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How soon after you have sex can you test for pregnancy. I think i may be pregant. I should get my period in another week or two? Should i test in a couple of days or should i wait untill i actually miss a period? (link)
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I'm sure you will hear that you can test soon after
but why waste the money. Many teens can't afford to check several times. Just wait until you miss your period. Then if it comes you didn't waste your money. And you won't be inclined to take another test to be sure.
EDIT+++
They claim to have tests now that will tell you a couple of days after. But if it turns out negative
and your period doesn't start you will probably not really believe it and be tempted to buy yet another test. That is the point I did a bad job of making. :) If you want to try one though they do make them that will tell you withing a week or so
of having unprotected sex. :)
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I was on my boyfriends myspace account and reading the messages that nobody else can read and there was one to a gay guy saying...
"im not gay but i think your wicked cute we should hang out sometime"
i dont know what to think.
i mean i think hes gay but i dont want to.
if he was than why would he be dating me?
Anyone help pleaseee! (link)
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He said in his message to the guy "I'm not gay".
So I would imagine he is not. If you really want to know for sure WHY he would write something like that
you will have to confess to snooping and ask him.
Otherwise don't worry about it and let it go.
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So this guy that I don't know friended me on facebook, but I have quite a few mutual friends with him. I'm assuming cuz he thought I was hot perhaps? haha anyways, I want to ask him who he is, but through a message, so how could I do that in a non dorky way, instead of just saying "Who are you?"
What are some other ways? (link)
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Well you should ask him who he is.
Put it like this maybe...
Hi Name, I see you have added me as a friend. I'm
sorry but I don't recognize your name. I see we have a lot of the same friends...Have we met?
Gives him the opportunity to start a conversation.
But doesn't sound rude or dorky. :)
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Good afternoon,
Okay..in the begining it was all about him what he wanted too do what he wanted he cheated on me a coupple of times with various girls one being a stripper...ah mean after a year i turned too the only other person i cud trust my ex ..and then well we kissed and thats all and my boyfriend found out...oo well and well too realease his anger he choked me off in town ..ah mean it was a bit embarssing at the time and i forgave him ..but then as time passed he began too tell me more hurtfull things when he got mad and so i turned too another friend but this time the realtionship was different we werent intimate but if i alloweed it it would goo there
bascially my bf doesnt trust me for varyin reasons some i may have given himm,, he says i lie to my parents but the only reaason i lie to them is beacause that the only way i go and lime with him ..soo now i rly dont kno what too doo need ur advice!!!shud i move on and forget abouthim and what should i do about the other guy.. lost in love
CaribbeanQueen
Age:20
Female
St.Vincent and the Grenadines (link)
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No matter what reason he doesn't trust you, its no excuse to be abusive. He doesn't have to hit to be abusive, sometimes words are just as bad.
I have to advise you to move on. If there is no trust the relationship is dead in the water. As for the other guy, if you like him, go out with him.
Stop dating your boyfriend and you're free as a bird. Date anyone you want! :)
Good luck.
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I am 17 years old i have a 2 month old daughter but i am married and have been for a year to the babys father. Well i have just come across a very serious problem. My husband i have been sleeping together but we used protection but i think i might be pregnant again is that possible. I am very scared. I know if i am everyone is going to say i am a slut and im so worried but wwe both have jobs and stuff but i am scared of what a=our families wil say what do i do. (link)
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Yes it is possible you could be pregnant. If you have used protection its a good chance you aren't too. Take a home test if you don't get your period in the next couple of weeks. And stop worrying because that can make your period not come too.
If you are you certainly are not a slut. You are a married woman and have an equally responsible hubby.
Anyone who calls you that are immature to say the least.
As for your parents, well you're married and doing what married people do. It happens. You would not be the first couple to get pregnant a couple of months after having a baby. It happens a LOT.
So don't be embarrassed. It isn't the best of situations at your age but it isn't unheard of and it isn't a crime.
Good luck. :)
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i really really like my best friend. We have been really good friends for about a year. We are both 15. One problem is he says he says he is gay. we hang out alot and we r very close and everywhere we go everyone always thinks we r goin out. and everytime we hang out i like him even more ... WHAT DO I DO .... i no this is probly a really hard question to answer becuz theres nothing i can do about his sexuality but i really need help (link)
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Somehow you will just have to learn to accept that he is gay. By that I mean telling yourself that your relationship will never go any farther than just being very good friends.
