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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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I just got in my second relationship and im not gunna ramble about that part... What i wanna ask is, how do i get her to kiss me? Along with the other Question i asked!?

Every guy your age has the same question. Fact is the girls your age are just as unknowing about this part of teenage life as you are. Making out is part of growing up and is a learned experience that will be a little different with each girl you meet.

As for getting a girl to kiss you; you have to take the lead there and make the first move. Most girls will not kiss a boy first. They want the boy to kiss them first and it is part of the learning process of making out. First you hold hands, then you hug and then you try for that first kiss.

When I was your age the first time I kissed a girl we were at a party and we all decided we would play spin the bottle. Some of the girls didn't like that because they had to kiss in front of the others and whoever the bottle feel on. We then played Post Office were the girl was in another room and you could kiss an do whatever in private for 30 seconds. As we got more comfortable with this game at other parties we moved on to making out and feeling each other up.

As I said though this is a learned experience for which there is no handbook. You have to just jump in at the deep end and see if you can swim. My only advice is to not force it. The girl will let you know, not in words, when she wants you to kiss her.

I an a 14year old male vergin and i want to lose my verginity badly with another woman! If there is any girl out there willing enough to "do it" despite my looks, i will reward you with whatever i got being $20+! I am not circumsized just to let you know! My address will be given to you only by email!!

I am also Canadian! I will not lose my verginity to a chubby! Or men!!!

Two things: This is not a dating site. This site is dedicated to answering questions in a semi-confidential anonymous manner. Offering money to a girl to have sex with you is illegal at least in this country with the exception of the legalized brothels in certain counties of Nevada.

It is very possible that your offer of $20.00 + reward could be construed as an solicitation of prostitution by wire. This would be an act investigated by our FBI and most likely the Canadian Mounted Police or the FBI equivalent in Canada.

I suggest you don't make any more such offers in the future. Given your age you probably won't be in all that much trouble with the law. I'm not sure how much trouble you will be in with your parents when the Mounties come knocking at your door if they were to investigate this.

I tell you this for your own well-being. I am not going to alert the webmaster about this message. That does not mean he won't see it nor does it mean he will not do anything. Fact is if it were to be reported it is quite easy to trace this message or any message sent via computer back to the computer of origin. So be careful of what you put out into cyber space.

As to losing your virginity; you’re way too young for that. Try making out with a girl first and masturbating to relieve your sexual tension. When you’re old enough to support a child then you can try your hand at sex for that is the result of what can happen if you get a girl pregnant. At your age it is the end of any dreams you have for as soon as you come of age you have to go to work to support that child and its mother.

I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in?

The following should answer your question:

An academic year is the 12 months from July 1st to June 30th. For example, the 2014-2015 academic year begins July 1, 2014 and ends June 30, 2015.

There is an 18 month window to file a FAFSA for each academic year, beginning six months before the academic year on January 1st, and ending at the same time the academic year ends on June 30th. For example:
•The 2013-2014 academic year lasts from July 1, 2013 to June 30, 2014. A FAFSA can be filed for the 2013-2014 academic year any time between January 1st, 2013 and June 30th, 2014.
•The 2014-2015 academic year lasts from July 1, 2014 to June 30, 2015. A FAFSA can be filed for the 2014-2015 academic year any time between January 1st, 2014 and June 30th, 2015.

If you have any more questions the following link will take you to the FAFSA website.

http://www.fafsa-application.com/learning-center/when-to-file-fafsa

Soon we will be going away for almost a month and we don't want a pile of mail hanging around telling people we aren't at home. Is there a way to get the post office to stop delivering mail for a while?

Go to your local post office, the one from where your mail is delivered out of. Tell them you are going away on vacation. They will give you a card to fill out. On the card will be a space for you to fill in all the pertinent information such as you name and address and a box for the date you want your mail held or stopped. There will also be a date you want mail started on again.

