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I'm 14/f. Yesterday I found out that one of my closest guy friends likes me in a romantic sense. Let's call him "Jordan." He has liked me for possibly a year. We have been friends since we were 2 years old. I have just recently, a month ago, started liking him in a romantic sense. My problem is that I did like another guy let's call him "Dave" for a year and a half. I fell hard for him. I only saw him once over the summer. I have since stopped liking Dave as much as I used to. Possibly because I haven't seen him, and possibly because I have just gotten over him. I don't like Jordan as much as I used to like Dave. Jordan asked me out and I am afraid to say yes in the event that I see Dave and fall head over heels for him again. I like the friendship that me and Jordan share. I don't want any awkwardness between us. I get EXTREMELY nervous around guys that like me. What should I do? Should I go out with Jordan and hope for the best? Or should I say I want to stay friends? I feel that knowing that we like each other is enough and that it also leaves the possibility open to dating and a relationship. I should also mention that I have never had a real boyfriend before. Sorry this is so long, but I could really use some good advice. (link)
i think you should go for it...because i mean what happens if you dont and "Dave" and lets say "Shawanda" started going out and doesnt even talk to you anymore or even act like you exist and then "Jordan" starts going out with lets say "Tanisha" THEN YOU ARE ALL ALONE AND WILL BE A BITTER OLD WOMAN WHO NEVER HAD ANYONE EVER AND DIES ALONE


I don't know what to wear for the first day of school. I don't really have a great sence of style and i was wondering if you could help me. My hair is brown and eye brown and i am 5'2. Got any good styles for that??? (link)
uhhhhh wear jeans and a cute shirt


after summer 2003...my boyfriend broke up with me that summer...I thought we were for real...well that following year I was starting 7th grade...I started losing faith in everything and everyone...I started skippin school, gettin in fights, hating everyone, getting lower grades than usual...I thought there was no life beyond my ex boyfriend...I never actually prayed...I'd do it everyonce in a while...and then I'd always have second thoughts towards "him" cuz even when i think positive and pray nothing ever happens for better than for worse...how do I start trusting and believing "he" IS there? (link)
what the freakk?!?!?! you were in 6th grade...he wasnt like your soulmate you dork..soo uhh maybe stop before you end up pregnant and a highschool drop out who sells her kids child support for drugmoney! NOW!


i dont have a boyfriend for my prom and i dont have any friends that are guys (or girls) to go with either ... I know its early but Im not gonna get a b/f cause i dont really want one but i want ot go to prom but nor alone!! help (link)
okayy are you like people-a-phobic or something?!?! go out and make some friends?! why you dont have any isnt cool cuz then you get lonely soo go and dont be shy or ill come hunt you down and make you go with me ha jk but seriously go make friends!


i am 13/f & im not sure what masterbating is? can you tell me??? i think i masterbate but i dont know what it is? or fingering myself doesnt give me, much please what all can i do to help me, feel better? and give me orgasisms? i rub it too but that gets boring, what can i do other than that to make it feel good? please help & i rate high! (link)
uhhhh why are you doing this...okay listen studies show that ppl cant even have orgasms until theyre like 16-18..soo uhh give your lower half a break and stop cuz its probably not to happy with you and if your not careful it may run away


Me n my bfz 1 year iz in october but so iz his birthday so im tryna start to save up sum money to get him sumtin but i dont only wanna get him sumtin i wanna like make him sumtin really nice and cute n e ideas?!?!?!?!??!



hmmm.... (link)
next time speak english when asking a question


OK im 18 years old, and ive never had a girl friend before. Is there something wrong with me that girls wouldn't approach me or is it something that i have to do. My pics are at www.faceparty.com/dozzer check it out and tell me what you think please. It really sucks being alone. (link)
Why don't you try approaching them?


