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i have a friend from school who is petite and very underweight (by society's standards) but she sees herself as "fat" & no matter what anyone tells her she still tries to loose weight. shes only 80 something pounds! shes one of the skinniest people in school, and we're 15... and im scared it might become into an eating disorder. her parents want her to GAIN weight because she's so tiny for her size and can get hurt in sports. what can i possibly do or say to her because i've tried so many times...? (ps her parents are concerned and know about this, and they told ME to talk to her about it because she wont listen to them!)
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What a heavy burden to put on little shoulders. Her parents should not be talking to you, they need to be trying to get her some help. Your friend has some issues that no one is aware of and those issues needs to be found out and addressed. There is nothing you can do for her. Her parents need to seek some help for her before she gets worse.
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This is beyond something you can do on your own. She is definitely sick and needs professional help. What you can do is continue to be such a wonderfully caring friend. Ask a doctor or counselor what you can do to help her. But tell her parents she needs to see a doctor.
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Hey there ... well, you should talk to your friend .... it'll help. 80 pounds .... my god, almost everybody I know is between 100 - 120 and they are soooooo tiny .... I could only imagine .... it sounds like an eating disorder to me .... talk to her ... talk to her parents about it some more .... maybe everyone together, talking to her about it, will help.
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i think this is an eating disorder already...email me tosietins99@yahoo.com
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sit her down one on one, just you and her, and tell her that what she is doing to her body is so unhealthy! you should get some pictures of anorexic ppl *you know the really sick skinny ones* print them out and show them to her. tell her that she's starting to look like that, and if she doesnt start gaining any weight that's what she's going to look like! and tell her that you're getting hurt from her trying to loose weight because you care about her a lot and you want her to live a long healthy life. because all she's doing to herself is killing herself. good luck with everying!
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Ok...talking to your friend about this WILL be hard. My friend had an eating disorder and i talked to her about it and now she is better she got help...professional help. Your friend my need the same...talk to her about and see what's up. If you notice her not eating or eating alot and going to the bathroom right after she eats...she could have two different types of eating disorders 1.anorexia, or 2.bulemia. If she has either of these she WILL MOST LIKELY NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP. _-_-_Amanda-_-_-
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get her alone and tell her compare her to like a supermodel like compare weight so her than she isnt fat and tell her u care about her and u dont want her to get worse and make her feel god like compare her to prettiest girls in school
i bet shes abot 5'6 5'7 120lbs blonde blue eyes get alota guys.show her that she isnt big or fat if u have a younger bro or sis they might weight more use them
well gl i hope she is ok
-matt-
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Hey, my old best friend had an eating disorder. She saw herself as fat she wasn't underweiht or anything but she wasn't over she was like perfect for her age. But she didn't see that first she was anerexic((don't eat anything)) and then we finally got her to eat she became bulemic((don't know how to spell it but it's when you eat, stick your finger down your throat and throw up))<--I'm sure you know this already but just making sure. Well her parents didn't know what was going on so we would threaten to tell them but she kept on doing it. This was during school so I was in every one of her classes so I kept a close eye on her I wouldn't let her go to the bathroom untill i knew the food was digested. But she still kept doing it so finally we went to the guidance counselor and they talked to her parents who got her help and now she eats fine she's the appropriate weight and everything is great! Well I am not sure if this was really the advice you were looking for and if it isn't I really am sorry :
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Hey umm i would invite her over alot and like get her to eat alot at ur house like buy lots of food or watever and if she comes over alot and u get her to eat alot of food at ur house, maybe she'll gain some weight?. hope i helped some! x 0 x kasey lynn x 0 x
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ok well your friend obviously has an eating disorder of some kind. if shes a 15 year old that only ways 80 somethin lbs. its defiantly not healthy and you need to talk to her. tell her that your scared and if she doesnt start eating then shes going to get professional help. if she doesnt listen, do exactly that. there are places u can call for people with friends that have eating disorders. tell your friend shes pretty and help her convince herself that when she looks in the mirror she doesnt not an overweight ugly person. plus if she thinks shes fat, and all of her friends are heavier or average weight then what is she thinking about them. let your friend know that its not healthy and shes defiantly not good.
i hope it all turns out ok!
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well tell her that ur scared nd that she dosnt need to loose weight nd she looks fine the wai she is nd tell her parents that they needa get her help or do somthin soon becasue if that turns into a eating disorder ...good luck xox
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She is the only person who came make herself change. Maybe try talking to a school counselor if one is available to get some ideas. Keep trying to talk to her, I think that you are right to be worried.
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