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Why do looks matter in a relationship?
My frined would like to know, since she insists even when she's dating somebody, looks wouldn't matter. This is what I told her:
And, you know what, looks do matter. Nobody would go out with me if my clothes were ragged, smelly wet and ripped jeans, my hair unbrushed, would they? I don't get you, looks do matter. I swear. I thought you liked somebody because they're cute, and cute=looks. Like=personality and/or looks.
So, you have to re-think what 'looks' means. You think your Dad married your step mom because of her personality? Yes, but not alone. he also cared aout her looks.
Also, if looks don't matter at all to you, why do you think Jesse is ugly? it's because of his LOOKS.
Why do you 'luv' Seth?
-Actor
-Personality
-LOOKS.
I can't like a guy without the looks, they depend on the person, they represent what they person IS. If I wore exactly what I described in my other comment, nobody would be attracted to me. Like Dylan. Ripped shirt, over sized jeans--and he's overweight, nobody would like him.
Looks are very important. Don't go looking like a rag doll. And you have to understand, I'm not saying looks only matter.
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OK I don't mean to sound rude but what exactly is your question? Anyway, looks do matter to some guys. Most guys wouldn't want to date a girl like
if her clothes were ragged, smelly wet and ripped jeans, or her hair unbrushed. Just dress to impress and you'll score big with the gentlemen! Good luck! Hope I helped!
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Ah man, looks don't make a bleedin' difference! It's the personality... I mean, yeah, you're right about the ripped jeans and smelly wet thing but that's just because you would get the feeling that they don't know how to take care of themselves. Just today someone on the bus came up to me and said "Hey, you're hot." My response? "Congratulations. I don't give a damn." Mate, if you've ever loved, you'll forget about looks, really. Great lecture/speech though! =P
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Well, looks sometimes do not matter. I have never liked a girl for their looks, only personality. Of course, some girls do look better than others, yet that is not always the basis to judge love.
That is my personal opinion. It may be different from person to person. But dating is always based on personality. If the person is good looking but a terrible personality, it usually is over within a month. I have seen that too much. Yet, the better personalities last longer times, even if the looks aren't up there.
-Steven
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As long as you aren't saying look are all that matters, or even that they are most important, I am willing to say you have a point.
The fact is a persons looks aren't who they ARE. But tell you a good deal about who they are. The way a person takes care of themselves and carries themselves can tell you whether they are self respecting, responsible, a socail misfit or someone with waaay too much money and time to spend on thier apperance.
So yeah, looks can be a big deal in day to day life but love is a different story. Looks might effect the intial atraction but after that well "Love looks not with the eye, but with the mind, therefor is wing'ed cupid painted blind"
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Hmm...probably...it would be nice to know what your PROBLEM and QUESTION were. This kind of thing belongs on your myspace or livejournal. I seriously don't know how to answer a question that isn't there. And your Dylan friend sounds like a perfectly fine guy to me, see, I'm not picky about weight. Just as long as he doesn't have acne on his acne and doesn't even try to do anything about it--that's just sick. But even though looks reflect how much a person takes care of themself, it doesn't show you who the person is! Looking at the preppy way I dress and my not-blue/green/pink hair, you would probably guess certain things about my personality. And you'd probably be wrong about most of them!!
Edit: You can easily get one.
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What's your actual question? Is it about looks, because looks aren't what makes someone like another person. Looks make someone attracted to another person. Personality and interests and attitude are what makes someone like another person. There has to be more than just looks to it, even though looks give the first impression. If it's just looks than it's just an attraction.
Bobby
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