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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also.

I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.

If you have a question that you would like to keep private, you can email me and I'll get back to you as soon as possible.

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Alright so a few nights ago I got really, really drunk. Like, I can't even remember anything besides taking the shots.
But the thing is
I got drunk and this guy fingered me+I gave him head. I'm a virgin so really the only thing that's 'been in me' was his finger...
and I'm pretty sore
But the thingis...
I don't know If he actually put his dick inside of me. He might've, but he doesn't remember either.
I got my period the next morning, so I'm wondering if there's any possibility at all that I may be pregnant.
thankyou

If any of his sperm came in contact with your vagina, there is a possibility of being pregnant. I would suggest going to your local health department or family doctor for a checkup. Since you're unsure of whether you had sex, there is a possibility that you did, and that it was unprotected. You need to be tested for both pregnancy and STDs.

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Do you know if Shrek 2 won any oscars ?
And what were they ? A link would be good.
please dont say google or yahoo it !!






For movie questions, I would recommend visiting www.imdb.com. You can find out loads of information about the movie, including any awards nominated for and if they won. For the direct link to the page for Shrek 2, try this link.
http://imdb.com/title/tt0298148/

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What do they mean by this " But, not till Man forgets his wings, Will man forget his wrights "

This is a poem about Wilburt & Orville Wright !!


please help fast !!

The Wright brothers were the first to develop an effective airplane. I think the line means that until man forgets his wish to fly, he won't forget the Wright brothers because they made it possible.

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This year, I'm taking the SAT. I've taken the PSAT and didnt do as well as I thought I could. How can I prepare for it, because I am very busy with sports, clubs, AND AP classes!! Also, what topics are there? Like what do I need to know for the math, reading, and writing parts?

ONE MORE THING. =) I'm taking a very hard class this year: AP World History. It's extremely difficult, and I am having trouble remembering everything that we have already learned. How do I remember all of it easily and how do I pass the AP test with flying colours?

THANK YOU! THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT! PLEASE DON'T DELETE.

The SAT generally has two parts, math and language. Check your school library or speak to your school counselor about getting a test guide. Most schools have several copies in the library. These books offer an overview of what's covered on the SAT as well as some practice tests so you can get used to the questions that will be asked.


For your AP class, I would recommend asking the teacher for a guide. You can also talk to your school counselor about study guides. Good luck.

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Well theres this guy at my work ( i work at burget king and im 17) and he hits on me all of the time! The other day he kind of stuck his hand down my pants!

anyone have any ideas how i can stop him from hitting on me all the time?!

Advice would help! thanks

You shouldn't have to put up with this kind of behavior. Not only is it wrong; it's against the law. Talk to your manager about what's been going on now, before anything else happens. Your manager should take steps to prevent this from happening again. If the manager won't take you seriously, visit the department of labor and explain to them what's going on.

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you answered my question about chicken earlier, well what if i get boneless chicken and fry it on the oven. is that good? i want to loose weight, so i think im gonna start eating only chicken. so i was jsut trying to figure it out.

Well if you're trying to lose weight, I would recommend against frying as it will add fat. I would suggest boneless, skinless chicken prepared by baking or boiling. To keep it from being bland, you can add spices. I've found rosemary and garlic to be good with chicken.


One thing to remember when dieting is to have a little variety. Otherwise, you're going to get tired of the diet fast. Try other proteins such as tunafish, seafood, and fish for variety. Chicken is pretty versatile and can be prepared a lot of ways. Try adding it to your salad or making chicken fajitas. I'm giving you a couple links to recipes to help.

http://www.lowcarb-recipes.net/recipes/Main-Dish/Chicken
http://www.camacdonald.com/lc/LowCarbohydrateCooking-Recipes.htm
http://www.mylowcarbdietrecipes.com/myrecipes.asp
http://www.lowcarbrecipes.org/


As with any diet, I would recommend taking a good quality multi-vitamin to make sure you're getting all the vitamins and minerals you need. I always took One A Day Weight Smart when I dieted.

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If you want a divorce but your spoude refuses to sign the pepers, are you still married until they sign them? Or can they be forced to sign them? Or do they even need to, to be fully divorced? Thanks all! I rate!

Until the divorce decree has been issued, you are still legally married. There's no way to force someone to sign the papers. However, in cases such as this, you can petition the court for a divorce. I would suggest speaking to a marriage attorney for more specialized advice. They can better explain the process and what you need to do. If money is an issue, look for an attorney that offers free consultations or look up your local legal aid. Good luck.

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Hi I'm 25yrs old and looking for some practical advice on opening a bar/small club in South East London or North West Kent England. I know how to run and manage a business to an extent but not sure where to start when setting one up. Need to work out costs mainly but struggling to even find premises for sale or lease. What is better freehold or to lease? Are there particular things I should be doing in certain orders with regards to getting any licences I may need. If anyone can help I'd really apprieciate the advice. Thanks.