Most likely the mail that built up while you were away will be held at the post office for you to come and pick up. Ask the postal clerk about this so you know if you have to go to the post office to pick up the mail they held while you were away.

You should fill out the stop card at least 5 days of leaving on vacation to allow processing.

I took a sleeping pill and when I woke up it was 15 hours after I put my tampon in! Do I need to go to the doctor? Am I going to die from TSS? Please somebody tell me what to do!

You're fine and you’re not going to die from TSS. This only happened once. The girls that had a problem with TSS were leaving tampons in for that long or longer day after day after day. This allowed the toxins to build up in them.

Just don't make a habit of doing this. In the future just try to change your tampon as recommended and you will be fine. If it is ever inconvenient to change your tampon when you are supposed to and extra hour or two on occasion is not going to harm you. Just change as soon as you can.

I am a 44 year old woman. I have been married for 3 years. During the marriage I have been happy, but my husband hasn´t been. He has cheated on me 3 times, left me twice, and has currently asked me for a divorce. My problem is: I fight tooth and nail for a reconciliation. I have used logic, patience, understanding, and giving in to my husband´s every whim to get him to see how worthwhile it is to have a good life together. I feel all it takes is maturity and respect to make things work. To me, divorce is the last resort. I would feel like a total failure with divorce. When I didn´t agree to divorce, my husband became infuriated. He started throwing things, breaking things, and yelling F*** YOU, I HATE YOU. I cant let him go! I have an addiction to this man that I cant shake. What do I do?

I agree with Razhie; for whatever reasons your husband wants out of this marriage. You may be addicted to him though, from your writing, this is a clear case of you can lead the horse to water but can't make it drink no matter how much you want it too."

Just for the moment let’s say you did convince him to stay married; how can you ever trust him? He has cheated on you 3 times in three years. He will cheat again that I can assure you of. He looks at the grass in the other pastures and believes it is greener than the pasture he is in. From your writing he sounds like a man that will never be satisfied with the grass in his own pasture.

Why put up with someone like him? Why denigrate yourself in such a manner when there are much better men out there you are more deserving of. Who will love you and honor you and will live in your bed and only your bed.

Give him his divorce. Get yourself the best divorce lawyer in your area and take him to the cleaners. Then let him see if he can graze in other pastures.

I'm a 13 year old girl and I usually have a pretty normal period cycle, but I haven't gotten my period for the last two months. Instead, I ALWAYS have clear discharge. I heard that it could have to do with weight gain/loss, but there has been no change there and I am not sexually active. I know that most of you guys probably aren't doctors, but any ideas on what this might be? Thanks in advance!!!!

You're 13 still in the early stages of puberty. Even if you have had regular menses it is not uncommon for them to stop for a period of time. How long will they stop for, how long is acceptable I cannot say.

One thing is for sure is this is something you can and should discuss with your mother as she knows you best. She can decide if this is something you should see a gynecologist for. When this problem occurs in young women your age 99 times out of 100 there is no problem. Where the real problem lies is not checking with a doctor and making sure you’re not the 1 in 100.

Now your period is a natural part of being a woman. It has absolutely nothing to do with sex. You and your mom have this one thing in common and she has far more experience with this than you do. The only thing that connects your period or a woman's period to sex is pregnancy.

The biggest problem you have in going to mom and saying you haven't had a period in 2 months is fear that mom is going to start yelling and screaming at you wanting to know if your pregnant and who the father is. Am I correct in what I just wrote?

You would not fear going to mom and saying you don't feel well. That your stomach hurts or you have a sore throat. The only difference with this problem is how you approach mom. You start by saying mom: "I have something I need to ask you but you must know I'm still a virgin and I don't fool around with boys." "I have not had my period in two months." "Is something wrong?" "Do I need to see a doctor?"

Use your own words but this is what you need to say up front to avoid the screaming you think will happen if you just blurt out you haven't had a period in 2 months.

