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Hi im 14 train alot and am athletic im looking for a good first sex with any girl xxxx i will sext and show my face and give number just realy do want to have good sex xxx answer me back if u want the same thing aswell ;)
I'm old enough to be your grandfather so hopefully you will listen to what I have to say. I understand your horny; it is your age and puberty that are causing you to feel this way. What you have written though is wrong, may have caused you to have broken some laws in the UK already and will not get you what you want.
First: You cannot advertise for sex. Doing so can be seen as prostituting yourself which is definitely illegal at your age if prostitution is legal anywhere in the UK. Child prostitution is definitely illegal.
Second: If you have posted naked pictures of yourself you are guilty of distributing child pornography which is illegal in the UK and all western countries. I would suggest if you can you remove any posts you may have made showing you naked.
Third: You are going about this the wrong way. The girls you would like to have sex with will never answer this type of ad. The girl/women or undesirable person who would answer your ad will not provide you with sex. Instead you are placing yourself in grave danger of being taken advantage of by pedophiles or other unsavory characters.
The type of people that would answer your ad prey upon the young,not fully matured young people. While I do not live in the UK I do like to read the newspapers online. I know from reading the newspapers online that child sexual assaults is as big a problem in the UK as they are here in the states sometime with results that are not just sexual.
When you are 14 years old you are suppose to be horny. It is the new hormones that puberty sends through your body. Finding a willing female of your age is not always possible, in fact it is next to impossible. The best you might expect is a hand job and she may let you feel her breast or if you're lucky finger her.
For actual relief of the pent up hormones, hence the word horny, there is masturbation. Masturbation is safe and according to a survey I read 85% of us masturbate, this includes adults and teenagers.
For a male your age it would not be unusual to masturbate three or more times a day. As long as masturbating does not become an all engaging activity to the exclusion of everything else you would be considered normal. Masturbation also lets you explore your sexuality and sexual needs. Best of all masturbation insures you do not become a teenage father.
My advice is to relax. When the time is right and you find the right girl; sex will happen and it will be a beautiful experience for you both. Right now what you may be doing or thinking of doing is dangerous for you and illegal. Stick with masturbation for now. You will get the relief you need without worry and without endangering yourself.
Most importantly remember you are 14 and you are very much a normal 14 year old male. Give yourself and your body time to mature and what you are looking for will happen naturally. Sex can never be forced it has to come naturally.
Also if windows is installed to a macbook, is the macbook going to be susceptible to viruses?
The answer to both of your questions is yes. If you have windows for MacBook then you will be able to play certain games. I'm not sure if all windows games will play.
Since the windows platform is susceptible to viruses you will need a windows based firewall to protect your MacBook as well as other security software for your windows programs.
I am a retired member of law enforcement in my late 50s. My wife of 35 yrs left me suddenly last month. No discussion, she just was gone. A few days layer she called saying she needed a break. She suffers from major depressive disorder. My kids, late and early teens live with me. My son has shut her out of his life as this is the 2nd such departure she has made in the last yr. My son is angry and hurt by her actions. My young daughter is confused. I know i must care 4 my kids and do so but i am so down. These were to be my retirement yrs,instead it is hell. I am not interested in starting over. But i refuse to get old and eventually be alone. There are no 3rd parties involved here unless u count depression. On the job ive seen how these things can and do play out. Im not going to be sitting all alone staring at the walls or making umteen trips to a therapist. This will end badly 4 me no matter what.But at least i can end me. There is no other options. I feel very sorry 4 my kids. Mayb this way they can find a way to reconcile with their mother.
So you want to eat you gun is that what you're saying. Not a good idea, it's the cowards way out, with 35 years as a cop I don't see you as a coward. I've been a firefighter for just about as long as you've been a cop and I know what you've seen and what the outcomes can be. I emphasize the word CAN; it doesn't have to be.
The right thing to do is to make your wife feel the pain. She is the one who has run off leaving you behind, twice. If you eat you gun she gets to come back and live off your hard work. I say don't let her. She's done this twice; screw her. File for divorce, rewrite your will, cancel the credit cards, change the bank accounts and change the deed to the house. Then she is truly on her own.
