off first, without saying goodbye







SO AGAIN SOOO SORRRRYYY FOR IT BEING SO LONG BUT IF YOU CANT TELL I LIKE TO WRITE "DDD
so thanks for reading, and any feedback is SOO appreciated; [ie] advice, support, the exact definition of bipolar, socialite, any words you mighta liked, your favorite music

haha. but hes moving but i cant help it. i wasnt sure if he thought we were a couple or not, and he had his details hidden, and we hadnt talked in days,
and weve got all summer to chill out.
and naturally, i was curious "/
but what now

Well, Aim can be sometime awkward because you can't see someone facial expressions, you could have misunderstood what he was trying to say and he could have misunderstood what you were trying to say. I think you should try to talk to him more face to face and i bet your conversation will be alot less heated and awkward. If it isn't , then maybe you guys really aren't into eachother. Also he isn't bipolar. He's just ornery. If he was bipolar his reactions would be much more drastic and wouldn't be that quick to change. People who are bipolar go through stages of being nasty for months or weeks, then go back to their normals selves for another couple of months or weeks. Hope it helped.

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my names jessica. 14/f . people say ur first love is your last. i've been thinking about it. i really do love my first love but i dont know how to tell him this. it's reallly hard. Im kind of friends with his girlfriend. not bestfriends just like "hey, whats up" kind of friends lol. but please help me. i have no idea what to do or say!

I wouldn't say your first love is your last and i've never heard anyone say that but I do know that your first love is a really strong love. Since this guy has a girlfriend, i would hold off telling him that you love him. I would just try and get close to him in a friend way so when he and his girlfriend break up, it will be easy for him to see you as the girlfriend type and want to get closer with you in that way. You don't want to become his girlfriend's enemy so don't come on to strong to him, just let him know he has options.

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im 13 years old and a female and my mom treats me like im 30
she wants me to wash the dishes every night and clean the kitchen , and the bathroom , and my room, even my 8 year old brother's room
am like cinderella?
the worst part is that when i do these things she wont even say thank you or tell me that i did a good job, she just acts like's it's nothing.
but wen i do something wrong she yells so much till i just feel like crying.
at the same time of cleaning those and doing all the chores, she also expects me to get straight a's in skool
like she'll freak out if a get an 82 on test and tell me that ill never get anywhere in life if i dont do good in skool.

how do i get her to let me be a kid and just have fun and hang out with my friends and relax

thnxx

Honestly, I'm around your age and i do the same exact amount of chores you do. And i know how to help your situation so that it can lighten your load a little. Just do the dishes and clean the kitchen every night, that should take 15 minutes tops. Then convince your mom that you only need to clean the bathroom every weekend, but make sure you do a thourough job. Then keep your own room clean so you don't have to tidy it up every day. And argue with your mom that your brother is old enough to pick up his own room. But if she needs some vacumming done in there, don't freak out. There are some things your brother can and can't do. This type of schedule is 15 minutes of chores every day and 10-15 minutes on the weekends. Doesn't that seem a lot less now? Trust me, your mother isn't being ridiculous, or trying to punish you. It will get your trained for when you live on your own. Being a kid isn't always just fun. trust me, i know.

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my dog has separation anxiety, i think it's called. when we leave somewhere and come home, the house is a WRECK. She chews on shoes, gets in the garbage, even goes upstairs and chews up things in my bedroom. and when we come home, she always looks like she thinks someone's going to hit her.

what can i do to stop this?

Put her somewhere enclosed like a garage and put everything out of sight, try and make it home more often and maybe she will be fine. Go to your vet if the problem persists and sometimes they can prescribe medicine that will calm your dog down, but only use that as a last resort. If your dog is just a puppy, he/she will probably out grow it.

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EVERYTIME i eat chocolate, i get pimples. What causes this?

The chocolate makes your blood sugar rise and and your body pumps out more oil and clogs up your pores. If you want to have a clear face, i'd stay away from fatty processed foods and eat salads and water instead. Hope this helped =)

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This is something EVERYONE can answer.
Tell me all about the coolest party you've ever been to!
What was the theme? What did you do there?
Where was it? How was it decorated?
I want to have a party
but I have no idea where to start!
Please help me! thanks!

okay, well.. i know alot of people do it but its really fun!! I had a murder mystery birthday party once, and it was soo creative and fun to make, and party in. I sent out invites to people and their identities.. mr.plum.. mrs.white.. mrs.peackock and miss scarlet.. and they had to come dressed as the person. Then i had my family members make clues and tasks you had to do to get the clues and you had to figure out what room, who did it, and what they used.. pretty much like the game clue. And if you wanted you could make it really interesting and sorta play out the murder and stuff. And i served strawberry daquari's and made it really old timish. its alot of work though.. but worth it.

