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Me and this girl are good friends when she first cam to my school she told us but she was pregnant and i was like ok but then all the other kids stoped beliving her because lets face it she didnt look or act pregnant and I stuck up for her and all but it did seem kinda suspicious when she had the baby while we were all taking our regents then she was back to take the next regents the next day ? how quickly can a 15 year old bounce back from something like that? . its not that i dont want to belive her because shes a sweet girl and aLL i think she just wants attention but thats a little extreme. now i feel bad because no one bleived her and shes kinda isolated im still nice to her but no one will listen to me and just forgive her. what should i do??
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it normally takes like 3 or 4 days 2 start feelin good after givin birth and expectally at that age i won't believe her either but i would still b friends wit her and did she keep the baby cuz that way u would b able 2 c it and if not then she may b liein but i hope things work out wit u and her but i honestly don't think she would have had the strength 2 go 2 school or whatever it was the next day! *STEPHANIE* :)
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you can't make other people like her. for now, i'd definetly contunie being friendly. and make sure she has someone there for her. one of the worst things is being isolated from everyone. with no friends. drives alot of people to suicide. so, be her friend.
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just give her your support and hopefully she'll realize that she doesn't haev to pull stuff like that to get attention, she can just be herself.
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Some people have a lot of issues that they can't manage to sort out properly and they may never be able to sort their issues out. People want other people to care about them and to worry or have concern for their wellbeing. Its just how people are. However, that doesn't make it okay to blatantly lie. This girl said something that got her in over her head and now shes probably hoping everyone will just forget casually like nothing happened. When I was in 6th grade, there was this guy in my class who came to school with crutches one day and claimed he had broken his leg skateboarding. Eventually, he got tired of wearing crutches and one day came without them, he just didnt mention anything to anyone about it and hoped secretly that everyone had someone magically forgotten by the next day. When he realized no one had forgotten, he told everyone his leg had healed and no one believed him and he finally came out with the truth that nothing had been wrong the whole time. He still doesn't know why he did it and I doubt if he ever will. No one really cares anymore and everyone laughs about it. People do strange things for a little attention. If you care about this girl and you are willing to let go of the past - then keep being her friend. If she brings it up again, I'd say ignore it because if shes still looking for attention - deny her the attention. She seems like she could use a good friend on her side that she can trust and she will probably tell you the truth later on and feel pretty silly about it. Don't rub it in her face, tell her people do crazy things and that although its not really okay, it is forgiveable and you're always going to be her friend.
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Right - if she's a normal size girl, then there would have been a visible bump in the later months of her pregnancy. She also would not have been in school the day after giving birth - unless it was a fake baby.
People lie for a lot of reasons. If she was new to your school this year, maybe she wanted a quick way to get attention and wasn't thinking very clearly about her lie. Maybe she wanted to impress people with her sexual 'expertise.'
I'm not saying it's okay to lie, but if you really like this girl, then you should openly talk with her. Let her know, gently, that you want to be her friend, but friends have to be honest with each other.
You can't really help other people be nice to her; but if you stick by her and give her a chance to really be herself, other people might follow your example.
I think she sounds like a scared, lonely girl who might just need one good friend.
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i think you should ask her about it. if you dont want to do that i would forget the whole thing and just keep treating her nicely. or you can do both. if you have anymore questions you can ask me.
~shelbynicole
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