You're a young man with plenty of years ahead of you with 2 kids there will be hopefully lots of grandkids to help raise. Have yourself a very short pity party. Then get you and your kids some therapy to help all of you get over this. This is your wife's problem not you and the kids problem and not something worth dying over.
Then get out there and find a good women to help you enjoy your retirement. You have spent 35 years fixing and dealing with societies problems. You have earned the right to enjoy the rest of your life. Dying will only cause your children more harm and rob you of what you have earned the right to. Don't give her the satisfaction of proving herself right. Live and prove her wrong.
Find a good women to enjoy your retirement with. Then make sure that your ex sees what she missed by running off. This will insure her pain for many years to come. Death is final and gotten over very soon. So live.
I also suggest you call this hotline for help, 1-800-273-8255. No matter what problems you are dealing with, they want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you'll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.
I am giting marrid nexted year & want to have sex now but dont know what to use to keep from having a kid. What is the best to keep from having a kid?
PS I am 17 about to be 18.
The morning after pill is not meant as primary birth control so I don't recommend the suggestion of the previous advisor.
You're 17 about to be 18 and soon to be married. Then I suggest you visit your gynecologist for birth control medication. You do not need parental permission at your age to ask the doctor for birth control medication.
By Federal Law you have medical confidentiality over your reproductive system. The law is called HIPPA. Among the rights this law grants is the right to ask for and be prescribed birth control medication without parental permission.
Your parents no longer have the right to view your medical records concerning anything to do with your reproductive health without your expressed written permission to the doctor. This includes being in the exam room with you while you're examined. Mom must wait in the waiting room and the doctor cannot tell her anything of the exam. all you need say to the doctor is; I invoke my rights under HIPPA.
The fact that you may be using their health insurance to see and pay for the doctors visit. Does not give them any right to violate your right to privacy that is granted under HIPPA. So go see your GYN and get birth control medication and use that and a condom together.
Until you are married a condom is a must regardless of whatever other birth control method you use. Condoms are not only *5% effective in preventing pregnancy they also protect against transmission of some STS' and the HIV/AIDS virus. Some states require a for these things before they will issue a marriage license. If yours is one of these states and you're going to have sex before marriage, even with your future husband. A condom is a must until you have blood work saying you are not carriers of any STDs or the HIV/AIDS virus
I'm 19 years old, and I work at a grocery store. I do have a savings and a checkings. What are some steps I could take in order to acquire a 401K? I don't know much about personal finances. Any input is appreciated. Thanks.
Where I live the grocery stores are unionized. If you are full time help then you would be part of the union. If you're part of the union it is possible you and your employer contribute to a retirement fund. If so you may not qualify for a 401K.
So the first thing you need to find out is the type of retirement fund you may be participating in. If you have a W-2 form for taxes paid in 2012 this information would be on the W-2 form.
Once you have this information you can go to your local bank and talk with the investment account manager to find out which of the retirement fund accounts you qualify for. There are several other type accounts you can qualify for if you do not qualify for a 401K.
You can also talk to any of the Brokerage Houses such as T. Rowe Price. Brokerage Houses have special funds available for retirement accounts some of which are insured as a banks fund may be and some of which may not. Ask both the bank and the brokerage house if the fund is insured.
Brokerage Houses may offer higher interest accounts. They can do this by putting you in a fund that is based on riskier stocks that pay higher interest. The problem is if the market plunges so does your investment. Ask questions make sure you know where you are putting your money before you invest. The safest 401K is one that is invest in government bonds. It does not pay much interest but you money is safe. You , not the bank or the Brokerage House chose how to fund your account. Also you can change the funding at any time.
I've had Depersonalization Disorder since I was 12 (I'm 13 now). I can't handle it anymore... My mom knows about it, but she doesn't know what we can do for it.
I have severe anxiety and paranoia, so I'm guessing that has to do with something. I am willing to take medication, but I'm not sure what to take... For anxiety? Paranoia? I can't take this anymore. Also, do you think medication can even fix this?
Thank you... Any answer will help.
P.S. Yes I know you guys aren't doctors, but this is pretty much all I have.
