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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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I just crashed my uncle's truck into this stupid stone wall, it got dented and the headlight is cracked. I don't know how to tell him, or my own parents. It's a really old truck, but that doesn't mean I can go breaking it. I'm really scared, I don't want to be punished for it. It was an accident after all. I know if it were my car, my parents would be more understanding but I know they're going to flip, atleast if my uncle doesn't murder me. How should I tell him what happened? (link)
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Tell your parents and uncle flat out what happened. Yeah they are probably going to get mad and you might get punished, that's only natural to assume. But tell them strait up what happened and let your uncle know how sorry you are for his truck. There really isn't much more you can do other than that. Just tell them the truth what happened and let them know how sorry you are, that's the best you can do.
I hope this helps and you get everything settled with your uncle and parents over this.
-Ryan
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okay yeah i have a bad temper or w/e... but i started liking My Chemical Romance before the became more popular then all these people i know start saying "oh my gosh! my chemical romane is the best band ever i love them!" and the know helena from trl... thats the only song they know. i know about 15 songs of theres. and i loved hot topic since years ago, and these people are like "oh my gosh how could you go in there? that store is for creeps and blah blah blah" and i'm like no... and they carry a lot of cool band shirts and stuff! i mean? and they say the love MCR and they wouldn't even take one step into a hot topic even for $10 to get one of their shirts?? is this a poser? i kinda dunno if this is the true definition or w/e... (link)
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Yeah I would agree with you on that. You can't base your love of a certain musical group on just one song, because if you do that is being a poser. You need to know all the bands music to really be able to decide if you love the band and their music, you can't base it all on one song that MTV or the radio plays all the time because then yes, you are being a poser on that music.
So yes, it is being a poser.
I hope this helped
-Ryan
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I know i already talked about this but i dont care. its REALLY BUGGiNG ME. my bestfriend krystal got a new bestfriend heather. and everything about her just kills me. the simplist things. i dont care if im accting immature. i dont want to make new friends. and i dont want to be friends with heather, the one who's stealing krystal away from me. all krystal talks about is heather this and heather that and how GOOD she is. it gets to me, so much. i cry myself to sleep so much. what do i do? i have already told krystal multiple times that i feel left out and ignored. (link)
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If Krystal is really your best friend she will listen to you. If not then you can try and work around her being friends with Heather, but by the sound of it Krystal is going to end up being some kind of best friend's with Heather. Which is kinda sad
Make a pitch to Krystal and tell her your exact feelings. If she is your real best friend, then she is gonna listen to you. But if she is going to choose and ignore it...then you can find a better friend than that and won't ditch you for someone new. I'm sorry this is all going downhill for you, but maybe it would be best if Krystal doesn't want to listen, to try and make some new friends, because you don't want a friend who is going to ditch you for someone else, that isn't a very good friend.
I hope this helps and you get things straitened out with Krystal.
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything, drop something in my inbox or IM me at (AIM) Alpha0mega345. Good luck!
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does anyone know any funny pointless songs?
Ex. (Stacy's Mom, Crazy Frog, Hampster Dance, Etc.)
Just any funny songs that you could laugh at, know any? (link)
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Weird al does GREAT parody songs that are extremely entertaining and funny to laugh at.
I would personally recommend these songs by him.
-The Night Santa Went Crazy
-Which Backstreet boy is gay?
-Amish Paradise
-Everything you know is wrong.
Also here are 2 other funny ones I find quite amusing.
-Tribute (by Tenacious D) *Lol it is completely pointless and just downright funny, little bit of slurred language though, so beware on that*
-Snoopy and the Red Baron (By The Royal Gaurdsmen) *ever read those old Peanuts comics where Snoopy is the WW1 flying ace out to shoot down the Baron himself? Well this is all those made into a song and it is quite funny*
I hope these songs give you some ideas and you find a ton of funny songs to listen too!
-Ryan
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Why do atheists believe there is no God? I hear a lot of arguments against organized religion but I don’t hear many actual ‘reasons’ that there is not or cannot possibly be a God? So what are thier reasons? (link)
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My opinion is that they see no reason to believe in God and they can't really find any proof of him anywhere in their lives or in this world, where though I can find several things in this world that I think can support the existence of God to show others. People's beliefs are different,I believe there is a God and he sent his Son to die on the cross for my sins (Christian). I believe He did create the universe and the earth, and he also created humans. I will leave my views to what I just said.
