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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!
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To start, I'm 17/F.
Today I received a phone call for a job opportunity. I had never heard of the company before (Vector Marketing), but it seemed interesting. The woman told me it would be in customer service and I could make roughly $15 an hour (and choose my own hours). Seeing as I make half that at my current job (which is tough, laborous, etc.) I thought it sounded great. I have an interview set up for Tuesday afternoon.
I found out they received my number from a friend who started working there. They said he reccomended me for the position. I asked my friend about the job (for more in depth info) and he described it saying how great it seems (his first day is tomorrow).
I looked on the web today and learned a lot about the company. The information I found is somewhat frightening. It's seems like a big scam (people do make "fast money" but, as always, there'a a catch (includes the employers lying to employees - or just "stretching the truth". People aren't getting paid for what they should, and you even have to pay $145 for your products (Samples to show customers). There's a lot more to it than that. She told me the job would be customer service - she didn't say I was basically a telemarketer for knives (except it's door to door sales & we're supposed to make contacts with people we know to sell overpriced knices - I'm servsafe certified and know all about cutlery - the knives aren't worth it, especially if you're not a chef).
I'm 100% turned off to working for them for various reasons including those pointed out above. Anyway, to get to my point...
How wrong would it be to just ditch the interview? I mean without calling. Or, if I do call, what should I say? I don't really want to get into details and offend them. Should I just say that I've read up on the job description and it's not really for me?
I don't know if it matters, but other than my cell number, the only info that have on me is my college e-mail address (I'll be entering my freshman year in August) and my first and last name (which are quite unique...).
Thanks in advance.
Also, if you have any experience with this complany (I know they only hire 17+ and you MUST be a high school graduate if you're under 18) then please let me know to help me make sure what I hear is true & not just angry employees making things up.
Thanks in advance & sorry for the length.
The company sounds screwy.
Ditch the interview.
Call ahead if you want, but I doubt it matters.
They probably have tons of other teens they're scamming who will be showing up.
I'd tell your friend how you feel & that you think they should be careful with the job.
Good luck with your choice.
how do you do that? and is there anyway you can make it that when you call people that your name does not show up on caller id
Usually you can just go to your provider and tell them you want your number changed.
I had cingular a few years ago and did that.
It may depend on your provider, but I would assume they would all do that. It would be stupid of them to make you cancel that plan and buy a new one just to get a new phone number.
For not having your name/number show up on someone elses caller ID, you can just dial *67 before the number (I'm pretty sure that's what you dial to make a cell private - I could be wrong, though). Some phones have it where you can go through your phone where settings is and there will be an option to make it private (when I had cingular, one of my phones had that option). If you speak to your phone provider, they should let you know how to go about doing that.
how can u keep your relationship exciting without having sex other than like oral sex?
First of all, oral sex is still sex. Thus the reason it's called 'oral SEX'.
Second of all, you have plenty of other options!
Go back to the days of romance.
Hand holding, pecks on the cheek, forhead, nose, etc. Butterfly kisses. Picnics in the park, dancing in the rain. Watching movies and just cuddling up together while doing something fun.
Romance can be exciting if two people really care for eachother.
I'd rather find a love note from my boyfriend than get a booty call. What's so exciting about that?
I'd rather get some sort of homemade gift such as a scrapbook of our relationship than lengerie I know he wants me to use for him.
Seriously - romance is just as exciting and just as meaningful as sex.
You don't need overtly physical contact for excitement.
If you want something sexual, you can tease him. Lapdances, mini-stripping without becoming completely nude, etc. Guys don't really like being teased. Blueballing a guy is actually kinda of mean when you think about it.
And, as I said before, oral sex is still sex. Just like anal sex is still sex.
If you have either, you're not really a virgin anymore. That's my opinion, anyway. There are a lot of people who agree with that and some who don't...
Techincally, though, you're not abstaining from sex when participating in oral sex.