I did some research on the web for Depersonalization Disorder. I came across an article by the Mayo clinic. I am including the link to that article below. I suggest you and your mom read it. Then if you have not already seen your family doctor you should do so.
Diagnosing and treatment for this disorder starts with your family doctor as first organic or biological problems need to be ruled out. Once your family doctor is assured there is no medical reason for your symptoms the doctor should refer you to a psychiatrist for diagnosing and treatment.
As the article will point out. The main cause of this disorder is stress. You also state that you suffer from anxiety and Paranoia. These are also stress related problems. Stress causes another problem; depression. While there is no true treatment for Depersonalization Disorder there are treatments for the other problems or the symptoms you are suffering, according to what I read. The feeling is if they treat the symptoms the Depersonalization Disorder will over time resolve itself.
My advice is to go see your family doctor. Print out the article from the Mayo Clinic and bring it with you. Show it to the doctor and point out which of the symptoms you have and how and when they affect you.
Sometime some of these symptoms can be dismissed as problems of puberty. It is possible that is just what they are. You need to make sure you explain yourself fully to your doctor so the doctor can make a proper diagnoses. There is also nothing wrong with seeking the opinion of a different doctor if your family doctor has already examined you and dismissed these problems. Insurance companies will pay for second opinions even from out of network doctors. You just have to call them first.
http://my.clevelandclinic.org/disorders/Dissociative_Disorders/hic_Depersonalization_Disorder.aspx
I'm fourteen and bicurious (mostly heterosexual). In the past two months, my sex drive has increased and I don't know how to deal with it. I masturbate sometimes, but this only gives temporary relief. I've never dated and probably won't start soon. I am shy, socially awkward, and not the type of girl guys ask out. In addition, I don't go to a traditional public school, so I rarely meet boys my age who would ask a girl out. I'm a virgin and planning on saving sex for marriage, or at least until I find the right person. How can I deal with my sexual desire?
In addition, I've had a weird obsession with stretching my vagina lately. This morning while I was home alone, I dug a few small empty bottles out of the recycle, washed them really well, and penetrated myself with them. Is this wrong? Should I stop?
Relax your normal. Masturbation is the best way for a young person, girl or boy , to gain sexual relief. Puberty is the reason you feel as you do. The hormones given of by puberty are making you feel that your sex drive has increased. In a way it has since prior to puberty you did not have a sex drive.
As long as masturbation does not become an all encompassing activity, meaning to the exclusion of everything else, you are normal. You may need to masturbate as much as 3 to 4 or even more times in a day. That's would be normal or normal for you.
Friends may say differently based on their needs to masturbate which according to a recent survey over 85% of the world populations engages in. It is your hormones that tell you how often you need to masturbate. Even people with good sex lives still masturbate as there are times when they and their partners sexual needs don't mesh. So don't be concerned with how often you need to.
As to sticking foreign objects into your vagina. Not recommended as they are not designed for this and you could have an embarrassing problem occur from this activity. I suggest you try to find a vibrator for this activity.
One place to look is in moms night stand there is an 85% chance mom has one hidden away in her nightstand or dresser. Another way is to order on by mail. All you need is to get a prepaid credit card to use.
does sex hart? Is sex fun?
Are you really 17?
Yes sex is fun when the time is right and with the right person. The right person is not some pimple faced teenager who confuses lust with love as most teenage boys do.
The right person is some one who loves you and respects you as a women, not as a receptacle for his hormones. The right person is someone who you have had a long term relationship who has proven his love for you. Not someone who says; "IF you love me you will have sex with me." Sex is not away to prove your love for someone, it is the natural result of your love for someone.
The person who says you must prove your love for them by having sex with them does not love you, they lust for you. There is a big difference there one of which is respect; which is missing. Don't have sex to prove your love for someone for then it will not be fun and you will forever regret having sex with them.
As for hurting. For some females it does hurt the first time they have sex but after that it does not. For others there is no pain at all the first time. The older you are when you have sex for the first time the less painful it will be as your body will have matured and be ready for sex.
