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ok my bestest friend tiffani is now going otu with anthony and i guess now it finally hit me i liked him ya know ...and i should have gone out with when he asked ya know now tiffanis happy and im happy for her i think ...and she knows i still like him ... and hes trying to talk to me to see y im not talking to him... what to do ?

Well, maybe if he's with her... He likes her. Maybe you should just be friends with him and see how their relationship goes. Ya know? I would just keep close to them both and see how things go... Best wishes -Britty-

hi im 18 years old and im bi, i have 2 people that likes me one is a boy the other is a girl i dont known who to pick? they are so cool. and thank you for answering my family history question it really helped me a lot!. :-)

Well, I think that you should go with the person you think you could be most compatable with. Maybe date them both for a while, and get close with them... And when you're sure which one you could work better with, then you should be with them... If ya need anything I'm here :) -Britty-

kelli u kno who this is, or atleast u should kno, but i'll continue anyways so other ppl can give me advice too...... i really like this guy who's 1 year younger then me. he says that he likes me too. the problem is, we dont go to the same school and i like NEVER get to see him! its hard to plan things because we're both busy ppl. we wanna try to date again when we go to the same school. but thats a looong time to wait and i dont kno what to do. i want to give up on it and try to like other ppl, but i still have feelings for him and may forever have feelings for him. what should i do, or try to do?? should i move on??

Well I mean, if you both don't think anything will work between you two... There's not really a point in holding on. But you should talk to him. Ask him if he thinks you two could possibly find a way to work things out between you too. Hopefully y'all will be able to work things out... And if not, keep your eyes open for other guys that could give you what you're looking for... Best wishes :) -Britty-

ok like me and my ex / bf have been on and off like 15 times and like after every other bf i go out wiht him again and lk im wondering will i ever get over him for the final time
like i know i like other guys and i like the ex to and now were going out again and this guy that i have gotten to like know alot me likes me and i liked him before but he said he will never like me and now he does and like im soo confused i dont know what to do and i dk if ill ever move on this there something wrong with me

Nothing is wrong with you... Alot of people go through that. Have you ever thought about being single for a while? By all means, I'm not trying to be mean about it. I'm just saying, I think you should look around for a while. Get out there and meet new guys. And maybe after a while you'll start to see what guys you know you would work good with, and what guys are just good looking... ya know? If you need anything.. drop one in my inbox... Hope all goes well :) -Britty-

SORRY THIS IS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP Me and my boyfriend broke up on the first on August at night of course I cried I liked him but I was over him the next day I wasnt like in love with him Its just that I have a lot of time on my hand and have nothing to do I have to watch my little brother from the morning till 4 b/c my parents are at work then the rest of the day I dont do anything I just stay home for some reason and when I hang out with my bff she always acts like shes soo wonderful and perfect gets annyoing you know Im just wondering how can I like not think of him and just get over him and not feel bad that I dont have a bf and keep myself busy throghout the whole day? I mean this is really bugging me I dont wanna feel like I have a bad life I dont I just need some things to do to like keep me busy and not feel bad that I dont have a bf so please please please someone help me I mean really really help me thank you soo much and if you want me to rate then Ill rate if that will get me some answers thank you neone...sorry it was long but I really want to feel better and some ideas better then watch tv or get online please help me. ThankS

That must be really hard having to watch him all day, everyday like that. I think maybe you should have a friend or two over to help when you babysit. If your parents don't agree to that, explain to them how you feel, and how you agree to bbabysitting... but just think that you deserve some liesure too. Also, maybe you should get out at night. Go to a friends, go see a movie... Something to get your mind away from it... Best wishes -Britty-

I have this friend who i have known for whole life..... we r the same age but i am in a higher grade(long story) also i moved away from the town we lived in together and i hang out with people that are older and she is jealous of my best friend but shes sooo immature to me and i try to act myself but i she isnt into it and she is weird to me.....i love her sooo much she is on of my best friends what do i do?

Well, I would ask her why she has to feel jealous... You should always be yourself though. People should like you, for you... Not who they want you to be. If she's weird to you, Maybe you two are growing apart? I say keep in touch and tell her how you're feeling. If you need anything, drop one in my inbox.. best wishes! :) -Britty-

okay so i met this guy when i went to mexico and he was really nice and we talked alot and made out once... but n e ways i haven't talked to him in a year! and i got his sn from my cuzin so finnally he came online and i sent him and i.m saying..."hey sexy wuts up? do you knoe who this is?" and he hasn't answered for over like 10 minutes! y wont he talk to me!! should i tell him who i am? or just wait for him to send me sumthing back cuz i don't wanna be all like hello? hello? hello? hello? cuz then ill sound dessperate and annoying! so help me asap before he signs off!

