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Hi my name is Angel, that's my real name. I'm a young adult now, I've had this advice column for years, but I made another one under the name anq3l_xo when I thought I couldn't access this one. A little bit about myself. I am a student, both in college and high school. I work as a nanny part time. I want to be a lawyer when I "grow up." I believe I've done a lot of growing up in my short life. I have conquered an obsession over drugs and alcohol in the last year and a half. I'm sober now and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I'm happy now. I'm in an absolutely blessed relationship with someone that I truly care about and love with all of my heart. I have been through things that you kids have nightmares about. I have seen, heard, and witnessed a lot of things that would make full grown men cry. I believe that I am innocent now, because I don't live that old lifestyle anymore. I have a lot of experience in a lot of things, and I've always been good at shedding light on dark situations. I come from a broken family, so I have step, half whatever siblings, and I just recently reunited with my real mother after she abandoned me 10 years ago. I have amazing friends today, but it wasn't always like that. I have a wonderful boyfriend and a great relationship with him, but let me tell you, it wasn't always like that. My sister is a drug addict/ alcoholic of the worst type. She's my best friend in the entire world, and I hope this 14 year old girl doesn't have to go through what I went through. I've come to understand that I can't help her, but I can help others through advice and by being of service to people around me. I'm always here to help, leave one in my inbox on this column or my other one, or my email which is listed, and I WILL get back to you. I know what it's like to feel like nobody cares, well I care about everybody. God bless. ~Love Angeladvice
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I've been with my bf for almost 3 months, And I think I'm in love with him. I never get to see him though. No matter what we do together I have to go pick him up since he doesn't have a car, and he doesn't live that close (it's just getting annoying). The problem is that I thought I might still be having feelings for my ex, so I started talking to him again. It turns out he's still totally in love with me (I like him, but I don't love him). My ex is always there for me and can come over whenever. It's just really hard. Any suggestions?
tell your boyfriend about your ex. your boyfriend and your ex both want you to be happy, so its really up to you, if you love your boyfriend, then stay with him, but if you dont see yourself having a future with him but maybe with your ex.. .then go with him, either way im sure youll be happy because im sure that there both really great guys and they would also be lucky to have a girlfriend that cares as much as you do, if you really think that you cant be with your boyfriend tho, then you need to tell him how you feel. i hope things work out for you and i hope that you end up happy with whichever situation you choose. -Angel
okay..hey i already posted sumthing about my boyfriend and how he hardly ever call`s me but i talk to him online and i go places and stuff and he tells me he loves me a lot..but i don`t know..he doesn`t show it, like he sticks up for me but i don`t know he just doesn`t show that he rly likes me.. and it doesn`t help that i`m naturally shy when it comes to talking about stuff like that to him so i need help with that...thanks in advance*
you cant let him get the best of you, tell him how you feel or you wont get anywhere, if he loves you and you love him then this shouldnt be too hard for either of you, im kinda goin through the same thing and i know that its hard, but you needa talk to him about it, and he does love you dont be fooled by some of the things he does, you need to tell him how you want to be treated as his girlfriend, maybe if your nervous to talk to him about it, talk to a pillow or something as practice so you know what your going to say, make it as quick and simple as possible.. ii really hOpe that thinqs wOrk out fOr you two please let me noe if i helped -Angel
Whenever i meet a new guy we always end up being pretty good friends. we get close and i feel so comfortable around them. this constantly happens and i can never get a boyfriend. what should i do?
if you feel comfortable around them, then maybe you should talk about maybe having a relationship with them, because you wont get anywhere if he sees you as just a friend. i hope i helped and i really hope that you find a boyfriend and things work out for the two of you -Anqel
im really shy when im around people i dont know that well, its always been a problem for me, i always feel like im gonna make a fool of myself is there any way for me to get over this?