It also helps if you have chosen the right person. The person that wants to make love to you rather than just have sex with you will make sure your first time is a memorable experience. He will see to your comfort and security in where you make love. Comfort and security is most important especially for you as fear of discovery can make sex even after the first time uncomfortable an no fun for you.
There is an old saying about guys and sex. A guy can get off anywhere any time. Give him a board with a knot hole in it and he can get off. It is not so for a women, she need to feel secure and comfortable. Most of all she needs to feel love and respected.
Chose your first partner wisely and your first sexual experience will be memorable. There is no reason to rush. You have a lifetime to enjoy a sex life make sure it is with the right person or it will be a chore rather than a pleasure.
Hi,
So for probably the past 6 years, I've been able to 'pop' my jaw. It doesn't hurt when I do it (Or when I don't do it), but it's a bad habit.
It doesn't pop by itself, I do it by putting my hand on the left side of my jaw and move it a certain way until it pops. Is this bad? Nothing bad has happened since I started doing it, but it's kind of grossing me out now... I try to stop, but like I said - It's a BAD habit. I probably do it like 20 times a day.
Thanks in advance.
I like the answer KatieKat wrote. The only thing I can add to what she wrote is to suggest you see your dentist about this problem. Your dentist will most likely refer you to a Maxillofacial Dentist. These are the Dentist who are also facial reconstruction surgeons.
Given your age it may be possible to fix your jaw without invasive surgery or expensive surgery. One thing for sure the sooner you correct the problem the less chance of major problems later in life.
I see your age as 15. I suggest you talk with your parents and have them make an appointment with your dentist as soon as possible.
I am an 18 year old female and I find myself to be way more attracted to older men that guys my age. Not old as in anything higher than 30, I wouldn't even go above 24. I just think that 22, 23, 24 are so much more mature, they know what they want in life, they are probably living on their own. By that age as well, they are probably done with the whole pimp thing and thinking they're hot shit, going around and getting all the ladies they can. I also think that older men are more respectful. I was just wondering if anyone found this to be weird. Now, don't preach to me that not all older men are more mature and know what they want type of people. I am talking about the older men that I have personally met and found to be attractive are such as I described.
So, anyway, do you find this weird? I am 18, so it's not like there would be any real, technical issues. Just curious, I guess.
Thanks.
I don't think it's weird at all. I do disagree with your thinking about 22 to 25 year old men though. Most, as we said back in the dark ages, are still wet behind the ears when it comes to social graces. Most are either graduating college or have just graduated college and are still boys at heart. Yes there are some who have mature and maybe you have been lucky enough to meet some.
To answer your question though, age is just a number. Like beauty age is in the eye of the beholder. If you are more comfortable with someone older than you then go for it. I see nothing wrong with it. If you stay within a ten year span in ages this should not be cause for any disruptive lifestyles or adventures now or later in life.
My in-laws were 5 years apart with my mother in-law being the older person. Back then she may have been looked at as robbing the cradle. They had a wonderful marriage that produced my wife and her brother. My wife is a Health Professional and my brother in-law has a PHD. Both of their educations were paid for by their parents.
Contrary to what people may say or think. May/December marriages do work out and they can produce wonderful productive families. If you find someone you love, who loves you back and respects you. Don't let age be an issue. Age is only a number.
I have a sore throat right noww, it hurts a lot and I can't stand it. I'm taking a medication ,but the strange thing is that this it happens to me often. My throat gets better and after about a month it appears again. What may be happening? It's awful since even when I'm walking the pain gets even worse.
First and foremost none of us are doctors. You need to see a doctor if you are not being treated by one now. If you are seeing your family doctor with this type of result then you need to see a specialist. I would suggest it be and ENT, Ear, Nose and Throat doctor.
There are many reasons a person gets sore throats as well as why they return so often. The first reason for them returning is if you are treating them with over the counter medications.
Over the counter medications are meant for viral infections. Which would be a sore throat cause by the common cold. These medications are not strong enough to treat a bacterial infection if that is what you have. This takes a lab test to tell the doctor if you have a bacterial infection, strep, and what antibiotic is appropriate to rid it.
