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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

One thing I LOVE to do is to analyze dreams. Just tell me about a dream you had, and I'll help you understand what it means. :)

advice

Me and my borfriend just broke up about 3 months ago. I know that it has been a long time since we broke up but I just now am getting over him. So' Ok it's over... What do I do next. I've been depressed ever since. How do I brighten up my spirits? Should I talk to him anymore or should I not? I still can't completely stop thinking about him.
SIGNED
Needs Cheering Up
&hearts
Ps. im sorry its so long but ill rate on good answers.

Well, it depends. Was he a jerk? If he was a jerk and if he ever hurt you, then you should not talk to him. Just forget him. You can keep a journal about your feelings. (I hate to sound all emo, but it works for me.)If he wasn't a jerk, then feel free to talk to him as a friend. And you could try to find someone else that you like. Don't feel like you have to be stuck with this break up forever. So stay active, stay busy. hang out with your friends, play sports, write a novel.

Hope I helped you & Have a good summer.

--Johanna

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I feel like my life is no longer important and that I can never make a difference in the world. And that if I cant why live. I would never comit sicide tho or even think bout it because I fear a painful death and not going to heaven but I am so self consious and hve a low self esteem. Lots of things are goin on in my life that are causing me to hve a very high depression level and Iam ver stressed out. Ive takin all the tests on the internet and Iam severe for all the depression and stressed tests. Iam only 13 and a female and that worries me. Iam also very consious about my weight. How can I lose some wait w/o a crash diet and how can I feel better about myself and take care of my depression and stress???

~Brooke

I know how you feel. But you're only 13 and you can't really do much to make a difference to the world right now, maybe you could start off little by volunteering around your neighborhood. As for your self esteem, you need to first stop comparing yourself to others. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes and you're probably going through puberty so it is normal to feel overweight. Just look in the mirror, and say, "I am beautiful, I am smart, I am fun." That always works for me.I wouldn't really reccomned trying Depression Medications because I've read many articles about the serious side effects on them. Just try to relax, and be happy your alive. Also Try keeping a journal to write your thoughts in. But I'm glad that you have decided to do something in order to lose weight. Heres some information on how to lose weight.

For Nutrition, you should eat light, such as fruit, vegetables, crackers, fish, tofu, and deli (white) meats. Stay away from too much dairy or red meat though! And as far as exercise goes, try to find a personal work out plan that suits your body, depending on what muscles you want to tone up. For example: Obviously if you want to tone your abs, do situps every day. Below are some websites on nutrition and exercise.

Nutrition Websites:

http://dietsnutrition.allinfoabout.com/features/lowcal.html
http://www.weightlossforgood.co.uk/
http://am-i-fat.com

Excersize Websites:

http://exercise.about.com/od/abs/ss/abexercises.htm
http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p2954.htm

P.S> try reading "Seventeen Magazine" because they give great Workouts. I'm sorry if My reply was so long. Best wishes,

--Johanna





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ok, well, i LOVE my bf but i think im starting to like this other guy at my church. the guy at my church is REALLY nice to me but me and my bf have been going out for over 4 months now. sometimes though me and my bf cant seem to find things to talk about on the phone and it gets kinda anoyying! so can you help me? should i stay with my bf or go with my church crush? and if i should stay with my bf what can we talk about on the phone? i think weve pretty much covered it all though.

p.s. we are going to a bmx show tomorow and my bf and my crush is going to be there. so im not sure what to do about that either. PLEASE HELP! IM BEGGING YOU!

Leah

Hey, don't worry about it, It's normal to like another guy even when you have a boyfriend. My advice is to break up with your boyfriend though. You said you can't even find things to talk about, right? Well, a boyfriend and girlfriend should have alot to talk about. It sounds like you need a fresh start with a new guy. I think you should just tell your boyfriend: "I'm starting to have different feelings about you. I'm starting to like you now more of just a friend. I really don't want to give you the wrong idea, so I think we should break up." You should definitely go for that church crush because i think he likes you too. If you ever get stuck about what to talk about with him, heres some ideas:

-religion (you two Do go to church together)
-politics (ask him what he thinks of the President.)
- School/ Academics
- Funny things you and your friends do
- Music (what kinds you guys like)
- Movies (what movies you want to see)

Oh yeah and DO NOT ask your church crush out, like 10 seconds after you break up with your boyfriend. Get to know your church crush better before you make a move on him.

