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My name is McKenzie and I'm a freshman at Reedley College, I love to help people out with problems and to write. I want to be a writer someday. I love to make friends. Ask any question and I'll attempt to answer it.

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Sorry this is kinda long but I need the help!

Last night me and a couple of my friends were hanging out with some guy friends from school at a football game. And during the game I realized that I liked the one guy as a little more than a friend. And now I want to go out with him. But the problem is I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me. (and im not the kinda girl that just likes asking him if he does). Him and one of his other friends were seeing who could get more hugs (kinda childish i know) but I kept giving the hug I like hugs and everything along with one other friend. One of his friends said that he should go out with one of us and alls he said was 'they all like me too much.' So my question is what should I do I really want to go out with him? Or what can I do to get him to like me as more than a friend? Or whatever else suggestions you got I'd like the help!
Thanx

Well to get him to like you more as a friend, talk to him more and go out of your way to smile at him, make him feel part of the group and that kind of stuff. It may happen in the near future you never know! Good luck! Hope I helped!

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first time you have sex is it better to have it with a virgin or a already experienced guy?

Well if you do have sex with a virgin, you both don't know what to expect. If you do it with an expirenced guy, he'll know what to expect and how to guide you. Hope I helped!

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If your spouse passes away, when is it appropriate to take off the wedding ring? I realize that this is dependant on the specific individual, so if I may rephrase this:

How do you know when it's TIME to take off the wedding ring.. if there IS a such a "time"?

Do it when your ready to forget. There's no approiate time for it its just when your ready to see other people or when you feel ready. Hope I helped!

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Over the summer I lost about 10 lbs. And considering I was only 150 lbs to begin with, I'm now extreamly thin. I didn't lose the weight on purpose, I was just sick of like 3 weeks and I couldnt eat much at all. Well I really need to gain that weight back but the problem is that I'm a cheerleader so I'm constantly moving adn working out which obviously doesn't help with gaining weight. Does anyone know how I can gain it back? My coach just said that it will eventually come back on its own but I'm not sure if that's true.

There is a couple ways you can gain it back. Eat everything in sight, be a couch potato and don't excersize. Hopefully that won't get you too fat. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I really liked my boyfriend, but I just started school and everything, and I kind of want to see whats out there. I really don't want to dump my boyfriend, but I still wanna like fish around I guess. Its a new school year and I want to make the best of it. I am not really sure what to do. I don't mean to sound like I am using my boyfriend or anything. If you could help it would be appreciated. Thanks a ton,

Well you wouldn't be saying this if you really like your boyfriend. Maybe take an extended break and if you don't find anyone by then, it won't work. Hope I helped!

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I'm leaving for my 1st undergrad year very soon and I don't know what to do about my boyfriend when I leave. Should I try and conduct a long distance relationship?(My uni is in a different country to my home town). Or should I break up with him? Maybe a trial separation till Christmas when I return for the holidays? Or even an 'open relationship'?

Pros
1)I love him. He loves me.
2)My boyfriend and I will have been together for nearly 1 1/2 years when I go.
3)He's very sweet and he gets on with my family.
4)He's pretty good at sex.
5) He's accepting of my sexuality.

Cons
1) He's a compulsive liar.
2) I'm bi and uni will be my first real chance to explore that.
3)He cannot hold down a job. Or school/college.
4)His sex drive seems a lot higher than mine when we're together.
1)He wants forever and a family. I'm not ready to settle down and I never want to get married.

BTW we're both 18.

Well it depends if you want to be tied down with your guy. This new opprtinity(can't spell) may be the chance to maybe get with a girl. I'd say dump him because you mentioned he cannot hold down a job or school or college. Or if you don't want to do that, a trial sepraration may work. Hope I helped!

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ok so im going to meet my boy friend of about two months at my friends house tomorrow...its kind of a long distance relationship and im kind of nervous about wut i should do...shoud i make the first move or wait on him? last time he didnt do anything so im kinda worried it will happen again...and by anything i mean kissing so dont worry im not sexually active...so should i make the frist move or wait and if i should what should i do to make the first move?

Maybe wait a few minutes to see if he makes the first move and if he doesn't, just go for what you want. Hope I helped!

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I'm a twenty-one year old girl in love with a forty-seven year old man. We met at church, went back to my house on only the second time of meeting and had sex. After that he has been distant but kind. He says he feels afraid of his own disconnection. I don't know why, but I feel more for him than I have felt for anyone in a long time. I miss him when we're apart, even though we're not dating and I play it cool, determined not to crowd him or drive him off. But do bachelors that age remain bachelors?

No they do not. You need to find someone your own age. He's like half your age! He may have a wife too. Hope I helped!

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theres this guy name michael that i think is soo hot in my 4th block. we have talked a little before when we were put in groups but it wasnt one on one talking. i want to talk to him and get to know him more, but i odnt know how to just start talking. i would talk to him before class everyday but he doesnt get in until right when the bell is about to ring. any ideas? and what should i say? i dont want to look stupid just by walkin up and not having anything to say! lol

Ask him about the homework or what TV he's into or what type of music he likes. Then you guys will have something to talk about. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Me and my boyfriend just broke up last night well were taking a "break"and he says he still loves me and still want to go back out but he says he need time { HE SAYS ABOUT A WEEK}to "clear his head". It was both of our decision but I dont get what you guy idea of taking a break is. So all you guys out there can u tell me? Im really confused!!!

*SKATERGIRL15* HELP !!!!!

Taking a break is like he wants to see other people for a while. Its basically a kind way of saying I wanna break up, I still love you but want to see other people. Hope I helped!