He must think a lot of you if he has told you he is gay. Just tell those who think you are going out that you are very good friends and that is all.
Hopefully, you can somehow learn to deal with his sexuality and still hang out together. I'll guess that as soon as you fall for some other guy, his being only a friend will be a lot easier.
Sorry that isn't a lot of help. I realize you can't control what you feel and there really isn't any way telling you to stop feeling anything for him will work. I hope it works out for you. I think it will with time. :)
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I need a quote from 7th Heaven, I'm pretty sure it's from one of the older episodes, and Ruthie said it. I dont know what it is and I cant find it. I know it's a serious quote .. about love or something like that. Pleaseeee help (link)
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Here is one site with Seventh Heaven quotes on it.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0115083/quotes
This was one of 100 sites. So if this one doesn't have what you are looking for, go to your search engine (I used Google) and put...seventh heaven quotes... in there. :)
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So i gave my boyfriend a hangjob and i got some cum on my finger but i wipped it off on his shirt... gross i know but we were hugging and then about 40 mins later i masterbated. can i be pregnant. i dont ahve to feeling that i am but im suppose to get my period soon so hopefully i will know. please answer back! (link)
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No. I don't think there is much possibility that you could be pregnant.
Start washing you hands more often though. Especially immediately after any kind of sex act. :)
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I'm not sure but I think I have TSS but I'm not sure what TSS really means. I am SUPER shy and if I talk to anyone or read outloud in class my face instinctly(as if it's a reaction or something)goes red and if I talk more than 2 minutes than my voice begins cracking and shaky. Sometimes when all eyes are on me I shake and feel like I'm about to faint and sometimes has to hold on something b4 I fall down from fear. This is not like as if I'm tlaking to a crush or something it happens when I'm talking to ANYONE and since TSS stands for toxis shock syndrum I think this might be is but is it? (link)
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Lets call yours social anxiety disorder. :)
TSS like has been said previously is caused by bacteria. It causes cramps and severe headaches
and can actually be caused by more than just tampons
tampon use though that's the one you hear about the most.
You are just painfully shy around people and don't like being the center of attention.
If you'd like some tips for overcoming some of your
shyness, here is a good website.
http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/shyness/tips.html
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Just so nobody gets the wrong idea...
"tss is something you get if you leave a tampon in too long, and once you take it out you start feeling better in the next hour or so."
That isn't true. TSS is a VERY serious medical condition. It does not just go away when you remove the tampon. It will probably require hospitilazation. And if untreated can lead to death. Please do not give advice if you are unsure of the facts.
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im 18 and i need some advice iv been with my boyfriend 2 years now in april 2006 he had a bad bike crash he cant walk we've tryed to have sex he got a hard on but couldnt get it up me what can i do to help and when we do foreplay he always makes me cum but i cant make him cum has anyone got any tips i could use to make him cum HELP PLZ (link)
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Ask him. His doctor should have told him of alternatives and if he didn't then he should
be asking. If it is something he finds embarrassing to discuss in person he should try calling his doctors office and have him return his call. Maybe
talking on the phone would be easier for him.
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OK... theres this girl at work that im REALLY into, and i know shes feelin me too. Shes currently with her girlfriend of about almost 2 years now, but their relationship has been on the rocks for awhile now. Before, i was giving her advice, and just trying to be there for her.. but things happened from there, and now i cant get her off my mind. The thing is.. we hooked up a few times, and yes... she is still with her girlfriend. She tells me that she doesnt know if she WANTS to be with her girlfriend, but she really does still love her. She tells me that she still wants me in her life, and i do want to be there... I know she has feelings for me... but shes just in a hard spot.
Now that her girlfriend is doing better, and her relationship "seems" to be doing ok... should i just find a way to drop my feelings for her and let her work on her relationship? Or should I keep things the way they are, and continue to be there for her?
I do want to be with her... but i want her to be happy..with me.. or with her girlfriend. I want to be here for her, to let it be known that im going to be here for her, but the way things are.. im the other woman.. and i dont like this feeling. should i back off? (link)
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I think your friend is confused at the moment. Most likely she will stay with her girlfriend of 2 years.
She still admits she has feelings for her and 2 years is a long time. They share a lot of history.
All relationships have their ups and downs. You just happened upon this one in a down moment. I think the best thing you can do right now is to back off and let them see if they can salvage their relationship.
It will be hard for you to do but it will only be worse if you continue for a while and THEN she decides to stay. You will also have the peace of mind that comes with knowing its YOU she really wants should she decide that way.
