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What's the deal?
It's Kevin1986 here with a problem and a couple of questions. I'm friends with two guys,let's say D and J. J used to go out with a girl that I'm very close with,but not dating,although I'd like to. He's pretty obessive,talking about her all the time. Anyway,D used to like her too and they almost went out,but they had a falling out. About a year ago,a new guy,M,goes out with her. I don't care about M and neither do they. J and D want me to tell M that the girl he's going out with is a headtrip because their relationships with her didn't work. I say,it's his bed and it's job to determine whether his girl is crazy or not. I say D and J want me out of the way so they can get her,because I know she'd hate me forever if I tried to break up her relationship. Since I care about her,I want her to be happy even if it's not with me. Your thoughts on this issue? P.S I never really considered telling M this,but I want your opinions on what the real story is.
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If they are so 'concerned' why don't they tell this guy about her. Chances are they are not 'concerned' about his situation at all. They don't want him to succeed where they failed. This is nobodys business but the 2 people involved. Leave it there.
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I think D and J are just jealous of M and i dont think you should let them drag you into this because then there really wont b a chance for you two. i think you whould (at the right time of course) let her know how you feel about her but dont come on to strong especially if she's still going out with M at the time. But like you said if you and her are very close dont try to ruin her relationship with M otherwise your friendship will most likely b over as well as any chance you have with her.
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Ok if you really care about this person you will not try and ruin her relationship at all. You should let her have a relationship and if anything is meant for u two it'll happen.
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i think D & J stright up jealous.. its obv. to see. yea i think you should let M figure it out himself and if J and D really want M to know that then maybe they should get some balls & do it themselves hope i helped.. <3 hAlEy
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I think that if D & J have feelings about it, they should be the ones telling M, not you.. Even though you are their friend, its not worth getting into and having your friend thats a girl and your close to get hurt..I basically think the same way as you do, its for the guy to find out..He can learn his own lesson just as D & J did and maybe it will be different for M.. Most likely not; but you never know.. Just be supportive for the girl, and if i were you i wouldnt say anything.. just let things take happen as fate would... Hope everything works out <3 Paris Marie
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D and J are just being weird. I think that they are in the "If I can't have her, then no one can have her." mode. I can't believe they are both doing this. I would absolutely stick with the not telling M. D and J need to turn their attentions somewhere else.
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I think that J and D r tellin u to do that so that girl has sumthing against you... if she really was crazy u would know... if they think shes a crazy why dont J and D tell M themselves... why r they tellin u to do it... doesnt make much sense other than they want this girl to dislike u
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A million possiblities on what the real story is. I think though, that your side seems pretty liable though. The thing that really gets me is..they don't give a damn about M...so why would they give a damn about trying to save him from her? That isn't logical. And breaking her up to get her is a bad way of going about anything. All one can do is sit back in the shadows and lust from a distance. Besides...when she breaks up with M...:D -Sorry, it's late. But I'll have better ideas tommorow.- Hope my opinion made sense.
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Well it is great that you want her to be happy, reguardless if she is with you or not. That shows that you have maturoty. I'm sure you have considered telling this M guy about the girl, but I think you should stick with sataying out of it. Be the bigger person and just mind your business. like you said, its his bed, let him lay in it.
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