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HurT Inside
My Mom Has done drugs 4 a long time.........and now she is bak in my life and wants to see me i dont know what to to cause i am afraid as once i start trusting her again im afriad that she is just gunna leave.......what should I do??
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I don't blame you. She's gone through a tough time in life and is ready to admit she screwed up. You need to help her through that. Take her to someone to talk to, do whatever it takes to get her better. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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everyone deserves a second chnace...
but you have to tell her straight up be like
mom i care about you and i dont want you to go back to ur old ways ...and if you do and you walk out on me again forget you have a daughter
dats harsh but if she acres about you she wont do drugs anymore or walk out
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I think you should go see your mom. You don't have to fall into her arms and act like nothing ever happened. If you don't feel like you're ready to see her then maybe you shouldn't. If you didn't go how would you feel? And you don't need to start putting your life in her hands anytime soon. However, you should give her another chance. When you go and see her you might consider going somewhere public. So if it was uncomfortable or anything strange happened people would be around and if you wanted too, you could leave easier.
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people change.. and you holding a grudge on her, wont make her want to stop doing them. give her another chance.
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hey sweatheart!
all i can say is do what you feel best.
if you love her you'll consider it if you don't you won't. but if you do and your still afraid tell her how you feel and don't get to attached.
ok sweety good luck and take care...
xXx
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Do what is best for you. If you feel like your mom going to pull you back, and not forwarp, then jsut be polite to her, but don't give her your trust. If you feel like she can give you something that can move you foward in life, then you should see her more often. It's your choise. If you are really afraid to get hurt again, then try to face your fears. Only this time without giving much care to them. If your mom abondoned you once, she might do it again. I would talk to her, and try to help ehr. But I would not trust her, nomatter what. I'd be sacred to trust her. Just talk to her sometimes. Don't let her feel abononed either.
Sigh* it all depeneds on you. Whatever you feel like will help you get further in life....
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You cant use what she did against her, people make mistakes and do things that they wish they never did. If she's better and sober and has changed, then she'll want to see you and apologize for everything.
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see her, she's your mother.
she odviously cared enough to carry you in her stomach for nine months and give birth to you.
give her a chance.
treat her like you two have just met, start all over like there are no strings attaching you.
-hope it helps-
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well if she wants to see you, dont plan on living with her and starting a whole new life like in movies and stuff. maybe you should visit with her, do some mothier-daughter bonding over lunch or shopping so then you wont have to give her all your trust and get hurt as badly. hope all goes well. <3
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Sometimes the past continues to be painful for what feels like forever. She is your mom, and she probably really does love you. If you have to see her, you don't have to trust her right away, just love her. She's had a hard past whether or not it was her fault. There's no way to tell whether or not she will leave... just don't get too attatched I guess, in your mind you can pretend she really is. If she doesn't leave, it will be so much easier to trsut her after this. I know my advice is kind of quirky, but I hope it's resourceful.
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