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Yesterday evening my parents went out for a meal and me and my friend decided to drink a bottle of champagne we got very drunk and went out for a bit when we came home my parents friends were around along with my neighbours. Inever get to see the friends which had come down from somerset it was there last day staying with my nieghbours i just said hello to them and walked up the stairs i didnt want to go in the room because i was to drunk. When i was upstairs my parents were shouting emily come down and chat with us say hello i just shouted im trieed sorry and "no" I feel so bad my parents said i was really rude and i dont no what to say to my neighbours when i see them! ??? HELP

I would probably just apologize, but don't say you were drunk, that would just make it worse.

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Do you think that some of the older kids from the TV show Kid Nation have myspaces?

probably. almost everyone has a myspace. And especially famous people or people who have been on TV. I would check it out.



Edit: no you wouldn't seem like stalker at all, just comment them and say like.. i saw you on kid nation and i thought you were really cool. They'll be happy with that. I know i would 8D

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I had no idea what to put this under. I am terribly curious about "Hannah Montana". I had never watched this Disney Channel show, but I have seen the jumping popularity of Hannah Montana on even NBC news. I watched it on ABC Saturday morning cartoons recently, and saw absolutely nothing great about it. I thought that it was actually incredibly horrible acting, and the concept to be terrible. I am disappointed to see that Disney's legacy has disappeared behind this... crap. My younger sister's friend was playing the soundtrack, and I found the singing rather nauseating. Can someone tell me how on Earth this awful, unholy phenomenon has occured?

well. Yeah the acting is actually really bad, but sometimes it has its funny points. Yes i'm a fan of hannah montana i can probably explain why people like it so much. Hannah Montana has its ups and downs. Some episodes are funny and some make me cringe with embarrasement that i'm actually wantching this. The songs, well.. some of them are good. The ones on her newest album are pretty good. I think people like them so much becuase they really get you pumped up and exciited. I do like hannah montana but its okay if you don't. I just think you should try to watch another episode then make your decision. And try to listen to all of her songs. Its perfectly fine if you don't like her though, somtimes i wonder why people like things so much too.

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so heres the deal...im 14and a half/f and hav a good amount of friends and i jus realized that out of all of them that i talk to most, im the ONLY one who hasnt made-out with a guy yet!and its kinda deppressing!!!i meen i think im a very pretty girl, somewhat prettier then most of them and im still a make-out virgin!!!i know people say good things come to those who wait but how long do i have to f-n wait!!!!i think im the second oldest out of my frinds and i hav only kissed one guy and it was only once and it wasnt "all that"!i dont know if it has anything to do with the fact that i dont kiss guys unless ive known them for a while and feel completly comfortable with sharing my lips with them!and then again i am kinda shy too!-well when it comes to guys and kissing-!it jus makes me feel so unexperienced and sad to know that ive never made-out with anybody! i just want to sooooo bad!its fustrating the crap out of me----but should it be???

Honestly, when you said that you have to get to know a guy before you share your lips with him[haha], i think thats great, and i bet some guys will too. If people bug you about it just say that your not comfortable kissing a guy you don't know well, and thats fine. Before i made out, i was itching to do it just like you. I felt so inexperienced and i didn't like it at all. But trust me, its not all its cracked up to be. It wasn't that great. But i don't expect that to help you. If you really wanna at least see what its like.. Go to a party and if there playing spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven, then jump right in. Its the best way to do it because its not random, people won't call you a slut, and its comfortable because everyone around you is doing it. But don't do it unless your really ready! make sure your completely comfortable with it, and remember have confidence in yourself. 8)