Good Luck! ;)

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My dog's throwing up blood, and I need to know, is there anything we can do??? & We can't go to the vet.

You need to Go to the Vet! Thats horrible, she could be really sick and she could die! You probably can take her to the vet, this is an emergency!!! You and/or your parents are probably just to lazy or cheap to go. GO!!!!

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okay i have a question for girls... ive got the worst cramps right now.. like i feel like im going to die... does anyody have any at home remedys or somethin to make em go away... i already took 2 tylonol and a calcuim pill... but what else can i do to make em not hurt so bad, or even better, go away!! please help

Like the others said, use a heating pad on your belly, or take a warm shower. Drink lots of water too because that always helps, and it will start make your mediicine work faster. Just try to relax.

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i am 13 and my boy friend is 13 we have been goin out for 3 days and he wants to hang out but i dont no like what to do when we hang out im kinnda shy so what should we talk about give me ideas on what to do and what to talk about

Yeah, that happens alot to me too. But just talk about anything you can. Be wild, Be crazy, or try to make him laugh. You can talk about music, like what you think of Green day or any other band. You can ask him what he does in his spare time, you can ask him if he Likes President Bush or not. You can even talk about school, like your classes and the school suplly list. Just go with the flow.

&hearts,
--Johanna

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well i recently met this guy at a party this summer and weve became really close but the thing is hes 19 and im 14...but i really like him and hes going off to college this fall and im scared that i wont see him that much and eventualy we are going to drift apart? and i havent really told him how i feel...should I??

He's probably a nice guy, but you two are in totally different stages of life right now. He is an adult, and you are still a minor. Technically, it would be illegal if you dated him and did physical things with him since he is no longer a minor, but an adult. You need to remember that hes going into college, and he can't be tied down to anyone since he is going to a whole new place full of new people. But ask for his email or soemthing, and that way you can stay in touch. (as friends)

--Johanna

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hi

im not feeling that well that often, i mean like, its like i dont care about nothing man!

i have had pains thoughout my body, like especially in my stomach.

If i get a chocolate milkshake from carvel (yumm) i get a horribal stomachach and i feel like im about to through up! yet, i do not get malted milkshakes. I dont like it at all. I tried vaniella, and same thing happened! its not how they make it, tis the exact way i make it at home!

and if i get it at a restraunt, YUCKY! same thing happens!

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?!

Well, it could be a medical condition called IBS. (Irittable Bowl Syndrome)It means your body cannot break down fibers/dairy too well. My mom has it, and you just have to watch what you're eating. Or it is possible, you could be lactose intolerant because some people develop it as they get older.

Try looking at both of these websites and compare your syptoms to them:

For IBS:

http://www.aboutibs.org/

For Lactose Intolerant:

http://www.healthcastle.com/herb_lact.shtml

Also, make sure you talk to your doctor!

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So I shave my underarms every day...but lately I've been getting ingrown hairs and that's never happened before. It's kinda gross...it looks like I have pimply armpits or something (I wash my arm pits every day). I think it might have been because I changed my deoderant recently...but I don't think that makes sense because I don't put on deoderant until after I shave. So does anyone know why this happened and what I can do to fix it? Because it's the hottest month of the year and I would like to be able to wear tank tops again.

First try a good razor such as gilette for women which will give you a close shave. Make sure to use shaving cream too, because if you don't your skin may become dehydrated and just "bleh" And make sure to replace your razor about ebery two months so you can get a close shave. Also Switch to Dove Deoderant, it is very good.

--Johanna

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i've got that eyeshadow from hot topic. i put it on but my skin color shows up in the middle and applying more makes it very hard to see. (bright green) is there anything i could do to make it bright and stay? All it does is fall over my eyelashes. I heard putting concealer works... does it?

