Hey all. My name is Jordan Rae. I love helping people and being helped myself when I need it. I am a Christian and proud of it, so if you have any questions at all, or any discussion points, let me know!!! :D
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Dear Jordan,
There's this guy that I like a lot! He's been my friend for like ever! I liked him in first grade but I got over that, but I've come to like him again! I'm too scared to tell him that I like him because he likes another girl. And to dig myself deeper into this hole I've dug I told him I liked a guy that I only like as a friend. What should I do? I can't tell him that I like him because I don't know how he'll react. But I can't keep all these emotions inside, so what do I do?
And I've only had one boyfried my entire life so I don't have "expirence" with guys.
Help Me!
Lonely & In Love (link)
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Dear Lonely and in Love,
I can kind of relate to this, so i hope to give you the best advice i can.
Besides praying about this situation (which helps a lot!), just become really good friends with this guy. If you're not comfortable with telling him how you feel right now, just wait it out and be patient. Let him know what you think about him though. Build his confidence and just keep being the neat person you are to him. Sooner or later, he's bound to realize what all you've done for him. Just remember that a friendship is the foundation of a relationship. Without friendship first, there is no real relationship. So you've got a good thing going. Also, I read about this girl one time who told her best friend that she has always had this crush on him, and he stopped talking to her, and she lost a friend. I'm totally not saying that is what is going to happen to you, but don't take any big chances unless you're for sure what is going to happen. Have a great day :D
Under His Love, jordan rae
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Dear Jordan,
I'm in the sixth grade and I weigh like 100 pounds! My stomach is huge and I'm so self-concious (spelling?)! I feel like guys don't like me because I'm fat! And I feel like all the pretty, skinny girls are always judging me! I'm trying to do a sport and excersize but I can't loose the weight. Please, give me advice and help me through this hard time!
Sincerely,
Self-concious & Unhappy (link)
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Dear selfconscious and unhappy,
i'm sorry you're unhappy about your weight. weighing 100 pounds in sixth grade is normal hon. haha. for real, i mean, there may be skinnier girls, and skinnier guys, but that doesn't matter. i mean, if you're trying to exercise and eat right and all that, that's great! keep on working hard! but, don't let it get you down! Exercise actually builds something that makes you happy, so if you're really working hard, and keep a good, bright attitude towards everything, it'll work out pretty good! I'll pray for you and remember that there are certainly other reasons people can respect you and admire you than just a thin body. Plus, you're only in sixth grade, you're young, you've got the rest of your life to make friends and maintain the happiness that is just bursting inside of you. Don't be afraid to meet new people and remember this... Smiling is the first thing people notice, so let them know you're happy! :D
Under His Love, jordan rae
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I have this friend who I'm really getting close to, and I really like her a lot. She seems more awesome each time I talk to her. She is a wonderful christian gal that has a passion for the Lord. You could say that there is almost no problems with our relationship. But sometimes-and you'll have to forgive me for the broadness of this next statement-it seems like there is little tiny problems that are extremely trivial at the moment and I'm not entirely sure how to deal with them. If you could give me some advice as to how to deal with these small problems, other than consulting God, because I have and I believe that he wants me to get advice from a fellow believer. Thank you,
fellow truth-seeker (link)
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Well, thank you for your question.
Mmk. I think this is the hardest question I've received yet, but I'll do my best.
Your relationship with this girl sounds amazing. First of all I want to say STAY FRIENDS WITH HER! No one wants to lose a friend. Especially a good one (i'm assuming you are). Well, I'm sorry that you are having little tiny problems. Is this like... you're not sure if she likes you that way kind of thing? if so, maybe you should ask her about her morals, standards, whatever you want to call them. Maybe she does want to date you, but the subject hasn't been broughten up much, so she hasn't gotten to tell you how she really feels. But if she doesn't want to date you and she thinks of you as just a really great friend, cherish that and hold on to it. No relationship is greater than a strong friendship. Or if she doesn't want to date at all, respect her choice and reassure her that you'll be there for her and remain her friend.
Well, that was a long enough answer and if i didn't answer your question at all, you can just disregard this. heh.
Just remember, with a lot of love comes just as much hate. So don't get into anything too deep or let things just fade away. Strong friendships are best. :D.
Under His Love, jordan rae
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I'm very self-concious about my weight and I feel very...pudgy, for lack of a better word. :P
I weigh 125 and I'm...about 5'7".
I start school on the eleventh and I'd like to loose some weight from my thighs, my stomach, and my arms. Does anyone have any advice on how to do this in at a week or less?