okay im 17 years old and after my last relationship( with a guy i fell in love with)i havent been able to find anyone that i can go out with and not think about and compare them to him what should i do (link)
Fuck his brother....that way he'll definately be off your mind


i was dating this guy for about 3 months and things got pretty serious. we spent every day together and he would stay and my house and vice versa. his ex girlfriend called one night and he broke up with me to see if things would work with her and they didnt. he called about a month after we broke up and said that he made a huge mistake for breaking up with me cause i was the best thing that had ever happened to him. we got back together and things were great, actually better than ever or so i thought. one day when she called again he started getting weird again and told me that he once again needed time. i took all of my stuff from his house and said that i wasnt playing second best anymore. i gave him all i had and thought that this was it. that he was the one. and unfortunately im a mess over him. i know he treats me horrible in this situation but ive never been so inlove with someone before. and i dont know what to do. someone just help. please. (link)
get back together with him and after a day get your ex to call you and tell him you need space that way hell know what it feels like the jerkk


My apartment is really dust. I'll vacume and dust my coffee table, and 10 minutes later there is a thin layer of dust again. I don't like the idea of breating all that in.

I am thinking of getting a hepa filter but I know little about them. Does anyone have any experiance with one or any other tips to rid myself of this dust? (link)
how bout you move outta that shithole apartment and get one that doesnt have dust everywhere


I was at the beach last week walking around bearfoot. Now my feet are pealing like crazy and look just awful. Is there anything I can do for them? (link)
start wearing shoes maybe and GET SOME LOTION


I keep my computer on pretty much 24 hours a day. It doesn't really seem to be a problem. But earlier today I went to check my computer and it had a blue tint over everything. It has done this before, but last time I just refreshed the desktop, and it went back to normal. This time, I've tried refreshing it and restarting it and it doesn't seem to want to go back to normal. I don't know what I did to make it go blue, and it's a very pretty blue, but I would like to have my normal screen back.

Does anyone have any idea what could be going on? (link)
maybe your computer is depressed and so its blue so leave him alone before he jumps into the bathtub with you one night and you both die


Alright. I just moved to Tucson from New York. Well, I got a really scary call from one of my friends in New York today. These really ghetto gangster chicks that we used to hang out with have turned against us and they know I'm coming back this winter and they're planning on beating the fuck out of all of us. They always show up at Ericas and Brittanys houses and threaten them and shit and tell them they can't wait until I can back so they can see all of us dead. I'm really scared because I know what they can do. (link)
call the cops you idiot...and dont go back there unless you really want to die...


OK so theres this new boy at school and like i talked to him before i talked to him at school online... and hes really nice n stuff and last nite we had our first football game! and then afterwards there was this party at my friends house so i invited him to come... he did and we had soo much fun, but i think he likes my friend Michelle, like followed her around n stuff... and like talked to her the most but hes just sooo great and perfect like he got up and danced in a cirle and he doesnt even like know ne one.. like hes the new kid! i love his confidence and how he acts and i dunnno but then my x boyfreind was there and he was like sorta mad at me for like being with the new kid... and my x is like my best friend... but he broke up with me! but i really really like the new kid a lot! so how do u think i should deal with this? (link)
sorry i didnt get done reading it...okayy i think you shouuld just be like hey dude you broke up with me and i really like this guy and if you have a problem with that well then im sorry so its either you let me see what happens with the new kid or go....there are tons of other guys probably wanting to be your friend...and trust me i had to do this exact same thing...and im not just saying that i really did...and the guy was a jerk and was like fine ill go...well then he came back and was liek listen i really wanna be friends im sorry soo i hope i helped...


is it bad to want you parents to get a divorce? because you dont really like your dad or something? cause i feel bad, but i kinda want them to split up :( i feel really bad... (link)
thats awful and your gonna go to hell for thinking that


hi im a 13/m and i dont masturbate by like just putting my hand around "it" and pushing or w/e i just take a pillow or w/e and sorta push on that (sorry if thats 2 graffic). is that abnormal or not? (link)
uhhhhh why are you telling ppl this?!


ok my bff just stop bein friends with her old bff her old bff hates me she always puts me dowm and makes me wanna stab her she also calls my cell and says "ur ugly im pretty u need to die gay loser biotch" wat should i do??? i really need help or it will go on forever!!!!!!!!!!! plzz help.....thanx!! (link)
you should tell her to fuck off and call the cops for harrasment




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