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I'm 14/f. Yesterday I found out that one of my closest guy friends likes me in a romantic sense. Let's call him "Jordan." He has liked me for possibly a year. We have been friends since we were 2 years old. I have just recently, a month ago, started liking him in a romantic sense. My problem is that I did like another guy let's call him "Dave" for a year and a half. I fell hard for him. I only saw him once over the summer. I have since stopped liking Dave as much as I used to. Possibly because I haven't seen him, and possibly because I have just gotten over him. I don't like Jordan as much as I used to like Dave. Jordan asked me out and I am afraid to say yes in the event that I see Dave and fall head over heels for him again. I like the friendship that me and Jordan share. I don't want any awkwardness between us. I get EXTREMELY nervous around guys that like me. What should I do? Should I go out with Jordan and hope for the best? Or should I say I want to stay friends? I feel that knowing that we like each other is enough and that it also leaves the possibility open to dating and a relationship. I should also mention that I have never had a real boyfriend before. Sorry this is so long, but I could really use some good advice.
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well wow that sounds a LOT like me.. so im gonna tell you out of my experience. go out with jordan.. cause if you dont he might stop liking you. and that would really suck if you saw dave and you didnt feel anything there anymore. but by any chance, you see dave and the same feeling come back, then just tell jordan exactly whats going on. and if hes a true friend he wont hastle you to stay with him or quit being friends over it. hope i helped!
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youve known "jordan" for a while so you should know if he is good to his girlfriends,(honest and whatnot) so go out with him.
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Go out with "Jordan".
-xXoBrianna
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i think you should go for it...because i mean what happens if you dont and "Dave" and lets say "Shawanda" started going out and doesnt even talk to you anymore or even act like you exist and then "Jordan" starts going out with lets say "Tanisha" THEN YOU ARE ALL ALONE AND WILL BE A BITTER OLD WOMAN WHO NEVER HAD ANYONE EVER AND DIES ALONE
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maybe u should stay single and juss see what happens when school starts cuz like u said u dont want to mess up things with jordan cuz uve known him forever! juss see what happens this year! =D
*jesikuh
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ok well I've been in this situation before..and what I did was wait for "Dave" but then I realized that I would never get a chance with "Dave" so I was hurt because by the time I realized "Dave" wasn't interested "Jordan" was already with someone else...so take a chance with "Jordan" no matter what your friendship will always be close! but if you find out that "Dave" is interested take a chance with "Dave" I hope this works..
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go out with him and hope for the best
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stay and be friends for a little while. you should tell him that you feel that knowing you guys like each other is enough and that it can always leave a possibility of you 2 starting a relationship. since you're worried about likeing dave again you wouldn't feel right in your relationship with jordan. before you start anything with him make sure you have no feelings wat so ever left for dave.
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