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White and Black
I am a 13 year old white girl (almost 14). I am intrested in this black kid. some of my friends are ok with it but one of my best friends think i shouldnt like him because he is black. he is one of the nicest and sweetest people i know. i just dont understand why she cant see him for an amazing person and not just him being black. What can i do to get through to her?
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hi..mii best friend is like in love with this black kid..and he is one of mii gr8t friends 2!!
i dont care if she likes him cuz hes a good person but hes also a player thats y i tell her to be careful cuz i hate when she gets hurt!
if yu relle like him yu shouldnt juss not listen to yur friend and not like him cuz hes black!
tell yur friend yu really have to get to know him better and tell her that she shouldnt b rascist like that!....i hope yu make the right decision!
Always ` > MarLo
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Listen you just need to tell her that you really like this guy. YOu know if she is not going to like him just by the color of his skin that's not right. You should definilty go for it. who cares if she doesn't like your decision You know true friends would understand. I would talk to her and tell her what an amazing guy he is.
~Hope I was of help~
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dont worry go 4 it!! tell ur friends how u really feel, they should understand.If not they arent really your real friends.cuz they are suppose to accept u for who u are!
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Tell her how much you care about him and if she doesn`t except you for who you are then seh isn`t a true friend
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tell her that you are gonna like him beacuse there is nothin she can do bout it if you like someone it doesnt matter wat color or race or nething they are .. i mean i went out wit a black kid and he was the sweetest bf ive had like ever i mean we only went out for 2 weeks but he drove me where ever i told him to and we lived far apart and his mom told him that until he droped her off at work he couldnt leave his town/city but he did anyway jus to come see me b4 i went home but we broke up b/c we lived soo far apart.. so i think that if u like him and he likes you then u should go out and not care wat anyone thinks!!
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Tell her that its wrong to judge people by the color of their skin. People shouldn't be doing that anymore, everyone is equaly the same. Your allowed to like anyone you want too, it's not her liking him, it's you. =)
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Well I think that you should have her meet him if they havent already so then maybe she'll start to understand that hes a really good person.. And be okay with it. i think that you should explain to her that she needs to realize its not whats on the outside.. but whats on the inside.. He can be Purple.. It doesnt really matter. Also, I think that if your interested in him it shouldn't matter what she thinks.. Shes not the one who likes him. G0od Luck With Everything!! Any other ?'s just ask! x0x
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okay this is a tough one. don't get too upset with your friend b/c sumtimes when u have certain beliefs its hard to change them. im sure if she gets to know him she'll eventually change her mind but if not just dont bring him around her. you should like who you wanna like and not worry about your friends.
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tell her that she needs to stop being rascist and that its perfectly fine if you have real feelings for him.. simple as that =] XxOxO _ des*
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you can try a few times but if she was raised to believe that inter-racial relationships shouldn't exist then there's nothing you can do to sway her decision..she's just that kind of person i guess...don't let that ruin your perspective of him though...it seems like you really like this guy and he's really sweet so stick to your opinions and do what you want, not what your friends want you to do..because then you'll truly be happy- ask her to hang out sometimes with you guys...and maybe she'll see past the color..and she'll see that he's a great person and the color doesn't dictate what kind of personality he has..because we're all the same color inside- all of our blood is red...our hearts are the same and they pump the same way...and they love the same way..maybe she'll learn that.. good luck, hope i helped, let me know! :D
<3 elle
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Probably nothing will change her mind. You shouldn't listen to her though. Racism is not right. If she ends up not likeing you becuase you like someone who isnt white then she wasnt a good friend in the first place.
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If she is your best friend she should care what you think of someone she should understand but talk to her tell her how you feel*Haleigh Ann*
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sometimes friends are like that and they dont understand it till after something really drastick happens. i think you needa talk to her and tell her the reasons why you like him and that you think theres nothing wrong with a white girl going out with a black guy and tell her to go see save the last dance... it might help her out with that issue shes having.
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Well even though shes your best friend, its not her love life its yours. If you like him then you should go for him. If shes your TRUE best friend she will understand and accept it.
-aMaNdA<3
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Okay, unless he's a bad guy(and you have already cleared up that he isn't) then there's nothing wrong, I'm a white girl, your age, and I think Usher and Will Smith are hotties, big deal, I also think this sophmore in my Algebra class is a cutie, he lives in my neighborhood and is good friends with my sister and I, he's black. I wouldn't ask my friends their approval for dating a guy. My friend is going with a guy that I don't approve of, but he's sweet and loving when it comes to her, so I have nothing to say, I mean I know the guy personally, but just because I don't find him boyfriend material doesn't mean she shouldn't date him.
I say if you like it, and the both of you want to get together go ahead, If you friend doesn't want to be your friend because of it, she isn't a true friend!!
Follow YOUR heart, NOT HERS!
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Some people are jerks like that. Go on liking him, if he is a good person then there is absolutely nothing wrong with having feelings for someone who is a wonderful individual. What matters most is how YOU feel. Perhaps if your friend got to know the guy then maybe she'd begin to understand that he is nice and then she'd think twice about judging people based on outward appearances.
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Well i think you should go for it if its really what you want.Your friend is wrong about the whole not being with him because hes black.Because color shouldnt matter!If your friend is a true friend than she should understand,Listen to what you have to say about this guy and support you on whatever decisions you make.So good luck and if you need anything else let me know!
:-) ~*Nicole*~
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Just do what you think is right - carry on liking this guy, regardless of his colour. If you treat it as a normal thing (which it IS), then she'll have a harder time making you into some sort of freakshow.
If you hang out with this guy more, invite her to join you. It might be uncomfortable at first, but if she has a chance to know him, I'm betting she'll think he's a nice guy.
Prejudice is ignorance; it does not mean a person is stupid, just inexperienced. If she believes black people (or gay people, or latin people, etc) are somehow inferior, she's making a judgement based on what she's been taught. It's easy to pass judgement on a group of people you don't know - but when the person has a face, a personality, and is in her circle of friends...
Well, that's how ignorance stops. Good luck. Stay strong and continue being steadfast in what you believe - you really are in the right, and hopefully you can help show your friend that people are people, no matter what colour they are.
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well i dont think you should do anything. just follow your heart. you cant controll your feelings. and color doesnt matter. if you have anymore questions, you can ask me.
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seriously?
i think that 1st.. dont care aobut wat ur friends say. imean ya i realize shes your bestfriend n all but if u really liek this kid then go for it! imean shes not goin out with him so just forget about her n have fun!!
drop one in my inbox if u need enthin!
<33 nicole
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Ur friend was probably raised that way and the people she's surrounded by probably have the same opinions as her, just do what you want...if you like him and go out with him and if shes a real friend, it shouldnt bother her.
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just sit her down and explain that color doesn't matter to you. you like him for his personality. if she has a problem with it, then oh well. you don't need her approval. please drop one in my inbox if you need anything else. *Kk
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