Also with this cry againts organized religion. Everything needs organization and religion is included in everything. But some people may be afraid that if there was too much organized religion then there would be too much power circulation inside those groups. Not even 600-800 years ago there was widespread and ultimate religious organization of everything was controlled by the church. If the Pope told the kings of Europe to stop fighting, they had to yield. If the pope wanted to get more money, he simple took the land and claimed it was God's right for him to have it. People may be afraid of a repeat of a fully controlled religious organization.
I am just expressing my views. I have absolutely nothing againts any kind of religious organization(s) and I enjoy the organization the my own church has. But I was just expressing my views on a "possible" reason people are againts it. They might fear any power it might bring.
I hope I answered the question to your liking and you find all the answers you need.
-Ryan
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Hi, I'm the one who wrote about my boyfriend who so rudely dumped me without as much as even TELLING me, and then saying that I didn't have feelings and desserved my heart broken as much as people wanted too. Now I am a generally nice person, but this got me so upset. :( Well now hes going out with this other girl, and they keep iming me to tell me what a "loser" I am and how I can't "get" any boys. I blocked them but I still have to see them at school. By the way, their screennames are pyroboy9977 and XoCheerQtXo3222, if anyone would like to talk some sense into them.
Sorry for wasting your time, but I'm really stuck here. And I feel like there is something seriously wrong with me. :( (link)
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Hey it's ok, don't worry about wasting our time, we're all here because we want to help and we choose to be here, we choose our time and our time at moment is helping you.
No there is still nothing wrong with you. Just because this jerk you used to call a boyfriend and his new ___ (substitute "girlfriend" for random insulting word to describe someone inconsiterate and obviously not understanding of other's feelings) are trying to put you down odesn't mean anything is wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you and you need to hold your head high and press on despite their obviously ill-fated attempts to keep you down. You can do that,just don't them them get to you.
I hope this helps some more and they stop trying to get to you, it isn't right and you sure as heck don't deserve it.
-Ryan
P.S. I won't IM them because I don't know them and I think I would cause more harm than good in the situation. But if you need anything at all or just want to talk to someone, im me at (AIM) Alpha0mega345. Have a better day!
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me and this guy were really good friends. i really liked him a lot and in a way him lead me on a little bit. so it really hurt me when he flirted with other girls. and i felt like he didnt care about me. well my best friend liked him too and he liked her, but he hardlyu ever talked to her because he was talking to me. at the end of the school he asked her out and itreally hurt me. so me and her friendship was over because she choose him over me. they broke up like a few days ago, and now i dont like him as more then a friend, and i told him that, and hes getting like upset and mad that i dont ike him anymore. he got mad becasue i called somone hott, and he was like im hotter then them come one, and he said he was goint o ask me out. but i wasnt going to be the rebound girl, but i dont no what to think or, what i should tell him. so he doesnt get so mad at me, because me and him are still good friends. thanks (link)
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That's good your not going to be the rebound girl and you have decided that for yourself. If he is going to get mad at you for simple having an interest in someone else (you called someone else hott) when your not even going out and if he liked you enough to flirt with other girls and have an interest in your best friend over you when you obviously showed interest in him. Then it sounds like he really doesn't care all that much for you in that way, it sounds like he just wants to use you as the rebound girl. I say don't go out with him and let him know your not going to go out with him, you don't got feelings for him like you used too and that you will not be used as his rebound girl. Let him know you still want to be friends, but your not going to go out with him. If he doesn't like it, then you should get a better friend than him because if he is going to get mad at you for refusing him and is going to let that affect your friendship, then get a better friend.
I hope this helps and you get everything worked out.
-Ryan
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does anyone know how to release a troubled soul? Recently i have been feeling like an outsider twith my friends. I feel like my friends have to be too serious around me and i feel like i cant relate to them and i feel like a total outsider. i feel like there is something worng with me.i can hardly ever laugh anymore. i think i'm going into a depression.maybe i'm gonna die soon so i can be released from my torubled soul. Plz help i dunno wut i'm gonna do but the thing is i'm very sane and wont kill myself. But i am tired of life. I am tired of everything and i dont know what is wrong with me. Plz help. (link)
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I've been here before. And what my honest advice is too pray. And if doesn't help, pray some more. Even if your not a Christian, pray anyway and try and find some relief in it.
