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I would love to lose 10 or 15 pounds before school starts...and get toned!! Can someone give me a very planned, detailed workout schedule that would work for this...and how often I should do it..and also very detailed tips on good foods to eat, and portions and all that!!! This would be extremely helpful!!! THANK YOU:)!

Here's some help with foods to eat:

BREAKFAST:
2 Scrambled eggs
2 Canadian bacon slices (not real bacon)
1 cup milk
1/2 cup orange juice
OR
Veggie Omlet (asparagus is a good one)
1 cup milk
1 medium orange
OR
Fruit smoothie (about 3 c. no added sugar)
Toast (2 slices, whole wheat)

LUNCH
Any size Salad (chef, caesar, garden...)
1 serving tea
Any amount of water

DINNER
Grilled salmon
Small salad
Cauliflower
OR
Shrimp over romaine with grape tomatoes
Small fruit salad
Asparagus

Cut out sodas and chips. Try to lower sugar a lot (unless you have blood sugar problems) and calories a little.

If you would like more ideas, or some recipes, go ahead and contact me.

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i am 17 and i have been dating my bf for 11 months at 8 months he asked me to marry him i said yes..then we talked about moving in a place i was thrilled..1 week before our 11 months we broke up(not seen eachother in 3 weeks) . he said he wanted to be single.two days later we got back together and that same day talked about our place again? whats wrong with him???who does that! isnt that wierd??advice

Maybe he just has commitment issues. I don't think he's trying to keep his options open, and it sounds like you are getting along fine. Maybe for him it was just too much too fast. Talk to him and see if he wants to wait another month or two before talking about moving in together again. I think that's all it is though, and I don't think that anything is wrong with your relationship.

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i need to know how to tone up my body, manly just the tops of my legs and my stomache, but the thing is i only have 2.5 weeks! please help me and tell me wht i can do, with only that amount of time! ill rate high!! thnx! let me know ASAP!!

Drink lots of water and cut out the empty calories (soda, chips...). Do lunges and cruches like mad. Also try leg lifts, lie on your back lift your legs slightly off the floor, and hold them there, or lift them slowly as high as you can, then very slowly back down.

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okay my boyfriend is turning 16 on the 15th of september... i know him very well but i have NO clue what to get him for his birthday!! i was going to get him a present or 2 and then put a bow around myself as another gift (stupid i know but his friend thought it would be a good idea) i've never gone shopping for a guy! does anyone suggestions on what to get him??

I've gotten some good ideas for my fiance from surprise.com. Maybe you should take a look. I've never bought anything directly from them, but I've gotten my ideas and then bought things from local stores.

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what is the chance of getting pregnant if a guy ejaculates and then fingers you if its on his finger?! please help me i need advice ASAP!

A pretty good chance, but there are several factors involved.

1) Did he finger you immediately afterwards? Sperm is not really hardy, but it can transmit this way.

2) Did he do this intentionally, or did he wipe off his hand first? If his hand was still wet, then there's a pretty good chance.

To be on the safe side, you may want to test.

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How do you de-stress?? I have been having the worst stressful days and I have been having horrible headaches as a result. I need to destress.

You could always try a nice guided yoga workout. I like to lay in a dark room and listen to either white noise or soft music with something cool on my eyes. My fiance plays video games to de-stress. The more stressed he is, the more violent the game. He also likes to go out on his back porch and scream, but that's just when he's really stressed.

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Ok..i'm a freshman in high school and i never kissed a girl before, but i have the feeling that this is gonna be the year that i get my first kiss. I'm scared that i'll do it wrong or something and i don't know where to put my hands. Any advice?

Relax, and be soft and gentle. If you're relaxed, it should just come naturally. Hold her close and take your time. And don't forget to breathe!

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i had sex like a few months ago...well ive gotten my period since..and its been on a regular schedual but this month it hasnt come...i havent got it!! im freaking out!! it usually comes at the verrrry end of every month n goes into the begining of the new month but this month is hasnt!! =( could i be pregnant since ive already had my period about 2-3 times since ive had sex?? =\

There is such a thing as implantation bleeding, where you bleed like a period when you're pregnant, but only once, not twice. I don't think that you are, but you might want to test just in case. The cheap ones are usually as good as the expensive ones. Good luck. I just had a baby, so feel free to ask me anything that you need to.