If you want to have babies in the future you need to keep your reproductive system healthy. For at least another year that means going to mom when there is a problem. When you turn 14 things change and you can see a doctor for your reproductive health without parental permission or knowledge. When you are 14 write back to us and we will be glad to tell you how that works.

Hello,

What are the best books from him besides Moby Dick? We are supposed to read two books by Herman Melville this semester and I have never even heard of any others!

Please, advice?

I don't generally offer homework advice or do homework for people I am making an exception for you. Below is a Website I found where you will find the works of Herman Melville. It will be up to you to find one to read and most likely report on. By the way Moby Dick was his most successful work.

http://melville.org/

Do you know if my hair will grow back I lost the hair on the sides of my head and you can see my scalp I cant really hide it anymore :(. Im 19 &female. And its stressing me out really bad. It hasnt grown in years is there anything that can help.

This is not a question I do not believe any of us can answer. There are three reasons for this:

First: None of us are Doctors and therefore we cannot make any diagnoses.

Second: You did not give any information such as to why you lost your hair in this area of your head in the first place. Without this type of information anyone who may have had a similar condition and might offer advice won't recognize what you are going through.

Third: Most important is with a question like this the best answer any of us can offer is to point you towards the best specialist doctor we believe might be able to help you.

To this end I would suggest seeing a dermatologist as they deal with conditions of the skin. Since this problem may have something to do with your scalp I believe this specialist is the doctor to see first.

What are the best places you have found to shop for clothes online? I don't really know which sites to trust. I mean, do you only buy from places that you have near you so you can go in if your order is messed up, or can you buy from stores that aren't in your area and still do ok?

When buying clothes online I usually stick to the same stores that I have at nearby malls. This way if there is a problem I can take them back to the local store for exchange or refund. I try to stay away from truly catalog stores with the exception of Lands’ End which is owned by Sears at the moment and exchanges can be done at Sears.

I do my shopping this way for two reasons. First I do most of this type shopping around the holidays and take advantage of the free shipping offers. Second I am disabled and walking around the Malls is a painful hardship for me and I refuse to use a wheel chair since I am able to walk but not for long or great distances.

For shoes I have found Zappos to offer great shoes by all the great shoe makers. Delivery in some cases has been overnight even though I have paid for standard delivery. This is because they have a fulfillment center in Memphis right next to the UPS logistical center. I've placed an order as late as 8 pm EST and had the shoes the next afternoon.

How do you take your car in for repair without being cheated? I took my car in once for brakes and they changed belts and shocks and other things without asking me. I had to go to work so I couldn't do anything about it, but I don't want it to happen again. That lady working there really saw me coming and knew just how to play me. :(

The only way I know not to get ripped off that way is to use a repair shop that someone you know and trust has recommended to you. I use the dealership where I purchased my car. I know I can find shops that will charge less but I have found that this dealer has taken very good care of my car and has not ripped me off.

I have purchased two cars from them and will purchase a third from them. The second car purchase was predicated not so much on the front of the dealership but the back of the dealership and I have said so to the owner. As long as they continue to care for my car as their own I will continue to purchase cars there.

You are less likely to get ripped off at service a center that knows you. I also got lucky at a Midas shop where I took a car once and ask for several things to be done including a complete brake job. When I came to pick up the car the bill was much less than expected. The shop manager told me he felt I didn't need some of the work I requested so he didn't do it and I only needed front brakes.

Did I get lucky or maybe it was because I was at the time a firefighter and it was just after 9/11. I really don't know maybe I just found an honest repair shop.

What you should do is file a complaint with the better business bureau over the unauthorized work. They may be able to get some or all of the cost of the unauthorized work back for you. IF this was a franchised shop such as a Midas or Goodyear write the company and complain as well. The franchise does not like their shops cheating customers it hurts the entire chain when one does.

Find a place to do your minor service such as oil changes and tire rotations and will do those while you wait. Then when you need major work done they know you and are less likely to rip you off.

