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i have this grl in my class n i really hate her but i dnt kno wut i should do about it plz help me
Ignore her. Go on with your life without her in it.
ok well I have been having problems at school and with friends. Well a couple of weeks ago a girl said she was gonna kick my ass and what not because ppl were telling her that i had been talkin bout her and i hadnt. Well we got everything straight and we became friends and i went out with her one weekend. Now she said that she was gonna kick my ass cause ppl have been telling her that i said i didnt really like her and the only reason i went with her was because I was scared of her and that i needed a ride and that is not true at all. I have never talked bad about her or anything. What should i do.
RUN!
Theres this one inparticular guy (16) that i REALLY like a lot. Ive known him for 2 years and we've been great friends and more. ne wayz, he has problems stayin commited and keeping to one girl. Every time we make out i find out from someone else that he has a girlfriend and I feel like Im helping him cheat. my sister says forget about him, but its not that easy. what do i do?
Your sister is right, you need to leave him alone because everytime he is out cheating he is not thinking about you.
Has anyone ever gone on a "water-diet"? nothing but water...ice/water...and then u eat something on the third day...?has anyone gone on this or know if it works??
Yes, it's called STARVATION!
i was dating this guy for about 3 months and things got pretty serious. we spent every day together and he would stay and my house and vice versa. his ex girlfriend called one night and he broke up with me to see if things would work with her and they didnt. he called about a month after we broke up and said that he made a huge mistake for breaking up with me cause i was the best thing that had ever happened to him. we got back together and things were great, actually better than ever or so i thought. one day when she called again he started getting weird again and told me that he once again needed time. i took all of my stuff from his house and said that i wasnt playing second best anymore. i gave him all i had and thought that this was it. that he was the one. and unfortunately im a mess over him. i know he treats me horrible in this situation but ive never been so inlove with someone before. and i dont know what to do. someone just help. please.
Can you not see that he is playing you? If you don't want to play second best, then why are you playing it? You will never be anything other than what you are to him, seconds!
Help yourself! leave him alone and someone that is meant for you will come along.
what is the chance of getting pregnant if a guy ejaculates and then fingers you if its on his finger?! please help me i need advice ASAP!
Any time ejaculation enters the vagina, there is always a chance, no matter how slim. Although I doubt it has happened but you never know. This is why I say PROTECTION! How long ago did this happen? Just be careful and keep track of the days up to your cycle. My advice, next time tell the guy to clean his fingers before he goes up there!
ok...here was my question before and thanks to all that answered it. "i was talking to this guy i like (he likes me too)about personal stuff, and he said that he was more submissive. and it was really random...do you think he was trying to tell me something, like getting me to make the first move? or was he just saying that."
well i asked him about hanging out and we've been trying to get together...but we cant find a time. and i dont know what to say anymore. i want to be able to say something like "hey since you like me and i like you lets seriously find sometime to hang out." but im the shyest person ever and dont know if i can bring myself to say that...if you have any suggestions that would be awesome! thanks
I know someone JUST like this. It is very hard to pin these type of men down,,literally. You will have to make the first move. You say you talk a lot about personal stuff; don't make it too personal because that is what got me into trouble. It turned out my 'personal' stuff got him thinking and he didn't want to take the chance. Just casually ask him when is he available to 'hang out'.
Okay i was just wondering....does it hurt to get your tounge belly-button or nose peirced? and is there like any way you could do it yourself without damagin anything?? and then also..if your like drunk or high or somethin....would it still hurt? and one last thing....does anyone know of any good sites thatll give you tips on how to do it yourself or information on it?? Thnkx alot!!
I see now that you have completely lost your mind. You should ALWAYS get this done by trained professionals. Infections are a major problems with these things. If you get drunk or high, it will not kill the pain....much. If you want to do this, use a professional.
i have a friend from school who is petite and very underweight (by society's standards) but she sees herself as "fat" & no matter what anyone tells her she still tries to loose weight. shes only 80 something pounds! shes one of the skinniest people in school, and we're 15... and im scared it might become into an eating disorder. her parents want her to GAIN weight because she's so tiny for her size and can get hurt in sports. what can i possibly do or say to her because i've tried so many times...? (ps her parents are concerned and know about this, and they told ME to talk to her about it because she wont listen to them!)