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kay so in gym we're playing soccer now outside.. well we got to pick out of 3 things and i picked soccer. im 13/f in 8th grade, too. and like i guess i can be pretty competitive.. like i like to play sports and talk to my friends at the same time, but i participate alot. well I've already accidentally kicked 2 kids in the shin in the timespan of like.. a month and one didnt play till the next day and the other got better and played the same period. and the teachers say its good to participate but maybe not be as competitive.. it makes me sad because im honest to god not doing it on purpose.. I guess I may not have too many soccer skills, like I'm bad at faking sometimes, and I always fall for it when other people fake.. but we dont have to be pros since its just gym and having fun outside.. but my main problem is this girl.. i used to be her friend and not anymore now, and like she always complains that im too competitive whenever i steal the ball from her.. and im like "hello, this happens in soccer!" she even said that soccer wasn't a physical game.. when it IS! like in a real game (i've done 3 seasons of rec) like I've like shoved this kid to get the ball.. well like i'd run into him with my shoulder.. and then i didnt really hard and got it away.. in gym to the girl i barely used any of my strength, and just did it to like knock her off so i could steal the ball and the girl complains to me yet again.. its so whiny and annoying.. my teacher even said to tell her to "Man up" haha.. but what should I say to her? i mean also once i accidentally kicked her in the shin too (no shin pads btw) and that happened a long time ago but she still brings it up that her foot kinda hurts, but she doesnt do anything about it but complain to me when i dont really want to hear it.. cause it was an accident and if it hurts that bad she should just go to the nurse. its hard.. i love soccer and other sports and it hard for me to just.. like not really care for what is going on and not do anything. i mean its good to be compettive but not TOO much right? the only people that really complained was that girl so what do I do in my situation? :(

Some of the time it seems like you are being a little too competitive, and sometimes you are just fine. For the really whiny girl, you just keep doing what your doing because she is just a weakling. You seem like when you are in gym the reason that your so competitive and eager to prove yourself on the field because you don't get the chance to play soccer very often. I play soccer like 24/7 and in gym when i play it i don't get too competitive because i don't have the need for it. Sign up for some teams, you seem like you want to play soccer and you want to get better so why not go for it? Gym, yes, you should participate but you have to remember that not everyone in your class is going to be as good or as energetic. And you have to respect them. My advice is to play the ball, not the person. The reason peeople tell you that your too competitive is because it sounds like your being a little to physical for gym, tone it down a bit but don't stop going for balls and stuff. Just use your speed and footskills to get balls. And watch out for people's shins ;) haha. It's okay if you hurt people by accident, trust me i do it all the time 8)

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I like this guy named bob(random name) and he goes to my school. He rides the same bus I do and we always like look at each other like glazing in each others eyes. My friend Aliza told him to sit next to me on the bus. So he said yes.. in an instance[[like quickly]].

Also i like this other guy named billy(another random name) but he doesnt live in my town he lives where i used to. I dont know him too well though. But we are meeting up tomorrow[[the 6th of oct.]]

So if anyone has awesome advice can you help me.. please

I think that you should hang out with both guys and get to know them better before you make a decision. You don't really seem like you know them too well. Sit with bob on the bus for a couple of days, and meet up with billy some more. I'm sure the answer will be obvious soon.

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So i am 17 male(not that it matters)
At the start of grade 11 i got sick for a long time 2 years to be exact. I could not go to school or anything and it really screwed my life. It is a genetic back disorder called spondylothesis and the on set of IBS( irritable bowel syndrome) separately they would have been annoying but manageable but together they slowed my healing. during this time i got really bored. But now to the problem after 2 years i wore a brace, did physiotherapy and changed my life style and i am better( or at least the best i will get). I am now back at school kind of. But i have lost my motivation during the 2 years of not doing anything at school all my friends have graduated and i lost contact with people outside of school (not that there were many). So basically i am having trouble getting up to go in the morning and have no idea where my life is going. Sitting in pain for 2 years stuff stops mattering Money,House,Great Job that stuff is pointless. I know i am a little depressed so don't say go to a therapist because i am of clear mind and body(well i guess crazy people say that too). I don't expect a answer that will magically change everything but another point of view couldn't hurt.

Thanks for reading DJCODE6

The first thing you need to do is set yourself some goals. Examples, i want to graduate, i want to graduate with honors, i want to get into a good college, stuff like that. Make a lot of goals, don't just focus on one. Make them really good goals, and don't reject a goal because you think it will never happen, you can do anything you set your mind to. Do corny stuff like post these goals on your wall, somewhere that you can see them when you wake up and be reminded why you have to wake up. Do something good for the world, start a fund for people like you who have gone through tough illnesses and want to get their life back. Do anything. Work towards that goal and pretty soon you will understand why you are on this earth and what you are going to do during your time. Plan fun things for yourself that you can look forward to all day, or all week. do stupid stuff like that to make you look forward to getting to the next day. Don't expect every day to be perfect, if you have a bad day, remember you can bounce back from it. Be really positive even if it seems fake at first, after a while you will start to be positive naturally.

