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So, My really good friend just commited suicide and I really wanna read up on reancarnation. Does anyone know any really good books about that? (link)
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I don't know any books about reincarnation but Sylvia Brown says that when someone commits suicide, they just go right back in utero to another family and start again.
Sylvia says there are exceptions, like if they were mentally ill at the time they commited suicide, or if it is part of their "chart" to commit suicide, teaching the people that they left behind something important. In a case like that, then they would go straight back to God.
Hope this anwers some questions. Sorry about your friend.
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Ok i have a lil problem.Well I am 17 years old going to be 18 very shortly and i am almost 8 months pregnant which i am happy about.The problem is my mom.Shes happy and excitied about this baby but i feel like shes trying to tell me how to live my life and raise this baby and it is really starting to get to me and i told her this and she says that shes not trying to do that but i can see that she pretty much is doing that just dont realize it.And another thing is she keeps on argueing with me about my b/f(the father of my baby) which i have been with for almost 2 years now.Shes always on my back about him not having a job yet and trying to tell me what i should do when i dont want to do those things, which he is looking for one and going through this one thing to get a good job.And shes just always bitching at me and on my back for everything all the time and i dont need the stress right now and im getting sick of hearing about it and argueing with her.And we have talked about it before and she says shes just scared.But she needs to learn to stay somewhat out of my business which i always tell her because its my life and i am going to be 18 with a baby and i need to become responsible.And all of this is just making me really stressed out and dont know what to do at this point anymore.What do you think i should do??!! :*-( (link)
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Do you live with your mom? If you do, and she's going to be the one supporting you AND the baby, then of course she is gonna be on your back...I'm not saying it's right, but it happens. If you want your OWN life, move out. If you can't move out, then you'll have to be a little more understanding when she acts like this. However, I know mothers that act like this towards their pregnant daughters even if they do move out and live on their own...
Your mother is scared, no question about it. Your stressed, no question about that. She wants to impart you with knowledge that she learned being pregnant and raising a child. Your mother is a good person. Think of those poor girls who's familys desert an unwed pregnant daughter. Can you imagine being on your own right now? A little scarey, huh.
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i recently signed up for 7th grade.YEAH! i get to go to a new skool! but i got the shitty pod. and my "friend" got it too. she made me promise not to transfer, but i know i can. should i? i really hate the teachers. i will rate good! (link)
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I don't know what a pod is, but if you can trade, do it. Tell your friend that she should transfer too.
My daughter was miserable in her first year of Jr High because she had something similair, but she couldn't trade. It affected her grades. Or at least that was the excuse she used...
Good luck!!
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i don't have a father figure in my life. my dad is a jerk..he tried like almost killing me before..and i don't see my step-dad as a father! do i need a father figure in my life? please help! i rate high!
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Chelsea,
I think everyone needs an older male whom they can look up to and go to for direction. What about a grandfather?
I had a really great dad, but there were some things I couldn't tell him... Luckily my best friends Dad became like a second father to me, but not in the way you may think... Whenever I went to him for advice, he told me what he REALLY thought. He didn't sugar coat it, didn't tell me what I wanted to hear. He just let me have it!
It may take some time for you to "find" this father figure you're looking for. Don't give up, but don't let it comsume you either.
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i have a real big problem.. my best friend cuts herself.. she doesnt seem to think that theres anything wrong with it. but there deff. is. and the reason she does it is bcuz the kid she likes isnt going out with her but he likes her. and i keep talking to her telling her that she needs to stop bcuz shes gona end up killing herself one day. and she keeps saying i know i know im gona stop. but she never does. and she told me not to tell her mom or any guidence counclers or anyone. how i can help her stop hurting herslef without telling anyone about it?? (link)
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Like, "Shan" said, there's more to your friend's behavior than just "bcuz the kid she likes isnt going out with her but he likes her." There's usually something deep down that makes self mutilators act this way.
Your question was: How do I stop her without telling anyone? Well, you don't. You can tell her that if she doesn't stop, then you will tell someone. That may work. It probably won't.
There is another reason that she may be doing this. That reason is ATTENTION. Either way, she needs some help. Good luck. You're a great friend!
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ok so my one friend (lets call him shawn) had just broke up wit my friend (lets call her lucy). and lucy was realli upset. well one night i was on the phone with shawn for hours and i asked him who he liked now that he dumped lucy. he told me clues that led up to me! i was kinda excited but i needed to talk to lucy about it before ne thing happened. well i did and she said it was all good. then that same night shawn and i 3 wayed lucy on the phone. we were talking but once i got off i guess shawn asked lucy out again. now i am jelous of lucy and i have feelings for shawn. what should i do? i dont wanna tell lucy because i dont want her to get mad at me. PLEASE HELP! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! (link)
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Stay away from "Shawn". He is just having fun playing with girls' feelings...
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i have a small question guys and gurls can answer tell me this is how it seems to me when a guys dick isnt big enough for da gurl its his fault BUT when the guys too big for the gurl is it her fault or his fault caus i want to understand if it works both ways P.S if i get a single its no 1s fault or no 1 is to blame i think i will xplode (link)
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In both circumstances, it isn't anybody's fault. It's like saying, "If the Boy has bond hair, is it the girls fault or the boys fault?" Do you see how that makes no sense? What happened to make you think blame has to be assigned to someone?
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soemone asked me to make a salute for them, how do i do that? what the heck is it? (link)
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This is not an answer, as other people have answered this question. Someone wrote, "Why don't you ask that person what it is, instead of bothering everyone else with your unadvice-worthy question."