everyones afraid of that to some extent, just dont care about what might happen if you say the wrong thing, because it seriously doesnt matter as long as your being yourself you know? if you dont know them that well, then what does it matter? build up your confidence a little and im sure things will work out for you. hope i helped! -Anqel
Hey im 15/F and i am 5"10 and i weigh 220 lbs i dont look overweight with clothes on but without i do its wierd im getting more and more self concious about my body i have like a flap that hangs down over my belly button that i refer to as "babyfat." But im tired of being this way my goal weight would be to weigh like 140-150 but nothing more so i have to lose like 70-80 lbs. does anyone know of any diet pills that can help u lose weight fast and good diet plans like weight watchers or something-Also im not very active and i dont have a way of going anywhere and its like 105 out everyday and i have asthma so i cant be outside so what kind of activity could i do indoors and be @ home?? I really need help my bad area is my stomach and i need to lose alot of weight not tone it so please help me and whoever does i will rate 5!!! thanks 4 the help!
you dont need to rate me.. that doesnt matter, what matters is that you need to lose weight, you cant take a diet pill, because that just wont work, sorry, but what you need to do is not go on a diet, but just change your way of eating, you should stay away from carbs and sweets unless your planning on burning it off, good ways to do that, rent some tae-bo .. sounds weird, but you can lose weight and learn how to get a battery charge! losing weight isnt going to be a fast thing. In 5 weeks if you stay away from carbs n sugars and have a reqular exercise plan including lots of cardio, then you can lose upto 5 inches on your stomach, im trying it and my friends said that i look a little thinner and i've been doing this eating plan for maybe 3 weeks, but you really need to be committed to your workout and eating plans, if your not, then you will see no results, i hope i helped and i hope that you do lose weight! -Anqel
im 15 and my bf's 18 n my parents are cool with it...Well weve had sex alot and i actually live with him because of certain issues that happened while living with my dad...Well i know that he loves me and weve been together for almost 2 years. But we had this one conversation not too long ago about a friend whos bf wont dump her cus they have sex all the time..Well thats sort of my issue..I have sex like everyday and he told me he would dump me if we stopped having sex (over a long period of time)the thing is is that i want to have sex and that isnt a problem but its like at first when we went out it was like all about love and building our relationship now that thats established its about our love and then sex then building a life together..Im confused because i live with him and depend on him so its not like im gonna leave him but im worried that If i stop having sex he wont be with me ne more-so far after a year and a half of having sex (he devirginized me) Im still into it totally But sometimes i feel like im on his schedule like its all about when hes horny and then sometimes when i actually am hes asleep or something...But anyways he is the only person who has ever loved me for me..and he treats me like a queen but sometimes i just get confused..if anyone could give me advice it would be great..also if anyone has ne sex tips for me it would b gr8tly appreciated( i rate ) thanks alot!!
your relationship is one based on you and him, if hes the one thats deciding when to have sex, if its his schedule, then somethings wrong, you have every right to talk to him about any concern of yours if he loves you like he does and you love him the same way, dont let him push you around no matter how much you like the sex, if you have a problem, confront him about it, tell him how you feel.. ii really hope that i helped and that things work out for you two. -Anqel
im 12 yrs old i dont know anyone who has had sex (well people my age and a couple yars older) but when i read some of these problems on advicenators most of the people are like 13 or 14 and say that they have sex a lot its kind of creepy my sisters 14 but she hasnt had sex im wondering if these people are either lying about their age or more mature than me. i feel like when im 13 or 14 that il be soo pressured into sex and stuff. i hear these unbelievable stories of guys and girls having sex since they were 12. its so perverted and i mean is it weird im not ready or as into it as other people are?
dont feel pressured, not everyone thats 13 or 14 is having sex, its not something people look upto either, the more respectable girls arent the ones out there having sex, there the ones that are just trying to have a good relationship with a guy and if your not ready, then your not ready, dont stress over it, its not something that is practiced daily all the time with everyone, its just not like that, dont have sex if your not ready because you will regret it. And YOU ARE NOT WEIRD FOR BEING LESS 'INTO IT' THAN OTHER PEOPLE. dont let anyone tell you different, dont be pressured, i really hope i helped stay safe and sweet, be careful and dont listen to what other people want you to do about sex-related things! -dr.anqel
I am VERY picky about what I eat... I won't eat most meats... only Peperoni on my pizza (if i have to) and hamburgers. I like junk food ALOT and I eat alot of it... I won't eat most foods other people eat. I have alot of problems when I stay the night with friends because I usually don't like what they are having for dinner.