I would suggest consulting an attorney and an accountant. The attorney can give you more detailed advice on the various legal issues you will encounter. They can also advise you on the licenses you will need and how to get them. The accountant will help you work out the best strategy for money, taxes, etc.


I would also recommend checking your local business association for some advice. Another option would be to speak to some other owners of businesses such as what you're planning. Since they've already been through all the startup issues, they will be able to give you more specialized advice.


If you haven't already taken some business/accounting classes, I would suggest you do so. It will give you a better idea of what to expect and provide you with the skills to run your business.


To find the premises, you can check your newspaper for commercial listings or consult a real estate agent. I would suggest the real estate agent since you can tell them what you're looking for and they'll do the searching for you. That way you're not running all over the place looking at properties that may not fit your needs. In the lease vs buy issue, I would consider your money situation first. If you don't have a lot of startup money, a lease may be the way to go. However, a lease can come with some issues. If you do decide to lease, I would suggest having an attorney look the lease over to make sure it meets your needs. If you have enough money to make a downpayment, then I would go with buying the property. That way when you get done paying, you own the property. You're also not bound by the terms of a lease.

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is it true that chicken has no carbs? what type of chicken is it exactly?

As far as I know, this is true. I don't think it matters what type of chicken as long as it isn't prepared in a way that will add carbs. For example, you'll want to avoid breaded chicken or a chicken sandwich as these will add carbs.

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there are these kittens under my porch and i don't know what to do...i know to call the spca but,my mom says i can have because there is only 3..but here is the problem they will not come to me..i don't know how to get them to come to me...
can somebody help..i don't want it to snow one day really because i don't want them to get sick.
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if you really love animas then you answer this then...

If you can, try getting down on their level. It will make you seem less intimidating to them. Keep your voice level low, reassuring, and on the same tone. Get some pet treats and kitten food to try to tempt them out. You can also put a bowl of food just slightly out from the porch and gradually move it closer to you until the kittens are comfortable with you. Another option is to tempt them out with a toy or some string. They probably won't come out to start with, but if you're patient and keep trying, they'll learn that you're not to be feared.


I got a new cat a while back who immediately hid under the bed and refused to come out. We finally managed to tempt him out by rattling a bag of treats and dangling a string under the bed until he decided to chase it. Good luck.

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Does anybody know about stuffing envelopes in your own home for money? I'd Like to know if its a scam or not.

Then if you guys know if its successful and not a scam I'd like the website and etc.

For the most part, I believe they are scams. I do know someone that found one that wasn't a scam, but they said you don't get paid enough for it to be worth all the trouble you have to go through.


If you do decide to do it, make sure to check with the Better Business Bureau (www.bbb.org) to make sure the company is legit and that there aren't any complaints against them. Also, if they're promising lots of money per envelope, chances are it's a scam.

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I need community service hours but its hard to find places where I can get them. If there are any ideas... please list, it would make this a lot easier. Thanks

Have you considered volunteering at a nursing home? Many nursing home residents get few visitors so it's a great way to make someone's day while fulfilling your community service hours. Another option is volunteering at your local food kitchen or Meals on Wheels. You can also ask at your local Social Services about community programs you can volunteer for.

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I'm moving from Michigan to Nevada, and using one of those "You pack,we drive" services to move my (one bedroom's worth of) large furniture. Bed, dresser, bookshelf, stuff like that. Is there anything I should look out for with this moving service. Someone mentioned that I should take pictures of the furniture before I ship it off? Any ideas?

I would definitely take pictures of everything that will be shipped. It's also a good idea to make an inventory of all the items with prices if you can.


You should ask the moving company what their policy is on lost or damaged items as well. Also, ask to see a copy of their insurance policy. Nearly every business is required to have general liability coverage, which will cover the costs if your furniture is lost or damaged. That way you know ahead of time what to expect in case something does happen. It also gives the company a heads up that you will be keeping an eye of things so they'll be more likely to be careful.


I would also speak with the moving company and go over fees and the expected delivery date. Get it down on paper with their signature if you can. If they have you sign a contract, make sure to read it completely. If there are parts you don't agree with, discuss it with them. Good luck with your move.

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HI!I am Sanchita from India.I have a problem,well the problem is that I can't say no to people who ask me for hepl,if I manage to say NO then I fell bad and feel guilty,PLEASE tell me what should I do.

Saying no is something a lot of people have a hard time with. However, always saying yes can end up overwhelming us. Perhaps wording your "no" differently would help. A few examples:


"I'm sorry I can't help right now because I have a lot going on right now."
"I'd love to help, but now is not a good time for me. Perhaps another time?"
"That's kind of you to ask, but I have a previous commitment."


These examples all show your willingness while telling the person asking that you aren't able to help at that time. Another option is referring the person to someone who can help.