I'm 17/f. My brother is dating a really close friend of mine. She told me in confidence that she's pregnant by my brother, but she took the abortion pill yesterday. She's not going to tell my bro anything about it. I know my brother is really, really against abortion, and I also am, but not as much as he is. I'm really torn by what she told me-like part of me wants to stand by her as my friend, and part of me wants to beat the crap out of her for killing my niece or nephew. If I told him in time, could anything be done to save the baby? Should I hold my friends statement in confidence when it's something this huge?
Someone I know just did the same thing except she told her boyfriend about it. I never knew there was an abortion pill until she told me she took it.
Once the pill has been taken, there is nothing that can be done. The baby will die and there is no stopping it.
I'm pretty sure that the law is on her side. I don't think the guys in the relationship have any say (which sucks, I know), but because it's her body, it's her decision.
Whether or not you tell your brother is up to you.
If you tell him, your friendship with her probably won't last, the two of them will probably break up, etc.
If you think telling him this is more important than your friendship with her, then do it. It's really just a risk you have to take.
Or you can give her the ultimatum. You can tell her that you really think he needs to know and if she doesn't tell him, you will...
You have a few options - each of them with a crappy outcome and a good outcome.
Honestly, I don't know what I would do in this situation. It's a really tough one.
It is against the rules of this site for you to ask a question to more than one user, but because you aren't registered (or just aren't logged in), I suggest going to the columnist razhie and/or younggrandma and asking them. They are both older than I am and they can probably help you a lot more with this than I can.
Yesterday i told my bf i had cybersex the day he buried his grandpa. so i told him that he could have sex with this girl that liked him. So now he is at a hotel having sex with a girl for revenge because i said he could do it. Is it really fair for him to do it? Did he have to listen to me and actually get revenge?
Why on earth would you tell your boyfriend he could go and have sex with a girl?!
You had cyber sex. While that was still not okay since you have a boyfriend, there is a HUGE difference between cyber sex and actual sex!
What would happen if your boyfriend got this girl pregnant. Does this girl know that it's only a one time thing? She might think he likes her and become emotionally attached or something.
Did either of you consider the effects this could have on that poor girl?!
Now, to actually get to your question, NO! He definitly should not have listened to you. It's a bit too late for that, though.
You two are not mature enough to be in this relationship. You need some time apart to think about how immature and hurtful you are both being towards each other.
I'm sorry that this may come across as me being rude. I don't mean to be, but you really need to hear this.
While I agree with you that he is wrong in having gone to have sex with this girl, I feel you are in the wrong, also. You never should have suggested it.
You two need some time apart. If a guy is willing to go sleep with another girl, he obviously doesn't care for you.
If you are telling him to do it, you don't seem to be very secure with yourself...
What are some really funny "thats what she said" jokes? Either ones that youve heard or made up or links..anything would be fantastic thanks so much!
We were playing Pin the Tail on the Donkey in one of my classes [long story]. Anyway, the teacher was being blindfolded (because she was the only one who hadn't had a turn]. One of the guys said "make sure it's on right" and someone else said "do it real good".
Yeah... I just kind of blurted out "that's what she said". It got a few laughs.
If you google "that's what she said" you'll probably get a lot of responses.
Do you know if is possible for parents to access text messages sent to and from a cell phone? Aside from on the phone itself.
As the user below me stated, they can see the numbers and times on the bill, but they can not see what is actually said - on the bill.
And I could be wrong about this next part because I saw it on an episode of Law & Order and even though the actual cases are false, a lot of what they do is possible...
The phone company should have archives of the content of text messages (not every text message ever sent and received, but maybe the past 400 or 4000 or something like that).
I don't know whether or not they can release that information to your parents, though. It may just be for police and stuff.
I guess I could be wrong, but unless your parents go to the phone company and ask for the content, there is no way of them getting it. And I don't even know that the phone company has it/would release it.
How do you get a background for a document? Like a bunch of butterflies or whatever. I really don't know how to describe it though. But if you know or have any suggestions that'd be great :D. I DO RATE HIGH 5 star promise :) thanks.
The best I can think of is:
When you open your word document, go to INSERT and you should see "watermark".