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So I haven't been with my boyfriend for that long, and right now our relationship seems great everyone thinks we're really cute and perfect.
but lately, i feel really scared that he might meet someone prettier and break up with me for someone else.
how can i get my self esteem back up?

That always happens to me. You can only reassure yourself enough that he is with you for a reason, if he did like someone else, or find someone prettier then you, then he would dump you so there is no question they he likes you. You know that you are a great person, and that you have a lot of things to offer that other girls don't. I don't think you should be afraid of being dumped, because if he does dump you then hes the one loosing out and if you break up then it happened for a reason, and you should accept it then move on. My self esteem always goes down when i have a boyfriend, its only when your single that you see that you are wanted by many different guys. But all this stuff i have been talking about, doesn't matter one bit. Because you don't need approval from a guy that your great. Think of all the other things that you do well. Thats not to say that you don't need your boyfriend, i'm just saying that you shouldn't be afraid of break ups because they don't mean that much, people can go through weeks of depression becuase of break ups and you don't need to be that person. Just remember, things happen for a reason, and just because a guy might break up with you, that doesn't mean that you aren't worth it, you are, your worth everything life gives you, and some of the things it doesn't. Don't forget that, and you will be just fine.

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I'm about 16 years old, and i usually just wear a sports shirt and shorts to school. What are some ways to make these kind of outfits look nice, or what are some kind of outfits that loook good? What kind of hair style should i wear too? thanks.

If you mean nice as like more girly, then you can wear like a sports shirt but wear like cute jeans w/ it. If you wear sports shorts, then wear like a cute tank top w/ it. Also, don't be afraid to not wear anything sporty one day, and then wear sporty the next day. Gradually work in nice clothes so you don't scare people and they won't think your trying to be fake or someone else. This happened to me and i gradually worked in nice clothes and now my wardrobe is completely normal to people. If you wear sporty clothes balance it out by wearing your hair cute down or half up half down. Don't always put your hair up [ i don't know if you do, i'm just guessing ] -- good luck, and have fun w/ it :)

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if i know someones email address but i dont know if they have an aim screen name how do i find out if they do??

thanks

email them & ask them. If the email adress has _____@aim.com , then whatever the blank is their email.

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Since my little brothers have been in school my mom keeps quick snak foods (junk food) around. I feel like I am always hungry and I wanna lose weight but how can I do this with my little brothers being around with there junk food?

Put a little picture or number of the weight you wanna lose, put it in front of the drawer or door of wherever the snacks are. This happens to me, its usually when i'm bored that i'm hungry, try to keep yourself busy. Pick up some extra sports or something after school. Also ask you mom to buy you some healthy snacks like fruuit and quaker oat things. That way you can snack and be full, but not gain the extra pounds :) good luck!

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Today was my second day at my new high school. Everyone else has already been there two weeks. My homeroom teacher had a volunteer show me where my locker is. He was so cute and nice and geeky; like 5”, freckles, mousy brown hair (lets call him “Tom”).

Later during lunch, my buddy asked me if I was going to homecoming; I said I don’t know.... She exclaimed, “I’ll fix that!” And despite my protests she went off in search of a date for me. After lunch, this guy walked up to me and asked if I would go to homecoming with his friend. He pointed out the guy, and then I realized it was “Tom” and he was staring at his feet.

I said I’d get back to him tomorrow about that, I have no clue what I should say! HELP!

Well, if he was cute and nice and funny then why not? he sounds like a good date. Going to homecoming doesn't mean your automatically married to him. It would be a great way to get to know the kids in your grade better if you went to homecoming! Good luck!

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heyy, me and my bestfriends are planning on being barbies for halloween like on never been kissed. the only problem is we dont know what to wear for costumes and like what barbies there are. we're going to be blonde original barbie. then the barbie with brown hair and a black barbie. i know theres like malibu barbie and whatnot but like i cant find any costumes. *note we are 17 and dont want to look like 5 year olds. its going to be cute and one of out friends is ken we already have his outfit. so like can anyone help, send links, whatever you can.

I pulled some pictures up of Outfits that are do-able, Someone who wants to be Malibu Barbie can wear a bathing suit, and like one of those skirt things that wrap around you that are sorta like Hawaiian? Theres a link down there with a picture of one of them. Someone else could be like an evening gown Barbie. & someone else could be Hollywood Barbie, and wear something summery and fashiony, something a star in Hollywood would wear.











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http://www.mundopeke.com/web/barbie/fotos/Barbie.jpg

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