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My name is Kacie and I'm 16 years old. It's always good to get another person's opinion on your problems and maybe an outsider will have more insight on the situation! Hope I can help you out.

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I was born studdering. I didn't say my first sentance until I was 3. I still have it but its not as bad. I usually do it when I get nervous or I don't talk for a while. What are some things I can do it get rid of it?? I've had speech therapists but that didn't help.

http://www.perfect-voice.com/stuttering.htm

try reading that and see where it gets you. **kacie**

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1st of all im 17/f...me and a bunch of friends are all going out to dinner and to the movies on halloween and were all gonna dress up and i dont kno what to be... i wanna be something good not like a witch or nething but i dont wannahave some big costume and i wanna still look cute but i dont kno what to be any ideas?

Well maybe you could make your own costume . . . do you have any inside jokes with your friends that you could turn into a costume? Think about it. **Kacie**

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Well, me and my ex broke up...I'm getting over it slowly, but he wants to be friends. I'm not ready to be friends with him yet. I want to make sure I'm over him, cuz if I go and hang out with him now, I'm sure I'm gonna want him back and miss him. i broke up with him cuz he cheated but didnt get very far cuz he felt really bad and i kno in my heart he luvs me cuz no one says or does tha sweeeeetest things like he does...so ne wayz i took him back but everythin was soo different, i couldnt trust him anymore and my luv for him was fading......he says he cant handle it if we're not friends, but i cant handle it if we're friends.....what should i do? i dont wanna hurt him but he really hurt me..

You can be 'friends' without hanging out. If you see him in the hall or something say hi but that's it. More like aquaintences. Like you know each other but aren't the greatest of friends. That way you both win. he sees you as friends and you don't have much contact. **Kacie**

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well..i just went to the movies with alot of people last night (friday) and i was there with the person i like..and we were holding hands and stuff.. then right befor the movie ended..he made out with me..i didnt know what to do..is it true that it comes naturally to you? cause it didnt to me..i know i did terrible..and he is much more advanced than me..this was my first kiss..it was so embarrising cause i know i did a very bad job.. will i ever learn? and why didnt i know what to do right away like everyone told me i would? please help me..

You were probably scared. If you're so worried about doing it bad or not knowing how then you are probably going to freeze up and do it bad and not know how. Once you get some practice in it really does come naturally. It's not really practice it's jsut getting comfortable with the idea and becoming confident ! Good luck *Kacie*

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there is this one kid who i started liking, because we have alot in common, we listen to the same music, dress the same, and i assumed he liked me too because of the way he smiles at me, and plus we're going to a show together. well yesterday he told my best friend that he likes HER, which doesnt even make sense because she's not even his type. and she doesnt even like him back. i'm so confused cause i had no clue that he likes her. but my best friend still thinks theres hope that he could start liking me, but it just doesnt make sense. ps, he doesnt know that i like him, so should i tell him?

Well I think it's kind of wrong that you said she's not his type. Becuase people aren't always attracted to people that are just like them! And if your friend has no interest in him then you don't have anything to worry about having an argument over him or something. But it may be a little weird in the future if he does start liking you because you're gonna constantly be thinking 'oh he likes my friend better anyway so what's the point' i had the same situation when this guy liked me but he liked my friend better so i gave up on him. well maybe you should wait until he is over your friend and then tell him, if you still wanna go for it. *Kacie*

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whenever i liek guys i get sort of scared wen i talk to them and my whoel attitude changes around them how can i learn to act the same around him//..?

Hang out with him more often. The more you do, the more comfortable you'll be around him and the more like yourself you will be able to act! **Kacie**

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ok, well i like my brothers friend.. lets call him... BOB, ok well BOB likes me too and we always talk and hang out and we've kissed and he sometimes gets all playful touchy but just like flirting and stuff and i wanna go out with him but hes afraid my brother will get insanely pissed off at him.. I talked to my brother and he was like "whatever.. hes cool so i dont care" so i was like, sweet. Well i dont wanna ask this guy out cus i just dont, im not scared or nething but i wanna talk to him about "us" but i dont know how.. i dont think this is making sense.. BUT ANYWAYS i dont know how to talk to him about it.. its reatrded cus i can usually go up to a guy and tell him i think hes hot or that i like him and stuff and they would be like "sweet" or something BUT i CANT with BOB... What would you do if you were in my situation?... I rate high..

