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soccer competitiveness becoming a problem
kay so in gym we're playing soccer now outside.. well we got to pick out of 3 things and i picked soccer. im 13/f in 8th grade, too. and like i guess i can be pretty competitive.. like i like to play sports and talk to my friends at the same time, but i participate alot. well I've already accidentally kicked 2 kids in the shin in the timespan of like.. a month and one didnt play till the next day and the other got better and played the same period. and the teachers say its good to participate but maybe not be as competitive.. it makes me sad because im honest to god not doing it on purpose.. I guess I may not have too many soccer skills, like I'm bad at faking sometimes, and I always fall for it when other people fake.. but we dont have to be pros since its just gym and having fun outside.. but my main problem is this girl.. i used to be her friend and not anymore now, and like she always complains that im too competitive whenever i steal the ball from her.. and im like "hello, this happens in soccer!" she even said that soccer wasn't a physical game.. when it IS! like in a real game (i've done 3 seasons of rec) like I've like shoved this kid to get the ball.. well like i'd run into him with my shoulder.. and then i didnt really hard and got it away.. in gym to the girl i barely used any of my strength, and just did it to like knock her off so i could steal the ball and the girl complains to me yet again.. its so whiny and annoying.. my teacher even said to tell her to "Man up" haha.. but what should I say to her? i mean also once i accidentally kicked her in the shin too (no shin pads btw) and that happened a long time ago but she still brings it up that her foot kinda hurts, but she doesnt do anything about it but complain to me when i dont really want to hear it.. cause it was an accident and if it hurts that bad she should just go to the nurse. its hard.. i love soccer and other sports and it hard for me to just.. like not really care for what is going on and not do anything. i mean its good to be compettive but not TOO much right? the only people that really complained was that girl so what do I do in my situation? :(
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Some of the time it seems like you are being a little too competitive, and sometimes you are just fine. For the really whiny girl, you just keep doing what your doing because she is just a weakling. You seem like when you are in gym the reason that your so competitive and eager to prove yourself on the field because you don't get the chance to play soccer very often. I play soccer like 24/7 and in gym when i play it i don't get too competitive because i don't have the need for it. Sign up for some teams, you seem like you want to play soccer and you want to get better so why not go for it? Gym, yes, you should participate but you have to remember that not everyone in your class is going to be as good or as energetic. And you have to respect them. My advice is to play the ball, not the person. The reason peeople tell you that your too competitive is because it sounds like your being a little to physical for gym, tone it down a bit but don't stop going for balls and stuff. Just use your speed and footskills to get balls. And watch out for people's shins ;) haha. It's okay if you hurt people by accident, trust me i do it all the time 8)
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LOL, haha wow what a story!
dont feel bad! we all get competitive at timeS! i mean cmon that girls does have to man up but you to you have to stop hittin them if they complain just ignore them and say " if your going to compplain about every little thing might as well leave" say it staright up and dont be afraid just ignore what people tel you that will be beter for you
i know this isnt much! but i hope i helped +}
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