I wanted to let you know that I wholeheartedly DIS-Agree with that person!! I think it was an EXCELLENT question. I didn't know what it was either, and now I have learned something useful!!
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Hi I am a 26 yearold lady and my husband has been beating me eversince we got married he even beats are adopded child and she is only 2 I am always trying to keep me and Shauna (my daughter) away from the house when people call for me he says im not there and hangs up and then throws the phone at me this may sound wierd about me asking a 15 year old for advice but any advice will help thank you (link)
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Get out anyway you can! Seek help from Family, Social services, or even the police if it becomes necessary. Please get out, I promise you that it will only get worse...
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k this mite come off as a lil weird, but i was just thinking about you know, how everyone says having sex on your period is disgusting and all .. well what if your saving yourself till marriage but your on your period your wedding night!! how AWFUL that would be =( like do you plan your wedding around your period?? wat if your early or smthn .. planning that far ahead being early or late a few times could mess it all up .. that would just be awful!! how are you supposed to make sure that doesnt happen?? (link)
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For some women the "Depo Provera" birth control shot (administered every 3 months) stops periods. This is not true for all women and is best to test out prior to your wedding.
I think you have a good question. Waiting til your married to have sex is hard to do. Being able to wait and then have your period start, making you wait longer, could ruin a "fairytale" wedding night.
Of course, who know? Maybe your future husband will like making love to you on your period and it won't matter one way or the other. Though, any oral coppulation may want to wait until another time...
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Hey everyone, I need some advice on a situation I'm in. So me and this kid went out on and off for about a year and I was madly in love with him. I had never loved a boy that much in my entire life. So after the last time we broke it off, I was obviously devistated. I turned to one of my best friends to help me through it, and for some reason she wasn't very supportive of the whole deal. A few days later the two of them were all over each other and hanging out on a regular basis. It killed me to see them together. So I pulled my friend aside and had a long talk with her about it. She promised me on our friendship that she would never ever go out with him, because she knew how much I loved him. I was so relieved, but not convinced. By the end of that month they were going out. I was rippin mad at my so-called "friend" that I wouldn't talk to her or look at her for days. We finally talked about it and she apologized, but it didn't change my feelings. Now, about 2 months later, they have broken up, but I still have so much hate for her. I consider a friend someone who I can trust, and I have lost all of mine for her. I don't even feel the need to talk to her anymore ever again because of what she did to me. Am I overreacting? I'm not gonna lie about how I feel, but I don't think I should be friends with a lying bitch. Should I let this ruin our friendship? Or was it never even there ..thankss (link)
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You are definitely NOT over reacting. You feel like you were dumped twice, once by your ex boyfriend and then blatantly betrayed and lied to by your best friend. No matter how much you try to forgive her for what she did, it will always be a shadow on your friendship. Also, there is a good chance she'll betray you again. Don't give her the opportunity.
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My friend is a suicidal massicist. She cuts her wrists. She was molested when she was younger. She also does drugs and gets drunk a lot and likes it. Her mom is suicidal and her dad is a pot head. She went to a therapist before but stopped because he was annoying and cost too much. I think her life is taking a large turn down into a huge pile of shit, but I don't know how to help her. She is insecure, clingy but outspoken and is willing to fight anyone who makes fun of her, and that is admirable. She is also bisexual which has caused other probs. Can I do anything?
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It is so admirable that you want to help your friend. I can imagine the toll this has taken on you... unfortunatley, there is not too much that you can do. I noticed that some of the other advice you received was "to be there for her". That is excellent advice. However, keep in mind your own mental well being and don't get dragged into your friend's life to the point where it can affect your life. You are a good friend, keep it up!
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Okay I liked this boy that i worked with and he gave me a ride home from work and we had sex well after that he doesnt really talk to me much and when he does all he talks about is sex and I just wanted a relationship with him but i dont think he wants that .. So im still crushing him alot but i dont think he is crushing me so i need some advice like should i still be stuck on him and how do i get over him its so hard! Thanks (link)
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I'm sorry that you are going through this experience. The same thing happened to both my step-daughters. And believe it or not, it was the same guy! They found out about each other later when they confided to one another about what had happened.
My Step-daughters are a lot wiser now. After talking with each other, they found that the problem was when they had both agreed too quickly to sex.
Unfortunatley, women sometimes confuse sex with love. Men never seem to have this problem. Remember, if a man really loves (or even likes)you, he'll understand about waiting for sex. He'll be content simply to hang out with you, enjoying your company.
As for getting over him... it just takes time... and please don't have sex with him again, or have you already?
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Ok like, my boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now. And I just haven't really been in the mood all that much anymore. I think it's because when ever he sees me he wants to do something sexual, and I don't really want to. So because of that I NEVER want to. And he gets mad and claims that he's forcing me to when he kind of is. It's really rare that I actually want to do something anymore. I would like to just spend some time together for once and not have nice things done for me without being expected for sex in return.
I don't really know what to do. It's really hard to talk to him and I have also been thinking about breaking up with him. I talked to him about taking a "break" but he got really upset and we argued for hours. But now we are still seeing eachother. And I can never talk to him because he won't listen.
He says that we could take a "break" from having sex but when I brought it up again he got mad...again. I'm just really torn and extremely confused. I'm glad I can finally ask help from somebody. Thanks so much.
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A relationship is like a cake, with sex as the frosting. The ingredients that make up a cake are friendship, trust, and so one. Sex binds the relationship and provides intimacy. But if the "cake" is not good, who cares about "frosting"?
You seem to understand this on a deeper level than your boyfriend does. Your instincts are telling you to end it. Listen to them, before something happens that will bind him to you for the rest of your life (pregnancy).
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