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I had a friend who i've been friends with for a few years. Suddenly out of nowhere, he told me he liked me & things went downhill from there. We remained friends & had a good time talking/joking around. A few months later, he changed. Randomly he began getting mean & just an unlikeable person. He was saying every argument we gotten into was my fault, how I wasn't trying hard enough to be his friend, wouldn't give him the time of day, didn't seem like I wanted to be his friend anymore etc. I do not even know to this day where he came up with all of that but he did. Then he would say lets not be friends anymore & I tried talking to him a few times & he would appologize, say how much he cares, & just be friendly again. Then randomly, he would go back into lets not be friends. One time he did that & he was completely serious about it & blocked me. We do not live near each other or whatever so I just let him go. He unblocked me & I asked him why we couldn't fix things & he said he was not a forgiving person or whatever and that he wanted nothing to do with me. This was all completely random & out of nowhere. I left him on my buddylist, but I knew we would not talk anymore. Recently, he's signed on & i am not blocked anymore & neither are my friends [he blocked them as well]. I'm not sure why he did this & were randomly unblocked. Does that mean anything? I obviously should not be friends with someone who treats other people badly, but why would someone go from totally caring about a friend, to not caring at all in a matter of days? Any opinions/ideas? Thanks!
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wow that sounds like a messed up situation and i feel bad for you....but if you say he said he liked you then he was probably angry ( i could be wrong though). maybe he didn't feel as if with the feelings he had for you he could just be ya friend. or maybe you just hurt his feelings. But these are just my opinions. and the fact that you are not blocked seems like he's cooled off, and could be willing to talk. or just that you understood that it was rude and mean to do to a long time friend. but once again just my opinion. I hope i helped clear your head alittle. hope everything turns out all right.
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because thats how some pple are hes being immature and he feels better when he feels like hes not the only person thats hurting it seems like he doesnt want to be freinds anymore so just let it go i know eaiser said than done but hes obviously acting werid hes being a hypocrite you know or a sico frendic it happens its a condition so i would just end it once and for all goodluck i hope i helped because you cant help pple who dont want to helped he made choice now make yours
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I've a feeling, from his sudden change, the only thin this had to do with you was the fact you had not felt the same way as him when he had said he liked you and becuase you didn't feel the same he felt it was your fault or he was just hurt and couldn't be friends with you because of his conflicting feelings towards you.
If a guy likes you (anyone that is) it does become very hard for that guy to be nothing but friends with that person. It's like trying to ignore all your feelings for that person and it's not really all that easy for some people to do. I've been in the same situation but I got over it to the point I could never really see myself with this specific girl in any other way other than friends becuase we had been friends for so long. The strange thing was she was the one who just made no effort afterwards at all so I ended up deleting her number. Obviously this friend of yours had tried to push his feelings he had for you aside so as to remain friends and nothing more and by the looks of it, it's not working. His solution to this was that he just decided to push you away permanently becuase he can't deal with all the mixed emotions - at least that's what I think it might be. I could be wrong though and it might be something completely opposite of what I said in which case I've no idea at all on how to explain his reactions and behaviour.
He may just have unblocked you after all this time to see if you or any of your friends talk to him. He was the one who was having the hard time dealing with things and he instead blamed you and how you wasn't a good friend because it's always easier to blame someone else instead of coming to terms with our own faults and issues. I think he may have had some time to think about things and since realised he was the one who was in the wrong so decided to unblock you all in the hopes you will apologize or maybe even make the first move to try and talk to him (comes down to pride - he doesn't want to make the first move). Or it might even be just so he can see if you all have him added still or not. Could be any combination of those to be honest.
"And the Devil did grin, for his darling sin is pride that apes humility."
-Samuel Taylor Coleridge.
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man a woman can't be friends.. now that you have crossed over the friendship to the relationship, you have realized how truly he is... you should be glad that you know how he really is now that later...
so you need to cut all type of communication with him
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