15/F

Bring up to him what your brother said to you. Maybe he'll take it from there and save you the trouble. **Kacie**

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Theres this girl in my class. I really like her, but shes usually not the type i would go after. Shes really hyper all the time and always going after the "bad boys". She hangs around me a lot before class, and even has a pet name for me. She keeps asking me when am i going to take her out to go driving. Is she just being nice or does she really like me? I'm not the bad boy type, thats why this is puzzling me.

She seems like a flirt, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go for it . **Kacie**

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One of my good friends is dating this guy, Erik, that I liked for 2 years, but she never new it. And so they been dating for 7 months, and Ive been a bit down latly. He just recently broken up with her, And he said he did it cause he wanted to go out with me cause he heard I liked him. But I don't wanna hurt my friend, beacause she's really down, and crying and all. I feel really bad, but on the other hand I really wanna go out with him. What should I do?

~Amberlynn

Wow, that's a tough one. I would say wait a while. Then talk to your friend first. Think about it. Which means more to you ... you're friendship or your crush? If they're equal at least consider her feelings first before you head right into it. Good luck. *Kacie*

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Hey i need some help.. i think im prude..like scared to kiss a boy like i feel embarresed like i dont do it right or something i mean i have pecked boys but never freched or madeout and alot of ppl call me prude and idk wut to do cuz even my bf calls me prude and i like him alot nd wanna kiss him but i jus cant :-/

X.oX.o --> aShLeY

I know exactly how you feel. With the first boyfriend taht I had taht wanted to make out I was so scared. Once he jsut did it one day and I was STILL so scared and worried and barely even kissed him back. Then the next time I felt a little more comfortable and by now it really is easy. You might just need a couple of times to get used to it and then you should be fine! If you relax, it really does come naturally. Explain to your bf that you are out of practice so you're worried about it and he should be understanding and willing to help you get in practice ;) hope everything works out for you. xoxo Kacie

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I'm 15 years old and have a 20 year old brother. We are extremely close and we usually tell eachother everything. He has this girlfriend who I absolutely hate though. Everything she does is annoying and she's pretty much a slut. I feel like he can do so much better than this girl but he's supposedly 'in love'. How can I get over this grudge or tell my brother how I really feel? Should I even tell him? Even our mother doesn't like her!

Don't tell him. If he's 'in love' he's not going to listen to your opinion anyway, so what is the point? It will just make him close up the subject when it comes to talking to you about his gf or maybe about other things too. Let him be 'in love' with whoever he chooses and stick to being a supportive sibling/friend. **Kacie**

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Hi well my boyfriends friends come up and pinch my ass , everytime I ask them to stop they ust kiss me like Im thier own and my boyfriend lets them what do I do?

Ask your boyfriend why he doesn't care. Then tell him that YOU care and see what he does about it. Maybe him & his friends aren't worth it ... *Kacie**

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this is gonna be long so bare with me!

i was dating this guy from December 23rd to April 24th. he broke up with me because he said that he never got to see me enough. i thought i was in love with him and i would have given up everything for him. i was ready to give him my virginity. i didn't though (thank god) because i found out that he was going around and messing with other girls. i had begged him before i found that out to come back to me and he said "when we start school i'll think about it because i still do love you." well about a month later i met this really amazing guy named tim and we've been together since may 22nd and i love him more than anything in the world. he treats me so great and he would never hurt me like that. i started school today and this girl that i've known since i was really little, she had gone to another elementry school than me, i found out that she might go out with him. i told her not to because of the things he did to me. she wouldn't believe me at all. so i told her if you want to go out with him, fine, but if you come crying to me telling me that he's been messing around with other chicks i'm just gonna say i told you so. she said okay. she told me later in the day that he still had feelings for me and now she's not sure if she wants to go out with him or not.she won't believe anything i say! she thinks i'm just doing it because i'm jealous and i'm not. i love my boyfriend and i DO NOT like this other guy anymore and today i found out that she gave him HEAD and that's she's not a virgin. If she did that to him then that's the only reason why he's gonna want to be with her is because of that. and if he finds out that she's had sex then he's gonna want to have sex with her as well. He treats girls like shit and i can't take it... she came up to me today saying "em, it makes me really annoyed that you say that stuff about rob and it's not even true." i was like okay... and you definately know first hand? she's only known him for a month... NOT EVEN! THEY ARENT EVEN DATING! should i just be straight forward and tell her what he's gonna want from her? or should i let her get hurt?