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My parents payed for me and my brother to go to a private school. It was really expensive but thank god we got insurance so some of the money will come back to us if we deside not to go. Well my brother and i ended up going to public school where it's free, the thing is that the private school won't let us get the money back unless we go there for 15 school days. I have been arguing with my parents saying that i just started to make friends at the public school, and things are really going my way. Going to the private school for 15 days will make it really hard to go back to the public school. I really dont know what to do cause it's a lot of money we will get back, yet i am really startin to fit in at the public school.

since this is long I will rate high!!!!!!!!!!

If your family is very wealthy, I wouldn't worry about it. But if you're a normal family, or if money is tight, I would definately do it. I would take the chance to get any money back at all, since most private schools that I know don't even offer the opportunity. If you are already fitting in so well, then I'm sure that you will slide right back into place when you come back.

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for over a month and we don't really live close to each other like a 40 min. drive to get to his house.. but I can't drive so.. I haven't seen him as much as I have wanted to but we talk on the phone alot.. (except for one night when i got totally blown off so he could go and play card with his friends.. which was deff not cool..) but now one of my guy friends is all like joking about stuff loving me and flirting with me and idk I feel bad cause he's a good friend but I know I like my boyfriend so much more.. yet the less I see of him and the more I see of my guy friend it gets really hard to handle sometimes and it's crossed my mind to dump my boyfriend but really think I might be starting to have stong feelings tords him... how do I get myself out of the situation with my guy friend without ruining our friendship?

I don't know how to handle the situation with your friend, but I wouldn't give up on the distance relationship just because you don't see each other. I am an hour and a half away from mine, and at the most we see each other every weekend, but usually more like twice a month. We've been together almost a year, and we recently got engaged. We talk every night like you and your boyfriend. I would only end the distance relationship if something goes wrong.

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I'm goiing into 8th grade and have never had a b/f and i think i no y. In school and in my neighborhood i'm constantly playing sports. I've always loved to be involved with the diff. kinds of sports and wen i'm playing(which is A LOT of the time) i'm mostly playing wit guys. So i've been known as "one of the guys" wen i'm playing basebal nd stuff. Since i like never do any of that gurlie stuff no guys have crushes on me(or even like me as a girl). Are there any ways I can SHOW them that Sports aren't my life and get them to take me seriously?

Just be yourself and keep doing the things that you enjoy, and eventually you will find a guy that likes you for what you do! I think that it is better for them to take you seriously playing sports than to think that you are something else. If they think that sports are your whole life, and their not, make a point of starting conversations about other things with guys. But if they want to talk about sports, then go ahead! Just don't try to change yourself for them, eventually there will be one that likes you for you.

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(14,female)I use to go out with this guy...we went out for about 5 months n we were really serious...but i dumped him for his best friend(who was also one of my exs)(who i never hooked up with actually) and well me and him didnt talk for about 3 months..then on tha last day of school he came over n stayed till about 11 pm n we sorta hooked up..and then we didnt talk again for a month and then just recently he came over like 3 weeks ago n we hooked up again n i havent heard form him since then! I called ihm tha other day but he was being a real jerk! and then he had to go and told me to call him tha next day which i didnt i called him 2 days later and now he goes out with this girl that i cant stand!!but both of tha nights he came over he said he didnt want a g/f over tha summer bc of highschool starting and all that stuff and that i was one of tha clostest ppl to him in his life and that he still loved but me n then he goes out with her! and ever since he started getting invlolved with her he has been a real jerk...hes been lying alot too n he never use to...Im not sure what to do?! I dont want to loose him bc hes a great b/f and friend but i cant stand his new g/f and hes been being a jerk...what should I do? Plz help thanx

He doesn't sound like he was being a great friend. Sounds like he's moved on and he was just telling you what he wanted to here so he could use you. I think you're better off, and that you should just spend time single or look for someone else.

