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hi, im shelbynicole. i love to give people advice and i love god. a lot. my best advice is to pray and to truthfully love god. but ill of course give you more advice.:D and i would love to help you and you can ask me anything ~shelbynicole
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Ok. I used to eat like all the time and always have cravings for food. I'm 5'1 and i weigh 120-130. now...lately ive been etaing like a bird and sometimes when i look at food i realize the calories and how much fat it is and i wont eat, and sometimes i even skip meals, it gets worse and worse every week and i dont know what happeneing...am i anorexic? or are these signs of becming anorexic later in life?
talk to your parents or a friend about it. i think you should keep eating but if you want to loose some weight, watch what your eating and exersise.
~shelbynicole
ok my best friend and i are friends with benefits and for a while it's been working out but now i'm hugely late on my period and i don't know if it's stress or not. if i am pregnant i can't get am abortion because my best friend will never talk to me again, but i'm not sure that i'm ready to be a mother. what should i do??
dont get an abortion. god might be blessing you with a kid. if you dont think you can take care of this kid but him/her up for adoption. but tell your parents, if you havent, they NEED to know im totally seriouse. keep asking me questions if you want to.
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I am a 13 year old white girl (almost 14). I am intrested in this black kid. some of my friends are ok with it but one of my best friends think i shouldnt like him because he is black. he is one of the nicest and sweetest people i know. i just dont understand why she cant see him for an amazing person and not just him being black. What can i do to get through to her?
well i dont think you should do anything. just follow your heart. you cant controll your feelings. and color doesnt matter. if you have anymore questions, you can ask me.
ok well my friend **** is always hangin out with me but when my sister is with us (( shes 21)) it seems like she just hangs out with her not me like she likes her beter when shes with me( idk what 2 do b.c i dont want to lose this friend))
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well, that usually happens its normal. your friend just wants your sister to think shes cool. its happened to me too. try talking to her about it. if you have anymore questions you can ask me
~shelbynicole
Me and this girl are good friends when she first cam to my school she told us but she was pregnant and i was like ok but then all the other kids stoped beliving her because lets face it she didnt look or act pregnant and I stuck up for her and all but it did seem kinda suspicious when she had the baby while we were all taking our regents then she was back to take the next regents the next day ? how quickly can a 15 year old bounce back from something like that? . its not that i dont want to belive her because shes a sweet girl and aLL i think she just wants attention but thats a little extreme. now i feel bad because no one bleived her and shes kinda isolated im still nice to her but no one will listen to me and just forgive her. what should i do??
i think you should ask her about it. if you dont want to do that i would forget the whole thing and just keep treating her nicely. or you can do both. if you have anymore questions you can ask me.
~shelbynicole
i no this may sound really stupid but my 2 nans are really arguing and they are soon gonna kill each other.i love both nans and my mum is in the middle of it all.she loves both of them and she starts to cry which i hate coz i hate my mum crying.my nan is 92 and she keep threatening to kill her self and im so scared plz help i rate every reply thanxs alot
hi im sorry, i think you should talk to everyone involved. i think your nan that wants to kill herself will listen. just tel her that you want her to live. pray about it and i will 2. if you have anymore questions go ahead and ask me
~shelbynicole
Well Me and My boyfriend of almost 2 years now are expecting a baby girl in just a few months.The problem is he doesnt have a job yet and has been saying hes going to get one for months now.Hes been looking and everything but still nothing.And everytime i talk to him about it hes always got the same stuff to say and sometimes gets mad about me always mentioning it.I want to believe that hes going to get a job soon so what to i do or say to him? :-/
i think you should ask your parents or his parents for help. im sorry but my best advise is to pray about it. god will listen and he will help you if you believe in him.
okay heres my story..what should i do?