You already told her your opinion, it's your turn to step away from the situation and let things happen as they will happen. People have to learn for themselves. Imagine if someone had told you the things you are telling her when YOU were going out with him, when you were in love with him. Would you have wanted to listen? The most you can do is hope for the best. **Kacie**

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alrighty then my best friend that i've been bests friends w/ for like 4 yrs won't speak to me. and i had no idea why until yesterday --- i'm going out w/ chris and i just found out that she had feelings for him and i told her that i'd break up w/ him just so she could try to have him and she wont say a word and i try to talk to her but she just ignores me so i dont know if i should break up w/ chris...i mean i really really like him and he treats me right.....doesnt try to have sex w/ me, he just holds my hand and kisses me, and is always there when i need him most...i just dont know wat to do...help please i need it
~*lashes*~

Your friend is being selfish. Did you know she liked him before you guys started going out? If not, how can she expect you to know? She shouldn't hold it against you and it is really immature to use the silent treatment instead of talking it out. Tell her that you really wanna keep being friends but you don't like how she's treating you and you wanna talk your problems out. If she doesn't listen then put her on the back burner until she's ready to talk to you and go on with your relationship. **Kacie**

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My friend has been married for 3 years. She and her husband are expecting their first child in December. (It's a boy.) They are trying to pick a name. Her husband really likes the name Jonathan, but he doesn't know that she has an ex-boyfriend named Jonathan. Do you think she should tell him about her ex or just go ahead and name the baby Jonathan anyway?

Tell him. It was before their relationship so he shouldn't be bothered by that. Don't name him something you would feel uncomfortable with. **Kacie**

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ok i have this cat and it freaks me ot cause it talks to me and it tells me that i dont have a life and that im fat (but im not fat) so this cat is driving me crazy i would kill the cat or i dont know what should i do??

Well maybe you are imaginining this cat talking to you as how you really feel about yourself. Do you think you don't have a life, do you, deep down, think you're fat even though you're not? **Kacie**

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What's a polite way to get off the phone with someone. I'm not annoyed with this person, in fact I'm completely in love with her, but I just don't want to turn into one of those 4 hour conversations every day kind of couples.

Tell her you don't like to have really long conversations but you hope she's not offended when you cut the conversation off. Making excuses works for awhile but pretty soon she's gonna start to wonder if you even want to talk to her at all. **Kacie**

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whenever i get to be friends with a guy, i start to LiKe them...i can never be just friends really and its so awful! then after about a month i start to stop liking them...but my guy friends, i dont wanna like them at all EVER (except if we go out sometime ;)) what should i do how do i not like them

It's my theory that a girl and a guy can't be friends without one or the other or both liking the other one at some point in the relationship. It's just how life goes, hormones and everything ... if you like someone enough to be their friend why wouldnt you like them enough more than friends... so don't worr y about liking them .. maybe just don't do anything about it. **Kacie**

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okay well i really like this guy lets call him joe, well everytime i look at joe i catch him looking at me and he blushes and his whole face turns red it is really cute anyway well my friend said she would ask him if he was going to the dance and if he would go with me [we are having a dance] i also found out he likes me too. so she asked him and he said no to both questions. what does that mean??

Well he said no, he's not going to the dance. So maybe he doens't want to go with you because he's not going anyway! Or he could be the type of guy that likes a direct question .. gotta ask him yourself, dont get other people to do the work for you. But yeah, don't lose hope lol **Kacie**

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dumb question... tomorrow is the first day of skool and i dont no what to wear lol. im going into 9th grade. should i wear a skirt, should i wear capris, should i wear jeans? uh help! srry its so dumb but going into high skool ive been stressing out soooooo much. just give me ur opinion

Skirt. Make an impression! :) **Kacie**

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