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girlfriend and religion
13/m. me and my girlfriend have been going out for two months now. but im a pagan which most people think is devil worship but thats really not the case. but the point is shes christian and i dont want her to think im a devil worshiper, cuz im not, and break up with me so should i tell her about my religion or keep it ro myself?? plz help me
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if its something important to you, i deffinantly think you should tell her...you should tlk to her, she wont freak if you explain it to her...and plus- you dont want the topic to come up- causing you to have to explian why you kept it a secret....and if she dumps you- shes MO. DEF. not the right girl 4 u, you want someone who accepts you n.m.w!!!
hope i helped
muchh lovve
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Since religion is a big part of some peoples lives I don't think you should keep it from her. I do think that you need to explain to her in great detail what your religion is beforehand so their is no misunderstandings. :)
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Well if it's not devil worship then why would she think it is? Don't jsut say "Oh by the way I'm a pagan." Explain to her what it is to you and what your beleifs are, if she really lieks you it won't affect her feelings...and being that hoenst with her? It'll most likely bring you even closer together.
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w00t for pagans! (yeah I'm pagan too..heh)
I've never had a problem with this 'cause my b/f is pagan too..so yeah.
Just explain to her the religion. Maybe tell her about the paganism first, then tell her you're Pagan, so she will most likely accept you better that way.
good luck!
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I think it's important that your honest with your girlfriend, especially about something that important to you in your life like your religion. If your nervous about how she'll react, try exposing it to her gradually. Instead of just announcing it out of the blue, begin by talking to her about something smaller, like a particuarly belief you have or ritual you do. You shouldn't feel ashamed of your beliefs, do don't try to disguise what you really are, but if it's something that's very new to her, expose her gradually to parts of your faith so that she gradually comes to terms with it rather than just hearing the word "Pagan" and having a gut reaction. Good luck.
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I feel that you should tell her about it. Tell her not to take it seriously because if she loves you that much, she wouldn't let that come in between your love for each other! Hope this helps. Goodluck!
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Tell her about your religion and explain to her what its about.. ♥ Dez
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well actually i know all about that ive read a few books on it and seriously considered it and i know where u are coming from. Sit her down n explain to her about the religion without sayin thats its yours n explain how its all good and not harmful n see how she reacts n then tell her if you dont think shed care.
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You need to tell her your religion. Two months of a relationship you should really tell her what your religion is because at that point that will probably be a big thing to keep to yourself and not tell her. Tell her about it and tell her specifically it isn't devil worship (which it isn't) and if she really does like you, she will work with you about it and stay with you. That is the best advice I can give, tell her the truth about it and leave nothing out.
I hope this helps and she is very understanding!
-Ryan
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Tell her, because if she finds out you didn't tell her, she'll feel like you dont trust her. She should understand, but if she doesn't and she judges you then she's not right for you. I know you dont want her to break up with you, but you've only been going out for two months, and you young. There are plenty more girls out there who wont care what your religion is.
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Tell her about it and how she can help with your religion. She'll wanna help. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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You should tell your girlfriend about your religion, definatly. Nothing kills a relationship faster than a dirty little secret. The information should be given to her so she can know the whole you, not just the things that are blatently obvious. If she's a devout Christian and doesn't want to date anyone outside of her own religion, you would be doing her a great disservice by keeping your religion a secret. If you really like her, you'll respect her opinions and let her go if she chooses to. You could try explaining your religion to her and answering questions if she has any.
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wow thats a hard situation.. as a christian im gonna tell you the truth.. the Bible says that you should not be unequally yoked..basically means you cant be with anyone thats not the same religion as you.. personally i did that a few times and it didnt work out! if she really loves you maybe you guys can come up with something that works? explain to her wat u believe and talk to each other about it..
hope i helped!!
gingeralex
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yes, you should tell her. but just explain it to her that you dont worship the devil. if she really likes you then your diffrences shouldnt madder, right? well, i hope it helped. it woul be better to tell her then to have it get back to her from someone else right? ok if you want you can ask me anything else.
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Well in Christianity says that true Christians should marry Christians and have a family worshiping God. If you just want a relationship (not commitment or anything) then it should be fine for you to go out with her. Tell her your religion, because a relationship is about honesty. But you might want to try Christianity if you really love her, because that would make her really happy. Don't expect to ever marry her though, because if she is a true Christian, she'll want to marry someone who loves God.
Hope I helped,
mystical_breeze
*Edit: Well, Christians want to make the world all believers of God (because we are witnessers) because Christians believe that if someone doesn't love Jesus, then they aren't going to heaven. That is why they want to marry someone who they'd be able to have children with, that they can expect to love the Lord and someday go to heaven.
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If she put up with you for two months now. I don't think she will care that much, and she probably won't think of you as a devil worshipper. Hopefully you believen god unlike me. Your only a devil worshipper if your goth. Well not true but yeah I think you get my point. I would tell her, don't lie and say your something else because no relationship should be based on a lie. Hope I helped! Good luck.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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you should never be ashamed of who you are. but *some* christians and maybe her parents are kinda closed minded and maybe dont want her dating you. if she really accepts you for who you are, she wont mind. if it comes up or she asks you about it, i would tell her and explain to her about your religion. also im not positive of your religion.it seems familiar to me but i really dont know anything about it. if you dont mind please write me something and send it to my inbox explaining your religion customs or practices or whatever. i think its cool that you are different than her but still try dating her. hope it all works out! please write back!<3
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if religion ever comes up as a conversation then sure, feel free to tell her about it so she doesnt start thinking the wrong thing. But other wise i would just keep it to your self. But if your really concernd about it then tell her.
h.i.h.
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ok two months is long enough for you to be able to open up to her and talk...so maybe start a conversation about religion and tell her what you are but also tell her the myths about devil worship isnt true..she shouldnt let religion get in the way of your relationship
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you shouldn't lie to her b/c thats never the answer!! you should get your gf alone and tell her your a pagan,but explain to her that you are not a devil worshiper!! if she really likes you then she'll listen and understand!!! hope i helped you out!!!!! you can e-mail me at bratzgyrl@bellsouth.net!!! or im me at yourgyrlshay on aim!!! -bratzgyrl
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