What do you need to do to get a passport? Anything I should know before I start? I just found out I am supposed to already have my passport for a school trip but I have never been out of the country before and the whole thing scares me to be honest.

Getting a passport is not all that complicated or scary. Depending on where you are traveling to you may not need a regular passport and can use a passport card which is less expensive. A passport card is valid for travel to and from; Bermuda, Canada, the Caribbean region and Mexico. IF you are going anywhere else you will need a regular passport.

Go to your main post office and ask for a passport application. If you are under 16 you will need a passport for minors so make sure to tell them that. Complete the application and gather the supporting documents required. The return to the post office, if you are under 16 a parent or guardian will need to be, where a clerk will examine the application, swear you to the facts contained and collect the fee. The post office will send the application to the closest processing center for processing. Allow 4 to 6 weeks for processing.

If you need your passport sooner than that an expedited service is possible for a higher fee. Just make sure to say something to the postal clerk or look for the appropriate boxes to check on the form as well.

Soon I will be flying for the first time. I was told to come early for check-in, but I really don't know what to expect. I am flying on southwest, if it matters. Can you tell me what to expect when I go to get ready for a flight? Super nervous!

Southwest is somewhat strange as in how they board their planes. It is first based on the higher price tickets and then on how early you check in. The earlier you check in for the flight the higher you are in the boarding process. To that end you can check in on line 24 hours in advance. There is no assigned seating on Southwest. It is first come first served. So the sooner you check in the higher you are in the boarding process the better chance you have a getting a choice seat.

Just go to http://www.southwest.com click on check in and follow the prompts. When you arrive at check at the airport you will have a boarding pass on your phone or other hand held device to use to go the security then to the gate. If you have any baggage you can check that in at curbside.

Southwest does not serve any meals only cookies, crackers and drinks. If you are going to be traveling over a meal period you may want to purchase a sandwich to eat on board. Once you are through security you will find a number of places you can purchase food from or sit down and have a meal before boarding.

One thing that is very important. Make sure to be in the gate area at least 20 minutes prior to departure of your flight. Southwest is very punctual and if you are not on the plane in your seat prior to 10 or 15 minutes to departure they will give your seat away to stand by passengers if any.

Have a great flight, Southwest is a fun airline.

Hi I'm in pieces and don't know what to do. I've been with my husband 20 years we have a 10 year old daughter and 7 year old son we also foster a 6 year old girl. We seem to have everything you could dream of enough money, perfect jobs, joy and happiness, nice cars, perfect kids but where do you go from there when you've reached all your goals. I know my husband is displaying every sign of a midlife crisis and is struggling maybe even depressed. He's 38 & I'm 37. I found out 2 weeks ago he's been having an affair for 4 months with a girl 24 year old who has a toddler. When I found out he said he'd hoped I would because he was trying to break it off with her for a while. He says he feels sorry for her as she was physically abused by her babies father and her mam has kidney failure. I held him close while he cried for his loss after he ended it with her. We planned how we would try to save our marriage we researched on the internet how to cope with the addiction of an affair etc how all contact had to be severed and things have been great. We spent 24/7 together for 2 weeks, made love every day went out together and he showed me every text and call she sent him in the first week and we handled them together telling her to back off he wants to be with us. it seems he really wants to make things work. Even planning an expensive holiday for us in 5 months time. But I found him phoning her when he was drunk tonight in the toilet and I checked his phone and he'd been phoning her all day from the toilets while I was at a football match with him. He's saying he's been telling her all day she's not worth losing his family for but I don't know if I believe him why would he keep phoning her could it just be because of the huge amount of alcohol? He's begged me for another chance saying he slipped up and wants us he's broke down screaming in the foetal position asking me to help him. He broke his heart saying goodbye to the kids. I was so mad that he'd been speaking to her today and my lack of trust made it worse, I shouted at him really angrily telling him he's ruined our family and he's had his chance. so I phoned his sister to come and get him. He was in a hysterical state when they arrived and had to be helped out of the door. It broke my heart but I felt so betrayed! He came to me and said he was sorry when he left but I said I don't want to hear it. My daughter heard everything and is devastated. She's texting him and calling him begging him to love me and pleading for him to come back. I can't function I'm having what I think is a panic attack, struggling to breath, pounding head, vomiting, shaking etc I can't cry as my daughter is beside me. I don't know what to do, I love him so so much but I've sent him to his sisters and I don't know if I've been to hard on him and he won't come back. Should I call him to work on helping him again and try to save our marriage or should I leave it up to him to approach me? Thank you for listening I've got no one to talk to and would love a third parties perspective on this. Mandy