Talk to your friends and tell them your situation, because if you do I bet you can work around the way you feel about them and their seriousness and if they are really your friends they will try and help you.
That's good to hear you won't kill yourself, that shows some serious mental ability to go through what you say your going through and have it in your head that you will not kill yourself and just end it, that shows mental endurance, which is very good.
If you don't think any of this will help, then see a doctor about it, maybe he can try and help you and try also seeing a counciler because they may be able to help you improve your outlook on life and help you find a better feeeling with yourself.
Also though..pray and try and find God, because if you go to him, he will help you, no doubt about it.
I hope this helps and you get to feeling a less troubled soul. If you need anything else, drop something in my inbox.
-Ryan
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my sister is 10 and she's had sex so many times that she lost count and each time was with a different guy. i'm jealous cuz i've only had a boyfriend when i was in 6th grade and we never even thought of doing anything. my sister is really my step sister and she lives with my step mother and my dad. my step mother doesn't care what she does and my dad is just clueless. my sis is so young she didn't even know what virgin meant. i think she's going to end up pregnant as soon as she gets her period and i want her to stop having sex. how?
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Wow, simple amazing, is it just me or does everyone seem to have sex much younger than they used too? Just a thought..sad really.
You DEFINATELY need to sit your step sister down and talk to her, she obviously doesn't know anything about it, other than how to do it. You need to fill her in on it and the consequences she is most certainly now going to face (I'm sure you know what I am talking about). You need to inform her of everything, since her mother is oblivious to the fact she is letting her daughter's life be ruined and not caring about it and he dad is useless to say anything. Inform her about everything and let her know the dangers of having sex like that, and let her know it is just not right for a 10 year old like herself to be doing it. Sit her down and talk to her about! Be her step sister and help her, do your best.
I hope this helps and you get through to her and your step sister stops...
-Ryan
P.S. It is NOTHING to be jealous of when your sister has had sex at her age like she does.
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Ok...So, I go to conciling and im on Medication. But, I still don't feel happy. I'm always down and I never want to do anything. I like being alone, always. And I try to change myself but it just keeps getting worse. Yes, I cut, But im really not a bad person. My family is dieing to get me to change and be like one of my friends. They told me that they wished I was like her....Any advice on how to change my ways and make my parents proud?? (link)
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First off, don't do what your parents want, they want you to be someone your not. They want you to change who you are to be like someone else, and that isn't right. Next you need to stop cutting yourself, because that is going to only lead to worse things. Yeah it is probably going to be hard but you can do it if you really apply yourself. As to make yourself happy, do the things you used to like to do, even if you don't like to do them anymore, and try and build happiness from doing the things you once were happy to do. Don't change yourself for anyone but you, be who you are and let everyone know that is who you are, you.
I hope this helps and you feel better.
I will pray for you.
-Ryan
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I know you don't want to listen to me whine but really, I have noone to talk to. My boyfriend just dumped me in the rudest way. He made up this horrible excuse that his parents were mad at him and he wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend. He never even told me he was breaking up. Right after that, he put his away message up that said "Oh the phone with the hottest girl ever-Shea!" (Shea is a slut and really easy by the way) Then I imed him to tell him how much he hurt me. And he said, "Yeah whatever, like you would know what pain was. Who cares about you."
I can't stop crying. Is there something wrong with me? He blocked me so anyone who wants his screenname, its: pyroboy9977.
I can't believe this. :( (link)
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Hey it's ok, your not whining at all and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. That guy is a grade-A JERK. You deserve better than that. Don't even talk to him, he already proved he doesn't want to talk to you and really doesn't give a damn about you or your feelings. I know your crushed, but try and move on from this inconsiderate idiot. Go to your friends and try and have them comfort you, because they will be there for you and help you out. Other than those things I don't think there is much you can do to help yourself againts this sudden and completely moronic (not to mention uncalled for) move by your jerk ex-boyfriend. You deserve better.
I hope this helped and you are able to get over this jerk you once called a boyfriend.
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything or need some kind of way to vent out everything, please don't hesitate to put something in my inbox or IM me at (AIM) Alpha0mega345.
