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I'm rewriting this question because it got so long. So, I'm 14/f and I'm the cause of most of the problems going on in my house and I'm not being dramatic. I mean it literally.
There are so many problems and situations going on in this house right now and I don't know if I can take it anymore. I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm going to lose everything. I don't know how many more problems I can handle before I literally kill myself. I really can't deal with anything anymore.
My mom feels the same way, mainly because of me. She worries about me so much but I always find myself getting my self into shit and causing my mom to worry and get sad more and more. I'm the center point of her stress everyday and I can't dissapoint her anymore than I already have. I've already hurt her and in her own exact words "Broke her last dream she had" She said, too, that if another problem occurs, she doesn't know if she can do anything anymore [suicide].
But I know that there's going to be problems not too far away. This big, bad secret that I've been keeping has be on the verge of being revealed to my mom once this week and is again on the verge of being revealed right now. I can't tell her the truth because if I do, it would be giving a part of my away and I don't know if I have any more parts of me I can sacrifice for her. And I really don't know what the fuck I'm suppose to do.
I don't want to add onto all the problems that I'm 85% sure I have depression, bipolar, and ADD problems. I don't know what to do at all anymore and I need someone to help me get through this and just listen to what I need to say.
Don't say "Oh, you're only 14, you're not depressed and you're overreacting" because I WILL send you an e-mail with detailed parts of all the problems going on.
Can someone please give me their e-mail address that I can contact? Or AIM? I'm in great need of help and I'm just really overwhelmed by everything. (link)
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My email address is on my column. Don't know how much help I would be but feel free to email anytime. :)
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Hello and thank you in advance.
I am 18 years old and am having irregular periods. IN fact I haven't had my period in almost 2 years. I started late at 16 and only had my period once and then it stopped. At first everyone said it was normal but now I know it's not. I was booked an appointment with a regular doctor. I was wondering if you know what he will do. A relative of mine suggested that he will take a blood and urine test and then maybe book me to see a gynocologist. Do you think he will do these things?
And if I do end up having to see a gynocologist what exactly would be the point. I forgot to mention I'm a virgin so they can't exactly go right in there right? WHat will they do to me then? Give me just a regular check-up? Because I'm really uncomfortable with that. And frankly I could live with not knowing what is wrong and I am completely loving not having my period. HOwever I would love to hear your views on what I should expect.
Thanks! (link)
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If your regular doctor is a general practitioner
or a family doctor, he probably won't send you on to another doctor.
Not having your period can be anything from exercising a lot, gaining wait,hormone imbalance or thyroid problems. That can be found out by blood work.
If that all comes back okay you may have to have a pelvic exam. Here is a site that lets you know what
happens during those.
http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm
While on that website take a look around. There is a lot of good info there.
As a rule we don't allow duplicate questions.I am going to make an exception in your case. I
am going to refer you to another columnist
who may be of more help to you. Sabine is a nurse
so I know she will have much more information
for you. Here is a link to her column.
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Sabine
Good luck with it. :)
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i have acne and i use face washes and stuff but i need to know what can i find around the house to help clean up my face for examples like lemons and stuff but what can i find (link)
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This site has several home treatments one uses orange peel and sounds good.
http://www.home-remedies-for-you.com/remedy/Acne.html
There are really a LOT of sites with home remedies.
I will give you my search box in case you want to investigate further. :)
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Me and my boyfriend have a very serious relationship.What i want to know is a very intimate question.I've heared that sucking out sperms during oral sex is fattning and it'll make you put on weight. is this fact true or a myth? Also Is drinking sperms unhealthy? (link)
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It has 6 calories per tablespoon. So, I don't think
I'd consider it fattening. :)
It is full of protein and other things like that, certainly not enough to make it nutritious, but it won't hurt you either. There is nothing "bad" in it.:)
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My friend told me something like she was watching oprah and she found out there are fishes called the penis fish and the vagina fish. And she usually lies to me and when I say I believe her she tells me she was joking. But this time she didn't say that. And she told all our friends too. Is it true, is there really such a kind of fish?! o_O (link)
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Your friend is correct. I saw the same show, Dr Oz is cool. Here is the link so you can see for yourself, and for those who answered in the negative. :)
http://www2.oprah.com/health/oz/oz_20070521_350_109.jhtml
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I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.
Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.
If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.
You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)
This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.
Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!
Everyone will receive feedback.
Thank you!
P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods. (link)
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Chicken fried Steak
Baked potatoes
Salad
Cheesecake
Strawberries
Grapes
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i want to know what does it mean when women have facial hairs...does that mean you were really meant to be a boy and you will never have sex because guys would think that about you and what do you have to do to get out of this situation besides surgery......... (link)
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This is a good site to read. Very short article.
It doesn't mean you were meant to be a boy. :)
Some people are just prone to facial hair.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Facial-Hair-in-Women----What-Can-You-Do-About-It?&id=41812
If you want even more sites, here is a click on box
for you. Will take you right to all the info. :)
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I really need as much answers as possible.
To start off, I'm 16 Female and I have HIV. It got transmitted to me from my mom at birth, so it wasnt my fault what so ever!! So I've been dating this guy for a while now and I told him i have this HUGE secret, which i will tell him when im ready and in the beginning of our relationship, I tested the waters to see How he would handle the HIV situation. So I asked him, "what would you do if I had HIV?" and He replied "I'd still love you, and i would still have sex with you." So, I was SO relieved to hear that, I was happy that he would accept me and we'd still have a relationship without worry! And that was about 2 months ago!! Then last night I asked him Again what he'd do, and he replied "well, if we were getting married then yeah I would have sex with you, but if we werent getting married, then no i wouldnt have sex with you " SO i was SO upset! and said how low that was, because his answer was completetly different before, and i also told him that
"if he wouldnt accept me if i had HIV then he wouldnt accept my "secret" " because IT IS my Secret! but he doesnt know what my secret is. so then he said "well if it was some girl i didnt know and didnt love then no i wouldnt have sex with her but if it was you then I would." so I DONT KNOW WHAT I DO! should I tell him now and get it over with??!! Tell me answers!! HELP! and please dont say that i shouldnt have sex!! BECAUSE I DONT NEED THAT ANSWER!! I've made up my mind that i do want to have sex with him.
I really hope this makes sense! (link)
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I think you are going to have to tell guys this information right up front. Unfortunately it is going to scare a lot of them off. However, if you
wait you will be hurt more by their rejection, should that happen.
If you keep bringing it up as a hypothetical question, you are going to get "nice" reactions.
Once someone knows they are dealing with the real thing, they will naturally back off.
HIV is a very serious thing, as you know. It may not be a bad idea to discuss this situation with your doctor. The "how do I tell guys" thing. He/she may have dealt with the situation with other people, and can give you some helpful tips.
Here is a website that has a LOT of information
on how to tell others you have HIV. I think it
may have something to help you with this too. :)
http://www.thebody.com/index/telling.html
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ok so im 100 lbs and in the 8th grade, and i want to be smaller. i used to be the thinnest of all... then i gained. i want to be the SMALLEST of everyone i know, and i know i can do it b/c i have before. i really want to become anorexic, PLEASE, ive heard all about how it screws you up and stuff, but i want ways to BECOME anorexic, not people telling me the dangers i already know all that. if youve been anorexic before, please tell me how you did it, b/c i want to be! i havent eaten all day and when i do, i just throw it up. i dont seem to be seeing much of a difference, so please tell me how to be anorexic. (link)
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You need to see a doctor and tell an adult about
this. Anorexia will kill you if you keep it up.
Whats the point of being skinny in your grave?
None at all.
You won't be getting any tips here on
becoming anorexic. It is dangerous and users will
banned if they give you tips.
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okay me & my bf wanna do more stuff like fingering & handjobs,etc.but we have absolutly no place to do it! my parents dont let me have guys in my room and ive never even been to his house (pathetic i no).where are some COMFORTABLE places we can do stuff?
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I will be the bad guy. If you have no privacy,
you don't do those things. People old enough
to do sexual things have enough sense to do
it in private.