What a heavy burden to put on little shoulders. Her parents should not be talking to you, they need to be trying to get her some help. Your friend has some issues that no one is aware of and those issues needs to be found out and addressed. There is nothing you can do for her. Her parents need to seek some help for her before she gets worse.
ok this is gonna sound sort of weird but lately i feel like i cant control anything really i cant control my heart or the way i look or the way i feel or any of that but i can control how much i eat im 5'6 going into 8 grade and i weigh 102 pounds and i just want to weigh 98 idk why but 2 me thats how i feel i should look so i just stopped eating basicially i mean its 2 and i havent had anything to eat today ill probally eat a little bit but not alot and i always feel like im getting fatter and stuff i just dont want to look like me anymore... i hate the way i look but idk why i feel like this i have the best boyfriend i could ever ask for great friends great family i guess i just feel like i have to be perfect for everyone and i think thats how everyone wants me to look so thats what im going to do i guess should i weigh less than 98? how much weight should i loose?
You are at a very low weight already. The question I have for you is, how do you want to look? You say you want to be perfect for everybody but you don't say what you want to do for yourself. You are going into 8th grade so that should make you about 13? You should be going through a lot of changes as you are going into your teenage years. Listen, you are PERFECT. You don't need to lose anything, only your depression and that should lift a lot of unwanted weight off your shoulders.
It's Kevin1986 here with a problem and a couple of questions. I'm friends with two guys,let's say D and J. J used to go out with a girl that I'm very close with,but not dating,although I'd like to. He's pretty obessive,talking about her all the time. Anyway,D used to like her too and they almost went out,but they had a falling out. About a year ago,a new guy,M,goes out with her. I don't care about M and neither do they. J and D want me to tell M that the girl he's going out with is a headtrip because their relationships with her didn't work. I say,it's his bed and it's job to determine whether his girl is crazy or not. I say D and J want me out of the way so they can get her,because I know she'd hate me forever if I tried to break up her relationship. Since I care about her,I want her to be happy even if it's not with me. Your thoughts on this issue? P.S I never really considered telling M this,but I want your opinions on what the real story is.
If they are so 'concerned' why don't they tell this guy about her. Chances are they are not 'concerned' about his situation at all. They don't want him to succeed where they failed. This is nobodys business but the 2 people involved. Leave it there.
I don't know where to begin with so much going through my mind and my heart except to get directly to the point, which I'm sure you would appreciate. How do you stop loving and caring for someone that means so much to you when you don't even know how the relationship ended to begin with? I guess that's a pretty wide open question huh Doctor? Can you even relate to what I'm talking about because to tell you the truth I am so baffled at this point, things in my everyday life aren't even making sense to me anymore. It's like I'm just going through the motions everyday, but at the end of the day not really remembering too much of anything except the constant, nagging pain in my heart, which is really unbearable. I am an adult female who thought she had a pretty good thing going with an adult male. THOUGHT being the key word here. No, everything was not always perfect, but what is? Nothing major that we couldn't handle. We seemed to make each other happy in all kinds of ways that you may not even be able to imagine. I still do believe that the love was mutual and not just one-sided, but maybe I was wrong. He told me he loved me and I believed him. Shouldn't I have believed him? Isn't that what love should be based on, trust? I actually "felt" the love and caring that he had for me so I know that it wasn't one-sided. I totally trusted this man, with my life, literally. We had constant, daily communication that one day just abruptly came to a halt. And I do mean a screeching halt! Not a halt on my part either, but his. With no explanation in any form he just no longer shared any type of communication with me whatsoever. What's that all about? We had a little communication problem the night before everything ended and I was in a position where I could not make him fully understand what all was taking place, no I was not with another man or anything remotely like that, I was just in a position that made it impossible for me to talk at that moment> Let me stop there because I know that's not making sense to you. However I never got the chance to tell him what the whole deal was. And it doesn't