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i was dating this guy for about 3 months and things got pretty serious. we spent every day together and he would stay and my house and vice versa. his ex girlfriend called one night and he broke up with me to see if things would work with her and they didnt. he called about a month after we broke up and said that he made a huge mistake for breaking up with me cause i was the best thing that had ever happened to him. we got back together and things were great, actually better than ever or so i thought. one day when she called again he started getting weird again and told me that he once again needed time. i took all of my stuff from his house and said that i wasnt playing second best anymore. i gave him all i had and thought that this was it. that he was the one. and unfortunately im a mess over him. i know he treats me horrible in this situation but ive never been so inlove with someone before. and i dont know what to do. someone just help. please.
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I recently read a book called "He's just not that into you". It detailed all the stupid things men do, that basically tell you that they are trying to tell you that you are not it. A man that is in love with you and thinks you are the best thing that has happened to you does not leave you. He does everything he can to keep you. Men that want to be with you don't "need time", they need you. I realize you say that you have never been this "in love" before, but you have to stop and realize that you love yourself more. This is a stepping stone and you will feel this and more with someone who can reciprocate. Walking away now only makes you a stronger person that can stand up for herself, her rights and her wills. You also leave yourself single for a better man to realize how truly amazing you are. Sometimes its just easier to get over something when you realize that no matter what you feel, they don't feel it. Men aren't complicated like we make them, this guy just isn't that into you. Free yourself from this addiction to an emotional messed up man, to go be radiant and do things that make you happy.
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There is nothing you can do. You were a rebound fling and no matter what you do, you cannot change that. The only person who can is him and history shows that is unlikely. I would suggest you grieve your loss, move on and chalk this one up to something you try not to repeat in the future. Try sleeping with one of his friends if you want to keep his attention, but don't bank on having a true relationship with him again.
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Holy fucking crap if that happened to me I would casterate him, de-ovary-ate his ex, beat them repeatedly with a board and nail, and lock them up bleeding in a cold dark basement. Together of course, so that they can ironically have the last moments of thier life together. How romantic.
If he needs to break up with you to try it again with his ex, he probably doesnt love you any more than he loves her.
The best advice for situations like this, dump the asshole, never take him back, and get revenge. If you decide to stay with him, still get revenge.He is probably jsut good with words. Stop being pushed around. Even reading this gets me so angry at him, for doing that, his ex for being a bitch and you for not doing anyhting.
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dont let him walk all over you..it seems to me that hes still very much in love with this ex of his, and it seems to me that shes playing games with his head also as he is doing to yu. dont take him back this time no matter how much it hurts..and yeh it will hurt, but just remember that at least yu wont get even more hurt by being the 2nd person anymore!! tell him that hes not ready for the kind of relationship your willing to give to him..tell him that you love him, but you wont take being the side person anymore. tell him that yu wuld never do that kinda thing to him so let him get back with his ex..and if she leavez him again, oh well!! thatz his fault..cuz if he wuz really sure he wanted to be with yu and everything then he wuld have NO problem tellin the other girl to back off!!
good luck, drop me a line if yu need any more help
-ash
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get back together with him and after a day get your ex to call you and tell him you need space that way hell know what it feels like the jerkk
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it seems like he's not ready for a commited relationship. he's still trying to play the field and if that doesn't work out he'll know you'll always be there. you should give him time and when he's ready to be commited then you should start seeing him again. good luck.
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Okay hun just calm down and i can tell you really love him and if you and him were suppose to be together then you would be together right now or you both will get back together again. I think you did the right thing by breaking up with him and i clap for you for that! Your just going to have to do nothing except try to get over him.
-Katie
....if you need anything else just ask me.
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well i think yooh did the right thing .. he cnat jus do that to yooh .. well i think yooh should jus let it go .. its not worth it but it is goin to take time to get over .. butus try your hardest to get ver it .. keep yourself busy .. well i hope i helped im me if yoh need help ..