Yes, liquid concealer makes it stay on longer, and depending on the eye shadow, Might make it show up better. I use this technique all the time. And the more eyeshadow you put on, the more it comes off. See, when you're applying more, you're rubbing off what you already put on. So in a way, less is more. Just try swiping the brush over your eyelid in one or two strokes. Also maybe the eyeshadow just doesn't go weel with your skin tone. If you are really pale/white you should try blues. If your skin is tan/ in the middle, try pinks or browns. And if you have dark dark skin, try purples. And ofcourse there is a shade of brown for everyones skin tone. Sorry I'm babbling on.

--Johanna

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i didnt mean to be ungratefull. i rated it a 3 because although you didnt answer my question your response was nice

Oh. Sorry. I'm just trying to keep my ratings up.

Much love
--Johanna

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I want to lose about 20 lbs. Does any one have any tips on how to do this? I've tried dieting, excercise, and having smaller portions but none of them have worked for me.

Losing weight takes time and effort and requires the proper balance of Excercise and Nutrition. For Nutrition, you should eat light, such as fruit, vegetables, crackers, fish, tofu, and deli (white) meats. Stay away from too much dairy or red meat though! And as far as exercise goes, try to find a personal work out plan that suits your body, depending on what muscles you want to tone up. For example: Obviously if you want to tone your abs, do situps every day. Below are some websites on nutrition and exercise.

For Diets:

http://dietsnutrition.allinfoabout.com/features/lowcal.html
http://www.weightlossforgood.co.uk/
http://www.bupa.co.uk/health_information/asp/healthy_living/lifestyle/diet/
http://www.seventeen.com/health/nutrition
http://www.blubberbuster.com/food_bar.html

For Excersize:

http://www.seventeen.com/health/train/spc/0,,625882_674772,00.html
http://exercise.about.com/od/abs/ss/abexercises.htm
http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p2954.htm


I also sugguest reading Seventeen Magazine, they give great work outs

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okay my moms birhtday is here today and we are gonna go to the store to get her somthing such as wal_mart what should I get her for her birthday
please answer this quesion i will rate fives for good answers

Well maybe you could get your mom some cute plates. i know they have like flower plates at Walmart. I'm sure anything you get her, she will like it becuase it comes from you! It's the thought that counts. But heres a quiz thing you can take to find some good gifts.

http://www.seventeen.com/funstuff/games/spc/0,,625891_636762,00.html?r=m

--Johanna

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Okay I want to be gothic and my mom wont buy me anything gothic ... or let me be who I am !!

I am only 13 so therefore I cant buy anything because I dont have a job .. and me and my parents dont get along so please quit saying the same advice you give to everyone else

"talk to your parents .. hope I helped"

NO YOU DIDNT HELP

so please think about it

Wow. First of all, despite what Anyone else on here says, there is no such thing as a Goth, unless you are referring to the 16th century tribes. I think you need to get your facts straight before you dress "gothicly" You shouldn't consider your style gothic, prep, skater, whatever. The point is that people who call themselves goth are fake, and people should only be theirselves, they don't have to fit into a certain category. But if you like heavy metal/ punk rock (good charlotte doesnt count haha), then I guess you could wear band tees and stuff. 13 is definitely Not too young to take an interest in punk rock, because I've loved it since I was 11. No heres the part where I actually help you:

1.Try making a compromise with your parents. Like you will do chores to earn your Own Money to buy the clothes.

or

2. tell them that you are taking an interest in punk rock/heavy metal music and that you have the right to like what you want to and dress how you want to, that it is not Their choice to make, but it is yours.