If you click on that and select the picture, it will come up as a background that you can type over.
I'm not sure how it will look when printed out (you should probably test it on a simple photo that way you don't use too much ink).
I'm also using microsoft works word processor (so if you have something different, my answer may not be helpful.)
EDIT
I just read LaUgH_OuT_LoUd_x0x's answer, and my program doesn't have an option for me to go to format, background, etc. like LaUgH_OuT_LoUd_x0x said. So, I hope her answer works for you, but if not, I hope mine can give you an alternative way.
my ears are pierced 4 times on each side, the most recent ones have been there for almost exactly a year.
on my left ear, the most recent one is swollen and leaking some kind of thin, sticky, colorless pus... it's not bleeding or anything. and it's only that one, none of the others are doing it.
i'm afraid of it closing up, i really don't want that... i've tried using an antiseptic on it twice a day but nothing really seems to be helping that much. it hurts when i roll over on my left side when i try to sleep.
what is it/what should i do?
It's probably swollen.
This has happened to me a few times (except it was my cartlidge, and it happened about 6 months or so after having it pierced).
Because of how long you have had the piercing, you should be okay taking it out to try and let your ear heal for a few days.
I allowed my ear to get so infected that it swelled up and I had to have a doctor remove my earring. It was aweful, painful, and an experience I never want to go through again.
After a year or so, I went through the same process.
My experience taught me that my ear doesn't like cartlidge piercings.
It's also letting me share with you to remove your piercing to let your ear heal otherwise you could wind up in the same situation as I was in (getting it stuck and needing a doctor to remove it).
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what do i do, this guy asked me out to go to dinner and a movie on saturday and i said yes now its a couple days later and he thinks were boyfriend and girlfriend
what do i do becuase im really not sure if i want to go out with him
The only thing you can do is tell him the truth.
Just sit him down and tell him that you only thought Saturday was a date (if you thought it was anything less, you need to look at it from his perspective). Tell him you aren't sure if you want to make a boyfriend/girlfriend commitment just yet, etc.
Even if you end up really liking him and dating him - the relationship would kind of be based on a lie/misunderstanding. That's definitly no way to start a relationship.
Just tell him you're unsure of your feelings for him and that you'd rather just try a few dates before making any commitment.
He'll probably be embarassed and it may make Saturday awkward, but don't cancel on him - that would make him feel worse.
i was just curious how bad it hurts when u get your nose pierced and do you have to go anywhere special to get it done
also how bad does it hurt to get a tattoo and where are the best places to go
When my sister got her nose pierced, she passed out. Shen ended up being sick for the rest of the day. The guy doing the piercing said it was common for people to get woozy and pass out/not feel well afterwords.
One of my friends had her nose pierced a few days ago and she's totally fine.
I guess it just dependson the person.
As for your tattoo question, my friend's dad is a tattoo artist, as is one of my other friends. They all have tattoos and they say that it feels like someone is just constantly pinching at your skin, but after a while you can't even feel it. It just becomes habitual and you get used to it.
My friend said that when her father gave her a tattoo it hurt a lot more than when a guy that works with him did it. She said it just depends on the person giving the tattoo. If you want one, I'd ask around. See where to go and where not to go.
Always make sure you go somewhere sterile and that you see them cleaning their instruments before using them on you.
Okay, so I'm 15 and female.
I really want to start taking piano lessons, do you think it's too late to start?
Because I've written so many songs and I just want to put music to them...but I don't know how to convince my parents to let me take them. It would be every Saturday and 20 dollars a lesson.
I'm already involved in so much...choir, newspaper, cheerleading, student senate...
But I get good grades! I have an A averge and this is something I really want. How should I convince them?
If your parents are paying for everything else you do, I would offer to have pay half. Or, if you don't have a job (since you're only 15), offer to do chores around the house (or extra chores if you already have some).
Having an A average is a great thing, and if you can use that as a point in asking for piano lessons (which I believe it's never too late to learn something - just the later it is, the more difficult it becomes) then so be it.