If you do have a bacterial infection and are taking an antibiotic the normal course of drug treatment is 10 days. Some bacteria are drug resistant and require a longer course of drugs or a stronger drug. It is also necessary you take the drugs as directed each day without missing any doses.
If you do have a bacterial infection and do not finish the medication or are not taking it as directed. The results are that the infection returns. If you have a viral infection then and it keeps returning then you need to do a good cleaning in the kitchen and bathroom to get rid of the rhino germs that are causing this or you will keep reinfection yourself.
One other thing. Buy two new toothbrushes. Throw your old one away and use one of the new ones until any new medication prescribed by your doctor is completed. Then throw that one away and start using the other new one. The reason for doing so is the germs, specifically the Rhino virus can live on your toothbrush and re-infect you
If I eat healthy, drink water and work out an hour everyday can I lose 80 pounds by December/January?
While it might be possible it is not a good idea. In the time span you are looking at the total amount of weight you may be able to safely lose is about 56 pounds which works out to 3.5 pounds a week.
Losing this much weight in this short of time while possible will take much and dedication and result in only a temporary loss as quick loss diets tend quicker weight gains when weight goals are achieved.
IF you do decide to go on this type of weight loss diet you would be wise to start with a physical by your family doctor. Advise you doctor of your diet plan and follow your doctor's advice. Your doctor will most likely want to monitor your health while you are dieting which I totally recommend as this type of diet can be harmful to your health if not monitored by a physician.
I am thirteen years old, female, and about to go to eighth grade. I'm really scared about it, though, and I don't think I'm prepared enough.
Here are a few things you should know:
- My school closed, so I have to go to a new one.
- I don't know my way around the school.
- I tend to get stressed out about grades.
- I'm awful at making friends.
- I am a perfectionist, and I usually stay up late to finish my homework. (That's something I like about summer -- I can go to bed as early as I want and get enough sleep.)
- School starts in a week.
- I was teased a little about my race at my last school, and I don't want it to happen again.
- I'm very close to my teachers from last year, and they won't be at my new school.
- I was supposed to be put in journalism because I'm a writer, but they put me in something called office aides. I'm rather frustrated about that.
I would really appreciate any advice about how to be more prepared and less anxious. Thank you!
Changing schools can be stressful to that there is no question. Just remember you are not the only one with the same fears and questions. All the other students from your old school will face the same questions and challenges you will be facing.
I would think some of your friends from your old school will be at your new school. Find some of you friends from your old school and work through finding your way around the new school together. Teachers and administrators are expecting you so they will be in the hallways during the first few days to help you find your way. If you get lost ask a teacher or administrator for directions that is why they will be in the halls.
As far as being as being teased about your race. This is unacceptable behavior on the part of any student. If you are teased in this manner by other students report them to a teacher or administrator. You have every right to attend classes without being harassed for any reason. If the school does not stop the harassment talk with your parents. They can go to the superintendent of schools or the Board of Education for resolution.
Staying up late to finish homework may be a problem of time management. Time management is a skill that once master will serve you well throughout your life. Those who can control their time as opposed to those who allow time to control them will always succeed in whatever challenges they face in life.
Controlling time is simple once you learn how. You start by sitting down with a calendar and a sheet of paper. On the sheet of paper put headings such as Daily, weekly and monthly. Under each heading list everything you must do under those heading, this includes school work, by subject.
When I was in school some of my teachers in subjects such as English and History would give us our assignments for the week on Monday. We needed to turn the assignments in completed either on Friday or the following Monday depending on the teacher and the assignment. If you have assignments like that those go under weekly. One other heading is needed which would be special project which would be something like a science fair project.
Now look at all the things you must do daily, such as school work, chores around the house and anything I have missed that you must do. Now next to each put down the amount of time you need for each item and homework for each subject. Now add up the amount of time you need each day for these things and total them. Do the same for weekly and monthly.
With the time for weekly and monthly divide those sums by 7 and 30 respectively and add those minutes or hours to your weekly total. You now have the amount of time you must have to devote to necessary chores and homework. Based on this you know when you have to start your homework so you finish in time to get enough rest and have some free time for yourself.
