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Q: I been crushing on my best friend for 8 years now. and i finally told her about my feelings. she said she doesnt feel the same way, but she ask me why i like her. just stop me from my tracks. i stood there realzing that i dont know why i like her like that. all i know she is my very first long trem crush and first girl crush. i couldnt belive that i like her and now i dont know why. she is so annoying and so passvie and it drives me up the wall. she doesnt care too much of her self and she doesnt think for her self. when i first met her she looked very sad and unhappy. then i help her from her famliy and health issuess. so why do i like her???? i told her (lara) that the reason why i like her. this is what i said "i dont know, you just attract me in some way and its hard to put into words". she said "oh". and the odd thing is i told her three times that i like her. every night and day i think about her but i shouldnt. i need to get over her and i cant. because she is my best friend and i hang out with her every other week with our friends too. but how can i get over her? yes they say look for some one eles, or be very busy. but let me tell you this:
1.i am very busy
2.i cant look for someone else when i might move out of town next year.

that is my plan to move on is to move away but it is a maybe and my friends dont like it even lara.But they cant stop me. for now i just cant get her off my mind.
but i dont know why im in love with her?
is that love????

Bi/F/20

Well,look you cant really ask us if it is love,or if its not you will know when you are inlove
second just let her go you cant really do anything about it she doesnt like you back
its okay youll find somone knew im sure you will, for now id say just try your hardest to get over her,im not telling you its gonna take a second for you to get over somone especcialy for how long you knew her,im not gona lie but its going to be pretty hard,but you have to give it time beleive me when you move away,your going to forget about her, and youll have lots of more friends and lots of more people who you like and who will like you =]
Hope i helped

-iceMsftaplmppp!

Q: ok people on myspace, are like, putting people in there interests and they'll be like,

"bestfriends, movies, mall, skating, etc."

is that how you spell ETC? or is it ECT?
i spell it 'ect' but i think thats wrong.
helppppp.

Its ETC..

icem

Q: 13/F

I like three guys: Luke, Alex and Corwin. Well, Luke is a class clown whos smart, but so funny. He's kinda like a brother to me, but I have this funny feeling and voice saying, "He's cute and funny! Perfect!"
THEN, there's Alex. He's just like me. Annoying, hyper, pervert minded. He's really cute... AND IRISH! I love Irish guys. And today, I lost my picture of a half naked anime picture and i told him. He laughed and said, hey, don't feel bad. I lost my naked anime girl piccys. I laughed at that. Then, one day he said, "Ya know where my dick is to go? Up there!" He laughed and so did I.
Corwin is smart, cute, funny and cool. He gets teased a lot, but I kinda tell people off about it. he's even into Karate type stuff.
Well, my problem is... WHICH ONE CAN I ASK OUT AND HOW?!?!?! I'm not good with guys. My last boyfriends either, beat me, lied, or smoked. Or all of them... ANYWAY, I can't think of one to ask out and how. Can somebody help me? Here's info about me:

Mexican, black hair, brown eyes. Likes to be pervert minded, writing, hyperness and kinda stupid in math and science.

Alex: red hair, blue eyes, hyper, pervert minded, funny, and cool.

Luke: Funny, smart, cool. Sandy blonde hair and blue green eyes.

Corwin: Blonde, I don't remember his eye color (haha) smart, funny, cute.

I NEED HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!! PLEASE!!!!!!!!!
p.s I've played footsy with Alex before if that says something, hee hee!

Well, have you ever just for one second thought,, which one you liked the most out of them,dont rush into anything you should find out which one you think you accually mostly have feelings for, it doesnt matter how both of you look if you both match,the person youll pick is the one who will match with you,personality and look wise,so sit down with yourself and ask yourself "which one do i have the most feelings for?" and think that out haha, i hope i helped =]

-icemiliciouse

Q: I seem to hate it so much whenever people use msn slang, double letters like ''radd &&fabb'' and also &&.

I know I'm 14...but everyone else uses msn slang ALL the time.

Is there something wrong with me because I hate it so much? I find it easier to type normally.
I understand things like w.e lol stfu etc.
bt wen thy typ lik ths it pisses the sht out of m.

Also I find people who use excessive emoticons for like words and so on.

I'm wondering whether I have a problem..?

sorry it was long.

no. nothings wronge with you, some people are like that and some arent but theres nothing you can do about it, youll get used to it.. dont worry

icem

Q: School is so hard and like there is this one teacher who is so anoying and she is just on my back man so she wont leeave me alone and she told my mom that I was failing math and than I went to go ask my math teacher if I was and she was like no and she showed me the grade and its a C+ so she girl lied to me and she thinks shes all hott and stuff so ya I hate this girl should I tell my mom bout this or aonther person or what.

Tell your mom you saw the grade.
Or go to the principals office
hope i helped.
Icem

Q: When i first found out that i am different than my sister that i am bi sexual. i told my sisters guy friend Jerry because he is older and he listens. i told him that i have a crush on my best friend Lara. that i always like for 7 years thats how long i know her. my sister tiffany found out that i was talking to Jerry about my isuess. she got mad that i didnt talk to her about my prombles. so i told her and she gladly listen and give me advice.
but last week i wrote a 2 paragraph message to Tiff on myspace. she said i wrote a very long message that made her tried to read it. the message was telling her that i talk to my best friend who i have a crush on that i was asking her if she felt the same way about me. the answer was no but she seem like she was lie to me. so i told my sister about it. tiff seem like she is treid of the same thing of how i feel about my friend and she thinks there is no point still going on about this.

but all i wanted was tiff to read my message and reapson to it. but she didnt she just told me she scan read it. i hated that tiff wanted me to tell her about my issuess to her and then when i do she just ignors it and just thinks of her self. i know i write alot but i have to explane the details. do you think it was right for her to do that? or i shouldnt care to much about it?

