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i have a real big problem.. my best friend cuts herself.. she doesnt seem to think that theres anything wrong with it. but there deff. is. and the reason she does it is bcuz the kid she likes isnt going out with her but he likes her. and i keep talking to her telling her that she needs to stop bcuz shes gona end up killing herself one day. and she keeps saying i know i know im gona stop. but she never does. and she told me not to tell her mom or any guidence counclers or anyone. how i can help her stop hurting herslef without telling anyone about it??
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Sweetheart you need to tell someone because if you don't then she isn't going to get help of you tell the consulaer then they will tell her parents yeah she might be mad at you for a while but she will thank you in the long run and just think what if she was out in the hospital because you didn' tell anyone then she might get mad because you didn't tell anyone SERIOUSLY tell!!!! You have too!! Also PRAY and PUSH (( PRAY UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS )) about it I will also be doing the same!!! Hope I helped tell me how everything goes! Get her to go to CHURCH! Love ya always,
~*+Kayla!+*~
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honestly without telling neone u cant stop her....She really needs help. Tell her counselor and they will prolly call her parents. Ur friend will get mad at u when she finds out u really did tell, but she will thank u in the end most likely. Being a cutter is more serious then neone thinks. Like u say she can wind up killing herself. She should never get depressed over a guy. Thats the worse thing. Theres plenty of men out there that are going to make us cry. Trust me. So u need to get her help. She really needs it. xOxO* Shannon
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well, there's this tecnique my friend is using, i dont know if it'll work but have your friend try it ..
ok, well, have her wear 2 rubber bands on each wrist(2, just in case one breaks) and whenever she feels like cutting herself, have her snap the rubberband on her arm.
I don't really understand it, but it works for my friend so i hope it works for yours.
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i used ta cut myself too... nd one day my best girl mindy told me that i needed to stop that becuz it hurt her to see tha cuts on my arm...nd it made her sad to think that i have to hurt myself to get rid of my pain... nd she made me promise to stop...so when i felt like cuttin myself id jus call her...so jus tell her that it hurts yu to see the cuts on her arms...nd ask her to promise yu that she wont do it again... let her kno that yu will alwai`z be there nd she doesnt need to resort to cuttin becuz she will alwai`z have yu there by her side... if yu wanna tlk more my s/n is heart x catcher -haley
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Okay first of all, you need to tell someone. But she's wasteing time on osme guy she likes, when some other guy could like her. Just tell someone, most guidence counclers don't mention names.!
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my frendz used to do tha same thing...one of them stopped but another one didnt...i tell her its rong to..jus show her how much u care about her nd if she ever did kill herself show her how much u wud care..b a good frend nd show her she means tha world to you
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Hey!!! You really need to try to talk to her about it, but if she doesn't listen then (even though she said not to) you really need to talk to your parents, hers, or maybe a counselor if you really want want's best for her. I hope everything works out for you and your friend and I hope I helped. <3Kali<3
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wow! I know exactly what you are going through! My best friend was cutting herself to and she told me not to tell anyone and she was doing it for almost the same reason. But guess what...... I told the guidence councler b/c she was getting out of hand. most likly the guidence councler won't tell her you told. Yeah, my friend was mad at me for a while but she did stop! And know we are closer than before. I'm glad I told b/c I most likly safed her life.
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You can't. I went thru the SAME exact thing with my friend. She wouldn't stop. You have to tell a parent or counsler...that's the only way she's gonna get some help. Don't worry about her being mad for you telling...she will get over it! If you don't tell someone, and she ends up seriously hurt...or dead...you'll feel ten times more guilty...and trust me...it sucks! =(
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you deffinitly need to tell a counselor a parent or sumone...if shes ur best friend she should b able to accept the fact that u told for her own good..shes taking all her pain and emotion out on herslef by cutting..try to find another way she can..say a prayer..and have faith!
hope i helped!!--rOcKeR4GoD
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I self harmed for years, and, speaking from experience, you could try telling her to stop but its unlikely she'll listen. There's obviously some very deep thoughts going on inside her head and I think the best thing you can do is be there to listen as a friend. Try and understand her point of view, and when you have done that, then try and convince her to speak to someone. Most of all, just be there for her.
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Like, "Shan" said, there's more to your friend's behavior than just "bcuz the kid she likes isnt going out with her but he likes her." There's usually something deep down that makes self mutilators act this way.
Your question was: How do I stop her without telling anyone? Well, you don't. You can tell her that if she doesn't stop, then you will tell someone. That may work. It probably won't.
There is another reason that she may be doing this. That reason is ATTENTION. Either way, she needs some help. Good luck. You're a great friend!
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first of all there's more than just the guy thing bothering her, you don't cut yourself for just one thing, you need to talk to her find out what's bothering her and then tell her that you are her friend and you are there to talk problems out with and if she is truly your best friend she will stop because all she needs is someone who she can talk to who cares about her. just talk to her and make sure that you listen to everything that she has to say, good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*
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well the guy she likes wont want a girlfriend thats all cut up and has scars everywhere! tell her to take her pain out on pillows and throw them at the door and punch um..whatever it takes! just tell her not cause any harm to herself! hope this helped =]
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Alot of the time this stunt is pulled for attention. But then again, Sometimes it's not. Tell her that it's not cool to do it, And to talk to the guy about it and leave it as that. If it gets really really bad, like seriously deep, then maybe tell the counciler because it is a problem if shes serious. If it's for attention, don't give it to her. Just tell her you care about her, Don't think that that's the mature way to deal with her feelings and watch. But I don't want to say she is doing it for attention, So if you think she's serous, maybe take it up with her to see a out side of school councler. I dunno... I'm sorry if i offended you in anyway, but I'm just telling you what I've seen. If its for attention it'll stop when she doesn't get it. Hope all goes well :) -Britty-
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You should just tell her that if she really cared about you she would stop. Because its hurting you to see her hurting herself. So just tell her that and maybe she'll listen.
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I cut myself but I'd never kill myself, I do it out of anger the pain just feels good, but I don't do it as much as my friend used to. At one point it got really scary. She came to school with cut mark across her chest, up and down her arms, a star carved into her hand, and on one knee she cut the words hurt me, and on the other knee it said kill me. I decided it was out of control and just left a note on the guidence counselors desk one day at lunch. And ya know wat it didn't work, my friend just told her she'd stopped awhile ago. Best thing to do is confrontation. I just went around telling a bunch of Shannon's friends after a while she stopped because she was tired of being told off. Hope I helped.
Blessed be,
Crimson Verdict
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Explain to her that this isn't somethng she should be getting this upset over. It seems to me that she has deeper issues than not having a boyfriend. Either she can't cope with problems or she has very low self esteem. Talk to her about why she does it. Once you find the cause of the problem, it should be easier to solve.
Take away her knives or whatever sharp object she uses. Tell her that you are there for her and that she can call you whenever she feels the need to.
Don't be afraid to tell an adult if you feel that you can't handle this by yourself. She'll hate you after you tell someone, but in the long run she'll thank you for it.
And the fact that she cuts herself does not mean that she'll kill herself one day.
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Well ur friend sounds like she has real probmles. Maybe u should tell her mother or father. A family member so they can get her help. If u don't she could end up hurting her self BAD or even killing her self. So do it for her and get her help NOW.
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