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i have a friend from school who is petite and very underweight (by society's standards) but she sees herself as "fat" & no matter what anyone tells her she still tries to loose weight. shes only 80 something pounds! shes one of the skinniest people in school, and we're 15... and im scared it might become into an eating disorder. her parents want her to GAIN weight because she's so tiny for her size and can get hurt in sports. what can i possibly do or say to her because i've tried so many times...? (ps her parents are concerned and know about this, and they told ME to talk to her about it because she wont listen to them!)

She is the only person who came make herself change. Maybe try talking to a school counselor if one is available to get some ideas. Keep trying to talk to her, I think that you are right to be worried.

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Okay my best friend just told me shes bi..And im a girl to.I dont know what to do, should I still be her friend or should I like not be..Im kinda creeped out cause I dont want her to like hit on me or nething.What should I do? Im only 14 to what should I do

She's still the same person! Stay her friend, you would want her to be your friend if you told her something. If she does start hitting on you, say that you don't care for it. If that doesn't help, then you might want to consider new friends. Hopefully she'll be open to talking about your boundaries until you're both comfortable.

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heya im going to be a freshmen this year so its my first time in a public school. i was wondering if most people use backpacks or binders or w.e cause i heard that most people dont and i dont want to look outta place.. any comments would be helpfull and i rate well
~thnx~

It kind if depends on which school you're going to. As long as you don't buy one of those backpacks on wheels, or some other huge backpack, you should be ok. Either carry a neat bunder, or a cute medium or small backpack, and you should look fine.

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like...were do u stick a tampon in and like were is the like hole? i dunno there r many holes and i dunno which one is it sry i feel weird for askin...and were does the blood from ur period cum out of...i feel weird for asking ty!

The place you urinate from is really tiny, you can barely see it. The next hole is where your tampon goes, but if your hymen ("cherry") is still in tact, it may not look like a hole at all, though in some people it will anyway. If your hymen is still in tact, then the tampon will break it when you use it.

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ok well about a week ago ii got braces and on my bottom lip inside i have like this sore from them and the dentist sed i would for a few days but it hurts REALLY bad wen my braces hit it or i smile and i dont know what to do help!!!!

Go to the drugstore and try to find something that is numbing for mouth pain. Baby Oragel is a nice mild one. FYI, they all taste nasty, but it'll ease the pain until the sore goes away and you can get some wax.

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okay im not fator anything..im only 105 BUT like my stomach is so weird looking like its thin and tight then like rigt under my belly button theres this huge buldge..i hate it..how do i get rid of this? cuz like it looks so nasty its like all skinny then BAM this buldge/roll thing under my belly button..HELP!

Believe it or not, that's pretty common. Most women have a little pooch right there; it's the way we're built! If you really don't like it, try some variations on crunches. Exhale, crunch, and stay there for five seconds, then lower very slowly. Check with a good source to make sure your form is correct, or you'll be working the wrong muscles. Also, try joining a gym and telling them your area of concern. They should be able to tell you which machines to work on. (FYI: you won't get all buff unless you take steroids, you'll just get firm with cute little muscles.)

One more thing, sugars from foods cause pooch below the bellybutton. Check the sugar and carb content of the foods that you eat, and cut out some here and there, and you should notice it going away a little.

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my mom's boyfriend slept over the other night and one morning i woke up early to my mom closing my door and then a few minutes later i heard her moaning continuesly. it was so nasty and i knew i couldnt move or else she would know that i heard everything, so i had to sit there and listen. it's so disgusting but i dont know if i should tell her what i heard or just keep it a secret? i have no idea what would be best and what would make me feel better. what should i do?

You should not be forced to feel uncomfortable in your own house. If your relationship with your mom is open, then tell her. Otherwise, I would find other ways of letting her know. If you can hear them, then turn up your stereo really loud (if you have one). They should get the clue. If you can't tell her face to face, maybe leave her a note. This sounds gross, but maybe you can work something out where her boyfriend only stays the night when you're over at a friends house. I do feel that you should do something. Your mom may be embarassed that she was caught, but it's not fair to ask you to feel gross when you have as much of a right to be there as she does.

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When you are looking for a boyfriend..what are good trates to look for?

I look for a guy that is friendly and open. Honesty and trustworthiness are important, but kind of hard to tell right off the bat. Also, it's important to me that we have stuff to talk about and he can hold a decent conversation.

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