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how much do pokemon cards ussually sell for and what cards are worth more than others. i have almost all of the older cards and i was wondering if anyone can give me some prices so i can sell them on ebay (link)
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Sadly your not gonna get much money for those cards. Now if you had sold them at the height of their popularity and you had them all, you could have EASILY made off with a couple thousand dollers. But now with their popularity near the bottom you can maybe rummage up around $300 and maybe a bit lower (unless if they have made some kind of comeback I am unaware of). Your best bet is eBay and I would say start a bid on ALL the cards at around $100 and see how well they do, put the auction up for a few days and see the results. I don't know how much you would get for them, but I don't think you will get much more than $300.
I hope this helps and you make some money off those old things.
-Ryan
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hey. just to let you guys know. this was posted on louisianaisforlovers account but i have asked her perrmission and she said i can use her account to ask my question. i am a 12 year old female and i live in a REALLY small town that probably has about 500 to 600 people living in it. & my parents are WAY to overprotective. i mean take actually today for example i was at the local hangout and about 15 to 20 people were going play basketball at a schools playground just down the road. with 2 of these people being at least 16. and we all have cell phones. & i called to see if i go & i named all the people going. well she said no. and i aasked why. and she told me thats it dangerous. WTF? i mean theres 20 people there. hooly s**t im not freaking 8 years old. and when i got home i was mad so i walked up the stairs pounding my feet on them & she called me down and said yea im sure they're were 20 people going. and i was like mom i named the people. what do you think im lying. and she said i only do it because i care. but i mean. i never get to do the stuff EVERYBODY else is doing. and i always have to make up some lame excuse why i cant go. ugh. i need help!. pleasee im deperate (link)
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Well, find out exactly why she is being so overprotective. She needs to atleast give you a valid reason for you not being able to go. I'm sorry but "because it is dangerous" isn't a very good excuse when your going somewhere with 20 people, 2 of them being old enough to have some responsiblity over the others, to a place right down the road from where you are. You need to tell her your getting older and your old enough now to be able to go more places, and especially getting to go places where there is an abundance of friends you obviously know very well. You also need to tell her this in a calm matter, and if she still disagree's, pursue the conversation, let her know how frustrated you are with all this overprotectiveness and keep telling her about it and to give you more freedom and responsibility. Be honest about it and keep at it.
I hope this helped and and your mom eases up a bit.
-Ryan
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ok i just got a letter inviting me to join the people to people ambassador program and our oriantation is at carrol senior high school in southlake! has anyone here been on a people to people trip and if so, how much was it because im sure its really expensive and do u have any good fundraising ideas!! thanx so much!! (link)
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I have gotten one of those letters before. But it was way out of my families price range (I believe it was going to cost around $3000+ for me to go) and at the time we doubted the legitimacy of the whole organization. I don't know the whole details but I know I didn't go to the meeting because I had something more important to do that night.
But I can help you with fundraiser ideas though.
-Try and fundraise in your community, pass out flyers explaining your situation and ask for any donation people may be willing to give.
-Try going through your church (if you have one) or any organization you belong to, asking for donations for this trip and explaining the details of it.
-Ask your family for donations and support for you. Ask for any donations they may be willing to give.
-Other ideas might be a bake sale, garage sale, craft sale, etc. Any kind of sale basiclaly.
I hope this helps and you have the best of luck with this! Good luck!
-Ryan
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ON the last day of school my best friend told me she would be going to private school next year. I really had a tough time making friends the whole year and she really was one of the only friends i had. She's away at sleepaway camp for 8 weeks and I can't see her!!! She didn't respond to any of my letters either. I'm scared to go through a year of school without her. I'll be so lonely!!! What can I do to make the best of the school year??? (link)
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Hey you can deal without your friend being there! You can make friends on your own. What you make of your school year is how good it will be, so go out and make some new friends! Keep the one of you have, because it sounds like you have an awesome friendship. But try and make new friends at school, be polite, talkative, nice, courtious, and just try and talk to people. Make a better year for yourself!
I hope this helps and you have a much better year and ge to talk to your friend again soon!
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything else..drop something in my inbox or IM at (AIM) Alpha0mega345.
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13/m. me and my girlfriend have been going out for two months now. but im a pagan which most people think is devil worship but thats really not the case. but the point is shes christian and i dont want her to think im a devil worshiper, cuz im not, and break up with me so should i tell her about my religion or keep it ro myself?? plz help me (link)
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You need to tell her your religion. Two months of a relationship you should really tell her what your religion is because at that point that will probably be a big thing to keep to yourself and not tell her. Tell her about it and tell her specifically it isn't devil worship (which it isn't) and if she really does like you, she will work with you about it and stay with you. That is the best advice I can give, tell her the truth about it and leave nothing out.