The best way of getting something you want (especially something that costs money) is working for it or helping pay for it.
Your parents will like that you're offering to help with the costs (especially if you don't have to).
I have this thing with my parents having sex when i am home its never happened but i am always it will. they havent done it for awhile i knwo this for a fact. but this all started when i went through my moms inbox & my dad her were sending txt messages that said " do me" "blow me" "lick me" i comfronted my mom about this & she said it was a joke but now i have grown father apart. i just dont know what to do i balled my eyes out i can tell you this. PLEASE HELP!! what do i do do i tell her it still upsets me?
You are totally in the wrong for going through your parents inbox. It's none of your business - at all. Your mother should not have had to defend herself - she should have told you that you were being nosy.
You wouldn't go through your boyfriends, sisters, brothers, etc. inboxes and you most certainly should not read through the private messages of your parents.
I find it ironic how the thought of your parents having sex disgusts you so much because had it not been for their sex life, you wouldn't be here today asking this question.
What's the big deal if they have sex? People of ALL ages have sex. We're finding out more and more that 13 year old girls are having sex, and as long as I can remember, 80 year old men and women are getting their groove on in nursing homes.
Sex is a pleasurable act. It's also a great way for two people in love to connect. Why should it bother you?
Besides, you say that haven't had sex with you home - so why are you still complaining?
If they were to have sex with you in the house - THAT is when you go to them and tell them that it upsets you (or just plain grosses you out - I wouldn't want my parents doing that while I'm home, just like I wouldn't do that while they were home ;-p).
This inbox thing doesn't prove they're having sex in the house. It's just a little "phone sex" if you will. What's so wrong about that?
When you get older (especially if you have kids), maybe you'll realize that being in a long term relationship doesn't just mean living together. It includes the feelings and acting upon those feelings.
They aren't doing anything wrong.
Technically, having sex with you home isn't wrong either, but I can see where that bothers you - as it would bother most teens.
So, if they start having sex while you're home - feel free to explain how that bothers you. BUT, if they're doing this other stuff behind closed doors and you're just peeking - well, that's your own fault. Nobody told you to go through your moms inbox - you took that upon yourself.
Until they start having sex with you in the house - you need to just get over it.
Even if they do have sex with you in the house and you explain your opinion, it doesn't mean they're in the wrong if they don't stop.
It's all apart of a loving relationship.
What is a Minx
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&rlz=1T4GZHZ_enUS240US241&q=define%3A+minx
how do you kno if a guy is just after being physical with you?? please help cause i need to find this out about this guy who keeps talking to me and stuff. thanks :)
It's usually hard to tell until you're actually in the relationship. Then again, I've had guy friends who have basically wanted a booty call whenever they were in the mood for something.
If it's obvious, you'll know.
If not - it'll be difficult to tell until you're in a position where something may occur.
Just know that if you're ever uncomfortable in a situation, you have the right to tell him no and to back off, etc.
If he gets upset (even a little bit) about you saying no, then he doesn't care about your feelings, only his desires.
That's how you know a guy isn't worth it and that it could only get worse from there.
Honestly, though, until you start dating or hanging around each other more in person - you won't really know unless he basically tells you.
Okay, there are some plays in my area that I would like to do. Kind of. Anyway, I want to be an actress and I have no experience like actually on the stage. So even though there is a play that is going on, the Jungal Book, it looks stupid and i don't really want to do it. SHould i anyway, just for the experience. I could only be an animal beacuase i'm not over 18 and i can't be the lead because the lead is a boy. It seems really dumb. But should i do it anyway just so i have somthing other than classes and special skills to put on my resume?
You should definitly take it. Any experience is better than no experience. Besides, "there are no small roles, only small actors" :-).
Acting is tons of fun, so I see why you want to do it. As Mangy Momma said, a lot of famous actors start off doing cruddy roles that don't seem like much fun.
Stage experience is a great thing and will look good to the "big guys" in charge of "more important" roles in the future.
Plus, you could meet a lot of cool people who could one day turn out to be influential.
