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annoying sister
hi well, my sister and mum are always argueing. she's 18 and acts like she's 4! she complains about how she has no friends, and that the frriends she does have, have thier own friends. she complains about everything when they get into a proper agruement. she makes my mum cry, and my mum starts shouting, and usually theres hitting. even if something little happens she's all "arh see no-one wants to talk to me!!!!" and after she argues about how theres nothing to eat, me any my mum goes mcdonalds drive through to get something for her at 11pm. when we come back, she doesnt eat it, and when she does, she starts shouting at me, about how its cold and theres so plate for her to eat on! i cant do anything about them argueing, and trust me its a lot worse than i have explained, i just cant explain by typing! im sick of it, my grandma's sick of it, my mums sick of it, and she SAYS she doesn't like arguing, but its almost like she does. please help, what can i do!? its really getting to everyone, including me. thanks in advance.
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Your sister has become a person who constantly needs attention and when she doesnt get it she causes a dramatic scene. I know exactly what your talking about. I used to be that girl. I know it is strange to say but I acted like that. The solution is to put her in her place. She feels like she can do whatever she wants because she knows your family won't do anything about it. Having her find a new place to live will put her in her place. It will earn respect for your whole family. Your mother will have to specify certain rules that if she does this sort of thing shes out. Or think of ways to show her how she acts. Like the saying "give her a taste of her own medicine".
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Sounds brutal! Your sis is clearly manipulative and your mum for some reason is allowing and even encouraging her bad behavior by giving in to her demands. There is little one can do to change others, but sometimes our behavior can influence others. Try to stay out of it as much as possible. It is there drama and taking sides or giving either one of them attention, might be feeding there emotional needs. No one does anything that is not providing them with some sort of payoff...we do what we think is giving us some satisfaction. Parents to continue to treat their adult children like spoiled little kids may be doing so out of guilt or are too weak to stand up to them and actually parent them. It is more difficult to be a parent then a friend, and a trip to McDonald's is not as difficult as actually not giving in to her, so mum gives in. Maybe there is something you don't know about the situation...some reason your mum feels guilty or your sister feels entitled to make others miserable. Your sister is most likely miserable herself, and your mom does not know how to make her feel better. Do not make the same mistake that your mom is making, by giving her attention for her tantrums...any attention. Also, do not let her manipulated you emotionally. Your sister has learned that she can be successful in her demands if she makes enough noise. Be deaf to her. Maybe your mom will learn something from your example. Good luck!
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I hate to sound mean but your sister is a spoiled brat.
At 18 she needs a job and a place of her own. Mom needs to start letting her do things for herself and stop babying her. She will act this way as long as she is allowed to. Why should she get up and so things for herself when people wait on her hand and foot?
If she were my daughter I'd be telling her you have
a month to get a job. And another month or two to out of my house. Man, I sound mean!
Really though, stop doing things for her. Tell her
to treat you and mom with respect or leave. :)
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