I am about 5'3-5'4 and i only weigh about 135... it may sound like a lot .. but i have alot of muscle too...
What kinds of foods should I try eating so I will stay healthy?
Is there any way to make myself like more healthy foods?
just stick with your food groups and you should be fine, if youre worried about becoming overweight, then try to stay away from carbs and sweets, almost any vegetable is good to stay healthy, and most dairy and meat, to make yourself like the more healthy foods, have your parents make it for you so you have to eat it. healthy food can be good if you know how to prepare/eat/imagine its your junk food lol. good luck and i hope things work out for you. stay healthy and get lots of exercise. -dr.anqel
I have a male Australian terrier .last week i got a female in heat so as to mate but when i put them in the kennel together they refused to. Eventually i released them letting them get to know each other but again as my dog tried to get on her back the female sat down and refused to get up. What did i do wrong or if it is not me what could be the reason for this?
you cant force the dogs to mate, im not an expert on this but my 11 year old sister is so i asked her and she said that maybe they dont like eachother, she doesn't think that its anything you can to but you shouldn't try to force them into anything which was probably your biggest mistake, i hope i helped and good luck with your terriers! -Anqel
My daughter is almost 5 and she has a hard time entertaining herself so I can get dressed for the day or do work around the house. She has a lot of toys but rarely plays with most of them and wants to either watch t.v. or follow us around. It drives me crazy and my husband too, because she comes in our room when we tell her not to. I've threatened to throw out her toys, but it does no good. When we get angry she just laughs at us. We tried closing her up in her room but she just pounds on the door and screams that she is scared. We are expecting another child and we are afraid her behaivior is going to just get worse when the baby comes. She does not behave like this for other family that watches her. Anyone got any advice? Preferably parents who can relate to this situation and have some solutions please.
you should discipline her a little more, Im not a parent, but my little brother is 5 and my sister 3 in a house with 5 kids, im the oldest. but my cousin isnt disciplined and she is the same way, but on the contrary, i think that having another child in the house will make things better, because then she will pay attention to the new baby and wont be so occupied with following you, when she asks you if she can play with the baby [[when the baby is a little older]] let her, im not trying to tell you how to raise your daughter, but just some help from someone who lives with the same sort of thing, i hope i helped
-Anqel
ok there is this person i REALLY like and we have known each other for like 2 yrs now.well last summer this person asked me if i would ever go out wit them but i said no b/c at that time i didnt really think much of being more then friends.but now i cant stand be be away from them i think about them all the time and they do kno how i feel but like they are on and off one week they will like me then the next they dont but when we are alone its like we are together but they always end up havin a gf how do they really feel about me idk cuz they are so on and off i cant tell but then they are always like yeah i like u when we break up then me and u will get together well it still doesnt happen
tell them that you are getting mixed signals and ask them if they want a relationship with you, if they dont, then theres plenty of fish in the sea if ya catch my drift, but if they say yes, then more power to ya, i really hope things work out between the two of you but if they dont.. just remember, life goes on -dr.anqel
Recently me and my boyfriend broke up. He broke up with me for another girl, because we were in a long distance relationship for 2 years and it was really hard. Its been really hard for me, but ive managed to survive without him, even though I still love him and miss him alot. But now I am ready for a relationship with someone who I know really cares for me and who I can be happy with. The only problem is, I dont know where or how to meet guys. Can anyone help?
dont go to clubs or bars, if your of that age i mean, most guys there are just pervs out to get some, you usually can meet guys anywhere, at the coffee shop, whatever, but it really depends on your age, like.. im 14 if i want to meet a guy, i go to school, but if i was an adult, i would try places where good people go if you know what I mean, dont go any place to look for someone if you think that your not getting anywhere, because your probably right. i hope things work out for you and i really hope that you meet the perfect guy this time, try not to think about your ex too much and it'll be a lot easier to find someone new also -dr.anqel
My boyfriends parents just said he could have the basement as a room to hang out in. He gets minor water leakage in one corner. We are going to move all the storage into the garage. the walls are already painted and in good condition. We are just going to use this room as a hang out. Any ideas or themes? Don't forget its all cement and has cement poles in there. Only 2 windows too.