From my point of view I do not see where you have done anything wrong. I understand your daughter is upset and I will address that shortly. First I want to address what you are feeling.

Sending your husband away is probably the right thing to do. It does not mean your marriage is over. Sometimes a time out is needed. In this instance your husband has to see what he could be losing if he does not completely separate himself from this other women?

You have been more understanding than most other women would have been in the same situation. Most women would not have forgiven let alone allowed him back in their bed and made love with him. Sure many women would have said, for a variety of reasons, that they wanted try and save their marriage. But it would be a cold day in hell before they trusted him or allowed him to make love to them.

You can blame the alcohol for him calling her. Alcohol does lower ones inhibitions. So doing also says that he may not have completely separated himself from her and his lowered inhibitions brought out the truth of the situation. The question is now is he remorseful because he got caught or that he really wants to work things out and is willing to make a true effort at it.

Marriage counseling will help as it will allow you to speak openly about how you feel both in private sessions and together. Counseling by itself will not save your marriage though. You have been hurt and he has to earn back your trust. Just how he needs to do that is something you will know when you see it. It is not something I can suggest or point out. What I can say is that since you are at this time living apart you might start by dating again. Real dates not husband and wife going out on the town for the night. See if he remembers what it is like to show a woman a good time without any expectations of sex at the end of the evening.

Now for the children. Children can be very resilient and understanding if you explain things to them at a level they can understand. For instance even as young as your daughter is she understands that parents’ divorce. She knows this from children at school. You need to assure her that this is not happening now.

You say to her something to the effect that mommy and daddy still love each other and that of course they both love her and always will. Right now mammy and daddy are having an argument as adults sometimes do. That you and daddy are working things out and hopefully daddy will be coming home soon. You need your husband to send this same message to her so that she is getting a unified message.

Should you marriage end up heading for divorce then I suggest family counseling to allow a psychologist or child psychologist help you with getting the children to understand why this is happening.

Hello. Me and my bf had sex and my prriod.was due thursday but i recieved it on tuesday of last week. So in other words i was early . The first two days i had more blood then the other 3 . I havent had any signs of pregnancy and he didnt cum in me at all . So theres no chance of me being pregnant . But ive never had a period that wasnt very heavy . Could it be caused from.other reasons ?

Once you have your period it is almost impossible to be pregnant as your period is the cleansing of the womb to make it ready for a fertilized egg.

This all depends on when you are fertile. Most women, about 80%, are fertile from the 7th to the 21st day of their cycle. Meaning this is the time your ovary will eject an egg for fertilization. The other 20% of women can be fertile at any time even during their period. This is why it is important to know when you are fertile. You can by a kit at the drug store that will help you determine when you are fertile.

To say your boyfriend did not cum in you is somewhat of a misnomer. All men during intercourse emit a precum. The precum acts as a lubricant and mixes with your vaginal fluids so there is no way by looking at him afterwards to know that he had an emission during intercourse. He need not ejaculate in you as this emission has enough sperm in it to make you pregnant. This is why if you are going to be sexually active you need to either be on birth control or have him use a condom. I recommend doing both. The condom is a second form of birth control and is defense against transmission of many of the STDS, though not all, and the HIV/AIDS virus.

