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How can I deal with sexual desire and weird obsessions?
I'm fourteen and bicurious (mostly heterosexual). In the past two months, my sex drive has increased and I don't know how to deal with it. I masturbate sometimes, but this only gives temporary relief. I've never dated and probably won't start soon. I am shy, socially awkward, and not the type of girl guys ask out. In addition, I don't go to a traditional public school, so I rarely meet boys my age who would ask a girl out. I'm a virgin and planning on saving sex for marriage, or at least until I find the right person. How can I deal with my sexual desire?
In addition, I've had a weird obsession with stretching my vagina lately. This morning while I was home alone, I dug a few small empty bottles out of the recycle, washed them really well, and penetrated myself with them. Is this wrong? Should I stop?
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Stop using makeshift sex toys. Probably nothing will happen, but a broken bottle in your vagina could easily kill you. Seriously, it's just not worth the risk.
There are ways to obtain sex toys. Use your imagination and get yourself a toy or two.
Teenage years are a time of raging hormones. It's the most cliche' thing to say about teenagers because it's so painfully true for everyone. You're just going to have to deal with being a little crazy from time to time, not being able to think about anything but sex. Everyone who has a sex drive at all has to deal with it once in a while. It gets easier with adulthood. You get used to it and you get fewer uncontrollable spikes.
There's nothing wrong with what you're doing except the unsafe part. In a pinch you can google ideas for sex toys that are not glass bottles but you really should find a way to invest in a toy for yourself.
Also listen to Rahzie, she's probably as kinky as I am and she's better at talking about figuring it out. Weird and sex are not always a bad combination. Just, you know, do your homework and figure things out so you can be safe doing whatever.
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There is nothing wrong with masturbating, or anything morally wrong with penetrating yourself - having said that, you should stop using household objects to do this. It's not a safe practice.
I appreciate that it is tough when you are a minor, living at home. It's probably not possible for you to access a safe, reliable sex toy to fulfil this interest... but that doesn't mean you should give into the urge in a way that is not safe, and using bottles is DEFINITELY not safe. No matter how well you wash them.
Going to the hospital with internal cuts due to this behaviour, could have a catastrophic effect on your family and your relationships (not to mention any damage you might do to your body.)
We all have sexual interests - and some of us have sexual interests that need to be carefully researched and acted on with a lot of self-control and practice, so as not to hurt ourselves or our partner. Some of us even have sexual interests that can NEVER be acted on morally, or are just physically impossible! It's okay to have to have those interests - it's normal and healthy - but it's important to find healthy and realistic ways to engage with them, either through fantasy, or with proper, safe toys.
Masturbate to your hearts content, but resist the urge to use objects that are not designed as sex toys on yourself. It's not safe, it's not sensible, and it could lead to a really huge disaster in the longterm.
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Relax your normal. Masturbation is the best way for a young person, girl or boy , to gain sexual relief. Puberty is the reason you feel as you do. The hormones given of by puberty are making you feel that your sex drive has increased. In a way it has since prior to puberty you did not have a sex drive.
As long as masturbation does not become an all encompassing activity, meaning to the exclusion of everything else, you are normal. You may need to masturbate as much as 3 to 4 or even more times in a day. That's would be normal or normal for you.
Friends may say differently based on their needs to masturbate which according to a recent survey over 85% of the world populations engages in. It is your hormones that tell you how often you need to masturbate. Even people with good sex lives still masturbate as there are times when they and their partners sexual needs don't mesh. So don't be concerned with how often you need to.
As to sticking foreign objects into your vagina. Not recommended as they are not designed for this and you could have an embarrassing problem occur from this activity. I suggest you try to find a vibrator for this activity.
One place to look is in moms night stand there is an 85% chance mom has one hidden away in her nightstand or dresser. Another way is to order on by mail. All you need is to get a prepaid credit card to use.
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Don't worry, it's actually very normal what you are feeling.The desire to have sex at a young age is getting more common every year, i felt this way when i was 12 and lost my virginity at 14 but it was horrible almost everyone in my grade called me skank bitch or slut and it reallyy was depressing. Sex isn't as incredible as you think though, especially at a young age. If your desirres continue though, remember there are cons like STDs and Getting Pregnant, so keep that in mind. You can continue to masturbate if you like and try different techniques.
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