Being the "other woman" in a relationship is the worse thing to be. You always have to wait for leftovers and being 2nd place in a love relationship is awful. Back off for now and see if you can't find someone who puts you first. :)
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I have bean accepted to join the Royal Marines in July 2007 but i am not sure if i sould go, i fell in love with an amazing girl and i dont know if i can leave her. she always cries whenever i bring up the subject and she is begging me not to go. I have wanted to join for my entire life but now i am not so sure because i am scared she will not be there for me when i come back.
Please help give me your opinions. (link)
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If this is something you have wanted to do your entire life then you should do it.
If she truly loves you she will still be there when you return and she will be there for you while you are away. Sounds like she needs to grow up a little.
She probably will.
If you don't go just because she cries when you talk about it then you may someday when things aren't so rosy blame her because you didn't get to go. I know
right now you don't see that day ever coming but it could. :0
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hi well, my sister and mum are always argueing. she's 18 and acts like she's 4! she complains about how she has no friends, and that the frriends she does have, have thier own friends. she complains about everything when they get into a proper agruement. she makes my mum cry, and my mum starts shouting, and usually theres hitting. even if something little happens she's all "arh see no-one wants to talk to me!!!!" and after she argues about how theres nothing to eat, me any my mum goes mcdonalds drive through to get something for her at 11pm. when we come back, she doesnt eat it, and when she does, she starts shouting at me, about how its cold and theres so plate for her to eat on! i cant do anything about them argueing, and trust me its a lot worse than i have explained, i just cant explain by typing! im sick of it, my grandma's sick of it, my mums sick of it, and she SAYS she doesn't like arguing, but its almost like she does. please help, what can i do!? its really getting to everyone, including me. thanks in advance. (link)
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I hate to sound mean but your sister is a spoiled brat.
At 18 she needs a job and a place of her own. Mom needs to start letting her do things for herself and stop babying her. She will act this way as long as she is allowed to. Why should she get up and so things for herself when people wait on her hand and foot?
If she were my daughter I'd be telling her you have
a month to get a job. And another month or two to out of my house. Man, I sound mean!
Really though, stop doing things for her. Tell her
to treat you and mom with respect or leave. :)
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I think there should be a requirement on this website saying "PEOPLE SHOULD BE FAMILIAR WITH A TOPIC BEFORE SUBMITTING THEIR PERSONAL OPINIONS". Frankly, I feel this is a helpful and useful site. But far to often, people are excercising their "freedom of speech" rights, and disguising their opinions as bonifide advice.
What set me off was a question asked by a friend of a gay male teen. A large majority of the answers were hateful diatribes delivered by self-righteous homophobes. From the advice you would of thought that her friend had leaprosy. Life is too short to HATE.
I had a good friend in high school that was the son of a youth pastor. The son, my friend, was gay. He chose to kill himself rather than live a life hating himself because he was gay. I did not know he was gay until after he died. I have so many woulda-coulda-shoulda's. Much of my advice on this website is given to those that are gay or know someone who is gay. To me, this is common sense. How can someone who is not gay, does not associate with anyone who is gay, has never associated with anyone who is gay, HOW CAN THEY give advice on a subject dealing with being GAY. I cannot give advice to someone about what it is like to give birth to a baby!! I cannot even attempt anything as such for I do not understand what mothers go through. Its silly. Now imagine if I was trained by others to believe that giving birth to a baby is disgusting and I hated mothers. This analogy is outlandish, but this is how I feel about the "advice" many people give.
Now throughout this "STATEMENT" I do have a question. What do you think? Help me to understand. Am I judging the judgemental, making me just as bad? Or do I have a point? This is the one time that I'd like to hear the opinions. (link)
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I was looking through my favorite columnists to see which ones were still active when I happened upon this question. Don't know how I missed it origianally!
I agree that the columnists should only answer topics they are familiar with. They get a column and some suddenly feel they know everything! Especially when it comes to sex questions. I honestly think you should be old enough to legally be able to have sex before you can answer questions about it with any amount of authority.
I'm sorry to hear your friend killed himself. That is sad. I have a friend who is gay also. Because she is an xray tech and is in contact with people all the time...as in having to touch them, she feels she has to hide the fact she is gay. It has to be stressful. She says that even today there are those who would complain and get her fired. Very few people know she is gay.