[LyL qT x lOnLY ] *megan
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Your right he was putting you on second base, and until he's ready for a real relationship you dont need him. Try getting out there with your friends, remember the more your out there the better the chance of finding a better boyfriend. good luck..
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ok, it's only been three months, and he treated you like complete trash the entire time you were supposedly "in love".
Get over him, you were never "in love" with him, you were infatuated with having a cuddle buddy. Go find someone who actually deserves your time, and get some self esteem and don't let people walk all over you like this guy has.
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Well for one thing, it was great that you told him you weren't playing second best anymore. If you hadn't of said that, who knows, he might keep coming back. It's understood how you feel; being in love with someone so much, and when they treat you bad, you just love them even more. A lot of people would tell you to get over him because he's not worth it. Yeah, that could be true in a sense, but it's not like it's wrong to love someone like that. We know it's hard just to decide NOT to love someone anymore. Maybe if you confront him, and tell him exactly how you feel, you'd feel better. Just remember to never lose hope, because there's always a chance. Don't wait for him or anything, but you might always love him, and that happens. You'll probably have feelings for him until you meet someone new. Always have faith!
.:*Em&xTina*:.
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If he keeps on treating you like that, then he really isnt the one for you. Instead of wwondering if you can get it back, yuo have to leave him. How can you have a relationship with someone who has feeling for another girl? If you go back out with him, then your both in denile, and the next time she wants him back, she won. If you tell him its over, then you have won. Dont let that stupid hormonal thing take you over!! Belive you me, sometimes you think you love him, but hony, you may not understand it fully. Give it sometime!!
Hope I helped...
ALissa
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o geeze lmao... im in the same excaet boat well i was lol.. not ne more.. me n my x are back to gather and happy now ne way.. i hink u should try to get over him turthfully thats the best ur gonna do.. i dont know him so i can't tell u if hes gonna do it again but if hes done it twice for the same girl.. i think u outta let him go.. i kno u love him and everything and i know how hard it is.. to let go... i know how it feels to be so in love with someone and them just take ur heart and abuse it.. so pelase dont think i dont understand im just saying O GET OVER HIM cause thats no where near wut im telling u.. its gonna be hard.. hang out with friends that amke u laugh.. and then at nites.. wen ur not with them and u feel like ur gonna cry or u wanna call him don't call let him call u ur not a poodle... be nice and stuff but let him call u dont chace him.. but if u ever need ne one to talk my sn for aim is :silentxtears22 i can talk ne time almost im always on either with an away message up or talking.. so if im not able to talk u can just leave a message IM lmao w/e u wanna call it.. so don't worry everything will be ok.. an im here if u need to talk.. cause i kno excautly how hard this is.. good luck and remeber if u ever need to talk u got my sn :-P * smooches _x0x - aMbii
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Hun, I know that you're in love but sweetie this guy totatlly left you for his ex girlfriend to me shes the one playing games if they keep spliting up and everything to me i think that you need to just forget him yeah i know its hard, but at some point i know you realize this now but he treated you like shit and you know this with this whole thing and to me no girl deserves that if you need someone to talk to im here for ya my AIM-Untouched926 or just put on in the inbox i hope i kinda helpd
-Cass-
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If you keep letting him treat you this way, you'll always be second best. You need to try to find someone else that will put you first.
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Can you not see that he is playing you? If you don't want to play second best, then why are you playing it? You will never be anything other than what you are to him, seconds!
Help yourself! leave him alone and someone that is meant for you will come along.
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Hey okay wow he deffinity sounds like he dosent kno what he wants, witch can hurt you... but not just you his ex. gurl friend 2 dont go back to him he just wants a fall back gurl let him fall on his ass then see what he dose.. hope i helped babe see ya lata!!