Thanks!!!!!
omq.. you should totally do black and white, so cute IM me if you want some ideas? sillyangel869 [[AIM]]
Help! I don't know how to juggle having a boyfriend and having friends. I always want to spend time with my boyfriend and I end up hanging otu with him everyday but we will do things like go to the movies, watch a movie, go to a party, go to the beach, you know that kind of stuff. But when I'm out with a friend all we end up doing is driving around and I end up having no fun at all. What should I do when my boyfriend doesnt like my bestfriend because she lies alot and my bestfriend doesnt like my boyfriend because she thinks I'm always with him and takes it out on him. Does this make sense to you guys? If it doesn't I can clearify it. Please help I feel like I don't know how to have a boyfriend and a bestfriend at the same time :-( Oh ya im 18
if your bestfriend doesnt want you to spend as much time with your boyfriend, then tell him.. if your boyfriend doesnt want you to hang out with your bestfriend then tell her, because if you let them know what this is doing to you, im sure that they can work out some sorta compromise among the three of you that benefits everyone, if they cant then someone is doing something wrong, but its not you sweetie because it looks like you care about this, i hope i helped and good luck with this, I know its hard, but it'll all work out, give it time. -dr.anqel
ive been goin out with this girl for almost a month now. everythings been goin great and we really like eachother but we havnt kissed yet. i want to but i dont know if its to fast or if she wants to. is this only my fault? help
no its not just your fault, talk to her about it, if shes not ready, then shes not ready and you need to respect her for that, if shes ready than have lots of fun, hope i helped. -dr.anqel
ok..see, i put in sub posts about being through puberty and being called names and stuff and theres another thing bothering me! i dont really have guy friends..like i have friends that are guys that i say hi to like every 2 weeks. i really only have about 3-5 guy friends that i can actually talk to. all the rest are girls! i dont know why i dont have guy friends. maybe its because they all think im gay (im not though). (IM A GUY BY THE WAY)
maybe the guys are mad at you because you have so many friends that are girls, but if youre concerned then try to talk to your guy friends more, and especially talk to your girl friends, because, girls know best. lol. no because they can also help you and they're your closest friends that you trust rather than random strangers on the internet. i hope i helped and i hope you talk to your guy friends more good luck! -dr.anqel
i have a problem of keeping a thought during class, i often daydream and get off task, and im always forgettin himework, is there anything i can do to fix this?
write it down on your body or something, if you have a cell phone, make reminders for yourself, the short attention span, if you really care what happens in class, find out from someone later if your blankin in class, its hard to remember homework, but as long as you get it done and put it in your backpack, you shouldn't have a problem. hope i helped good luck with school! -dr.anqel
latley i have been doing a lot of different things to my hair, ive spiked it and been using colored gel, but im always getting looks from people, i dont know if they are good or bad, i love my hair being this way but i dono if i feel comfortable with everyone lookin at me, wut should i do, i have red and blue colored hair and ive been gettin mroe and more creative latley. what should i do?
who cares what people think, if you really love your hair, then thats all that matters, no one elses opinion should phase you. hope i helped, have fun with your hair! -Dr.anqel
i was doing really well on a diet during the school year, but now that it's summer and i stay up later i normally get bored at night and want to eat junk food while i'm on the computer and stuff - how can i stop myself?!?
omg.. i noe its hard.. buh.. you gotta stop, just tell yourself how bad it is, and if you get hungry, drink a glass of water, its the best thing for you. i hope i helped and i hope you stop getting those midnight snacks -dr.anqel
im 15/F and lately ive been like peeing alot and not being able to go to bed AT ALL!! i dont know if its cus i drink before i go to bed or what but i cant sleep and i have to pee like every 30 minutes, me and my boyfriend have alot of sex and im on birth control and have been for a year or so but i got my period last week another signidicant thing is ive gained like 20 lbs but i have been eating more which is another sign of pregnancy so all im hopin is im not so if anyone has been pregnanyt or if they know what it could be then please help me im freakin out and i have no one to talk too..
maybe your having an issue with your metabolism, you should take a pregnancy test even though your probably not pregnant, you don't have enough symptoms to be pregnant so dont worry, take a pregnancy test to double check, i hope it all works out for you and i really hope that i helped. -dr.anqel