I had you add some time for the weekly and monthly things you may be required time do so you can dedicate some time to them each day or you can dedicate, as far as school work, time on Saturday or Sunday. With special projects when they come along you need to estimate how much time you need and add them into your daily or weekly time schedule.
Time management is not something that is carved in stone. It has to be fluid to allow for changes in requirements placed on you. To start you review you time management each week, say Sunday evening. As you get more comfortable you can review it each month.
I used this management tool in my professional life. It was, until I retired so much a part of me I could plan my time in my head based on this plan. Every six months I sat down with my list, prioritized what needed to be done and when. Looked for trends that emerged or were emerging and planned my next six months work.
Should you adopt my time management suggestion it will not only serve you well now but throughout high school, College and the rest of your life as well.
As for being scared: We all tend to fear the unknown that is just how we are made. Instead of fearing the unknown those of us that learn to embrace the challenge it brings succeed far better in life. Today you have the opportunity of learning to do this in the secure environment of a public school with adults there to help you get over whatever bumps, humps, ghosts and goblins there may be in the road ahead.
My suggestion is you walk into that school with your head held high and a mind set that this is your school know and you are going to make it yours no matter what. You start today by picking out the cloths you going to wear the first day of school, how you're going to fix your hair and any makeup you might be allowed to wear. Have everything all set out so you are not running around trying to find things and getting upset when you can't find something.
If you're taking a lunch to school have it all prepared and in the refrigerator the night before. Most importantly make sure you leave time in the morning for a good breakfast.
I hope this very long answer helps. Good luck in your new school I know you will do well.
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So yesterday I was in the restroom, and I was kind of wasting time by playing on my phone and sitting on the counter near the door. I had the shower running, but it was right in the middle, so it was just room temperature water. There wasn't any mist or anything, because the mirror wasn't fogged up, and I had the fan on and my 'eva-dry' machine was on. (I was alo only in my panties)
I was texting when all of a sudden I kind of felt sick, like a 'I feel like I'm going to puke sick', and I set down my phone because I almost started gagging-- this was after about 15 minutes. And thats when I stood up. You know when You stand up too quickly and everything goes black for like 5 seconds? Thats what happened to me!! But wayy way worse. I was facing the counter and My legs felt wobbly and I collapse and busted my chin open on the counter, so I triend to stand up, but I was in a bit of shock and couldn't really stand up right (everything still had that dark look to it, too) and I fell on my bum and hit my head on a cabinet, so I just kinda fell asleep for a few seconds. When I eventually got up, I still felt that feeling where I stood up too quickly and everything had that black frame around it, so I got into the shower, and it was cold, but it felt good because I was really really hot.I put in shamppo but I put in wayy too much and dropped the bottle, and I kindof washed out, but I couldn't really tell. Then I got out of the restroom quickly and walked to my room, and collapsed on my bed and fell on my bed, and I put on a blanket and the feeling went away. I looked at the clock and this had all happened over 33 minutes. What happened???? more info- I'm 13 ,female, 5'2, around 90 lbs., and this has never happened to me before, also it was right in the morning at 8:00 and I hadn't eaten yet.
Low blood sugar is a definite possibility given the time of the day you had this attack. The fact that it went away without you eating something says it is probably not blood sugar that is that low. Something else is going on.
I am a retired first responder with a fire department. If you have not told your parents what happened you need to do so now. A 13 year old person should not be having this type of an attack. You need to see a doctor.
If it is low blood sugar then the doctor needs to find out why. Low blood sugar is a very serious problem that needs to be diagnosed. Blacking out is a very serious problem that has different causes. Low blood sugar is only one cause. Do not wait until the next time you black out for the next time you black out you may not wake up as fast.
If you do black out again and there is no one home to help you. Call 911 as soon as you can get to a phone. Blacking out is serious and you do not need parental permission to call for help. The purpose of 911 is to help you when you need it and there is no one else who can help you.
Please talk to your parents and tell them what happened to your yesterday. This is serious enough that they should take you wither to one of the 24 hour clinics that are available or to a hospital emergency room. This is not something you want happening again.
If they have no other way of getting you to a doctor today you can even call 911.
What dies 69 exactly stand for ?
