i don't have a father figure in my life. my dad is a jerk..he tried like almost killing me before..and i don't see my step-dad as a father! do i need a father figure in my life? please help! i rate high!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Families? sweetpea0182 answered Wednesday March 14 2007, 5:18 am: My dad is a horrible man as well. He is an alcoholic and recently we found out he has had a girlfriend for the last few years so he and my mom are getting a divorce. They have been going thru the divorce for about two years now. He says he wants a relationship with my older sister and I but shows us otherwise. My mom and sister are amazing people though. I honestly feel that you can grow up to be a wonderful person without a father in your life. Life doesnt always give us the fathers we deserve. I have forgiven my dad a million times for the drinking and the threats and the scary nights when he was drunk, but honestly I feel like I am better without him. From the sound of your dad I would say your better off without him as well. You dont have to see your step dad as a father to you. In simple he isnt your dad. But your lucky IF HE IS GOOD TO YOU AND TO YOUR MOM******* than you should accept him as your step dad. As much as this kills me to admit I still love my dad which im sure you do too deep down. That doesnt mean I want him in my life or really anything to do with him. So your step dad isnt going to replace those feelings that you have for your dad, but you can look at him as a really great guy that loves your mom and you. I hope this helps! [ sweetpea0182's advice column | Ask sweetpea0182 A Question ]
crzybrina4u13 answered Thursday August 12 2004, 1:06 am: i dont have a father in my life either...we dont talk or keep in touch or anything. I know where you are coming from and you may feel like you have an empty space in your life. But you have your mother and she loves you so much and im sure your step father does too...you just need to try and except your step father and be happy for your mother that she found someone that she loves and who loves her in return.
CheapChineseFood answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 8:37 am: It is said that you do. My mother says it. But I strongly believe you don't. I don't have one either. But...I don't really care because I love my mother more than anything, she's my role model, and she's all I need. I think you need someone to look up to. Get advice from. Talk to. Someone who will help you shape you into the person you are going to be some day. That doesn't have to be your father. The only thing, it might change the way you look at relationships. Atleast it did for me. [ CheapChineseFood's advice column | Ask CheapChineseFood A Question ]
yayitsjordie answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 1:40 am: u dont need one if u have a good mom but u definately dont need the father figures you have. Myabe spend time with an uncle or good friend of the family because in my personal case my dad is my best friend and i dont know what i would do with out one [ yayitsjordie's advice column | Ask yayitsjordie A Question ]
sk8rgurl answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 12:37 am: listen u dont need a dad...as long as u got ur mom u'll be fine..us girls need to stick together..forget the guys..no one needs em..but even if u want a father figure..u dont have to find them in ur family, there could be a teacher that is a father figure to u...a friends dad..anyone, i hope u find happiness wiht in ur family! [ sk8rgurl's advice column | Ask sk8rgurl A Question ]
xoBabiiGurlxo answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 9:26 pm: Where is your Mother? You dont need a father figure in your life. But, that may cause you to be clingy or emotionally attached to any guy you may have a realationship with in the future. Find out about organazations in your area that provide "Fathers" for children like you. Maybe that will help. Good Luck! [ xoBabiiGurlxo's advice column | Ask xoBabiiGurlxo A Question ]
marlysta answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 7:50 pm: Chelsea,
I think everyone needs an older male whom they can look up to and go to for direction. What about a grandfather?
I had a really great dad, but there were some things I couldn't tell him... Luckily my best friends Dad became like a second father to me, but not in the way you may think... Whenever I went to him for advice, he told me what he REALLY thought. He didn't sugar coat it, didn't tell me what I wanted to hear. He just let me have it!
xoDeexo answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 6:18 pm: i dont think you need a father figure as long as you have someone to look up to and someone to love you.. like your mom. i think you'll be just as happy as long as you have someone. hope i helped <3 [ xoDeexo's advice column | Ask xoDeexo A Question ]
Sweetie2oo4 answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 5:26 pm: i don't have a father figure in my life..i haven't since i was 2..i'm not 15, have tons of friends, hav good grades, and am all around HAPPY..i did it all without him..so NO you dont NEED a father figure
xO`lexi [ Sweetie2oo4's advice column | Ask Sweetie2oo4 A Question ]
aNgeLxfOrEvEr answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 5:14 pm: Since your father doesn't treat you right, you have another chance to get a father-figure in your life. Ask yourself why you don't see your step-dad as a father. When you figure out why, try and talk to your step-dad and see if you could improve your father-daughter relationship. Hope I helped! :)
tinkerbell answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 4:57 pm: You don't neccessarily need a father figure. I'm assuming you have a mother and that should be a suitable parent in your life. Also you can look to other people you trust with things you need help with. Maybe a relative or a friend or something. **Kacie** [ tinkerbell's advice column | Ask tinkerbell A Question ]
icey0990 answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 4:34 pm: I think its a lot better if you do have a father figure in your life. Try your best to warm up to him..
or you can become close to a friends dad. Its nothin like havin your own father figure but its cool...my friend kinda saw my dadas a father figure. [ icey0990's advice column | Ask icey0990 A Question ]
selectopaque answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 4:33 pm: No, you don't. I have never had a father figure, and I believe that I turned out fine with good values and a strong will. Hopefully your mother is strong and will teach you how to be strong like her. Many people get divorced these days, and not all fathers are the best role models. Just make good decisions on who you do want as a role model and you'll turn out fine. [ selectopaque's advice column | Ask selectopaque A Question ]
AdviceMistress answered Tuesday August 10 2004, 4:27 pm: Chelesa,
i would say welcome your step dad into your life every girl needs a father give him a chance and i bet you too will have a fun time together!! :)
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