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Older men.
I am an 18 year old female and I find myself to be way more attracted to older men that guys my age. Not old as in anything higher than 30, I wouldn't even go above 24. I just think that 22, 23, 24 are so much more mature, they know what they want in life, they are probably living on their own. By that age as well, they are probably done with the whole pimp thing and thinking they're hot shit, going around and getting all the ladies they can. I also think that older men are more respectful. I was just wondering if anyone found this to be weird. Now, don't preach to me that not all older men are more mature and know what they want type of people. I am talking about the older men that I have personally met and found to be attractive are such as I described.
So, anyway, do you find this weird? I am 18, so it's not like there would be any real, technical issues. Just curious, I guess.
Thanks.
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I don't think it's weird at all. I do disagree with your thinking about 22 to 25 year old men though. Most, as we said back in the dark ages, are still wet behind the ears when it comes to social graces. Most are either graduating college or have just graduated college and are still boys at heart. Yes there are some who have mature and maybe you have been lucky enough to meet some.
To answer your question though, age is just a number. Like beauty age is in the eye of the beholder. If you are more comfortable with someone older than you then go for it. I see nothing wrong with it. If you stay within a ten year span in ages this should not be cause for any disruptive lifestyles or adventures now or later in life.
My in-laws were 5 years apart with my mother in-law being the older person. Back then she may have been looked at as robbing the cradle. They had a wonderful marriage that produced my wife and her brother. My wife is a Health Professional and my brother in-law has a PHD. Both of their educations were paid for by their parents.
Contrary to what people may say or think. May/December marriages do work out and they can produce wonderful productive families. If you find someone you love, who loves you back and respects you. Don't let age be an issue. Age is only a number.
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It's not weird. I've met lots of girls who were into older guys because they seemed more mature.
Like you said, not all of them are mature and know what they want. I think it really depends on the person. I've met some guys in their 20's that are extremely immature, but can hold it together in social situations. Also some that can't. I've met guys who still go around trying to get all the ladies, because in their 20's they are still young. They're mature in what they want, but not in relationships.
But it is really the person. I've met 18 year old guys who are really mature and 18 year old guys that are really immature. Then guys in their 20's who are really mature, and guys that are in their 20's and really immature.
So best thing to do, is to not limit yourself to older guys. If you meet one that you find extremely attractive, and has great qualities and is a mature guy, then go for it. If you meet a guy around your age who is like that, then go for it.
It's true that some mature with age, but some don't, obviously.
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As mid-twenty girl, I have to be honest with you, I laughed at loud at the idea of 22-24 year olds being mature, or knowing what they want in life.
The guys I knew who thought they are hot shit, or 'pimping' at 18, still thought the same bullshit at 24 - they had just learned a few more social skills and how to hold a conversation and to mask their stupidity a bit better.
I don't find your desire weird at all. I've normally dated people 5-10 years my senior. I'm not entirely sure why this is the case, but it's been my life.
But here is the real truth of the situation: To attract a mature person who has their shit together, at any age, you have to be a mature person who has their shit together. A lot 20 year olds wont see you as a serious dating material because they will make the same assumptions about you, that you are making about your fellow 18 year old boys - too immature, too inexperienced, too insecure, probably still dependant on your parents, still figuring your shit out...
The best way to find someone who has the characteristics you want, is to look for people who have the characteristics that you want, and not to be blinded by your own assumptions about age, or race, or class...
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