look like I ever will. That was the last night that I ever talked to him. I love this man so much more than I ever thought that I possibly could love someone and I know that we would have been so good together and I know that he knows that too. What's the problem then you might ask? As I stated before, he will not answer any of my calls, he no longer calls me, and I don't really know what to think. I do know that he is a very open minded caring person and this just isn't like the man I fell in love with to not let me know what the problem is, so what do I do? Please don't tell me to just simply ask him what happened because like I said, he will not take my calls or contact me. How can anyone be that cold-hearted? He has totally broke my heart, broke my spirit, and yanked my soul right out! The biggest problem that I have is not understanding what happened! Surely you can understand that? He has to know that doesn't he? You can't possibly be in constant contact with someone throughout the entire day, every single day, and then one day just stop all communications and not expect them to question what the hell happened. Obviously he just doesn't want anything to do with me, that's a no-brainer. But until he tells me so and tells me why, how can I ever have any closure with the relationship, or even have any peace for my ever so confused, battered, busted up heart? I miss him terribly. I guess I got that point across pretty well already. On the flip side of this sad, but true story - Right in sync with him just totally ignoring me, this is unreal, but true, all of these men out of my past and some that have been trying to go out with me or come into my life all called in a one-week period. Sad, but true, I'm just not interested. How can I be even remotely interested anyway when nothing has been resolved with him. I will not be interested in anyone in that same way again because I know in my heart that he is the one for me, I know it, and he knows it too. Or maybe not? How do I find out what went wrong when it's impossible to ask anyone a question when they simply won't talk to you? Now how cold is that? Doesn't everyone deserve that much? I know they do, and yes, I know people don't always get an explanation even though there always is one. I don't know how to make you understand that he is just not that "typical" person that just leaves people's hearts hanging without an explanation, or maybe I just have him figured all wrong. Am I a total fool? If so then I'm a fool in love. If that is the case and I am to never get an answer, how do I go on? I can't keep walking around everyday crying, in a freaking daze, with real pains in the pit of my stomach as well as my heart. All of the people who know me know that I smile all the time and am for the most part a happy person always trying to bring a smile to others. But since that day, they all ask me where my smile is, where's that sparkle in my eyes, where's my spunk, where's my love for life? I'm not going to get it back until I know what happened. What do I do? How does one stop loving when they don't even know what went wrong? How do you ever get your mind, heart, and soul "together" again? How do you ever trust again? How do you stop the very real pain? I am a grown woman and this was not a little crush. I took it very seriously as he told me he did too. I did things for him that I had never done for anyone else to try and please him, which ultimately pleased me in doing so. As you can tell my thoughts are all over the place. And like I said I don't see how I can "pull myself together" without answers. This is really, really rough and I don't think he gets that or he would talk with me, right? What to do? How to cope? When does the pain stop? Why did this happen? Why can't I get any answers? How to trust again? When I commit to something or to someone, I really try to give it my all, which is why I get hurt so easily. That, I can answer.
Signed; Desperately Seeking An Answer
You never stated how long ago this was; was it recent? or a few months ago. It makes a difference because if it was just a week or 2, chances are he will communicate when he gets ready but if it was a few months ago, I would have to tell you, try to find out what happened but don't be surprised if you don't. This happened to me and we were married and I had the exact same questions you have. Every day was like death and I couldn't understand how the world kept moving when my world was falling apart. It was a year after my divorce that he told me why. You need closure to what, you will never know until he is ready to talk. But, life will go on and you will go forward. I never thought I would but I did.
i need help. i like my best friend. and im not sure if he likes me. and i really like him. he says if we go out it could ruin our relationship. but hes went out with almost all of his best friends.i want his so bad. i havnt had a boyfriend for a long time, and this could be my chance PLEASE DONT DELETE I NEED HELP IM SO CONFUSED!
