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Completely different beliefs
Could you date someone who had very different or totally contrary views to your own. For example, if you were a dedicated Democrat and they were a Republican, or if you were quite religious and they were an atheist. Would those sort of things be a dealbreaker for you or would you still want to see them?
Do you think relationships like that are doomed or are disagreements like that healthy?
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Disagreements are healthy as long as you respect each others opinion and agree to disagree.
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if you could get past the differences then the date will go fine
but don't fight over things......DISCUSS THEM CALMLY cuz some ppl get prettttty heated about some things but if your flxible and hes flexible about these things then you'llbe fine
good luck
karazi kz
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I don't think specific differences really matter as much as big, general values. For example, I'm a Christian, but I could date someone who is looking for spirituality and just hasn't settled onto a conclusion yet. I could not date someone who thinks religion is a plague on mankind. To me, that says something about their character. I consider myself a liberal, but I could date someone who voted for Bush based on fiscal policy. I could not date someone who voted for Bush because he's more likely to bomb the shit out of Iraq; I think war is wrong, and anyone who thinks it's right is not the sort of character I'd want to date.
So basically, don't look at the big labels, think about the person's character and what their philosophies say about them. You might find that you agree on the big things, and that's what's important.
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I know if you think logically, it makes no sence..dating someone when you have nothing in comman
But in some cases, the differences between the two people can make a relationship VERY interesting. But you will never know until you actually go for it. It is a risk that has to be taken.
You know the person better than me, you might be able to judge how the relationship would turn out.
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It's perfectly healthy! It's like when opposites attract. If you were in a relationship with someone who believed in everything that you did, it would be boring and you would have nothing to talk about. Having a different perspective in a relationship is good if you can handle it.
♥Paige
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I don't think that it would be much of a problem. If you guys are truly ment to be then it shouldn't matter. Some of the most compatible people in the world have totally different opinions. Good luck with your relationship! =] If you have any other questions don't be afraid to ask!
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I think that things would be fine as long as the little disagreements never or didn't often turn into serious fights. Sometimes, the little disagreements couples have between each other help to make the relationship grow stronger. This way, you each learn what not to bring up in order to get the other person upset. And you know, oppossites attract!!
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I think it depends on the people involved. If one or both of the people strongly believe in something and adamantly refuse to accept that the other has a right to their own beliefs, I think it would make a relationship very difficult.
If they can accept each other, differing views and all, I think it can be a healthy relationship. For example: my husband and I have widely different views on politics. We've had some lively debates about it. Since we both try to keep an open mind, we've learned some things about the other view that we didn't know, but are still free to believe what we choose.
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I think you two should see how things go first. sometimes disagreements makes your relationship stronger, but for some it doesnt. it all kind of depends on you two but i wouldnt let this problem keep you from seeing each other. well if you need anything else drop one in the inbox!
♥ Kristen
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anonymous -
I personally think disagreements like that are very beneficial...that is, if both parties were open-minded.
I say this because it is very healthy to consider another's beliefs and opinions to understand that person better. You may not agree with it, but by listening and understanding beliefs contradictory to yours, you learn a lot more about them, and most importantly, you learn a lot more about yourself...whether their views may help you to enforce yours or to consider their beliefs as well.
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It depends on the personal chemistry between the two people involved. For some couples that much of a difference would doom the relationship; for others it would just add spice. But there's no way for any of us here to know how your relationship (assuming that you're talking about yourself) will turn out.
Let's put it this way: you'll never know unless you try. Just keep your head and get out if the relationship turns sour.
Good luck!
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Well, if I were in that situation, I`d atleast try it out. Although most of the time it doesn't work out. I think that if you have strong beliefs about something, and your partner doesn`t, I think that`ll just cause arguments and maybe will bring you further apart. But if you have a strong firm relationship, I`m sure you`d be able to work something out!
Like, my boyfriend didn`t believe in gay marriage and I asked him what he`d do if his son/daughter told him they were gay, and he said he`d shoot them! I`m like FOR gay, like really really for it. I love gay people & I have shirts & stickers all over the place to make it known that I love them. I broke up with that boyfriend because of our beliefs, I thought it was just ridiculous that he couldn`t give me a reason, besides it`s "abnormal." Although, I am 15, and of course boys my age are going to say that, but still I hate it!
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Well I am a Christian, and my husband is and atheist and we get along just fine. We just respect what the other believes and don't try to force each others beliefs on each other. When we have children we have a deal we can both share are beliefs or non-beliefs and the children can decide for themselves, just like anyone should.
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