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Do laxatives really make you lose weight? does it stay off. i know its not healthy but can former lax. abusers tell me their results. and the pros and cons. (link)
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Laxative abuse is very dangerous. As are all eating disorders. Get some help if you are thinking of trying any of them. They all damage your health and
can be deadly. Here is a list of complications you can expect from laxative abuse.
Medical Complications of Laxative Abuse
The medical complications of laxative abuse depend on several factors, including the type of laxatives used, the amount used, and how long they have been used. Some of the more common complications of laxative abuse follow.
Constipation. Repeated use of laxatives actually causes constipation. This may lead people to increase the dosage of the amount of laxative, which in turn only worsens the constipation problem.
Dehydration. Laxatives cause fluid loss through the intestines. Dehydration then impairs body functioning. (can cause death)
Electrolyte abnormalities. Many people who abuse laxatives often demonstrate electrolyte imbalances. Electrolytes such as potassium, sodium, and chloride are important to life functions. With chronic diarrhea, electrolytes are drawn out of the body through the feces. This leads to an electrolyte imbalance in the body.
Edema. As noted before, laxatives cause fluid loss. Dramatic changes or fluctuations in fluid balance confuse the body's self-regulating protective mechanisms by retaining fluid. As a result, prolonged laxative abuse frequently leads to fluid retention or edema. (edema means swelling)
Bleeding. People who abuse laxatives, especially the stimulant-type laxatives, can develop blood in their stools. Chronic blood loss associated with laxative abuse can lead to anemia.
Impaired bowel function. People who abuse stimulant-type laxatives can develop permanent impairment of bowel function.
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13/f ok in like march i got felt up by my bf at the mall in a photo booth and he was goting up my shirt and i had 2 bras on cuz in kinda flat and he took his hand out of my shirt and looked at me weird and just startin m.o with me some more and never felt me up aver agin and the monday after that he spread a roumor that i wear 2 bras and every1 was makin fun of me what should i do
**Summer** (link)
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It isn't really a rumor because what he said was true. You were wearing 2 bras. However, if he was
really your best friend, he wouldn't be telling others so they could make fun of you.
So, I wouldn't be friends with him anymore. Not best friends anyway. There isn't a lot you can do about the teasing. Ignore them as best you can. They will forget. Make a joke about it and don't get upset.
Thats what they want. If you don't get upset and just laugh with them about it, they will get tired of it and stop. :)
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Hello there,
I would like to have a list of ALL social networking and community based websites that are out there.
I need this for a project which you will all hear about soon.
If you know of a site, or many sites, that are like livejournal, myspace, youtube, etc... please list them, and also tell me what you like/hate about each one if you have the time.
Thank you!
All answers will receive feedback. (link)
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This should help some. :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_networking_websites
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ok im almost 18 and when i was younger i experminted i was like 6or7 at the time it was like 10 or more years ago and the kid i experimented with was like 8or9 only like 2 years older than i am and i havent done anything since than nothings been in there fingers or nothing and i want to know can i still consider myself a virgin it happened so long ago and do you think that ill be tight still i dont even remeber if it fully went in or not i mean he was only like 9 how big can it be so will i still be tight like a virgin please help and i just want to know am i or not and will i be tight will the guys suspect please help
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Sure you would still be considered a virgin.
A 6 or 7 year old child doesn't know enough
to be having "sex". It was just playing around
and discovering. Don't even worry about it. :)
Edit...
They won't be able to tell at all. :)
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I started self harming about a year and a half-2 years ago..
Stopped about a month or so ago..
but ive started again..
and school have found out..
but they have no proof, cause im almost certain that no-ones seen..
my parents are split up, and i generally wear hoodies and a watch/ bracelet over my wrist..
but, what if im asked to show my rists..
what can I say to stop them seeing.
Do i have to show them?
I also have me Home Economics practical on Monday, and have to take the watch off..
any way that I can reduce the scars even if I stop now?
Thanks
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If they are healed you can try using some
foundation type make-up. That might work.
Carry it in your pocket because you may have to
re-apply it.
They also make some pretty large band aids.
It may draw attention but might work.
I don't know how it would work in the home-ec
department, but if a watch will cover it, maybe
you could wear a hair tie thing or two on your wrist. I always have a couple of on my arm. I doubt they would draw attention. I wish I could remember what they are called.