It refers to a sexual position. In general the girl is on top of the guy sucking on his penis, giving him a blowjob. her legs are towards his head which allows the guy to lick and suck on her vagina, eating her out. This is called 69. Can you see the reference in the numbers?
(Im a 22 year old girl.)This one feels complicated. I met my now best guy friend, who is a 21 year old guy, at work at the beginning of the year and we bonded through his breakup with his long time girlfriend. We're a lot alike in a lot of ways and talk easily about pretty much everything, including our dating lives, family/personal/work problems and secret future dreams. Over the past like three months our friendship has gotten deeper and deeper, I guess you could say. Out of the blue one night he told me I was his best friend and he felt closer to me than to his best guy friend that he grew up with. Then he told me he loved me as a best friend. Then he started relying on my fashion and relationship advice to get back into dating. He kissed me on the forehead once to tell me goodnight and I was completely thrown back. Then he started flirting with me jokingly, when at the beginning of our friendship this was just not done even as a joke. Now he's calling me babe and flirting with me hot and heavy-mostly when we're around other people-while telling me he loves me (without saying as a friend like used to always specify) A LOT-around other people and not. All of our coworkers and friends say they see something there and after his comment tonight "what if we're like those friends that in 15 years realize they can't live without each other and get married?" I'm starting to wonder what to make of all this. Any insight?
I think this guy is falling for you. Now the question is: Is this a rebound love on his part or is he truly falling for you. The next question is do you have feelings for him other than a platonic co worker friend ship.
If the answer to the second question is you do not have loving intimate feelings for him and do not see those feelings developing. Then you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel about him.
I can't say if his feelings for you are rebound type feelings or if they are true; I'm in love with you I want to spend the rest of my life with you feelings. One thing for sure is you can ruin a perfectly good friendship by trying to make it a lover relationship and going to the next level and having sex.
Once a couple share a bed together it is almost impossible to go back to just being friends. Sex becomes a deal maker or deal breaker between friends who try to force a relationship other than friendship. So this is where you need to tread lightly. He I think is wanting to go to the next level, at least by what you have written for whatever reason he has. Rebound or otherwise.
If you do not wish to go to that level he has to realize it is because you value his friendship more than you need a lover right now. So tread lightly when you and he discuss this which is something you two need to do.
I am 14 and a virgin but I have been fingered several times... I have a certain odor down there, I'm not sure if it is normal or not and it really worries me. I've tried certain washes, creams, etc and nothing seems to help me. I am very scared to go to a gynecologist, I am just a teen and I'm not sure of my mom's reaction if I were to ask. Should I try asking my regular doctor? Or is it normal? And also, in the days of my ovulation, I have a worse smell and alot of discharge that lasts for a week. I'm not sure what that means, I've came across similar problems with down there and my mom thought I had stds. I never looked into it much further than going to a regular doctor why couldn't tell me anything. I'm very nervous about gynecologists and I'm not quite sure what to do or exactly what, "down there" is supposed to smell like.
First: There is a natural odor that young women who are going through puberty get and will continue to have down there. It is normal and natural and part of the sexual attraction of a women. When you get sexually excited it gets stronger to attract a male. It is part of our animal instincts.
Now whether the odor you are smelling is normal or because of some type of infection I can't say. A doctor, specifically a gynecologist who is trained in caring for this part of the female anatomy is the best doctor to see.
Your mother should be the first person you could go to with questions of this type. Why your mother jumped right to the conclusion that you had an STD was very wrong of her. Any women who is having periods can gets yeast infections and she should know this. A yeast infection would give off a strong unpleasant odor and cause an itching as well as a discharge. This discharge is usually a white or white yellowish milky type discharge.
No I am not a doctor but I have been married for 42 years and my wife over the years has had several yeast infections. So I know what they look like.
Now that you are 14 under a federal law called HIPPA you have medical confidentiality for any problems concerning your reproductive system. What this means is you can see any doctor you wish, without parental permission for any problem concerning your reproductive system.
Anything you say to the doctor, any question you ask of the doctor, whatever the doctor says to you and examines you for remains between you and the doctor. Nothing can be told to your parents and they cannot see any medical records pertaining to anything involving your reproductive system. This includes a gynecological visits.