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I'm a Junior (16) and male. Never had a girlfriend; i'm the outspoken-nerd stereotype. Somehow everybody thinks I have a social life, don't know where they got that idea.
Anyway, there's this girl (we'll call her Kylie). She's heavily into music theatre (as am I), and we're both pretty good, so that's plenty of starting ground. To say I have feelings for her would be an understatement. At this point, I get lost. I don't know where to go from here because I've never had a girlfriend before and don't really know exactly what the procedure is (if there even is one). I've (perhaps unwisely) tried to keep my distance while remaining friendly as I've had too many experience getting on the "friends" list for life. In addition, I am really (really) scared of hurting her. She means the world to me, and I don't use that phrase lightly. A positive comment can literally make my day.

Anyway, I guess I need to know what to do from here. Some specific examples would be nice... what has worked for you. Keep in mind that I'm not at all the agressive type. It would be best for any action on my part to be able to be interpereted several different ways, that way if I determine no interest I can feign some other excuse. Basically, anything that reveals my feelings without really revealing my feelings (as stupid as that sounds). Should I just become her friend and hope I don't get shoved in the friends abiss? I also want to go slowly. Very, very slowly, because I am about scared half to death here. Help me out!

Any thoughts?

Yes it is very unwise to keep your distance. Tell her how you feel and then ask if she wants you as a boyfriend. If she says yes, tell her how beautiful she is and kiss her a lot. Also, take her to some music theatre shows. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Alright. I like this guy. Today he told me that he wanted a gf. we are pretty good friends. I wanna tell him how i feel about him. Any suggestions on how i should approach him?

~*Michele~*

Tell him straight out how you feel about him. If he says yes, congratulations! If not, stay friends. Sometimes things happen in the future. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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My frined would like to know, since she insists even when she's dating somebody, looks wouldn't matter. This is what I told her:

And, you know what, looks do matter. Nobody would go out with me if my clothes were ragged, smelly wet and ripped jeans, my hair unbrushed, would they? I don't get you, looks do matter. I swear. I thought you liked somebody because they're cute, and cute=looks. Like=personality and/or looks.

So, you have to re-think what 'looks' means. You think your Dad married your step mom because of her personality? Yes, but not alone. he also cared aout her looks.

Also, if looks don't matter at all to you, why do you think Jesse is ugly? it's because of his LOOKS.

Why do you 'luv' Seth?

-Actor

-Personality

-LOOKS.

I can't like a guy without the looks, they depend on the person, they represent what they person IS. If I wore exactly what I described in my other comment, nobody would be attracted to me. Like Dylan. Ripped shirt, over sized jeans--and he's overweight, nobody would like him.

Looks are very important. Don't go looking like a rag doll. And you have to understand, I'm not saying looks only matter.

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Thanks, will rate high.

OK I don't mean to sound rude but what exactly is your question? Anyway, looks do matter to some guys. Most guys wouldn't want to date a girl like
if her clothes were ragged, smelly wet and ripped jeans, or her hair unbrushed. Just dress to impress and you'll score big with the gentlemen! Good luck! Hope I helped!

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k guys, i'm more like a romantic kinda gal, and i really wannna boyfriend, my ex was super mean and doesnt talk to me anymore, so now im kinda afraid if i get another boyfriend it will end up like it did with my ex.....do any of you guys out there know what i should do????

~Stef

Just see how guys act around you. If they act nice to you, ask him out. It takes a little time to get over an ex so don't boy scout right away. Wait untill your ready. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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How do you tell a guy you like him, if your not sure if he likes you back?

Just tell him and if he doesn't feel the same way, just suggest that the two of you become friends. Hope I helped!

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hi everyone, my name is steph and i have a really really big question to ask ya'll...my boyfriend dumped me at Mcdonalds at school registration...i'm only 14, but i somtimes cry myself to sleep thinking about it, the problem is...his friend is really mean to me and i think he pushed him to dump me...but still i cry about it all the time like today i was bawling....is this pathetic of me not to be over him yet....especially since it was weeks ago??? pleaze answer my sad question.....
~Steph~

No its not. The healing process usually takes a while. I'm still not over my ex boyfriend and he dumped me 3 months ago! If you say his friend pushed him to dump you, I would suggest talking to him and see if he really meant it. Hope I helped!

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OK I need help fast!! I've been going out with this guy all summer and he just IMed me and he's thinking of suicide!!! He's thought of suicide before but he's thinking of it again. My friend is going to talk to her teacher and try and see what's wrong. You see he has a beautiful girlfriend( me), wonderful friends and is putting a band together. I'm sooo scared for him. Wat can I do to comfort him?

Tell an adult or someone you trust and they can help the situation. Let him know you'll always be there for him. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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My Mom Has done drugs 4 a long time.........and now she is bak in my life and wants to see me i dont know what to to cause i am afraid as once i start trusting her again im afriad that she is just gunna leave.......what should I do??

Signed:Hurt --Inside

I don't blame you. She's gone through a tough time in life and is ready to admit she screwed up. You need to help her through that. Take her to someone to talk to, do whatever it takes to get her better. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I keep having this dream where I see my boyfriend and his friend at a bar...the whole night is very mysterious but fun. I keep having it and seing him giving me a box while at this bar. What does this mean?

You could be getting a propsal gift soon. I don't know why his friend may be in it or why its at a bar but be ready. Hope I helped!

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I hate school so much. My teachers are mean, I never see my friends, and I always hav so much homework. I have the choice to get homeschooled. DO you think I should?

If you hate school that much I think you should. Hating school is life but if you're this unhappy, you should be home-schooled. Hope I helped!

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