i have this best friend named Jerra..and last friday we went bowling and met these guys n hooked up with them! and then she promised me that night that me n her would go again this friday with the same group of guys..and that it would be JUST us..no one else! just me n her..and then the guys! well she went to camp for a week and came back today and called me and was like "well i met these girls at camp and they became some of my best friends and they are gonna come with us tonite bowling!" i was soo FURIOUS! i started crying and everything cause i worked so hard to earn the money so i could go bowling tonite..but now my plans are ruined! and i told her that if those girls she met where there that she would ditch me and she was like "i wouldn't ditch you completely" but here's another thing..i like this guy named charlie..and me n him were suppose to hook up tonite and makeout maybe..well guess what..she's bringing his EX girlfriend! and then she told his ex g/f that i liked him and was gonna makeout with him! some best friend huh?! well i don't know what to do! PLEASE HELP ME AS SOON AS POSSIBLE BECAUSE THIS WHOLE THING IS HAPPENING TONITE! I'LL RATE YOU A 5! thanks!
follow your heart but dont do anything wrong. do what you want to do. not what your friends want to do. but also be carful with the guy, dont push it. :) sorry if that makes you mad at me. if you have anymore questions. you can ask me:)
~shelbynicole
Im 16 and My 16 year old Best friend is in love with my 16 year old ex boyfriend im pass the stage of you cant get with your best friends ex boyfriend, my problim is she really likes him she is like obsessed but he dont like her well he thought he might of but now he says he dont cuz she is inscure but they both ask me what they should do like he says should i just go out with her even thought i dont like her and she asks what can i do to get him to go out with me and then im left in the middle and my ex is also one of my best friends now so i dont really want to pick sides but i want them both to be happy i really am kinda sick of this situation help me please!
you just need to tell both of them the truth its sad but true.
~Shelbynicole
My brother and father are moving down to North Carolina. They are leaving my mother and me here in New Hampshire. I'm going to college in NH and I'm living there. My boyfriend is going there too. My father and brother are going to build a house for my family to live in. They are expecting it to be before Christmas. I don't want to move at all cuz I don't want to leave the college I'll be going to, my friends, or my boyfriend. I'm 18 years old too. I don't have the money to have my own apartment or anything along those lines and I can see myself marrying my boyfriend. I don't think if my family moved to NC that I would be able to be away from them for that long. Please help what should I do?
i think you should still go to the collage that you want to. on any breaks i think you should go visit your family. my cousin kinda did the same thing but she can rely on her friends to help her and make sure shes happy. i think you can be happy with you boyfriend and your friends. it might help to call your family everyday. for money im sure your parents can help and maybe you can get a part time job that doesnt interfeer with you school.
god bless.
~shelbynicole
Ok i have a lil problem.Well I am 17 years old going to be 18 very shortly and i am almost 8 months pregnant which i am happy about.The problem is my mom.Shes happy and excitied about this baby but i feel like shes trying to tell me how to live my life and raise this baby and it is really starting to get to me and i told her this and she says that shes not trying to do that but i can see that she pretty much is doing that just dont realize it.And another thing is she keeps on argueing with me about my b/f(the father of my baby) which i have been with for almost 2 years now.Shes always on my back about him not having a job yet and trying to tell me what i should do when i dont want to do those things, which he is looking for one and going through this one thing to get a good job.And shes just always bitching at me and on my back for everything all the time and i dont need the stress right now and im getting sick of hearing about it and argueing with her.And we have talked about it before and she says shes just scared.But she needs to learn to stay somewhat out of my business which i always tell her because its my life and i am going to be 18 with a baby and i need to become responsible.And all of this is just making me really stressed out and dont know what to do at this point anymore.What do you think i should do??!! :*-(
i think your mom is trying to help you come responsible. but if you dont want her to, help you. that you need to figure this out on your own. also i am going to pray about you, your boyfriend, your baby, and your mom. i hope your praying to because it really does work.
god loves.
~shelbynicole
okay i love my boyfriend like sooo much and i know he loves me too...but he gets these mood swings where one day he acts like he cant live without me and the next day he acts like im just another bump in the road...what should i do? thanx so much~!