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okay so on the radio a long time ago they were talking about this website where you can find the address of sex ofenders I've looked and I can only find ones you have to pay for dose anyone know any free websites I can find sex ofenders in a certin arean ?
thanks in advance ! [ I will rate ]
Daina

The link below is ran by the US Department of Justice and is free to the public. You can search by zip code to find offenders in your area. Once it pulls up the list of offenders, you have the option of clicking the person's name for more detailed information.

http://www.nsopr.gov/

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I just had sex for my first time 2 nights ago. I'd like to get checked by the doctor for any diseases. Is it possible for me to ask a doctor and get a test done without my parents knowing anything? Including the results. Even if the results came out positive, I want it to be kept secret. Do you know if doctors tell parents this kind of information?

All medical professionals are bound by the medical confidentiality act which means they cannot give any information about you to anyone without your permission. Go to your local health department or planned parenthood office and tell them you would like to be screened for STDs. Their services are generally low-cost and sometimes even free.

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I am getting married in four months. I have been engaged for four years. However, my fiancee and I have at least two major issues. I just don't know if this is serious enough for me to consider backing down from marriage.

My fiancee and I are not seeing eye to eye on money issues. He feels that when we are married once the bills are paid for each person should have allowance money to spend. The catch is the other person should not ask what the money was spent on.

An example is, he spends money on CD's or a football jersey that's over $200.00. If he used it from his allowance money I should not complain. I'm not ok with this. My parents have been together for over 30 years and consult every detail of their expenses together. My fiancee feels that this is like "reporting" to the mate.

My other problem is that whenever something bothers me (other than money matters), I feel I can't tell him without getting upset.

I email him or try over the phone. This doesn't work. He never wants to hear the bad he only wants things to always be on the upbeat. However, I have issues I want to discuss.

I feel he keeps me from expressing my feelings which turn into resentment. Lately, I have really been questioning my relationship.

Please help me. I'm getting married in four months and am afraid of failing. Please Help ME!!!! Any advice will much be appreciated. I need to hear an expert's advice.

THank you

These are both problems that need to be resolved before you walk down the aisle. Otherwise, the problems may lead to bigger relationship problems.


I think the money issue calls for a compromise on both sides. I can understand your reservations about him making a major purchase without your input. On the other hand, I can also understand him wanting to have a little money in his pocket to do as he pleases. Perhaps you can set a limit you both feel comfortable with. Anything over this limit must be discussed between the two of you first.


As for the communication issue, I think it's essential for you to be able to talk to each other for a relationship to be able to survive. I think it can lead to major problems if you can't talk to your partner. Your partner needs to realize that not everything that will happen in life is going to be good. Instead of ignoring the bad, he needs to learn to face it. If you can't talk to him about things, I think you'll begin to feel that he's not supportive or that he doesn't care.


Marriage is a wonderful thing but it takes work on both sides to make it survive. Sit down with your partner and have a serious talk about these issues. If you can't come to an agreement, I would consider postponing the wedding until you can. Good luck.

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so i just took a pregnancy test,guess what?yeah its positive!omg.....ok i wasnt planning to get pregneat yet!i thought the stupid condoms worked!ok i had lots of really big plans ahead of my life!my parents are just going to freak when i tell them.my mom dosent belive in teenage girls getting pregneat,she thinks you should get married and then have cildren.also my parents said if i ever ever get pregneat they will seriously diss own me.ok i really need help!!!
PLEASE

First, I would recommend having another test done at the health department or a planned parenthood office just to be sure. Home pregnancy tests can occasionally be inaccurate. If you are pregnant, they can discuss your options with you and get you started with prenatal care.


Then, I would sit down with your parents and calmly explain to them that even though you were using protection, you got pregnant. They will probably be upset, but I don't think they'll throw you out. Once they get over their surprise, I'm sure they will support you and help.


Good luck.

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Could you date someone who had very different or totally contrary views to your own. For example, if you were a dedicated Democrat and they were a Republican, or if you were quite religious and they were an atheist. Would those sort of things be a dealbreaker for you or would you still want to see them?

Do you think relationships like that are doomed or are disagreements like that healthy?

I think it depends on the people involved. If one or both of the people strongly believe in something and adamantly refuse to accept that the other has a right to their own beliefs, I think it would make a relationship very difficult.


If they can accept each other, differing views and all, I think it can be a healthy relationship. For example: my husband and I have widely different views on politics. We've had some lively debates about it. Since we both try to keep an open mind, we've learned some things about the other view that we didn't know, but are still free to believe what we choose.

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hello i just bought this cashmere shirt and everyones always like omg cashmere is so soft. well like when i wear it its all itchy and annoys me. is this just me being picky or is there something wrong with the shirt cause its not like a name brand. i just want to know cause im not sure i should bring it back. thanks so much guys.

Have you wore cashmere before? If not, there's a chance you may be allergic to it and that's what's making you itch. Also, is it 100% cashmere? Check the label. Sometimes lower quality cashmere is mixed with other fabrics. It can be irritating to the skin as well. Have you washed the shirt. Sometimes chemicals are used in the making of the shirt. Washing it may help to get rid of the chemicals if that's what is irritating your skin. If the itching continues, I would take it back. It's not worth being miserable and itchy when you're wearing it.

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