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How do I get my daughter to play on her own?
My daughter is almost 5 and she has a hard time entertaining herself so I can get dressed for the day or do work around the house. She has a lot of toys but rarely plays with most of them and wants to either watch t.v. or follow us around. It drives me crazy and my husband too, because she comes in our room when we tell her not to. I've threatened to throw out her toys, but it does no good. When we get angry she just laughs at us. We tried closing her up in her room but she just pounds on the door and screams that she is scared. We are expecting another child and we are afraid her behaivior is going to just get worse when the baby comes. She does not behave like this for other family that watches her. Anyone got any advice? Preferably parents who can relate to this situation and have some solutions please.
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i say u get her a therapist cuz 2 me it sounds like shes very spoiled n wants alot of attention n wth a new baby commin that will be very hard 2 give so seriously look into getting her a therapist
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You need to ask yourself the question. Do you really spend enough time with your daughter? Or is there time set aside for your husband your daughter and yourself truely? Your child obviously wants attention for a reason. It has nothing to do with being clingy. If you are cleaning the house incorporate the child into this task let her help you clean. She will either help you or she will leave because she is bored. As for her comming into your room. She does not give other family members problems because she does not desire attention from them she desires attention from you.
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u lock ur daughter in her room?!
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you should discipline her a little more, Im not a parent, but my little brother is 5 and my sister 3 in a house with 5 kids, im the oldest. but my cousin isnt disciplined and she is the same way, but on the contrary, i think that having another child in the house will make things better, because then she will pay attention to the new baby and wont be so occupied with following you, when she asks you if she can play with the baby [[when the baby is a little older]] let her, im not trying to tell you how to raise your daughter, but just some help from someone who lives with the same sort of thing, i hope i helped
-Anqel
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Im not a parent but I can see what youre saying. First off, NEVER send your daughter to her room just because she's following you around, and its getting on your nerves. Is your daughter in school yet? I know its summer time, and there is no school even if she's in it, so why dont you look into putting her into a day camp for little kids? She would be able to socialize with kids her age and she wouldnt be so bored. I think shes just lonely. Im the same way with my mom and I'm 15. I follow her around constantly and its just because I get lonely, and I like being with my mom.
Hope I helped.
<3 Amber
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i think u should get her a puppy, the puppy will prolly play wif her even when shez not playing with the puppy. hope it helpz. <3 xogiggles37xo.
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well, im not a parent, but i would suggest getting her a friend. so they can keep eachother entertained. good luck - *((SHELBY))*
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You dont shes 5 years old but u need 2 tell her nicely that this is our room and we need 2 be toghter not with u by our side and tell her 2 stop shes 5years old a big girl and she doesnt need to learn not 2 be sarcd shes in her own house and nothings going 2 happen
I hoped i help!!
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Im not a parent but ill try to help anyways. I think its just a stage shes going trough and it might be just the age. Something to try is when she does something bad or when your andry at her put her in time out (in her room or face against the wall or in a coner ....) 5 mins. Make sure she doesnt do anything fun if shes in her room. She probally will cry and will get mad but thats okay. Hoped I helped! Rate me plz*
--Julie
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Well I'm no parent or anything, but I used to act like that too, it's just a cry for attention, you're someone she's always around she just wants someone to entertain her... She'll grow out of it...
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Ouch.
So you know, I've got 2 boys - one is 4, the younger is 2. The older boy used to be a bit that way. The problem is that your daughter has leanred to manipulate you quite well. Kids are very clever in that regard. Thankfully, Ryan (the 4 year old) was very excited about having a baby brother, and when Matt was born, Ryan was very helpful and tried hard to play with Matt. Now older, the two of them play quite well together (that is, until Matt tries to beat up his big brother ;) ).
I might suggest you get your daughter excited about being a big sister - talk to her about it a lot, let her know that you'll need her help and that they baby will need her help, too.
You might try simple games and toys that can occupy her interest, such as puzzles, or perhaps crafts where she has a goal to complete.
It is natural for your daughter to have an interest in what you and your husband are doing - don't be afraid to talk to her about the things that you do, like paying bills, projects for work, housework, cooking, etc... With the boys, it isn't so much that they want to join in, more that they are just curious as to what I'm doing, and they do learn from my and my wife's explanations. Ryan will even get out play tools and follow me around while I work on things, "fixing" nearby objects like doors and vents, while I work on the actual house (it is quite cute).
Keep the option open for setting up play-dates for your daughter with other kids she knows from the neighborhood, daycare/preschool, cousins, etc... having someone her own age to play with is invaluable.
Best of luck!
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im not exactly a parent buh ive seen enuff of these cases to noe thah the child prolly just wants more attention from you (the parents)... she could be feeling alone wen playing with her toys and would want company (like a frend or one of you) to play with her...i dunno all the details buh im soore spending more time with her and getting her frends thah can come over and stuff can help...
[since shes 5 she should be starting kindergarten soon rite? encourage her to make frends]
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although i am not a parent, i have had many babysitting jobs and younger siblings to care for, so i think i know what i'm talking about. do you have a pet? if you don't maybe getting her a puppy or kitten or some other live thing that she can play with will ease up on her pestering you. another thing, did she pick out the toys herself, or were they just bought for her. that might play into the fact that she isn't playing with them at all. also, does she have any playmates or social contact outside the house? if you and your husband are the only "playmates" she has, then she would probably like to have some people her own age to play with. try daycare a couple days a week. i hope that helped :)
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Im not a parent, but my nephew who is 5 is EXACTLY the same. He never listens. I have to babysit him everyday, its so hard to tell him to do things. If i tell him it`s time to clean up, he starts yelling and hitting me and such.
Im pretty sure it`s probably just the age there in. Good luck with your new baby!
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