A lot of young teens on here I have noticed consider themselves bi and I think they mean well
but I'm sure they have no clue what they are talking about. I haven't seen a lot of negative
answers towards gay people, but as you said, I feel they often miss the point. Depending on where you live sometimes I think being gay has stressors
we know nothing about.
It would be great if we had some gay people who were columnists. We may have and I am just not aware of them. Now and then their input would be very helpful to some people. My friend has moved away or I would recruit her!
If you ever see anyone giving advice you think is in any way homophobic, please file an abuse report. We will take care of it immediately. :)
I am a L2 moderator by the way which is how I know who you are. You are on my favorites list and hope you continue to give advice. :)
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14/f
Okay, well the 18th is my boyfriend's 16th birthday. We've been together for 10 months. Actually, his birthday is the 18th and our 10th month is on the 19th, which makes this extra special. He always does everything for me, and makes me the happiest girl alive. He gives me the world, and i love him more than anyhthing in the universe. In return, i would love to do something memorable, special and cute for him. The thing is, I'm very limited. Therefore, I am not allowed to go to his house at all, or go anywhere with him or his family, etc. With this, buying him something expensive or anything at all isn't a good idea which is why this is a hard perdiciment. Basically, he's allowed to come to my house, but I'm not allowed over his or allowed by myself with him really out of my house (because of my parents.) In my house, we get alone time. I am in desperate need of ideas/help, please, anything. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Bake him a very special cake. You can also punch in
crafts into Google and get a whole bunch of sites that give you instructions for making homemade gifts.
I think he will really like something you took the time to make yourself. A lot of things can be made with stuff you have lying around the house. :)
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i would like to know wether vaginal hair should be removed before having sex or intercourse (link)
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It is a personal choice. It really isn't necessary. What started as trimming for bikini wearing has just gotten out of hand really.
Pubic hair not long ago was a sign of maturity. I don't know why everyone feels it should now be shaved. Shaving it or however you remove it is not comfortable at all.
Anyway, enough of my personal opinion.:)
It really is up to you. Whatever you feel comfortable doing. I don't think guys care
one way or the other. It doesn't make sex better
or anything like that. So its simply whatever you want to do. :)
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Ok, so this is my best friend's account. She gave me the password and permission and all to get on here...yeah, she wants to delete the account because of something someone said to her and she doesn't know how to or want to get on here and figure it out. I looked around, and I don't know how to either. Can someone please tell me how to delete/cancel this account? (link)
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The only way to delete an account is to contact
dangernerd at dangernerd@gmail.com
If she is having a problem with another user here
she should file an abuse report. She can also email
me if she would like to stay and I would happy to help her with what is bothering her. My address is
on my column. Its up to her. Just have her put advicenators in the subject line. :)+
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Hey. ^.^ I'm a f/15 and I have a boyfriend. My mom caught me and him getting really close, and now i'm not allowed to see him. I was fine with that, because I planned to move out whenever I get a decent job, and some money (and of course come of age), but my mom continues to tell me that i'm not leaving the house until I finish college. (Which means I won't leave the house until i'm 24 or older...)And anytime I happen to tell her i'm moving out until I am legaly an adult she screams at me, and cries to my dad insisting that I hate her and want her dead. Which gets me on my dads bad side. But, she think she has cancer so i've tried to forgive her, but i've just found out that she went to the doctor, but didn't get a biopsy to prove she does. So she "feels" like she has cancer, when really I just think it's menopause. It's really quite horrible and because of her mood swings i'm starting to become an angry person. And lately she's been pushing another guy onto me in hopes that me and my boyfriend will break up, and sadly, I think it's working. The guy she's been pushing off onto me has gone off to the marines, and anytime I tell him I just want to be friends, she yells at me more and tells me i'm ungrateful, disrespectful, arrogant, and irresponsible. I've tried my best for 15 years to keep her happy. I've never done drugs, never had sex, I NEVER cuss, and i've never drank. But she continues to tell me i'm a bad child. But, we're also in the middle of a move so I figure somewhere between moving, her "cancer" and menopause, she's just having a bad decade. But, it's gotten to the point to where she started crying because I asked her for my own bed! I have a twin sister who i've been sharing my LIFE with for 15 years, and she flips because I want my own bed. And after the incident where she thought I got too close to my BF, she has threatened to hit me, called me a whore, and she cusses out my existence all the time. She gives me dirty looks whenever I walk into the same room as her, but again thinks I want her dead because I don't want to be in the same room as her. And, again, all of this wouldn't be so much of a problem but just a few hours ago I was writing in my diary about how much I really don't think she has cancer, and how I really think it's just her way of having a pitty party, and I left it on the ground. Now, she is constantly listening in on my phone calls, which I have nothing to really hide so it's just a stupid invasion of privacy I think, but she read my diary. It was locked, and under books in the bathroom, and she pryed it open, and started crying to my dad saying I left it open for her to read intentionaly so that I could let her know just how much I hate her. But, fighting won't get me anywhere, i'm too young to go anywhere, and crying certainly doesn't help, so I have no where to turn! We've been to family counceling and she makes it a point to make sure I don't say anything. The minute I open my mouth to tell the councelor about her threatening me, she immediately interupts and tells the coucnelor that I have a horrible lying problem. I need someone for some advice please make it quick! I don't know what to do, because i'm starting to think that I really do deserve what she's doing...Am I really a bad kid? ...Should I hate her? What can I do to make things better? I've already tried talking to her, but she starts crying and continues to insist that I want her dead, and that I hate her because I don't feel bad that she has cancer...But no one knows if she does! She keeps saying she's going to die soon, but she refuses to get a biopsy because she's afraid she won't have cancer and she'll be missing half of her breast for no reason....