You say he had past relationships with others who were best friends and look at what happened. Take a lesson from that. He apparently don't have any luck moving from best friends to boyfriend/girlfriend.
Hey, i hope someone can help me out. I'm gonna try and make this as short as i can. I'm 17 and me and my boyfriend just recently became sexually active the 17th of July. We had sex about 3 times and used protection all 3 times. The condom did not break and i'm pretty sure about that because we checked. My last period was on the 6th for like 3 days and i normally have a full 7 day period. It was a little weird. I had sex "after" my period and it was my first time. Anyway, today is the 15th and i still haven't started my period. I have had irregular periods before but i'm just really worried. I have taken two pregnancy test in the past two weeks and they both have came out negative. They weren't cheap tests either.. (E.P.T Certaincy) I've been really.. stressed out about this situation. I've lost sleep and i think about it day in and day out. The only time i never really think about it is at work when i'm busy. Could i be just stressin my self out and causing my period to be late? I'm really confused.. some people say that when you first have sex it can cause your period to be 2 or 3 weeks late. Is that true? I would like to hear from someone about this please. Thank you.
I'm pretty sure you are not pregnant, just stressed out. You actually answered your own question, you have irregular periods...It's great that you use protection!
I seriously think I might have a problem. I'm goign otu witht his boy and I totally love him. I know I do. The only problem is, once guys start likign me alot and really falling for me I start ebcomign a total bitch. I'll say things on purpose to piss them off or to get them upset. I can't understand why. This isnt the only relation ive been in. Ive been in one for about a year before too and i did the same thing. I'm 18 too. any ideas why this is happening? its kidna like i cant stop either. im starting to think im evil or sumthing.
Maybe you have commitment problems. When things seem to be going good, you get worried and start messing it up before he does. You are not evil, you are probably just not ready for anything serious.
Alright guys.. I dont want you to think i'm some kind of hoe.. or pervert.. But.. here goes.. I'm starting to have feelings for this kid... I won't mention a name.. But.. hes 15 I think. He's a friend of my sisters. I know he likes me... and I'm 17.. I dont know what to do! someone! Please help me!!
You are not a pervert but he is a minor. Leave it alone!
Hey every1! im new to this site! well..I'm 14 and I live in Utah. I have this white discharge that my mom said it will go away once I get my period but I have had my period for at least a year. Is this discharge normal?
Help!
Discharge is normal but your mother should take you for a check up just to play it safe.
hey okay well i have been going out with my boyfriend for only about a month...well he has only been my like 3rd realy relationship and the only guy outta them 3 that i really really like. in my past ive always been known not to be the girlfriend type just someone to hook up with or do whatever with because everytime i see someone i like or they like me i just wanna hook up with them or do anything else. Im really scared that im gonna cheat on him and i don't want to because im actually starting to fall in love with him! what should i do?
Don't Cheat!
Over the summer I was a counselor at a camp with my friends. This other guy I know also was a counselor. He goes to my school and I started liking him. Turns out he likes me to (he told my friend). He says he doesn't want me to know (too late!) and he doesn't want to ask me out because asking people out is stupid to him. His last two girlfriends were both extremely popular and deemed the 'hotties'. I'm just worried he doesn't want to go out with me because I am not popular. Now I'm not a geek, I'm pretty high up there...but not as high as his ex-girlfriends. Any advice would help.
Well, I'm guessing that if he had girlfriends in the past, he had to have started somewhere...maybe he wants you to ask him out. And, if he told your friend, he wanted it to get back to you.
i had sex like a few months ago...well ive gotten my period since..and its been on a regular schedual but this month it hasnt come...i havent got it!! im freaking out!! it usually comes at the verrrry end of every month n goes into the begining of the new month but this month is hasnt!! =( could i be pregnant since ive already had my period about 2-3 times since ive had sex?? =\
No but may I just say....PROTECTION, PROTECTION,PROTECTION!