Well I would tell him who it is... Don't worry about how you look. Just be like "Hey, this is ------, do you remember me?"... Then hopefully he talks back.. Good luck and if you need anything, drop one in my inbox... :) -Britty-

Im 16 and hAve never had a b/f before i think it cause im afraid like ill get asked out and ill sey yes but then a dya or two later ill get scared and break up ive even tried becoming really good friends with them first so i get to know them better but i still break up what should i do

Well getting into, and getting out of relationships is part of growing. Yes, it is a little scary... But you need to go through it sometime. We all do. So I wouldn't worry, And keep your eyes open for a guy that you'll work with. But no one is rushing you... REmember that. Take your time, and find someone who is right for you! Best wishes :) -Britty-

hey! i was just wondering if anyone who's willing would give me ONE sentence on what the best part of being a teenager is for them cuz i want to make a list and i think it would be really cute!! thanks

Making good, and bad decisons and learning from them. :)

what type of questions i should ask my mum and dad about my family history?

Well it all depends what you want to know about your family history... Just tell them you are interested in learning more about your family's history and you were wondering if they could tell you about it. I'm not sure if you want to know about their cultural history or what, so it all depends on what you're lookign for... Best wishes :) -Britty-

I've been playing piano for a good number of years, but not as seriously as I would have liked. I'm 17 now, and really want to get better at piano but am not sure what to look for instructional-wise. While I've played the trumpet, I've never learned to read any music but the treble clef and am having a real hard time with it. I mainly just make up my own chords and get down and dirty banging on my piano. I love jazz, blues, classic rock - and I thought it'd help a lot more to get some sheetmusic of classic rock songs I already know. Anyone know of some good piano sheetmusic I can get my hands on?

I've also really started to get interested in bass guitar. I think it's awesome. I love many a song with a kick ass base line, and I want to learn more. I've mingled with the guitar slightly, It's basically a rearranged piano in my opinion, but had trouble with getting into it. It doesn't quite seem like the bass needs the same approach as a guitar does, though. My boyfriend has an old bass I could borrow. Anyone have tips?

Thanks for anyone replying.

Well if you learn musical theory, Specially for the piano... Bass guitar, guitar, or any other musical instrement should be alot easier to understand and play. I think maybe you should take piano lessons from a professional instructor. Also look online for class rock sheet music. Im a big fan of classic rock myself. Anyway, I play guitar... And I love it. I also sing. And I can tell you that if you correctly learn musical theory, that the rest will come alot easy. So, I would take piano lessons. They will teach you how to read music. Like establishing keys, notes, your chords, scales, and how to play. Then, look into bass and you'll probably pick it up alot fast. I sure wish I learned the piano before choir or guitar. My choir directer has encoraged me to learn the piano and has helped me a little. Music is a wonderful thing, But takes practice, passion, and ambition. So I hope I helped a little... And really hope i didn't confuse you in anyway... Best wishes :) -Britty-

im 13 next week, and i thought that to be a great musician and get a contract you had to be at least like 16; but then i saw this thing about how JoJo and britney spears (JoJo now, britney spears like 6 years ago) both were 13 when they made their first music video...
i'm really into rock, and i'm trying

Well I say form a band! Thats the first thing... Advertise and meet the band member and be sure they have the same goals. As a musician, I can tell you it takes more then a dream to accomplish your musical goals. You have to have passion and amibtion. Meaning... practice, practise practise. So maybe post flyers at school or in the newspaper in order to form a band. Then get some songs going, Maybe play little gigs in the neighbor hood, or your school, or talent shows... Get your name out there... Umm.. If you really want to be a young famous artist you have to love the music, and be really awesome... So I would get started! If you need anything drop one in my inbox :) -Britty-

my friend's parents dont think that teens know what love is so shes getting as many people as she can to tell her what they think about love and stuff like that. but she doesnt have that many people. if some of you could please help and tell what you think about love then please do. thanks.

Well I use to believe that people could not fall in love at an early age... I thought we were too immature to. (I'm 14, 15 friday) But you see I had this boyfriend... And at the begining of our relationship I believed that. Ya know... No such thing as early love... I just thought I was learning things and getting ready for love. But, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, And I realize it is love. Even if it's not 'true love' and he's not like the guy I will spend the rest of my life with. I still love him. I know this because we are best friends as well as boyfriend and girlfriend. He has respected me very much in this relationship and has ALWAYS been there for me no matter what. I just think it takes time to know what love is, and yes I think teen agers may confuse love with crushes... But I still believe in young love... Sorry so long..> THought a personal story may have helped... If you need anything drop one in my inbox... Best wishes! :) -Britty-

ok im a 14 year old girl and im cute but i am a redneck and i love being one but i would like to become more a girl and i just dont no where to find the clothes to fit my wantings and needs and well im kinda big too but not that big 162lbs its not big at all but i need help finding clothes to fit and i wanted to no if yall had a stor i could go to??? thanx

-mandi

I would say look online or at a mall or outlet mall for styles that you are looking for. They have tons of stored, with tons of looks. It shouldnt be hard to find what you're looking for! Good luck!!!-Britty- :)