I guess my biggest problem is low self esteem right now. Or maybe not...I don't know!! Please tell me what I can do, because she's starting to drag me down into depression, but I don't want CPS to take her away!! (link)
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First you need to let your mom know that a biopsy
will not remove "half of her breast". A lot of breast biopsies are needle biopsies which don't take long at all. Any surgical biopsy will just remove a small portion of any lump to send to the lab. It will not remove any part of her breast. If she has cancer it may, but it would also keep her alive.
She may be going through menopause. Add stress from a breast lump and she may be at her wits end. That's still not an excuse for treating you badly.
Until she calms down try not to antagonize her. Don't mention you'll move out when you turn 18. Don't tell her you're just friends with her idea of a perfect match for you. If she can't handle what you're thinking, just don't tell her.
If you want your own bed, get with your sister and tell dad. If you both want it she can't single you out to yell at.
You are not a bad kid. Don't hate her. She has some problems which have nothing to do with you.
She is a grown woman and needs to deal with them herself and not drag you into them. Be polite as you can but take any problems to your dad, who will hopefully be a help to you. It might be a good idea to have a private talk with him and ask his advice on how to handle your mom. :)
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I'm a 20 years old girl.I met a guy 8 months ago at the beginning it was so much fun to have someone like him. He treated me so good and I loved him a lot.After 3 months in our relationship everything change on him no late night talkin no nothing. I talked with him about it He said that's because of school and his job but his gonna make it up to me,at this time I understood him.Yesterday some girl call my phone curse me out and told me that they've been goin out since 5 months ago that's when I understood the reason y he changed.I talk to him about it he said he was sorry he never liked dat girl he just wanted to you know wat i'm tryin to say, the one he loves it's me he wants me to be his wife have his baby.I still love him it's like i wanna give him a chance or i don't wanna my heart don't want him to go all i can do for now is crying I can't concentrate because i love him too much.It's like he got his sign on my heart he asks me to forgive him telling me that was a mistake I don't know wat to say and wat to do he broke my heart but i still love him (link)
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I know you love him but he has been having a relationship with someone else for 5 months of your 8 months together. He isn't very trustworthy.
Had she not called you he would still be seeing you
both. Might still be. He could be telling her the same story he's telling you.
I know you're hurt and I know it is hard, but you need to find someone who loves you and will respect you. This guy doesn't. If it were a one night fling
you could probably forgive him. It wasn't though. It was a long term relationship with another woman.
Tell him to get lost. :)
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hi..just a quick question..last week my bf and i were having sex..and he was being sort of..rough...and we were done it hurt down there..a lot..idk if it was from soreness..or somethign else..but a week later we tried having sex again and it hurt a lot wen we were done..what could be the cuase of it? it feels fine during it though.. (link)
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It could be you need to use a lubricant. You can get a lubricating gel pretty cheap at walmart. Get a generic KY jelly. If you don't make enough natural lubricant and he is pretty rough it will make you sore.
Another possibility could be if he uses a condom and
you are allergic to them. Lets hope that isn't the problem though. That would cause a rash as well as soreness.
Try the gel. I think it will help a lot. :)
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It could be that once you get into it your natural
lubricants kick in. In the beginning though even if only for a short time...it can make you sore.
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