Think about this: you could befriend someone who is also doing a part in this play. One day, this girl/guy could choose to become a director of a movie or a playwrite or something - you would have made a really good contact.
I'm not saying to take any role that comes your way. Make sure it's something you can have fun with. Being unhappy with a part will usually show (no matter how great you are at acting).
It's up to you, of course, but I think it's an opportunity worth taking.
Good luck and have fun!
whgats a g spot
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=g%20spot
I'm 16/f and I'm finally realizing now that I think I may have ADD. I've had trouble focusing my entire life and now it's worse than ever. I plan to ask my doctor about it. Can you tell me what your own experiences with ADD are so I can see if I can match them up with any of my own? Also, for anyone who has been on medication for it, how has it changed you or made the problems better? Thank you!
My younger brother has/had ADD. I can't give you much information since it was him and not myself who had it. I can tell you that he was a constant pain in the butt (very hyper, didn't listen a lot, did his own things at his own pace, didn't do what you asked of him most of the time, etc.). I thought he had ADHD, but the doctors just said ADD - as far as I know. He was on medication for 3-4 years before stopping. He's a lot calmer now and concentrates a lot better. The medicine really helped him to focus in class. He used to make a lot of As and Bs, then he had a lot of trouble concentrating and he became a huge procrastinator. That's when they had diagnosed him - when his grades began slipping. I guess his teacher had noticed something. The teacher contacted my parents who were suggested to schedule an appointment with his physician. After diagnosed and medicated, he started doing a lot better. His grades are still somewhat low in the classes he has trouble with, but for the most part, the medication has helped him.
I don't think he's considered ADD anymore (I think it's one of those things that can come and go, but sometimes sticks for a long time).
There are a lot of sites that can give you symptoms and such, but I'm sure the reason you've asked here was to get a lot more personal experience.
i the show made and episode:
"stars dancer" (2008) A clumsy outcast wants to join her school's Star Dancers. ]
does that take place in houston tx?
because i remember the coach saying "you will be going to houston" and then Leighann's hoodie said west brook, so ya.
(i watched it today JUNE 17, if that helps)
It doesn't take place in Houston. Leighann's made coach is a coach for a team in Houston, which is why she took her to Houston (to see the coach's team and to show her how much hard work being a dancer really is).
To be honest, I'm not sure where exactly it was filmed. I've seen the episode a few times in the past week, though, so I'm sure it'll be on again and that they probably mention where she's from in the first few minutes.
Hey :)
I'm 15 and female, i live on an island and feel i have a really great life and great friends. But for some reason i just have days where i feel so down and less than 100%.
This has been going on since the start of this year and i can't explain it. Usually i am enthusiastic and optimistic about pretty much everything, but, though i haven't changed alot, i've just been having moments where i feel so tired and useless and can't take a joke :(
is this just a normal phase that teenages go through? or is there something that could explain it?
i feel i have drifted from my childhood friends, and someone who i'm close to (like a boyfrined) is going of to uni after the summer. could this be to blame?
i know my friends shouldn't have to put up with me when 'm down and crabit, and i feel terrible when i've been snappy.
cheers :) x
There could be a ton of reaons that you're feeling this way.
Significant changes such as drifting from friends or losing people you care about can definitly cause feelings of sadness or just not being happy.
Maybe a girls night out could fix it, or maybe it would just be a temporary solution.
Worst case scenario (that I can think of) is that maybe you're clinically depressed. I'm no doctor, and there is probably a 1% chance of you finding a doctor on this website. My point is, don't take my word for it. It's just a guess. But, you seem to be in a bit of a slump and don't really know how you got there. You could probably google 'depression' and see what comes up. I suggest seeing a doctor/psychiatrist if the Sometimes there just isn't a reason for us being upset. But, if it's happening more times than not, I'd see someone about it.
I understand you're only 15, so you would have to discuss this with a parent (which I also understand can be rather awkward), but it's something you should do if this continues. Remember, your parents love you and just want to see you healthy and happy. If speaking with a psychiatrist is something that might be able to help your mood, then you should look into it.