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ridiculous mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
im 13 years old and a female and my mom treats me like im 30
she wants me to wash the dishes every night and clean the kitchen , and the bathroom , and my room, even my 8 year old brother's room
am like cinderella?
the worst part is that when i do these things she wont even say thank you or tell me that i did a good job, she just acts like's it's nothing.
but wen i do something wrong she yells so much till i just feel like crying.
at the same time of cleaning those and doing all the chores, she also expects me to get straight a's in skool
like she'll freak out if a get an 82 on test and tell me that ill never get anywhere in life if i dont do good in skool.
how do i get her to let me be a kid and just have fun and hang out with my friends and relax
thnxx
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no she should of stoped at cleaning your room and doing the dishes and maybe once and a while i really dont like to jusde but it kinda my advice job but it seems that she kinda just dont want to do it herself and i yea you probaly want to just scream your head off sometimes and theres not to much you can do but you could tell her off that most of the times works with most of the teens that come to me does and it works but it does sometime backfire and this what you do just say no and say mom have you ever been a child before and tell her how you feel like cinderalla and if she doesnt listen you do the cold shoulder to her and only clean your room you know tell her how she is supose to be your mom and your only 13 and need to have fun before you have to get a job and be a mom and wife. Just try talking to her then go to the tell off but not to harsh and if you need anymore advice just tell me.
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Honestly, I'm around your age and i do the same exact amount of chores you do. And i know how to help your situation so that it can lighten your load a little. Just do the dishes and clean the kitchen every night, that should take 15 minutes tops. Then convince your mom that you only need to clean the bathroom every weekend, but make sure you do a thourough job. Then keep your own room clean so you don't have to tidy it up every day. And argue with your mom that your brother is old enough to pick up his own room. But if she needs some vacumming done in there, don't freak out. There are some things your brother can and can't do. This type of schedule is 15 minutes of chores every day and 10-15 minutes on the weekends. Doesn't that seem a lot less now? Trust me, your mother isn't being ridiculous, or trying to punish you. It will get your trained for when you live on your own. Being a kid isn't always just fun. trust me, i know.
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Heey. ommygod, I know EXACTLY how you feel, it's REDICULOUS.
What I did was, I explained to my mom how it pisses me off how she treats me. I don't know if this is the case for you, but my mom treats me like i'm 4 when i want to go out, but suddenly i'm like 45 when it comes to me doing things for her. Tell her in a nice way that you're just a kid, and you don't want all that kind of pressure. Explain to her that you want to be treated your age, and that you deffinately don't mind helping her out, but you don't think it's fair that these things are automatically expected of you.
Most importantly, be nice to her or she'll just ignore you and continue to treat you the way she does if you don't show her respect.
Hope I helped, you said you're 13, right? Well, i'm 14 so there must not be too much of a difference in what our parents think we're capable of.
Good Luck, hope I helped.
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Hey, my name is Em231 what you should do is talk to your mom and let her now how you feel or talk to some other adult ! I think your mom is to hard on you I'am so sorry how she is treating you!
I hope i helped
Em231
If you want one on one advice email me at ethom@Wildblue.net
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I've been in your position and I know how you feel about it and when you get a little bit older, you will understand why she is treating you like that. Your mom isn't trying to make your life miserable, she is just trying to teach you responsibility. As girls, we're expected to clean around the house and help out. I had to clean up after myself and family for a while and now, it's something that I'm used to. You have to understand that your mom can't do everything. She has other responsibilities and needs your help on things. It won't hurt you to wash the dishes or clean the bathroom. Those are things that you will have to know when you live on your own. She's only doing this for the best, not because she likes seeing you mad. Parent's expect a lot from their kids when it comes to education. They want their kids to do better in school than they have and it's for your future. She knows that you're capable of getting straight A's but school does get tough. Earn your moms respect. Clean up without her tellings you to. That way she will be easier on you and she will see a much more mature side of you. Your brother is old enough to clean his own room, but it's okay for you to straighten it up a bit once in a while. You will have plenty of time to hang out and have fun. Things will get tougher and she is only trying to prepare you for it.
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Okay, I can see her making you clean the bathroom and your room and the kitchen. They're called CHORES. I do, however, think that an 8 year old is capable of cleaning his room (besides maybe vaccumming) so ask NICELY if you can be relieved of that duty. Explain that everyone else cleans their own room, and maybe he should start doing it, too. Do chores without complaint- your mom's doing a lot for you in return: a place to live, food every day, buying you clothes.
Parents expect a lot out of their kids. They may freak out when you bring home an 82. Mine do quite frequently. Why? They know that I'm capable of straight A's if I try a little. So all they're doing is pushing me to do my best & achieve all I can.
Sometimes it all gets overwhelming. Find a good friend to vent to, write in a journal, scream into a pillow, play music really loud, do whatever it takes to chill out. And you should be fine :D.
-LM
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