I hope this helps and she is very understanding!
-Ryan
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I'm 15/f. There's this guy that I like, but I'm afraid to try to talk to him, b/c a friend started saying things about us that aren't true. So I don't know what he thinks about all of it, so it might be a little weird for me to talk to him. But I really like him. What should I do? I'll rate 5's for good advice. (link)
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Talk to him and clear up any of those rumors people started about you. Rumors and people saying stuff that aren't true are NO fun to go through (trust me I know). Talk to him and clear any of it up and then just keep talking to him, tell the truth about it. But definately talk to him and after you clear everything up, get to know him better and try and be his friend, maybe try and find out his feelings and if he likes you, great! Now you can tell him you like him and take it from there.
Hope this helps and you talk to him and clear up those things that person said about you two.
-Ryan
P.S. Also talk to that friend who said that crap, because that isn't what a friend would do. Confront them and find out why they said those things. Then do what you think is necessary.
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ok...well im really upset right now...usually im the person giving advice but not this time..well me and my boyfriend lets call him...bob?...and this girl...up lets call her paris?...idk..well im reallyy upset right now..and im sorry if this is long..i was going thru my boyfriends myspace and i saw a comment that "paris" left saying awww i (link)
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It sounds like he has got some feelings going on behind your back. He may say all those things (and mean them) but he can still have some strong feelings for this girl. Or this may all just be some kind of thing going on between them, like he was talking to her and those comments were the result. But I would think the first one is more of a reason. I think he might be playing you. Also he goes to her whenever something is wrong, shouldn't it be you he goes too? It just sounds too out of place to me with all this. MY advice, look for him to do anything with her, look for anymore comments on their MySpace's, and watch for how he behaves around her or how he talks to her, just keep track of him and if you can, try and confront her if you really think something may be going on between them.
Hope this helps and you find out what's up with these two.
-RYan
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SORRY ITS SO LONG.. BUT I'LL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.
ok so my ex ((james)) broke up with me in April and we had been going out for 4 months.. i really liked him alot.. he was probably the one guy i liked the most.. well i really missed him for a while and i would talk to him online and we'd be friends.. but then he started to become popular and snobby to me... then we were fighting and he called me a slut.. so i blocked him and he's been blocked.. and now its summer and i never see him or talk to him.. but i still have feelings for him.. i mean i don't like him as much as i used to but thinking of him makes me sad and i miss him.. i can't tell if i really still like him.. but i wanna hate him so badly!.. so then i have my other ex boyfriend ((pete)) who i broke up with in novemeber.. and he's still in love with me.. he really likes me a lot.. and he's such a sweet guy with a great personality and he always makes me laugh.. so here's the deal.. whenever i see pete.. i like him.. but then a few days after i see him im like.. well i don't know if i like him.. but he's like the perfect guy for me.. but there's not a big spark.. so my questions are.. do you think i still like my ex james??.. do you think i should give pete another chance and go out with him??.. and what can i do to get over james quicker?? sry its longg (link)
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Give pete another chance because he likes you and you still have something for him. Of course you still like James because it has only been a few months since you broke up with him, but you need to just block James out of your memory, he sounds like he doesn't even care about you anymore and you don't want a friend who is just going to fight with you and then call you a slut, that's just rude and disrespectful. Yeah I know it's probably going to be hard to block James out of your mind but maybe if you gave Pete another chance, your feelings for him might grow and you will lose track of James and eventually just forget about him. Time heals everything so if you don't decide to give pete another chance then sadly that is really the only thing that will help mend someone after a breakup. But if you go back out with Pete and that working together with time maybe help you get over James faster.
Hope this helps and you feel better.
-Ryan
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I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until im 14 or 15. is this fair? why? (link)
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Yes it is completely fair. 11 is way too young for having a boyfriend/girlfriend, just way too young. Your friends parents are going to let her have a boyfriend around the age where is it somewhat appropriate to have one because by 14 or 15 your older and can make better decisions as to who you like, why you like them, etc. 11 is too young to decide those things and your friend should just wait for getting a boyfriend at age 14 and 15.
Hope this helps.
-Ryan
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