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I know EXACTLY how u feel! Im actually having the same experience right now. I havent called him for a while, and if he does I tell him that if I am going to hang with him that its only gunna be a friend to friend basis. He understood becuz he knew that he was using me when he had no one better. I think you should do the same becuz Im starting to get over it now that I know we're just friends. AND if its possible for u find someone else who will put you fist in his life. Tell me how it works out!
xo' Jessica
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You have a right to hurt. But no matter what the mistake was to take him back the first time. He is playing you and his EX. To me it sounds like they were never over each other, When she calls he says he wants to see if it will work out. I don't think that he is a heartless guy but I think that he needs to seriously get over her because how many times will it take him to find out that they will not work. If you stand there for him each time he finds out that she is not the one your going to have one messed up heart. Right now you need to try as much as you can to get over him. I would enjoy going out with your friends and doing things that make you happy. Maybe nothing will make you happy but just try. don't stay home all the time and feel sorry for yourself (even if you REALLY want to) You have to tell yourself that you two were not meant for eachother. You may feel that he was the one but he ovbiosly is not over her and if her comes back to you BEGING you to take him back, stand your ground and say no. He has broken your heart and he has gone back to her TWICE.
Sorry for your broken heart, I hope it heals fast and you can find the right guy for yo uthat you deserve.
Don't force yourself to date right away if your not ready. just give yourself time for you heart to heal.
*Hugs*
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kat
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u may think that this is "tha 1" but "tha 1" wouldnt treat u like that..if he cared bout u he would have cared enuf 2 ask u how u feel n not be so selfish...he isnt tha 1 so find some1 else...dont let him kno that u feel this way or he will take advantage of u as long as he can...
start datin otha guys again!!!
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jessica
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Aww! I'm sooo soRRie to heaR that!! And actually, I am VERY suRpRised by youR good attitude! Most giRls come heRe and whine and complain about how he's cheated on heR 10 times and wondeRs if she should go back. I find it veRy RefReshing that theRe aRe some TOUGH giRls out theRe who know betteR than to take someone else's shit!!! I think you weRe Right by walking away. He can't keep playing these little games. I know it'll be tough, but I think you should foRget about this guy! Second best is neveR enough; you'll do much betteR on youR own. One of my favoRite quotes is : "If you love two, you don't love eitheR one enough". I just don't think he's not woRth youR time -OR- youR teaRs! And what's the point in being in a Relationship with him if he's only going to huRt you. And think about it this way... Relationships aRe RecipRocal - they'Re *not* just one-sided. It's a 50-50 Responsiblity fRom B.O.T.H paRtneRs.. if one doesn't chip in theiR all.. theRe's no point in caRRying out the Relationship. It's like.. why give youR heaRt to someone who won't give you theiRs??? Just keep youR head up, and push foRwaRd.. you don't need this guy, and you can do much betteR without him!! I wish you the veRy best!! Hope I helped!! =D
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Ok this guy isnt worth it. If every time his ex calls hes going to drop you and think he can pick you back up... well he cant. Once is enough... Seriously if you go back a second time he might once again think its alright and that you will always be there. I mean he might like you back and everything but maybe you should give it some time and let him actually realize what he is missing, instead of going back so easy (kind of like hard to get :)) If he comes back I guess you can go back one more time at your own risk. But hun dont go back a 3rd time. Maybe you two should talk about things. Or maybe hes just not the right guy. Best wishes
-holly-
hope i helped
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Eh. This on'e a hard one. It seems as though he's using you! (Wow I'm the master of the obvious, aren't I?)You might have really liked him, but he was using you! Find a guy you like just as much, that will treat you right. Maybe if you still can't get this guy out of your head, offer to be friends with him. So you wouldn't beak up a relationship with a good guy.
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This has happend to me, its actually kinda freaky. My exboyfriend dumped me for his old gf and then wanted me back. I went with him and he ended up dumping me again like 2months later. Well now were just friends and its 10 times better. Dating a guy after he dumps you for someone else is kinda messed up. It's totally not worth it.
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Everytime you think about getting back together with him just think about all those times he ditched you for the other girl, think to yourself "you know i deserve better for this and im not gonna do it again" just think stuff like that everytime the thought of going back out with him comes up, theres a better guy out there for you somewhere, just keep looking :-)
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