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im not ready for sex but all my friends are already doing it!
im 12 yrs old i dont know anyone who has had sex (well people my age and a couple yars older) but when i read some of these problems on advicenators most of the people are like 13 or 14 and say that they have sex a lot its kind of creepy my sisters 14 but she hasnt had sex im wondering if these people are either lying about their age or more mature than me. i feel like when im 13 or 14 that il be soo pressured into sex and stuff. i hear these unbelievable stories of guys and girls having sex since they were 12. its so perverted and i mean is it weird im not ready or as into it as other people are?
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Kids have sex because they are too emotionally immature to know what they are doing. Media tells us how to act, and what is right and wrong. Having sex before you are ready at any age isnt good because it can bring unwanted pregnency, STDs, and regret because the person you did it with doesnt care about you. You will probably have plenty of pressures, but dont give in until you know its time.
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Hey sweetey well first of all i wasn't like you at all at 12 i no it mite sound slutty but i was iinto all that like i said every person is different and has there limits and some are maturer than others but thats dusnt meen they want to have sex i have never had it yet and if i will i would want to use protection and keep it on the low and it would have to be a serouse realtionship not jsut a one night thing and also dunt be pushed into it hun say no jsut because peopkle uno do it dus not meen u have to most of the time it is for the best to wait until ur a little bit older
HOpe i helped! Jacki
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Just because someone is having sex doesn't mean that they are truly <i>mature</i> enough to handle it. In fact, that there are people your age already having sex is pretty strange to me as well. There are plenty of people that are far older than you and are still virgins, and there is nothing wrong with that. Never feel like you should have sex before you are absolutely ready, and even then, please remember to use condoms. There is nothing weird about not having sex at your age - in fact, good for you for not being pressured so far. Keep it up and don't do anything you don't want to do.
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Everyone is different..there are plenty of 18 year old virgins out there..dont have sex because your pressured..do it cuz ur ready. Im 15 and i plan to stay a virgin for awhile..yes some ppl lose it way too early.. i dont think its a good idea..sex is emotional and is best enjoyed when u find mr. right
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Just take your time, dont do anything you dont want to, i was pressured into it the first time, and it sucked, just wait till your ready, not when your friends are or stragners your age
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its just ur style yes this is what the world is liek now lol its kidna sad but its true and ur 12 ur probally not as mature yet to understand it all that well and u r just 12 dont wory aboutit quite just yet
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you have to keep in mind that these people are coming from all different situations and even different states ~ maybe the people who haven't had sex aren't writing posts because they don't need to worry......anyway, i'm 17 and i've never had sex and i definitely don't think it's anything to be embarrassed about - having sex is a personal decision that you have to decide for yourself
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I'm also 12, and truthfully I haven't had sex either. They aren't lying they're just ready to have sex now. Don't do it unless you feel ready. Hope I helped!
-Kayla
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no hun, they`re n0t lyinq...they`re just maturinq faster..you should only do what`s comfortable f0r y0u..hope i helped*
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you're only 12 years old,you aren't supposed to be ready yet. wait til your at least 14. 14 at the earliest. maybe even wait til 15 or 16. and the guys and girls you've heard about having sex since age 12, well that's their decision and they probably regret it. if u feel pressured, just say no. if you say it straight out, ppl will respect you and your decision. and if it's sex, tell them you aren't ready.
hope i helped, <3 Niki Lyn (plz rate me!)
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Not I Lied
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One word:
PUBERTY!!
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It shocks me as well to be honest. Well, it used to shock me, I've since become accustomed to it I suppose. I think that (not to come off sounding extremely grandmotherish here) media has a lot to do with it. The strange thing is, this was never an issue for me because everyone thought kissing was a huge enormous deal when I was 13, apparently things have changed a lot over a couple of years. I think the reason you feel a little confused about the situation is that you are a hell of a lot less susceptible to pressure. This is a really good thing. Theres plenty of time in the world to do these things and have sex, theres no need to rush into it at 12. Its scary to think of people having sex at 12 really.
Its not weird at all, you should only be doing what you're comfortable with doing. Eventually, you'll feel a lot less weird about it and by then, all of the people have sex since they were 12 will have all contracted diseases and have kids and no job. Think it through before you have sex and if theres any doubt in your mind at all - don't do it. Good job on actually BEING mature for your age, as opposed to just thinking you're mature.
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People mature at different ages. There is no set age when you are ready for sex so don't worry about it. It's illegal until you're 16 anyway. I don't think these people *are* lying about their age I think they are just people who felt they were ready for sex earlier, they probably weren't ready anyway and were probably only doing it because 'everyone was doing it.'
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I definitely wouldn't worry about this if I were you. You know what? You never know what could happen. There are always STD's and a possibility of getting pregnant if you're not careful. People that pressure you into it aren't really your friends. Honestly, I'm 22 now and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 17. I'm married to the person I lost it to fortunately BUT I regret doing it that young. I just wish I would have saved myself until I was married because then it would have been real special on our wedding night. Anyway, if you're not ready then don't do it. I hope this helps!
Crystal
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its not weird that your not ready to have sex , alot of the people that started having sex at that age shouldnt have because they have a life ahead of them , and they could ruin that. You wont be pressured into having sex , you can do it when your ready , and you should only do it with someone you really love. Hope we helped!
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dont feel pressured, not everyone thats 13 or 14 is having sex, its not something people look upto either, the more respectable girls arent the ones out there having sex, there the ones that are just trying to have a good relationship with a guy and if your not ready, then your not ready, dont stress over it, its not something that is practiced daily all the time with everyone, its just not like that, dont have sex if your not ready because you will regret it. And YOU ARE NOT WEIRD FOR BEING LESS 'INTO IT' THAN OTHER PEOPLE. dont let anyone tell you different, dont be pressured, i really hope i helped stay safe and sweet, be careful and dont listen to what other people want you to do about sex-related things! -dr.anqel
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