You have all the right to get angry,, she wanted to know and she doesnt have time? .. talk to her about it staight forward.. tell her that you wont tell her abuot it if she doesnt listen anymore, and seriously express how you feel with her

hope i helped =]
icemdurlmopsyd

Q: 15/f. I've been talking to a guy online for the past 2 months. He's 18. I knew him in real life, but he moved to another state. Well, first..when we started talking, he made it clear to me that he wasn't even supposed to flirt online with me because he could "get in trouble with the law, they'll land my ass in jail." (he's in the army, and thinks he's being watched) well, sometimes, he would make sexual remarks towards me...something along the lines of "i want to get you laid." and he'll start to panic after saying that...like "Omg...forget I said that, they're gonna kill me...ahhh I harassed a minor."
However, at other times...he just straight out flirts like it's no big deal. Usually, he just compliments me and tells me cute things. It kind of disturbs me..
Um...what's his problem? Is this legal?

Well i think that you should talk to him about it and tell him that if he wants to compliment you, the he should do it,but think about doing it before he does,tell him how you feel, its not hard, Hope i helped..

-Icemdurlm

Q: 13/F

I feel depressed for some reason... All I did today was my normal hyper stuff. I just suddenly feel depressed. Is that normal? What do you think caused it? I mean, all I did was sit around all of a sudden, I'm depressed... Please help...

Look we all get down sometimes, and its normal sit down with yourself and try to find out what your missing,You will DEFINETLY find out what it is =]

Q: I only started my period last month but it was normal and lasted 5 day..but this month i thought i had it but i've only had blood come out once, does this mean it wasn't my period or was it just really short?
13/f

Its normal! if i werent you i wouldnt worry so much about it your period plays trick on you lol

Icem

Q: how can i view private myspace profiles of people who im not friends with? pleeasseee no answers with "you can't" thanks

Straight up
You cant

-iceM

Q: i like this guy that my friends in love with
and idk what to do
she asks me to help her.
idk what to do

If she liked him before then let it go no offence but she had him first But if you both liked him like the same time i think you should talk to her about it, and see how your gonna work this out!
=]
Icem

Q: how do you get rid of a double chin?? idk what to do! its not that bad but whenever i move my head i get one and its really ugly! i think it might be just baby fat or something. please give any advice possible thanks guys

You should first work out when you work out you body looses fat and it will most likely lose your double chin trust me

-icemiliciouse

Q: hey this queshtion is mosly for girls. i have a firend that i like and i think that she might like me too but im not really sure if i should ask her. i think that she is sorta giveing me an idea that she dose but im just affraid that if i do ask her and she dosent like me then we wont be as close. what do you guys think i should do and how should i aproch her wiht it. plz answer tis and thank you

Okay well you have to make sure she likes you you should Guess,, First when you wanna talk to her tell her that what your about to say shouldnt ruin your friendship and stuff just wait a little bit before you talk to her when your sure that she likes you then you can go up to her and talk to her about it

-Icemiliciouse

Q: Whats a good song thats out right now, like rap.
Like "Kiss Kiss" or "Cyclone."
Maybe one thats not very well known would be nice... but thats like NEW
thanks!

Snap your fingers
timbaland
flipside
Wall to wall
Shake
Toma
Make it rain
Pump it up

Hope this helps
bye

IceMiluplmb

Q: hiii:d omg i just love your advicenators column you give really good advice!!

aww hun! thank you so much!!!
-icemiliciouse

Q: Is there anyway to get my period faster?
Only a couple days earlier... could it be affected by like what types of food I eat, or anything?
My period should come friday or saturday, and I want it like today or tuesday (tomorow)
Thanks!

No, Theres nothing you can do to make it come earlier,Your period will come when its ready to come

Q: hey. i really like this guy. so i texted him and said "i have something to tell you. i like you."
and he said "i thought you liked this other kid" and i said "no. thats before i started hanging out with you and that guys a real jerk."
and he goes "yeah he is"
and i go "is that okay that i like you?"
and he said "ya"
and i said "is there any chance anything could happen?"
and he said "maybe. ill talk to you tomorrow."
and i said "alright. night"
and he said "cya"

what does this mean?
does he like me?
does he not?
does he need time to think?
and the other thing is, he never texts people he just answers texts... this happened at like 11 oclock on saterday... what time do you think it would be ok to text him on sunday if he hasnt texted me? what should i say?
OHHH PLEASEE HELLPPPPPPPP!

okay look maybe he just needs time to think about it i honestly think it might "happen" its so cute how he didnt freak out like how other people would you should accauly be hapy!

-Icemiliciousenessness!

Q: my friend used to go out with this really cute guy. she likes to flirt, && i guess she flirted a little too much, so they broke up. they don't talk anymore && got in an arguement. i think it's been over a month, && he's trying to talk to me. at first he requested me as a friend on myspace,&& he messaged me. he told me that he liked me, && asked me for my number. we started talking && realized that we had a lot in common && he asked me out. i don't think it would be right for me to go wit my friend's ex, even though she did him wrong...he likes me && i like him too. should i go out with him ??

Well it depends really,
If your friend is over him and doesnt really like him,Or if she has a boyfriend and doesnt care about him anymore,if shes over him i think it would be good if you were to talk to her about it , but before you talk to her about it tell her not to get angry or pissed you get me?
if shes okay with it go for it thats if you like him more than a friend..
Good luck with that hope i helped

Icemiliciouse

Q: why do I have to wear glasses?

More information?
depends really if your eye sight is bad it will help you see more clear and better

icem

Q: i talked to my friend for 2 days and then when i got online he blocked me from everything and i dont know why i dont kno what i did and i cant talk to him online at all and i want to find out what i did or what is going on. i need to talk to him