These visits are totally confidential and mom cannot be in the exam room with you without your permission. All you need say to the doctor or nurse is; I invoke my rights under HIPPA" and mom will be asked to wait in the waiting room.
Now as to the Gynecological visits themselves. There is nothing to be afraid of. Any women who is having periods needs to see a GYN regularly for examinations and PAP smears to check for certain infections that can only be diagnosed in this manner. I'm told the exam itself is fairly painless. Yes, you do have to bare your private region to the doctor in a very un-lady like manner. You will be draped by the doctor to give you the up most privacy for the exam. You may be more comfortable with a women doctor for this type of medical help. If so by all means select a female doctor. Under HIPPA the choice of doctor is yours not your parents.
Why the other doctor would not or could not answer your questions I can't say. If you were under 14 at the time your mom may have asked that the doctor not answer these types of questions for you. This is the most logical answer I can think of. Now that you're 14 the law says that any doctor will answer your question completely and truthfully.
The only way anyone can see the medical records concerning treatment or any visit concerning anything to do with your reproductive system. Requires written permission from you to the doctor. You can even ask for birth control pill and the doctor must prescribe them unless there is a medical reason not to. Even your druggist cannot divulge any medication that might be prescribed by your GYN.
The HIPPA Law was not written by congress to give young people license to have sex. It was written so that they will see a doctor when they have any question or problem concerning their reproductive system. Questions or problems they are either to embarrassed or scared to go to their parents with.
I wanna find out about birth control pills like trigestrel. Is it okay for males to take them thus I want to gain weight, because I've heard that they make you gain weight. I know how they look like and know all colours though and their unction. Believe you me I won't take the red onesi just want gain weight.
trigestrel appears to be a female contraceptive. I don't think this is something a male should be taking. Neither do I think you will get a doctor to prescribe it for you which is the only way to gain wait.
There are better ways to gain weight. See your family doctor who can best help you gain weight properly.
i am unable to maintain an errection and at times getting one
We are not doctors and we cannot make medical diagnoses.
The causes for erectile dysfunction are many and it would be wrong of any of us to even guess at what might be the cause. Smoking, high blood pressure, pelvic injuries and certain medications can cause erectile dysfunction and the list goes on from there.
You need to see your doctor especially if you are taking any medication. Explain to the doctor what your problem is and make sure you have a complete list of your medications with you. It could be one of your medication which the doctor may be able to change.
If the problem is not due to medication or some other organic problem your family doctor can rectify you will be referred to a Urologist who specializes in erectile dysfunction.
There is help for most all erectile dysfunctions. It takes seeing the proper doctor.
I was doing laundry and the laundry facility is on the outaide of my apartment building. Some dude around my age was locked out if the building behind me and said "Hi" in the distance and I said Hi back. Then he scratched his his head and asked if I lived in the building and I said yes. So he asked if we wanted to go inside and hang out and I turned down his offer because I dont know him. Then he looked at me and said "ohh you have a boyfriend?" And i responded uhh yeah lol..
What was he thinking? Was he flirting? ... Or just a whacko?
Adviceman49 here: My two cents worth on the words creepy and creep used by Razhie. Those words have a place in our language. Based on what was written in this question the word creepy is appropriate. That being so the word creep to describe the person being creepy is also appropriate. Mr. Wombat needs to go back and review English 101. Creepy is a descriptive word justifying the word creep.
I think you did the right thing in this instance. Given everything going on today with sexual predators it is always a good idea for women to steer clear of men they do not know. Better to be safe than sorry.
I would say most men today looking to meet someone would first introduce themselves. If he lived in your building or complex he would say so. This would give you an opportunity to judge if he is safe or check him out at the rental office to see if he is who he says he is.
You really didn't know if he was locked out or if he was trying to gain entrance for the wrong reasons. It is always best to keep your guard up around people you don't know be you male or female. It is an unfortunate sign of the times we live in.
The one thing I could suggest is if it ever happens again with him or someone else. Call the police and let them check him out. You never know you may just save someone's life or property.