Scrunchies...thats what they are. :)
If you do get found out though, realize they are only trying to help. Most kids do need outside help to stop. I hope you can do it on your own,
but if you can't please take help for it. There
are other ways to deal with stress & depression.
Sure hope you find them. Good luck sweetie. :)
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My email for my myspace is hev7777777@advicenators.com and they sent my password to advicenators but I dont know how to find where they sent it so that I can sign onto my myspace! Please help me I need to talk to my sister that I havent talked to for ever now and need to find out how I am going to go to Indiana for summer but need to find where they sent my password to on here!!!!!!! (link)
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There is no email address to receive mail here at advicenators. You have to use your personal email address.
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Okay, you seem like you're great at giving advice,
so im gonna try you here..
Im a reoccurant self harmer..
who also has a slight eating disorder..
hut that isnt the point
School has sound out about the self harm
and i have a feeling that ill get called for it tomorrow
I dont want them involved,
it ruined my life for ages last time.
I was on the brink of suicide except I had a few strong friends.
Somehow, i have to hide my scars tomorrow..
or have some kind of way to deny that Ive been doing it
I can stop,
I just dont need athority to help
Thank you
TG (link)
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To be honest there probably isn't a way to hide them. If they have already seen them they just make you roll up your sleeves or whatever.
How do you hide it from your parents? Doing the same at school is probably your only way.
I may be misunderstanding. If you no longer self harm and want to keep past scars from them, why bother? Instead be proud of the fact that you no longer do that and wear your scars proudly. It is something you did during a rough spot in your life.
Let people ask, help them with their problem if they have one. :)
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So, my boyfriend and i have been together nearly 2 years..im 18 and he's 19..im going to college next year in penssylvania..and he tells me that he's probably moving to georgia next month becuz his family is..I feel like he's really attatched to his family and that's the only reason why he's going but that he doesn't really want to, and i also feel like he has a lot of options up here( in jersey)..i'm worried that he's going to move there and that we're going to have to break up..he's been acting kind of distant lately and i am worried he's going to break up wit me before he leaves..i really want to keep up our relationship becuase we love each other a lot but i on't kno what to do..any suggestions?. he also said he would want to get an appartment wit me at some point..so idk what to do i've been really upset.please help (link)
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I think you need to tell him how you feel about it.Let him know your worried and see what he
says.
I know that he probably wants to be with his family. Nothing really wrong with that.
The fact that he is 19 and should be doing something with his life on his own away from the family worries me just a little. I mean, this would be the perfect time to get out on his own. Maybe move closer to where you are going to be in school.
It all boils down to this. You are looking at a long distance relationship. It will be tough going. You need to find out what he is thinking soon. So talk to him about it. See if there is a future for the 2 of you.
I know you don't even want to think about the possibility of a breakup, but if its going to happen, better it be now. In all honesty, I think he has a little growing up to do. :)
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Ok so me and a good guy friend have been friends with benefits for awhile. It used to be just making out but recently we've been dryhumping a lot. He wants me to give him a handjob and he also wants to touch my boobs and stuff but I said it was against my morals. Am I being hypocritical that I'm dry-humping but won't let him touch me under my clothes? Which is usually considered more serious?
I'm still a virgin if I dry hump right? (link)
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I'm sure you won't like this but my advice is to stop the "friends with benefits" all together.
Any kind of sexual touching is serious. You are being serious with someone who doesn't care enough to even make you his girlfriend.
You are still a virgin. But honestly, if you feel
you must continue being friends with benefits, don't let it go any farther. One step leads to another
and before long you will be doing even MORE serious things.
Don't let yourself be used. :)
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15/m.... me and my boyfriend (16/m) were having sex and he had a condom on. During the sex, which was my first time, and I loved it, his condom came off and when he pulled his dick out the condom wasn't there and we couldn't find it.. like I don't even feel it.
What should I do? (link)
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If it cannot be found you need to see a doctor and have it removed. It can and will cause infection. It may also cause you to have a bowel obstruction which can turn into a medical emergency.
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