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hes gay
15/f
i really really like my best friend. We have been really good friends for about a year. We are both 15. One problem is he says he says he is gay. we hang out alot and we r very close and everywhere we go everyone always thinks we r goin out. and everytime we hang out i like him even more ... WHAT DO I DO .... i no this is probly a really hard question to answer becuz theres nothing i can do about his sexuality but i really need help
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Ask him out... Tell him to give you a chance even though he's "gay". He might THINK he's gay, but usually you make those kind of decicions when your older.... When your 15, Your not supposed to make those kind of decicions. If you love him, you'll know what to say to him. When you ask him out and if he were to say no, thats okay. You guys can stay really good friend. Sometimes you feel like you like a guy, just because you know eachother too well, and it makes you feel happy. If this guy makes you feel safe, and you feel like you can tell him anything, he's a very good friend to be with.
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Well, that's good you realize there's really nothing you can do to change his sexuality or anything. Most girls think they can do something about that.
The most you can really do is just continuing to be his best friend, I mean, best to have him in your life as a best friend, then nothing at all, right?
I know it's going to be hard, but whenever you two hang out just keep reminding yourself he's not available and just keep thinking of eachother as friends and try your best to push it from your mind. And even though you like him, try focusing on some other guys, it might help you focus less on liking him a bit, and you can direct your attention elsewhere and maybe even find a boyfriend!
I hope I helped, and I hope everything goes good with you.
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Somehow you will just have to learn to accept that he is gay. By that I mean telling yourself that your relationship will never go any farther than just being very good friends.
He must think a lot of you if he has told you he is gay. Just tell those who think you are going out that you are very good friends and that is all.
Hopefully, you can somehow learn to deal with his sexuality and still hang out together. I'll guess that as soon as you fall for some other guy, his being only a friend will be a lot easier.
Sorry that isn't a lot of help. I realize you can't control what you feel and there really isn't any way telling you to stop feeling anything for him will work. I hope it works out for you. I think it will with time. :)
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