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boyfriend && this will be long :/
hi. i have like an iffy situation on my hands. i love my boyfriend alot. i get REALLY jealous though. and he became really close with one of my good friends, erica. i really dont like when there together, he gives her piggy back rides, and she hugs him, and she always texts him. and i dont think he is cheating but i dont know. but i told my best friend breanna that i loved her, like we always say to each other. and my boyfriend is like "ohh! so you can tell breanna that you love her. if you can do that i can tell erica that i love her." and now im pretty pissed. and hes going be gone ALL summer, he goes to see his daddy in PR for a month, and goes to NJ for a month and a half. and hes staying with this girl sam, who is upsessed with him. and he also might go visit his ex girl friend... who i hate. then the last thing is... me and my friends play "summer games" its a stupid game about who can break the most laws, kiss the most, get the most action la la la... and my boyfriend HATES it. im just confussed about the situation. do you think a break up over summer is needed? tell me your EVERY feeling about this please.
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Look, you both need to get real with yourselves. You're both playing games with each other. He's playing with you by seeing his ex's which, by the way, is pretty disrespectful. However, it is equally disrespectful for you to play a game trying to kiss the most boys. You two need to sit down and have an earnest and honest talk with each other. Lay it out on the table. Lay out exactly how you feel for each other, and then decided what type of relationship you want to have. Decide how serious you want to be with each other. Then you need to lay some boundaries together. Talk about general things that make you each uncomfortable and then decide where the line should be drawn for both of you. Many people have the misconception that if you make "rules" in a relationship, it's not a good one. This is not always true. You need to know where you are comfortable and he needs to know where he is comfortable and then you both need to respect the other's boundaries.
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hummm...I think you should try to understand that many things happen in the summer so it may be necessary to break up so that your relationship doesn't suffer with cheating...now about erica...tell her you don't like what she's doing, tell him you don't like what he's doing. and that you want it to stop it makes you uncomfortable or something like that. if they stop it's nothing there if they don't that's a different situation. and about him saying he could tell erica he loved her...ummm that's not his close best friend so it would be majorly un called for. I hope what i said wasn't too harsh and if it was i apoligize because i know how that feels....I hope i helped and GREAT LUCK =)
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It sounds like you two aren't exactly drifting, but testing the waters, pushing each other's limits. Depending on how long you two have gone out, trust will always be an issue. It doesn't come as easy as 1, 2, 3. You have to work for it. He needs to understand that you love him but he's giving you reasons to worry. It's a tad hypocritical to say he flirts too much and is spending all this time with these girls, and then you say you're playing some stupid game where you kiss other guys and see who can get the most "action." Sounds to me like your not being too fair either. Jealousy is a useless emotion. All it does is create trouble, confusion, and paranoia. If you really believe he loves you, then you have nothing to worry about, and I know it's easier said than done. It's not an easy feeling to shake off, but the more confidence you show in the relationship instead of questioning him, will let him know that you're secure and it will be a turn on. However, if you question his feelings for you, regardless if there's other girls involved, you could say, "Maybe we should try taking a break over summer, since you're going to be gone, and then when we come back for the school year, we'll see how it was." You may find that you're miserable without each other or you may find that the whole summer committment thing just isn't for you. I just went through this exact thing, and I'm still coping with the whole thing. I wish you the best of luck and I hope this helps.
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Summer break up is indeed needed.Just the "oh you can say you love her blah blah blah" bit proves that he's either really immature or he has something for your friend.
He has the balls to stay with a girl that more than likely will try to get it on with him (come one,she likes him and they'll be staying together.Just put two and two together).Adding to this,he's going to see his ex,plus going to other states...any way you look at it,SOMETHING'S going to go down.
Then you've got your "summer games",which obviously requires that you do things that you shouldn't be doing when you have a boyfriend.You might feel guilty or whatever,so you'll end up missing out on the fun that you should be having.
Yeah,sound like a little break is in order.Who knows,you might get used to it and forget about him altogether.
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Break up. asap. He has issues if you can't say you love your girl friends but he can tell another girl he loves her when he knows it bothers you. Thats stupid.
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