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Sex and a breakup?
Ok like, my boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now. And I just haven't really been in the mood all that much anymore. I think it's because when ever he sees me he wants to do something sexual, and I don't really want to. So because of that I NEVER want to. And he gets mad and claims that he's forcing me to when he kind of is. It's really rare that I actually want to do something anymore. I would like to just spend some time together for once and not have nice things done for me without being expected for sex in return.
I don't really know what to do. It's really hard to talk to him and I have also been thinking about breaking up with him. I talked to him about taking a "break" but he got really upset and we argued for hours. But now we are still seeing eachother. And I can never talk to him because he won't listen.
He says that we could take a "break" from having sex but when I brought it up again he got mad...again. I'm just really torn and extremely confused. I'm glad I can finally ask help from somebody. Thanks so much.
Sorry it's long.
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he sounds like a pussy. whine whine.
if you are deeply, genuinely in love with someone, i've found that you are never turned off by them. you may not even realize it at the time, but if you don't look foward to intimate relations with this chap, it's likely you simply don't feel very intimate towards him.
you should just tell him straight up, "yo homedawg, i ain't feelin' this no more. lata playa." you may rephrase, if you like. of course.
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your boyfriend might be expecting sex now because you guys had been having it regularly.. But still. Every girl wants to be felt like shes needed, and not just pushed around. If he can't except the fact that you dont really feel like having sex anymore, it's his problem. Maybe he's addicted to sex, some people can be. You have tried to talk to him, just tell him maybe I really want a break, from eachother. Because face it, you've tried to explain yourself a couple times, he won't listen. So just move on, he isn't worth it if he can't even listen to you. Hope I helped you out in some way!
Best wishes
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just tell him no and dump him if he hurts you call the police
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Wow, you sound a LOT like my friend...
It's perfectly normal not to want to have sex as often as he does. Guys naturally have higher sex drives than we do.
Sex is sort of a plus to a relationship, but should not be the relationship's base.
I take it you've told him all this. Right?
I think you need to spend some time away from him, and/or anyone that would influence your decision, and really just think about what you want to do. Do you want to be with him?
Just think everything over and make your decision.
I hope this was helpful. If you need more advice, don't hesitate to ask.
-Siren =)
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A relationship is like a cake, with sex as the frosting. The ingredients that make up a cake are friendship, trust, and so one. Sex binds the relationship and provides intimacy. But if the "cake" is not good, who cares about "frosting"?
You seem to understand this on a deeper level than your boyfriend does. Your instincts are telling you to end it. Listen to them, before something happens that will bind him to you for the rest of your life (pregnancy).
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I really think you should break up with this dude. To be honest with you, it doesn't sound like he really cares about you. He just cares about sex and that's not all what a relationship is about. You need to find somebody that cares about you. I hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal
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Seriously, you should cut off the nookie, if not cut off all ties with this guy.
He doesn't care about you.
He's pressuring you into do something you don't wanna do.
Pressure him into doing something he doesn't wanna do, and that's for him to treat you properly.
Seriously, this guy sounds like he has problems, not you.
The best thing I could offer is to rid yourself of him.
If he won't listen, just speak through your actions.
No ties.
Give him the cold shoulder and the like.
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