If your boyfriend has had unprotected sex with anyone else in the past. Then by having unprotected sex with him you are having sex with any and all those he has had sex with and those who they may have had unprotected sex with before him. If he is uncomfortable using a condom then no sex. When I was your age the girls had a slogan, "No rubber no lover," and they meant it.

Hopefully you are over 14 years of age. If you are a federal law called HIPPA grants you medical confidentiality over your reproductive system. What this means is you may ask your doctor from birth control without parental permission or you may visit a Planned Parenthood clinic to get birth control. You do not need parental permission and drug stores must sell condoms as well if you are over 14 years of age. This is federal law and no state may supersede a Federal Law. All you need to say to any doctor is the word HIPPA and they will comply. IF mom is with you she will be asked to go to the waiting room while you confer with the doctor.

I'll explain my position in puberty:masturbating, small fine hairs growing on my “down there" private part, growth spurt (my feet grew 2 sizes), and breasts are red and itchy (mom says that they are developing), and one more thing……………………………………TO MANY CRAMPS!!!! My legs hurt, my stomach hurts,my butt hurts, my shoulders hurt, everything hurts!!!!!! Why?????????????????????????????????????????????????

In one word; PUBERTY,

Some girls have an easier time with this than others. Unfortunately it sounds like you are not one of them. As mom to take you either to the family doctor or her gynecologist. There are medications the doctors can give you to make things easier on you during this time as the hormones do their thing.

All I can really say to is be brave for it will be worth the pain. You are going through the transition from a caterpillar to a beautiful Butterfly. I know it sounds corny, but it is truly what is happening to you. That and the fact that I'm old and a romantic at heart.

See a doctor for help.

So I have a friend that has been through a lot. Lost his mother, promptly gained inheritance and lost it just as quickly, and to top it all off he has a girlfriend who is emotionally abusive and is also bed ridden. He has so many responsibilities piling up he has been neglecting his duties with the house. I mean it seems like he is losing more grasp on reality and is not being able to provide the appropriate care for himself let alone his GF. I want to have a talk with him and convince him that he might not be able to care for her properly and with that might end up losing her ( death or otherwise) and I am afraid he won't listen to what I am telling him. What should I do?

While I have read and do not disagree with what Dragonflymagic has written. It is also not up to you to decide for APS whether this is a case they should intercede in.

You feel the girlfriend is in imminent danger of death due to his neglect then this may very well be a case, at least for her that, APS will intercede in. As to whether or not they will intercede and care for him as well will depend on their evaluation of him.

My suggestion therefore is since you feel as you do that you make a report to APS and let them investigate. If there services are required they will intercede or call the appropriate agency that can be of help to your friend.

my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand?

What "Coronary artery disease" generally refers to is: cholesterol-laden plaque can start to deposit in the blood vessel walls. This causes the blood vessels to become smaller or thinner making it harder for blood to reach the heart, starving it for oxygen. While it is quite rare for someone your age to suffer from this, it is possible.

One of the problems with self-diagnoses is we will without exception make the wrong diagnoses for we always accept the worst diagnoses. You don't say what the "weird" stuff your heart is doing so I cannot begin to make a suggestion as to what may be bothering you. I will say the simplest of the problems out there could be anxiety attacks. While these attacks have different causes they can cause a fluttering feeling in your chest. Does that mean you have a heart condition? I can't say I'm not a doctor and only a doctor can say after running the proper tests.

You are 16 years old and you feel something is not right with you then the proper thing to do is to see your family doctor. As a 16 year old you do not need parental permission to make a doctors appointment or to see a doctor though I suggest you tell mom or dad you are not feeling good and what is bothering you.

If when you have this "weird" stuff happen and should you feel faint or short of breath at that time. Then the proper thing to do is to dial 911 and ask for help. Let the paramedic evaluate you and decide whether or not you need to be transported to a hospital ER for further evaluation and treatment.

