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Removing Sexual Desires
14/f
I'm a Christian so I want to be a virgin till I'm married, but lately it's been real hard to stay that way. I'm letting my hormones make me too curious. (I've never actually even seen a penis before.) I get really horny a lot and sometimes I ever masturbate to get over it. I'm way too young to have sex but lately I've wanted to give a handjob or even get laid. How can I keep motivated to stay a virgin? I know I'm not ready for sex.
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this is normal so dont worry about it its just all of thoses hormons rageing insid eof you anytime you feel like you are about to give in to sex just stop and think about all the bad things that could happen like std's or a pregnency
:) hope it helps
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ok. Just think about the horros of sex. STD's, Pregnacy. maybe they'll stop you frombeing hrny. O and you do not wanna see a penis. There so ugly.
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well, i know exactly how you feel, and i know that the hormones get in the way! but try to keep telling yourself, like when you are "sexually excited" like, do i really wnat to do this?
Hope I helped
leave on in my inbox if you have any more questions!!
always there-
kels
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well just think about all of the consequenses of sex. std's, babies, rumors, reputations
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Masturbation is your best bet, love. There is NOTHING wrong with masturbation. I personally think it is wrong that religion tries to tell you what to do and not to do sexually. But of course, that is your opinion. Anyway. Just masturbate. That is what I have been doing for a long time. If you do start to get into fingerings and such, that could lead to more temtations to even get laid. Do you really want that? From what you said, no. So you might want to watch out sweetie. Wait until you're ready. Wait for someone special. Don't throw it all away because you got horny. Hope I could have been some sort of help. =)
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Don't worry, being curious and horny, and to masterbate is normal, yes, even for a Christian girl. As long as you don't get in situations where theres a possibility of having sex with someone. Avoid these situations, and you'll be safe.
-TheTeenGirl
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This is the internet, you shouldn't have a problem finding a penis on it.
I see no mention of a boyfriend; either you don't have one or he's not very special, and certainly not worth losing your virginity to. I'm not a christian or religious, so I don't think you need to wait for marriage or anything. Instead, wait for the right person to come along - if you're in doubt, you're not ready. Play by yourself all you like, (a little aside: don't imagine you're with someone you know - temptation's tough!)
If they're ready and you're not, it's really best to break off the relationship and find someone else. The right person is a lot more important than the right time - and not just the first, but every time you have sex.
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Well masterbating isnt a crime so jus continue to do that til your married.. much luv dez x0x0
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Girl, i'm 14 and a female believe me it's happen to me that i've masturbated a lot too. I don't like to masturbate because i feel it's nasty and lonely feeling. So me and my best friend, she's a girl too, we decided to relieve ourselves from some of our curiousity. We didn't have sex, but we experimented above the belt. Best believe me that i have been much happier since then. I would advise you honey please don't wait until you get married to get it on because what if you get that special guy and get married, but there's only one thing wrong. He's not good in bed. As a woman we can be picky so your dreams will be unfulfilled and you will have trouble in the marriage! Sorry to tell you this hun, but it's the truth. My aunt was just like you she wanted to wait 'til marriage then she found out on the wedding night he wasn't all that in bed. He sucked big time. They ended up in a divorce. I don't think you want to commit a sin by breaking a marriage just because the sex wasn't to your exspectations. So i would advise you to have sex with a person you care about at a reasonable age like 19 or 21 or when your ready before marriage. The guy soes not have to be in love with you pursay, just you guys really like each other. Trust me you'll thank me in the long run. By the way me being with my best friend made all those desires controllable. Please don't become a nun over this because that would mean you would be hiding yourself from the world and that would be pitiful!! There are other ways out(except death of course!) Hope i helped.
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I really admire you decision to wait to have sex. It takes alot to stick to your beliefs, values, and morals, and I really am proud of you for your courage to stay strong. I know it's not easy, and there is alot of temptation out there, pressure to be sexually active, and having natural human curiosity doesn't help either. Everyone feels this way, its absolutely normal, and this is what helps me to fight the temptation to give into the pressure. You have to remember this: Once you lose your virginity, you CANNOT get it back. You can choose to become like the girls who go around and have sex anytime, but they can never choose to be like you again. When faced with the tempatation, think of how one day you are going to meet an amazing man that you love and adore, and end up marrying. Don't you want to be able to give him all of yourself, and save yourself for him, and him only? Think of that guy who maybe you haven't even met yet, but is saving himself for you someday, and show him that same love and devotion by doing the same thing. Trust me, you will never regret it. It is normal to feel 'horny' when you are a teenager and hormones are running wild in your body, so it is important not to put yourself in compromising situations that might lead to you doing something you regret later. As for your curiosity to see the male anatomy, just check out some classic Greek sculptures and other classical artwork. ;) Michaelangelo was known for his perfect representation of human anatomy, so just check out one of his male sculptures. Please, don't do anything you feel uncomfortable doing. Hold strong to what you believe in, and you will never regret it. Good luck, leave me a message in my inbox if you ever need anything else, or some words of encouragement. I am in the same boat as you, I know exactly what you are going through. I hope this helped a bit, have a great day!
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hey! the one thing that should always keep you motivated for virginity is Jesus Christ. remember, He died on The Cross for you, and the least you coulud do is keep your virginity. I know it may be VERY VERY VERY hard at times, but you always have to back to your faith. remember, Jesus is always there with you no matter what happens. i hope i helped!
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Don't let temptation overcome you, you'll regret it down the road.
However, if you do find the right guy when you're older, but aren't ready for marriage, then it should be alright to engage in premarital sex. Just as long as you care about the person, a lot, you should be fine.
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If your not ready, trust me you will eventually hold back. It's just the age and teenage hormones, it stinks at times lol, because I have the same motive as you, to stay a virgin until I'm married. But anyway, it's normal to never have seen a penis, but you will eventually have to, either by seeing a statue, in health class, or a baby whose a boy getting their diaper changed. Keep this as your motivation- your white wedding dress- a symbol of purity, and that the guy you marry will respect you and love you enough to wait with you. ♥ HOPE I'VE HELPED!
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i would find some of your friends that agree with abstinance and talk to them about it (if you are comfotable with them of course!) but talk to them and maybe knowing some other people that believe the same thing will help... like a support group!
i'm the same way and it's hard, i know so just hang in there... good luck!!!
much luv
donny
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Hey okay just read the bible. If you send me something in my inbox I'll give you verses about that. Because right now I dont have them on me but they say stuff like Your body is a temple for God. And its not YOUR body, its Gods body..and you shouldent do that. Its normal yes but you can do all things through Christ who streangthens you and it also says in the bible..God will not tempt you beyond what you cant handle. So you can overcome this.
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hey umm maybe i think you could like give a handjob and you get fingered or something because thats not having sex. but its still "doing sexual stuff"...so maybe if you want to remain a virgin..do stuff but dont actually HAVE SEX...but do that if you have a serious bf...not with just any guy...
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It's natural for you to be curious, and it's okay to masturbate. Just keep fantasizing and masturbating, read some porn. Maybe even write some porn. These are healthy ways to get rid of sexual tension. Also, try a punching bag. Punching bags help you deal with any kind of stress, they are really wonderful things. I wish I had one...
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