And are there any weight-loss pills that are safe and effective? (link)
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Im not sure of any weight loss pills, but I think the best thing you can do is just eat right and exercise. I know you've probably heard that a lot, but it's true. Just slow down and think before you eat. Also, exercising helps get rid of fat and tone your body. Some really fun and easy exercises you could try would be yoga or pilates. Pilates helps with your stomach and abs, and yoga helps with everything else :D. Also, easy situps everyday and push aways from the wall, and if you get any magazines with easy exercises to do in them, try them. Every little thing helps! :D
Have fun! Good luck! :D
Under His Love,
jordan rae
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Dear Jordan,
I met this guy at camp this summer and he's really amazing and I can't stop thinking about him. I will get to see him soon. But I can't stop wondering. You see...he's older (only a year and a half) But he's attractive and homeschooled and lives a ways away from me. So I'm just scared that it's too good to be true, because he could have any beautiful girl on the side that he want's and I wouldn't know about it in a million years! Please help!
Thanks~scared and confused (link)
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Dear scared and confused,
Your situation sounds quite familiar. So, I hope I can give some good advice for you. :D.
I am not sure if either of you are Christians, but even if you are or not, let me tell you that if you pray and give this situation to God, He will do wonders. If it is not 'meant to be', there is obviously some reason. If you get to know him really good and become good friends first, then you're off to a good start. Friendship is an important thing in EVERY relationship. You should be able to tell him pretty much everything. And if he is loyal, and he really truly respects you, I doubt he will even think about finding 'any beautiful girl on the side'.
There is definetly more to a guy than being attractive and amazing. Really, there is. hehe. And remember, God made like.... almost half the population of men... which is like, 3,000,000,000 MEN! WHOOHOO! hahaha. that is a lot! haah. and out of those 3 billion men, I am sure you will find AT LEAST ONE who will give you everything you've ever wanted and more. Just trust God with ALL THAT YOU HAVE and don't make any foolish decisions, and its all good. Remember,
NO GUY IS WORTH YOUR TEARS, AND WHEN YOU FIND ONE THAT IS, HE WON'T MAKE YOU CRY.
So hang in there. I bet your friend thinks you are gorgeous and just as amazing. :D.
Have fun :D
Under His Love, Jordan rae.
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Is there one right person for everyone? (link)
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Wow. Well, this will be hard. But I think that not everyone has a perfect someone because not everyone will get married. But for those who do wnat to get married and have a long lasting relationship with an amazing man/woman, and have children, and a nice house to yourselves, and live a happy life... I most definetly think its possible.
If you give God your pen, and let Him write your story for you, it will be much better than any fairy tale or disney movie could ever create. You will be more than astounded by what God can do. Just trust Him, and try not to make any foolish decisions, and you will be amazed. Trust me.
Under His love,
Jordan Rae
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my friends have been telling me that it would be really easy for me to have an eating disorder and recently everyone has been talking about it. they tell me stuff like, "you could have an eating disorder and no one would know it..." stuff like that. it irritates me sooo much! because i don't have an eating disorder. i know how dangerous they are and i'm not stupid enough to have an eating disorder...what can i do to make them stop bugging me and treat me like a normal person?!?!?!
*(utterly confused)* (link)
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dear utterly confused...:D
i am so sorry that your friends are saying that! first of all, eating disorders are beyond unhealthy. they are unsanitary, they make your brain slow down, they make you weak if you get too into it, and no guy, honestly, likes someone with bones. am i right? guys, help me out.
also, being overweight isn't healthy either, but if you maintain a good weight (go to your doctor and check out the weight/height chart for your age :D) and eat good food (which is hard to do... trust me) and get active, you will look great! not to mention feel great too!
but... to answer your question.. haha... let them know what you know. that eating disorders are dangerous and stupid and that you would LOVE it if they would stop bugging you! If they're really your friends, they will listen. Trust me ;D
Under His love,
jordan rae
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jordan,
there are many things going on in my life right now. I have so many decisions to make that I don't feel like writing in here. I don't know what I can do. I pray about it, but why isn't God doing anything?
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Well, life isn't supossed to be easy...God gave us choices and we have a very hard job...to make the right choices. And our job isn't to be perfect...our job is to do our best to do the right thing...and if we don't make mistakes we won't learn. it IS easier to learn from other peoples mistakes...but if we never made our own we wouldn't have the experience of emotions. Good or bad. And no matter how painful or amazingly awesome your thoughts and emotions and surroundings may seem, life isn't that bad if you give it FULLY to God. Sacrifices will most likely be made, but it's nothing you couldn't handle.
Under His love, jordan
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