Well I have a friend named skip that lives in the apartment next door to my friend kathys. I used to go to kathys place about every other day. So I would always see skip and hang out with him. He was really nice and fun, and so I had a crush on him. But, I really didn’t wanna go out with him, so I just wanted to be his friend. (When he found out I liked him, he developed a crush on me, lol)

Well I flunked the 8th grade so I had to go to summer school this summer. So did skip. Skip sat next to me in both classes. After a while he would ALWAYS be touching me, poking me, grabbing me, bitting me, sloppering on me, trying to hold my hand, constantly talking to me while the teacher was talking, spitting all over my pencils, and putting his effing hand in front of my book while I was reading. All of those things were a real turn off, so I stopped liking him. I’d always tell him to quit messing with me and stuff, and he just wouldn’t do it. So I would get REALLY pissed off at him, then he’d be all mad at me cause I was mad at him. He felt like he wasn’t doing anything wrong. Bullshit. So he’d be all upset which made me feel bad and all depressed and stuff. I didn’t even like him as a friend anymore at one point… he made me sooooo angry all the time, I just hated him.

Now that summer school is over and stuff, we don’t really get a chance to see eachother anymore. And I still want to be his friend.. but im kind of debating between that. I mean I wanna be his friend, but just all the stuff that he did and how angry he made me are stuck in the back of my mind, and get me really pissed.

So, my question is should I still be his friend considering how angry he makes and has made me?

Thanks..

Well I would sit face to face and tell him... "Look, I really want to be your friend... But I DONT want to be ANYTHING more... At all. I feel really uncomfortable when you flirt with me and stuff and I would really, really appreciate it if we can still be friends with out it". Then see what he has to say about it... If things don't change, maybe you should back away a little. But if things do change he obviosly respects your feelings... Good luck :) -Britty-

i have this one friend... lets call her Liz.. Liz always used to come over my house, we always used to hang out.. there wasnt a day where we werent together.. cuz she lives rite down tha road.. but all of a sudden.. this summer.. she never comes over..she never calls.. n i never hear from her.. then i found out she was hangin w/ another girl that was a few years younger \than us.. I TOTALLY DONT MIND THAT but i mean i never see her any more.. the girl she hangs out with doesnt like me so i dont bother hangin out with them wen they r together.. but i feel like mah 2nd half has been torn away!

alwaiiz,
Ali

p.s. i rate

Well I think you should talk to her. Growing apart from loved ones is always hard, but it indeed happens sometimes. Maybe you should talk to her about how you're feeling, and if things don't change.. Try to find new pals. I would talk to her new friend to, ask her why she has a problem with you and try to solve it. Best wishes -Britty-

I'm 13/f, and i live in florida. does anyone know where i could get a job?(well, im 13 next week.) i'm in the tampa area (palm harbor) and i'm really into music (a gig job would be AWESUM) (i'm learning guitar, and i sing) thanks!
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Baby sitting always works. If you're looking for gigs, Keep with guitar and vocals. I both play guitar and sing also. :) That rocks... Anyway, practive guitar alot, and maybe take voice lessons, and maybe when you're a little older and more experianced you will be able to play gigs. Most places don't hire that young, So I'd stick to babysitting, carwashes, and dog walking around your neighbor hood/community... Best wishes :) -Britty- PS if ya need any help drop one in my inbox :)

okay i'm 14 years old and occasionally i get these little pimples on my forehead and sometimes on my nose and around my mouth. i don't have acne or anything and to be honest i have pretty good skin but i'm trying to keep my skin really clear. i've used proactive and that didn't work at all it just made it worse! i ordered it twice i used it for 2 months and nothing worked on my skin! when i get a big pimple it's BIG like i swear it looked like i had a miniature tumor growing somewhere... okay maybe not THAT big but they get big and they bother me. does anyone have any products that i could use that aren't that expensive that would help clear up my skin a little bit more? except for proactive because i used that already and it didn't work (as i mentioned before) if you have any just let me know!!!

It could be from sweating? Where they're comming up, seems like it. If it is from sweat, carry around acne pads, like oxy, or strydex as people have mentions. Maybe in a sprtbag if you play sports, or you can get packets of them and you can carry them in your purse or handback or backpack and use them periodically. hope all goes well :) -Britty-

hey there. thanks for answering me. actually, you got my question all wrong, tho.. thing is, im dirtying my panties..but its NOT menstrual fluid. what is that? is it normal to dirty my panties like that? please answer back!

Well yeah, its normal to discharge some bit... If it is itchy or reallly smelly or irritationg then se a doctor but its normal

I might be suicidal. i dont know but i do think about killling myself a lot
so i guess i am... so someone help... and actually help!

Well this is a serious topic. Killing yourself doesn't solve anything. If you're really depressed maybe see a councler out side of school. Like a shrink type thing. But really, everyone has so much to live for. If you need anything drop one in my inbox... Hope you feel better about like soon :) -Britty-

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