>*BaiLeY*>
i think you should 4 sure talk to him about it.
im sorry but thats the best advise i can give you. i think if you pray about it it will work itself out.
where is my belly button? is it in my pants? oh wait, no its not there. but my older sister says its in the middle of my head. is that true?
are you 4 real. on your belly. hahaha
whenever i sing or act in a large group of ppl i dont, i get so scared i wanna cry. how do i get over being scared?
well, make sure you dont follow that imagine them in there underwear thing. otherwise youll probably laugh your head off. anywayz if your like picked for a part in a play or something. you just have to remember that you were picked because you are good. but i look at one spot as i am talking or singing it helps if you arent satisfied with this answer leave me the same message under my name because i have more answers if you need them.
well i broke up with my ex boyfriend twice. reason being we didn't really go anywhere with eachother or have the chance to. well after the second time we broke up, we were talking online and he was saying some pretty rude, mean things to me. i told my friends about it and none of them really like him for what he said. then a few days later, he asked if we could get back together saying how he would be a better boyfriend and stuff like that..
i have been thinking and i really do like him still, but do u think i should give him a THIRD chance?? and if so should i care what my friends say..
thanks..
well i think you should 4give him and give him 1 more chance, but you have to tell him that this is his last chance.
~shelbynicole
What if my boyfriend is embarrased to kiss me in front of his guy friends ? does that mean he does not like me or he is using me or somthing ?
i really cant tell you that. my best advice is to ask him.
has anybody been watching the news?? hurricane charlie... is it gunna b near miami?? i really dont think were prepare for a hurricane at my house... i dont think my dad wants to worry about getting ready for it cuz when we do it ends up not hitting us... wut do i do?? i have a dog that is only an outside dog. i think mayb we might b able to put him in the garage but its really hot in there. does anybody have any ideas for any of this?? charlie is already a catagory 1.
i think you should prepare anyways. and pray for it to not it miami i havent heard anything about it though:(
I have really thick hair and i can wear it down there is only one way i can... if i hairspray it when its wet. other than that it poofs out. and if i sraighten it then it looks bad. i am alsoo constantly pukking it back into a pony tail. what are some cute ways i can wear my hair that it isnt too much of a hassle?
i have the same problem. i like to put my hair in a half ponytail or put it in a bun. if you dont think those are cute try some cute clips.
Ok im 13 gunna be 14 and i ahve a bf of ova 9 months and my mom doesnt let me do n e thing like evn if his mom iz there or n e thing i mean come on its like she iz tryn amake my life hell i have been goin to his foot-ball practices a lot lately like every night so i called my mom and asked her if i could go tonight and she sed NO!! so surprizing!! u kno cuz we r goin bra shoppin. WOW bundles of flippin fun!!! but n e wayz she was all like o yea when your sisters were your age they only gut to see there bf'z a couple times a week i was like come on man i go and watch him practice then i leave cuz i usually go wid my friend and i leave b 4 he iz dun so i juss watch him iz not like i get to talk to him and chill wid him and stuff like that!!! it makes me so........... MAD!!! i mean when my sista dannielle was 14 she went to her bf'z house when they had only been goin out for a month i mean come on i am almost 14 and i have been goin out wid my bf for ova 9 months so dont u think that when i turn 14 she should definatley let me go ova hiz house i mean hiz mom will be home n stuff man she makes me so mad some times!!!!! do u think she iz doin this on perpose??? and do u think it iz fair????? sry so long
this might make you mad but i think your mom is protecting you. i promise you that your mom always know what is best. my best advice is to obey your mom and talk to her calmly about him coming over to your house for dinner.
i think youll be a lot happier. just take it 1 step at a time.:D
theres this guy that has liked me for quite some time now, i even got in a fight with him b/c he liked me during the time he had a g/f and i told his girlfriend to ler her know and he denied it. Now theyve been broken up for quite a few months now and he lieks me, and im starting to liek him. him and i ahve said some hurtful things to eachother but now we're over it, we've matured and nwo we tslk to eachother again. my best friend still cant believe that i would even be friends with him after some thigns that he's said. she tells me that i shouldnt give him a chance. but i want to. what do i do? my best friend practically hates him. please help..i rate good!!!
i think you should follow youre heart not what your friend thinks. but the best thing to do is to pray about it and god will help you
good luck and ill pray for you too and ill pray for your friend. also i think you should let the past go by talking to your friend and your guyfriend