I'm not new to relationships, I've been through six; They were ALL deeply serious but ALL collapsed because it was deeply LIMITED as well. By "Limited" I mean it had limits like she's not allowed to talk much to boys, or have many boy contacts or or or...endless limits and jealousy of mine I know I had them living like she's in a PRISON cell..which is probably why they ended up.
Now, I'm in my seventh relationship. It is the TOTAL OPPOSITE of what I'm used to! It's VERY difficult for me, you simply can't imagine how hard is my consciousness torturing me! She's allowed to go out with all of her friends no exceptions, she's allowed to do whatever...because I'm convincing myself for once that "since she loves and wants me and I'm sure about that then no need to be jealous and set limits and useless stuff that will ruin the relationship" I'm really finding it hard to do so. But nothing is really bothering me much besides ONE thing. Her PHONE. Not only am I used to seeing my girlfriend's messages and calls, but I'm used to even taking her phone away for an entire day! Now I'm not allowed to even TOUCH her phone. Surprisingly, the only thing that can't get out of my head is me getting myself a hold of that phone. I want to see what she always hides on it. Ugh now I'm talking like a creepy jealous freak that I always was...
I'm seriously lost and need advice if I should trust her or not, take into consideration ONLY the phone. Do you think she's hiding crap on it so I shouldn't get my hopes and trust too high in her? Or no just trust her and be careless about the phone?

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You are trying to break a very bad problem you have with relationships for which I commend you. You appear with one minor exception to be doing quite well. This too is good, as the saying goes, "Rome was not built in a day" and bad habits take time and work to break.

Trust is something that is generally earned. In a relationship such as dating the two people in that relationship are generally given the benefit of the doubt and trusted until they have reason not to trust the other. Nothing says she is hiding anything on her phone. He phone may just be, to her, like her personal diary. You would not expect her to allow you to read her diary would you?

Given the habit you are trying to break. The issue with her phone is a stumbling block for you. One that is allowing you to hold on to the old you and not allow you to fully embrace the person you want to be. You have been a person who sought to control the people he loved.

Being a controller is thought to be a character fault and not a mental illness that can be cured. This fault is a learned experience, meaning you learned it at home or through some other experience. It can be unlearned and sometimes unlearning it requires outside intervention by a skilled therapist.

You have done very well on your own and now have run into a road block which may be too big for you to overcome on your own. I would suggest you seek out the help of a qualified therapist to speak with who can help you over this point. Your almost there you just need a little push to succeed. You parent's employee EAP program at work will pay for a certain number of visits and find you a therapist.

Your doing good, keep up the good work

Ever since my child was critically ill, she can't have anything with gluten/wheat anymore. It is really hard to tell a 5 year old child that she can't eat basically anything her friends eat or that she sees people eat on TV. Her little face... :( Do you know of any good child friendly foods I can make that contains no gluten? Bless you if you can help me!

You might try a site called "Pin It." This site has a variety of different areas to it among them are different types of recipes. In the programs search box type in Gluten free or gluten free meals. You will be taken to an area where there are recipes others have found and pinned or developed on their own. Once you find something you like you can pin the recipe to your own board to retrieve when needed.

Need an idea for a meal, try pin it. Type in the type of meal or main ingredient in the search box and see what comes back. Having a party and want some fresh ideas, type in party snacks.

I needed and Idea of a meal I could make for my wife for Valentine’s Day. I needed a one pot meal as I am disabled and the pain of my disability was really bothering me and standing at the stove for any amount of time was not going to happen. Pin It to the rescue. A meal it took five minutes to prep and fifteen minutes to cook.

In the past I have been able to make two, three or even four course meals for my wife on Valentine’s day. This year wasn't possible. Pin It made it possible to maintain a tradition I started long ago. Try it I think it will be very helpful.

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