Hot Topic has some good band tees by the way, depending on what bands you like. You can also order off the website.

http://www.hottopic.com

--Johanna



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is it worse for you to take laxatives befor or after you eat? what is the difference?
thanks

That is bad. Do not do it. It is just as bad as being anorexic or bulimic. By taking diet pills and laxs and all of those, the food in your stomach will not get to digest so you will always be hungry, and thats pretty much the same thing as being anorexic. So if you want to lose weight, lose it the real way. Also if you are anorexic, you actually gain More weight since your body becomes so hungry, that eventually you break done and eat alot of food. The best thing to do is eat healthy food. Check out these websites for some tips:

http://dietsnutrition.allinfoabout.com/features/lowcal.html
http://www.weightlossforgood.co.uk/
http://www.bupa.co.uk/health_information/asp/healthy_living/lifestyle/diet/

--Johanna

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okay so tomorow im going to this girls house, we have liked eachother for 3 yrs and are going out, i am gonna get there at like early in the morning while she is still asleep, i was going to make her breakfast in bed but she doesnt realy eat breakfast cuz she has a weak stomach. I really want to do something sweet so she wakes up to a wonderful surprise and realizes how much i care about her, any great suggestions would be nice...thank you!

Wow, you are such a sweet guy. I wish more boys I knew were like that. haha well now to the advice part, I think it would be really cute to write a song for her, and if you know how to play guitar then that would be great. Or you could try buying her a red rose and leaving it on her pillow. I don't know why, but most girls go crazy over roses, because they are romantic. Or maybe you could set up an obstacle course, like leave her a rose on her pillow with a note that says, "Go into the bathroom." Then you could buy her a bracelet and leave it on the bathroom counter with a note that says, "Go down stairs." That would be really sweet.

Have fun!
--Johanna

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is it true that lice is attracted to clean heads?

thanks

Yeppers. It's because they like to lay their eggs in a nice clean spot. But I'm not saying you should never wash your hair so the lice aren't attracted to you. lol....But as long as you don't use anyone elses brush or hats too much, you'll be fine.

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i like this guy
names dakoda choate hes 1 grade higher than me
i cant stop thinkin about him
he is so sweet to me
he flirts nonstop
he acts like he likes me
i asked him out
and he said: i really can't right now but i promise you i will get there i just have alot on my mind right now
so ok
i wait............ my friend asks him if he likes me not and he says:
look i like girls my age ok?
does that mean he only dates his age
he doesnt like me, he moved away from me, he just wants to be friends,


i think im gonna cry
what do i do about this?!

Don't cry sweetie. Boys can be like that sometimes.I think he likes you, but he's afraid to admit it because he doesn't want his friends making fun of him for dating someone younger. I don't know how old you are, but sometimes its weird to date people different ages when you're really young, but once you get older, it doesn't matter. Just don't push things with this guy, just be patient and understanding. But if hes ignoring you, don't even bother with him! He doesn't desserve you anyways. Don't feel bad either, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, that guy is just being extremely ignorant. I know how you feel...

Much love,
--Johanna

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latly i relized that my closest friend dana liked me back but she has a bf. so she dosent wanna think that way of me in that way. that kinda bums me out. but yet i got this friend i've know for about 4 years and well i've loves him since like grade 6. but i dont think he likes me back. he never gave me a streight out awnser. then there is my xbf brandyn who i broke it off with. its a really long story and i dont wanna talk about it. long story short i freaked out on him and i feel really bad for breaking it off. *sigh* her is my question. which one should i focuse my heart and love on? and please dont say flip a coin.

Salem...thats a pretty name. Mine is Johanna. But anyways, I think you should wait to see what happens. My advice would be to go with that friend you've known for four years. Get to know him a little better, spend some time with him. He might just be shy, so you should make the first move. Don't worry about being rejected by anyone, you'll find the right person. I don't really sugguest going back with your ex boyfriend because its kind of hard to pick things up again where you left off.

And ofcourse, you're still pretty young, so if things seem dull and confusing now, I'm sure everything will get better.

--Johanna

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I have a social to go to soon, and I was wondering if someone can give me a couple websites or stores with really nice dresses. I don't mean prom dresses, but like a nice strapless black dress. Thanks

They have alot of black dresses at Hot Topic. So try looking here:

http://www.hottopic.com/store/nodePage.asp?LS=0&RN=146



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