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I need some advice here!
Ok i have a lil problem.Well I am 17 years old going to be 18 very shortly and i am almost 8 months pregnant which i am happy about.The problem is my mom.Shes happy and excitied about this baby but i feel like shes trying to tell me how to live my life and raise this baby and it is really starting to get to me and i told her this and she says that shes not trying to do that but i can see that she pretty much is doing that just dont realize it.And another thing is she keeps on argueing with me about my b/f(the father of my baby) which i have been with for almost 2 years now.Shes always on my back about him not having a job yet and trying to tell me what i should do when i dont want to do those things, which he is looking for one and going through this one thing to get a good job.And shes just always bitching at me and on my back for everything all the time and i dont need the stress right now and im getting sick of hearing about it and argueing with her.And we have talked about it before and she says shes just scared.But she needs to learn to stay somewhat out of my business which i always tell her because its my life and i am going to be 18 with a baby and i need to become responsible.And all of this is just making me really stressed out and dont know what to do at this point anymore.What do you think i should do??!! :*-(
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Hey Sweetie.. I dont think your mom means to try and tell you how to live your life. But you are going to be a young mom. and you need all the help you can get believe me. I'm 17 and have a 1 yr old daughter. and I felt the same way you did about your mom. She always tried telling me what to do.. and how to do it... and she never liked my babys dad.. but.. you need to tell your boyfriend that he needs to get a job. you guys need to give this baby the best.. and that means someone has to get a job to get the things that she needs. But don't try and shut your mom out.. Because in the long run.. you just might need her.. I hope I helped.. If ya need anything.. Drop one in the inbox!
~*Jackie~*
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Do you live with your mom? If you do, and she's going to be the one supporting you AND the baby, then of course she is gonna be on your back...I'm not saying it's right, but it happens. If you want your OWN life, move out. If you can't move out, then you'll have to be a little more understanding when she acts like this. However, I know mothers that act like this towards their pregnant daughters even if they do move out and live on their own...
Your mother is scared, no question about it. Your stressed, no question about that. She wants to impart you with knowledge that she learned being pregnant and raising a child. Your mother is a good person. Think of those poor girls who's familys desert an unwed pregnant daughter. Can you imagine being on your own right now? A little scarey, huh.
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hey...well i can see why your mom is on your back about it because all mothers have those motherly ways and instincts..she's only trying to help you but i see what you're saying..she's doing it the wrong way by trying to live and control your life for you...so you need to tell her that you're going to be a mom too and you have motherly instincts as well and she needs to let you do your own thing sometimes because you know what's best for your body since you feel it...and you need to learn to develop these motherly ways..and you never will if she constantly tries running your life...tell her that she can coach you and help you but she can't do it for you... another thing- about your boyfriend...tell her that if you've been with him for 2 years, then he's worthy and he will do everything he can for the baby [make sure he will and he knows he has to] and tell her that having these arguements and fights about things like that aren't necessary during your pregnancy because it causes a lot of stress and anger during the pregnancy which can lead to complications...the environment you're in should be calm- not hectic..especially now when you're at almost 8 months...it's getting down to the wire- you all need to sit down [all three of you] and calmly discuss the issues that are circulating around your family during this time...just make sure one person doesn't constantly dominate the conversation- well i hope i helped..good luck, let me know! :D
<3 elle
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i think your mom is trying to help you come responsible. but if you dont want her to, help you. that you need to figure this out on your own. also i am going to pray about you, your boyfriend, your baby, and your mom. i hope your praying to because it really does work.
god loves.
~shelbynicole
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Whether you were pregnant or not, your mother would still be telling you what to do. Believe it or not, it's all based in the fact that she loves you and wants the best for you - it has to be nervewracking to have a pregnant teenage daughter; now she feels like it's her to to worry not only about you, but about your child as well.
The way to deal with this is like you'd deal with it even if you were not pregnant - show her how responsible you are. You saying that you want to be responsible is not the same as making your own doctor appointments, comparing prices for baby items you'll need, or seriously discussing making arrangements with your boyfriend to help support the child.
If she sees that you are capable of caring for yourself and your baby, she'll back off - but even so, she'll be your mom for a good many years yet, and I know firsthand that moms won't stop nagging you just because you think you're grown up. Just think, now you can do the same to your baby.
I hope the rest of your pregnany goes well!
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